Why is it so complicated to find other Bi men

[YukonJack907]

Elsewhere, I suggested that “we” wear a bracelet as a sign of our interests. I have one made of paracord, and have had a couple guys comment about it. At the very least, it can be an icebreaker. Not quite so handy during the winter when we’re wearing coats/jackets, but it’s something.

 

[Noob80301]

Pleasure to meet

If the older men are finding it hard to meet no guys, I am happy to make new friends. I am 45.

 

[Xringm1a]

I would love to meet a friend in southern new England!

 

[Pines]

Elsewhere, I suggested that “we” wear a bracelet as a sign of our interests. I have one made of paracord, and have had a couple guys comment about it. At the very least, it can be an icebreaker. Not quite so handy during the winter when we’re wearing coats/jackets, but it’s something.

That paranoid bracelet is a good idea but what would be a color combo that would be known ?

 

[Cyberdog6x]

That paranoid bracelet is a good idea but what would be a color combo that would be known ?

I think one of the colors should be purple,

 

[44special]

That makes sense, there needs to be some sort of chemistry or it could turn out to be a really bad experience

I totally agree here. For me personally, if there's no chemistry, then it just doesn't work for me.

 

[Pines]

I think one of the colors should be purple,

I wonder what combination of colors would show hetero and bi curiosity.

 

[Wageslave]

I suspect that finding someone isn't do difficult. The difficult bit will be arranging a time and place that you can meet and play in safety and privacy

 

[sisscindy]

I suspect that finding someone isn't do difficult. The difficult bit will be arranging a time and place that you can meet and play in safety and privacy

I totally agree

 

[Wageslave]

I totally agree

And lockdown hasn't helped any, either

 

[peter49parker]

I always wonder why it has to be so complicated to find other bi men or be able to pick up on signs! Even on the Bi sites and the gay apps where i know that is what guys are looking for, but so many there wont reply or just seem to want to chat then they abandon the conversation. There has to be a better way to detect guys you are around every day. Eye contact can be tough to detect too. Any one got any ideas without being blunt and risk of bad by openly asking them?

If someone is really serious about meeting another like minded bi man, there should be no problem. With today's resources available, there is someone out there looking for you, just as enthusiastically as you are looking for them. I am a long time married man, so I understand the need for complete discretion. However, somewhere down the line, if you 'really' want it to happen, you will need to put your trust in someone. Over the past 6 years, I have met some wonderful guys who were looking for exactly what I had to offer, and we shared some good times. There were a lot of 'posers' along the way who claimed to really, really want to be sexual friends, then turned out to be 'fakes.' It is a process that will take a little or a lot of time and patience. A few posts have mentioned squirt as a possible site to find a 'friend', and I agree it is a good site. There is also a silverdaddies site for finding friends. Both offer free or pay memberships. There are enough filters to make a connection, "if" you really want one. Good luck to all those that are serious about finding a 'special' friend. If you wish any further info, feel free to send me a P.M.

 

[SheDrivesMeCrazy]

When I was younger in my early twenties I had a couple of experiences with older men. It's a bit of a long story but they took advantage of my friendly, passive, submissive nature.
I don't want to say the wrong thing here and give an impression that I was raped or anything like that but I didn't consider myself gay, I wasn't visually attracted to men like that but being the type of young man I was I just felt obligated to reward their persistence by giving in to them and letting them have their way with me. They were masculine married men and so It was understood that I would be "bottom" so to speak, and so I played the female role in bed.

Perhaps their wives wouldn't suck their cocks and let them fuck them up the ass but they sure used my ass and mouth.

 

[SheDrivesMeCrazy]

No, but fetlife.com is a good place to start. You can message and go to local monthly events too. You can also learn about the bdsm lifestyle

"Fet" refers to methamphetamine, and this is a problem in much of the "gay scene", especially amongst the young ones, it is too drug orientated which certainly put me off.

 

[oneblueye]

hey ...

If the older men are finding it hard to meet no guys, I am happy to make new friends. I am 45.

