Why is there a lack of Mommies, but no lack of Mistresses

[StrayKat]

*thread hijack*

Where did you find that gif, SK? I wince every time I see it!!!


Apologies, OP. As you were...

Ever providing Tumblr

I find it funny as hell and just something a cat would do.
I actually had them do something similar to me a few times.

 

[MaryannM]

Hello all,

As someone who dabbles in being a Dom and often a Daddy Dom, I've often noticed that are very few or almost no Mommies around. Of course I have limited experience in the scene but I've always wondered why this discrepancy exists especially when compared to the number of Dommes or Mistresses there are.

It definitely isn't for a lack of demand, I'm sure you can find plenty of young guys out there looking to find a Mommy. Personally I find the appeal of a Mommy much greater than one of a Mistress. Or at least I imagine it would be better, there is less feminizing and humiliation involved and more caring and nurturing with some amounts of discipline. Exactly what a Daddy Dom would be like.

So what do you feel is the reason? Is it that male subs aren't into it? Perhaps there are more women who want to torment and exert power rather than nurture and care? Just curious about everyone's opinions on it.

I think its because ( or especially because) if you are a female w/ a son(s) it plays too close to home. Im not at all into playing 'mommy' - its a real turn off.
Im 43 yrds old mom of two, married 17 grt yrs...and enjoy life. But the mommy thing ...yuck. Its funny cause I like the idea that my sons young buddies 'look me over' and I wonder what goes on in those hormonal brains...but 'mommy'>...no thanx.

 

[MaryannM]

Mommy

My take:
There is not enough difference from a wife to make it a kink.

Your right. My husbands frind Tim ...lamenting his short lived bachelor life says ..." I feel like I went straight from between my mothers legs to between my wifes overnite."

Poor guy LOL

 

[Ahlam]

The Mommies I know each have only one full-time little. If this were common in general, then could it perhaps explain the perceived lack of Mommies?

I have talked to a lot of women, my friends, relatives, neighbors. None of them felt like that. For me and them, it is not natural. For us it is natural function of our bodies to have a child and our minds get along with that accordingly.

Interesting thing is, we all come from a different part of the world. We are all educated, pretty smart and successful women. Most of them are feminists, one was a politician with an impact, a few are psychologists with an MD. Yet, in that intense and personal experience we seem to feel completely the opposite than what I see here as women of the western society.
So I can only conclude it is the upbringing and society you live in that majorly decides how attached or detached you feel to your body and its biological functions.

Was that meant to be offensive? I don't believe so, but it's unclear. I will assume this time around that you are a good well-meaning sort of person who wouldn't disparage women who have reasonably-formed opinions that differ from yours and those of your acquaintances. Attribute it to my upbringing if you insist.

 

[StrayKat]

Was that meant to be offensive? I don't believe so, but it's unclear. I will assume this time around that you are a good well-meaning sort of person who wouldn't disparage women who have reasonably-formed opinions that differ from yours and those of your acquaintances. Attribute it to my upbringing if you insist.

It was a comment on "I don't think there's anything wrong with feeling like you're a host body to a parasite. It seems natural to feel that way." As in, no, it does not seem natural to feel that way to me and plenty of women I know. But then I found interesting how it seems that women from different cultural heritages have different views on the subject. So I made a conclusion based on my experience. What may be wrong, I am not a scientist with data and it is after all just *my* personal experience.
I am surprised that you find the idea of the society you live in affecting your body acceptance, or if you want, your opinions, disparaging and offensive.

 

[Stella_Omega]

It was a comment on "I don't think there's anything wrong with feeling like you're a host body to a parasite. It seems natural to feel that way." As in, no, it does not seem natural to feel that way to me and plenty of women I know. But then I found interesting how it seems that women from different cultural heritages have different views on the subject. So I made a conclusion based on my experience. What may be wrong, I am not a scientist with data and it is after all just *my* personal experience.
I am surprised that you find the idea of the society you live in affecting your body acceptance, or if you want, your opinions, disparaging and offensive.

Probably because, as I said already, you are talking to people who already find fundamental disagreement with their society's views of their roles.

it's quite true we still imbibe cultural assumption and norms, whether or not we agree with them.But... I dunno how much that is the case here.

 

[nodakgirl]

Age play

I'm active in the kink scenes in Milwaukee and Madison. I've met several "Mommy's"....All take care of littles.

One I spoke with is 24/7. Her husband is a little/preschool age. He wears a backpack and jammies at events, and I think is potty trained. They never had kids and she loves the responsibility.

She said people look at them and think they are holding hands waiting to cross the street. She knows she's keeping him from running into traffic.

Not my cup of tea, but they are cute together.

 

[mikeRotch69]

I'm active in the kink scenes in Milwaukee and Madison. I've met several "Mommy's"....All take care of littles.

One I spoke with is 24/7. Her husband is a little/preschool age. He wears a backpack and jammies at events, and I think is potty trained. They never had kids and she loves the responsibility.

She said people look at them and think they are holding hands waiting to cross the street. She knows she's keeping him from running into traffic.

Not my cup of tea, but they are cute together.

This is probably the sort of thing I was curious about... Would love to speak to someone on Lit who was that sort of Mommy just curious about motivation. I wonder how much they have in common with Daddies.

I often talk to some Dommes here and get great ideas so I wonder if I could do the same with a Mommy

 

[FunwithRyleigh]

I have asked this question before, too. I somewhat get the idea of a 'Daddy Dom' - though I could never call someone I wanted to have sex with "Daddy." Sorry - but I can't. But, I do understand the idea of it.

Thus, I understand the idea of a "Momma Dom" - (That makes me think of a song lyric when you say it out loud...momma dom...ba dom a dom)

Anyway - I digress - I think that I tend to be on the "Momma Dom" side of things because I tend to be more nurturing and guiding in my relationships. But please don't mistake that for wanting any kind of age play or wanting them to call me 'mommy.'

Maybe the right term - for either sex - could be 'Mentor Dom?'

(I didn't use "domme" on purpose. I understand why the spelling is used on line, but off line, the women I know just want to be called dominant.. or dom. Out of respect to them, that is how I refer to a dominant person, male or female.)