I do find it exciting as well as appropriate that my girlfriend’s cock is much bigger than mine. However I have also been bottom for a woman with a smaller cock than mine - I would have been happy to continue with her but it was not to be. Nevertheless it does seem fitting to be the bottom when you have the smaller cock.
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I do find it exciting as well as appropriate that my girlfriend’s cock is much bigger than mine. However I have also been bottom for a woman with a smaller cock than mine - I would have been happy to continue with her but it was not to be. Nevertheless it does seem fitting to be the bottom when you have the smaller cock.
Interesting article with some interesting comments as well. They should do a study on straight men and see if there are any correlations with taking pleasure in being penetrated as opposed to penetrating.
For myself I am fairly ambidextrous although right-handed (I am left eye dominant). Also although I am the oldest child, I am more maternal than paternal with my children - they mean everything to me in a way they don’t for most men. With my sexual partners I have always cared more about their orgasms than my own. Before I experienced the joys of being a bottom, cunnilingus would have been my favorite sexual act.
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My reasoning is mostly a matter of logistics. I suffer from ED, an affliction that developed in parallel with my dawning awareness of my sexuality. While I'll admit that I occasionally would enjoy topping someone, I've mostly come to accept my role in life and find great pleasure in getting other guys off.
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The first time I saw a picture of two men fucking I knew I wanted to be the guy getting fucked. I was only 11 but the thought of having a cock in my ass turned me on like nothing I'd seen or experienced before. I had to wait four long years before I was penetrated for the first time, and I have preferred to bottom ever since. Luckily my first male lover preferred to do the fucking, so our relationship was perfect. I did occasionally fuck him in the ass at his request, but not very often. I never thought about how submissive the act was - we were both very masculine, both athletes, and we both had girlfriends.
My second lover was a black guy with a huge cock. We were both wrestlers for different high schools and the first time I saw the huge bulge in his singlet I knew I had to have it in my ass. All I could think about, especially after that bulge rubbed against me a few times while we were wrestling, was opening my ass to his big cock. Fortunately, when the opportunity finally arose, he was a very willing top and I submitted to him completely. I definitely felt submissive with him, and I worshipped his cock and balls. For his part, he loved having his cock worshipped and loved fucking me.
I've had many male and transgendered lovers from then until now, and I still prefer to bottom, although I can be versatile when necessary. My most recent male lover was also a top only. We met at a bar in Sydney and had sex the night we met, and then for the next 8 months. His uncircumsized cock was 10 1/4" long and I couldn't get enough of it. I definitely felt submissive when I was with him.
My second lover was a black guy with a huge cock. We were both wrestlers for different high schools and the first time I saw the huge bulge in his singlet I knew I had to have it in my ass. All I could think about, especially after that bulge rubbed against me a few times while we were wrestling, was opening my ass to his big cock. Fortunately, when the opportunity finally arose, he was a very willing top and I submitted to him completely. I definitely felt submissive with him, and I worshipped his cock and balls. For his part, he loved having his cock worshipped and loved fucking me.
I've had many male and transgendered lovers from then until now, and I still prefer to bottom, although I can be versatile when necessary. My most recent male lover was also a top only. We met at a bar in Sydney and had sex the night we met, and then for the next 8 months. His uncircumsized cock was 10 1/4" long and I couldn't get enough of it. I definitely felt submissive when I was with him.
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What he said, exactly. It feels so damned good to get fully reamed, used and appreciated by a man. Plus it's an ego boost that I can arouse him, satisfy him and get his rocks off. Makes me feel valued and needed
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For me it has always been what I wanted to do with a guy. Kind of just like letting go of control over my body to another guy. The first time I met with a guy was to get fucked and I liked it so much it’s pretty much all I do sexually anymore.
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Yes. Just like that. I enjoy being a fuck toy. As for why I am a bottom instead of a Top, no clue. Don’t know why I am right handed either.
I have always been the alpha in in my sex life with women and it now I enjoy being the beta when I am with a man. When I watch porn I now wish I was the woman feeling that cock in her mouth or her other holes. I would love to have a woman describe to me how it feels to have her pussy and ass filled while sucking on another....
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I have bottomed, but I do not consider myself a bottom. It happened only 3 times. In all three my gay partner had got me unusually excited and he clearly wanted to fuck me. I just submitted. I had no regrets, but no desire to make it a regular sexual activity.
On the other hand I was sexually submissive to my late wife. It was at my request she took the dominant role. I told her I would welcome being penetrsted by her. She did want to do it, but she would play with my cock and balls wile I used a dildo on myself. Sometimes she would let me perform cunnilingus on her while I used the dildo on myself.
On the other hand I was sexually submissive to my late wife. It was at my request she took the dominant role. I told her I would welcome being penetrsted by her. She did want to do it, but she would play with my cock and balls wile I used a dildo on myself. Sometimes she would let me perform cunnilingus on her while I used the dildo on myself.
