Why is Phone/Voice sex on the decline?

[Never2late4funxxx]

Good question! It’s extremely hot.

 

[Love2str0ke]

Its like, all I ever wanna do. Hands free, anonymous with the right app. Hate awkwardly holding the phone while I do it. Much better to talk dirty, send pics. Wish somebody would be my stroke bud over the phone

 

[Live4themoments]

It's too easy these days to find info on people via internet. Even with apps it isn't foolproof. Years ago it was much easier to stay anonymous and have your fun.

 

[LoneMilf]

Maybe because nobody uses phones for talking anymore?

 

[Live4themoments]

Maybe because nobody uses phones for talking anymore?

I guess I'm one of the prehistoric old farts that still prefers it

 

[goodgirlLin]

I also love voice so much but it’s hard to find the right partner. I love the build up and hearing the excitement in their voice. I’ve done it a few times with people from Lit with really mixed results. The most disappointing are the ones ready to cum as soon as you say hello and then disappear. Urgh.

 

[DirtyMarine]

I’ve never had phone sex.
Almost but we were interrupted. Then we never revisited it.

 

[seekingAlpha]

I have found that phone sex can be an incredibly exciting addition to a D/s dynamic. My current submissive loves when I call her during the workday and give her discreet edging assignments like squeezing her thighs under her desk, slipping into the restroom to tease her clit, and following my explicit instructions to bring herself to orgasm in the locker room shower stall after her lunch hour gym workout. These little tasks keep her wet and smiling all day.
A couple of times a week, on her commute home, she will call me, and I will guide her in real time by telling her exactly how to touch herself, when to slide her fingers inside, or how to use her toy while she’s behind the wheel. There’s something deliciously filthy about her sitting in rush hour traffic, surrounded by strangers who have no idea she’s rubbing her clit, fingering herself, and coming hard at my command. Whether it’s foreplay for later or the main event when we can’t be together, these sessions leave us counting the minutes until we’re finally in the same room again.

 

[Live4themoments]

I also love voice so much but it’s hard to find the right partner. I love the build up and hearing the excitement in their voice. I’ve done it a few times with people from Lit with really mixed results. The most disappointing are the ones ready to cum as soon as you say hello and then disappear. Urgh.

Know what you mean. Fortunately I've only experienced 1 that all she wanted to do was to have an orgasm, then when she "did" she vanished. A rarity for a woman to cum before a guy but that's online/phone for ya. The most rewarding is to engage in small talk, get to know generalities about them. Then when it gets down to phone sex for me it is so much better, I got to know them as an individual first.

 

[newhere2learn]

I have brought this up earlier but the thrill of voice/phone conversations with a stranger as you get to know each other and become intimate, is just another dimension of excitement and pleasure.

Why is it on the decline here on Lit? Anyone care to shed some light?

Can't speak for lit, but IRL I've a couple of distance friends I have phone sex with. And one ex fling, who regularly makes herself cum on the phone for me.

 

[DynamicFigure]

I haven’t done phone sex in a while. It can be fun with the right person.

In fact, I’d love to do it this weekend as a one off or a very periodic thing.

At least several women have told me that they’ve never come as intensely as with me on the phone, but that was a while back, and they were quite young, as I was still fairly young. So, I do admit that they probably had not yet been with anyone as seasoned as I am, either on the phone or in person.

 

[athelticguy04]

with the right person it can be so much fun. the hardest part is finding a women who truly enjoys it

 

[Persuademe]

I don’t know , but even when that’s the original post seeking just that , when you answer or PM them that you have interest , they won’t even have the courtesy to reply back , negative or positive .

 

[athelticguy04]

Any women still enjoy the idea of phone sex?

 

[LostHorizon]

Like anything else having to do with sex, I think the thrill has more to do with the partner than the platform. Phone, video, text can be amazing and thrilling if the chemistry is right, and awful if it isn’t.

Also, getting to that point of making a voice or video call requires more patience and build up of trust. At least for me. I never had a one off experience with voice or video.

 

[SandraMaus]

Like anything else having to do with sex, I think the thrill has more to do with the partner than the platform. Phone, video, text can be amazing and thrilling if the chemistry is right, and awful if it isn’t.

Also, getting to that point of making a voice or video call requires more patience and build up of trust. At least for me. I never had a one off experience with voice or video

There is an option where everything with the partner is perfect. Chemistry, trust, and so on. If the partner is an AI bot.

 

[LostHorizon]

There is an option where everything with the partner is perfect. Chemistry, trust, and so on. If the partner is an AI bot.

call me old fashioned but I’m not ready to cum with an AI bot yet.

 

[SandraMaus]

call me old fashioned but I’m not ready to cum with an AI bot yet.

I'm not ready for it either. But it's something people do. In Japan people marry their chatbots

 

[MiaBabe23]

No idea. I suggested it to someone and he just sidestepped it, evidently wasn’t interested. Maybe it’s both too much and too little at the same time?

 

[Thedukeofomnium]

I love it, but its been a while.

 

[pm4321]

No idea. I suggested it to someone and he just sidestepped it, evidently wasn’t interested. Maybe it’s both too much and too little at the same time?

Passing up on phone sex??? Seems crazy to me!

 

[Thedukeofomnium]

No idea. I suggested it to someone and he just sidestepped it, evidently wasn’t interested. Maybe it’s both too much and too little at the same time?

a creative erotic voice can be quite stimulating

 

[GreatWhiteCock]

No clue. It's one of my favorite things

 

[hulmule]

Maybe because they went to Whereby or skype? Taking it to another level. I enjoy using whereby. No faces just bodies. What isnt better than seeing the person's body and watching each other giving themselves pleasure? VS just talking on the phone? i enjoy talking of the phone and have gotten off that way. But then i got turned on to whereby from a woman on Lit. Game changer...

 

[depumaxrr]

Thank you, that clears some of it up for me, but I still find myself wondering if the payoff assumption still stands.

I love watching a man stroke their cock for me, but it’s not enough to get me off. I’m still going to need effort and connection - I really do think most women would agree here.

Maybe this could account for the lack of willing participants? (Not aimed towards you, Britva, just a general wonder )

I’ve also only ever jumped into a cam session after a feral voice session. Gradual escalation makes for a very hot, long lasting connection.

Maybe it’s just a difference between people looking for a quickie vs something more.

Edit - I’m really just speaking from my POV, if I look at it from a mans perspective, yea obviously he’s gonna wanna see the effect he’s having on my lady bits and that would make the payoff better for him. So maybe from that perspective, I get it

My experience to that is, wherever I'm with a woman on call or on text, I'm the one who's doing everything to keep it going.
And certainly i need a response from the other side too.
Basically we both should lead each other to orgasms, so it should be more than one words,
Write what you want, speak your fetishes, random good morning nudes, or texts are great nuances etc
Basically just don't react with one words, you are a woman, write or say your fantasies, that's the whole point right