Were that true --, and you aren't the only to say such a thing --, but you guys never include where you are located geographically??
I never send a PM to someone I'm trying to 'talk up' concerning anything sexual UNTIL--, I know where they are located. I ain't gonna ever try to talk it up with someone from out country somewhere, that I'm not from or another state if its beyond my two hour travel time.
I hear guys on this site always complaining about finding someone is so hard.
BUT YA DON'T DO ANYTHING TO MAKE IT EASIER.
If ya ain't interested in anyone here and you just looking for tips, cool, cool, cool. But jeez bruah let us know.

 

[bhurry]

looking/hoping

Were that true --, and you aren't the only to say such a thing --, but you guys never include where you are located geographically??
I never send a PM to someone I'm trying to 'talk up' concerning anything sexual UNTIL--, I know where they are located. I ain't gonna ever try to talk it up with someone from out country somewhere, that I'm not from or another state if its beyond my two hour travel time.
I hear guys on this site always complaining about finding someone is so hard.
BUT YA DON'T DO ANYTHING TO MAKE IT EASIER.
If ya ain't interested in anyone here and you just looking for tips, cool, cool, cool. But jeez bruah let us know.

Perhaps if you try the right sites you might be pleasantly surprised. if over the 50 mark take good look a Sillverdaddies . Get back with your thoughts.

 

[MColton84]

"Fet" refers to methamphetamine, and this is a problem in much of the "gay scene", especially amongst the young ones, it is too drug orientated which certainly put me off.

Fet refers to fetish.

 

[SheDrivesMeCrazy]

Fet refers to fetish.

Don't know about the US but in the UK methamphetamine often gets referred to as "fet" for short, particularly in the gay scene in my experience.

 

[MsNatalie99]

Don't know about the US but in the UK methamphetamine often gets referred to as "fet" for short, particularly in the gay scene in my experience.

In the US we refer to it as meth. But I imagine that a social networking site was probably built around the mutual interests in various fetishes rather than meth. And drugs are a problem in any scene. Not just gays or youths.

 

[MsNatalie99]

The problem with being BI

I think it's hard to meet BI men because of a lack of openness. I am openly gay and I have no trouble meeting men. Unfortunately a lot of BI men are in committed relationships or are not open about their interests. Sites and apps are good for spontaneous dick, but lasting relationships are traditionally done in person. I get that it can be dangerous asking another guy out, I'm only 141lbs, so it has gotten my ass kicked. However how many of you met your significant others on KIK, Tender, or Grindr. I'm out here everyday waiting for a guy who is brave enough to take me out without worrying about who sees him or only because there is no pussy freely available. Wanna meet other men, go out and meet them.

 

[Noob80301]

Geography

There were good points suggested. I am in Colorado. I know other threads abound for geography, but it seemed smart to close a gap with my earlier post.

 

[bobbyinhouston]

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I am a bi married man. 61 years old. My wife knows I like to play with men and indulges my m2m fun but does not join.

I find that many men like for a lady to either watch or join. I do not like to share my wife unless she agrees and is a very rare occasion.

Just looking for some m2m fun with nsa.

In the Cincinnati area if anyone is interested.

 

[Samsacks]

Well, let's have some Skyline chili and get each other off.

I am a bi married man. 61 years old. My wife knows I like to play with men and indulges my m2m fun but does not join.

I find that many men like for a lady to either watch or join. I do not like to share my wife unless she agrees and is a very rare occasion.

Just looking for some m2m fun with nsa.

In the Cincinnati area if anyone is interested.

 

[bobbyinhouston]

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Skyline is good but I prefer Gold Star.

 

[Lricky]

Finding guys

Skyline is good but I prefer Gold Star.

What is Skyline and Gold Star. I know about squirt.org and Silverdaddies.

 

[Delawareguy]

"Fet" refers to methamphetamine, and this is a problem in much of the "gay scene", especially amongst the young ones, it is too drug orientated which certainly put me off.

I thought "fet" was short for fetish, not a drug reference.