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For me I dressed in skirt and stockings and sucked my first cock and that sent me down the rabbit whole I was always attracted to crossdressing then getting the chance to act out the role was such a turn on then the first time I was taken doggiesbstylenthe guy took his time and we used fairbamont of lube omg it was just so good and when things feel this dam good you just so need it, also there is something for me letting the submissive side out is a turn on as well
Right handed and oldest child. I am a smaller guy at 5”8”, 155, 5.5c. This has made me a good fit for masc tops.
The other dynamic is in my day to day life can be classified as an alpha male. Being a sub bottom provides a balance to my sexual makeup.
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I think at least in my case, it's for the following reasons:
-an "inherent," orientation-like contribution. I checked out cocks, but not men's asses, before I really knew anything about gay sex.
-It's more taboo than topping a man, which makes it more exciting.
-Being penetrated is, partly for anatomical reasons, associated with femininity. So bottoming kind of brings out my feminine side - it feels feminizing.
-The contrast with ordinary sex with a woman. For those of us who are bi, it provides exciting contrast.
-an "inherent," orientation-like contribution. I checked out cocks, but not men's asses, before I really knew anything about gay sex.
-It's more taboo than topping a man, which makes it more exciting.
-Being penetrated is, partly for anatomical reasons, associated with femininity. So bottoming kind of brings out my feminine side - it feels feminizing.
-The contrast with ordinary sex with a woman. For those of us who are bi, it provides exciting contrast.
Strangely enough when I suggested in another thread that it was hard not to feel feminine as a bottom, most people did not agree. I feel as you do - it does feel feminizing.
https://forum.literotica.com/threads/is-it-inevitable-for-a-bottom-to-feel-feminine.1596288/
I certainly feel feminine as a total bottom. Embracing that makes the experience of a bottom even more fulfilling.
I haven’t conducted a poll but most, not all, tops prefer bottoms that are feminine in bed. At least this is my experience.
The act itself just feels amazing, but for me it's much more than that. I've always felt feminine and submissive, so it just feels natural to me to be the one getting fucked. I'm a committed bottom and a total pleaser, and I love getting sexy and letting a man use my body for his pleasure.
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Plenty of responses in this thread, i really cannot relate to that much. Yes, I am a top (more correctly a dysfunctional top due to ED), but I never searched out the kind of bottoms described on this thread. First, I don't think so much in terms of man/woman masculine/feminine as much as parent(dad)/kid(son). Our earliest relationships are parent/child -- not man/woman.
I received so much maternal love from my grandma until she died 20 years ago. I got plenty of love from my grandpa too, but he got so sick (malignant brain tumor), and finally died when I was only 7.5 years old. Men for me were creatures who where completely transitory because they died easier and/or came and went out of my life. You could only rely on maternal love always being there.
I believe we all (including males) need love from both sexes. I never got that from males. I guess, my life was always in search of that phantom male womb. My partner is an exception -- as was my grandpa.
Yes, I have strong attraction for certain kinds of males: masculine, muscular, hairy, and most of all loving. Emotionally, I want to be inside them just like in our early days we are completely protected in our mothers womb.
The stereotypical father in my day loved sons conditionally. Do the wrong thing in his mind, and any sense of love was withdrawn at best -- at worse that included physical and/or emotional abuse too. That described my dad for the 3.5 years the courts forced me to live with him.
Sexuality isn't determined by bad parenting, but it does influence it.
I will soon be 64, yet I still crave a man's love. I am blessed to have my partner. My ED has simply revealed that as much as I crave his hot, beefy, hairy ass; I couldn't breath if I didn't have his love. He isn't my submissive. He isn't my feminine other half. Rather, he is my rock, and I will always miss being inside him. It is where I belong.
I received so much maternal love from my grandma until she died 20 years ago. I got plenty of love from my grandpa too, but he got so sick (malignant brain tumor), and finally died when I was only 7.5 years old. Men for me were creatures who where completely transitory because they died easier and/or came and went out of my life. You could only rely on maternal love always being there.
I believe we all (including males) need love from both sexes. I never got that from males. I guess, my life was always in search of that phantom male womb. My partner is an exception -- as was my grandpa.
Yes, I have strong attraction for certain kinds of males: masculine, muscular, hairy, and most of all loving. Emotionally, I want to be inside them just like in our early days we are completely protected in our mothers womb.
The stereotypical father in my day loved sons conditionally. Do the wrong thing in his mind, and any sense of love was withdrawn at best -- at worse that included physical and/or emotional abuse too. That described my dad for the 3.5 years the courts forced me to live with him.
Sexuality isn't determined by bad parenting, but it does influence it.
I will soon be 64, yet I still crave a man's love. I am blessed to have my partner. My ED has simply revealed that as much as I crave his hot, beefy, hairy ass; I couldn't breath if I didn't have his love. He isn't my submissive. He isn't my feminine other half. Rather, he is my rock, and I will always miss being inside him. It is where I belong.
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We want it and can't help it?
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Because these just feel so good.
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