Why isn't there a 'Which Collar' Magazine?!!

[minx1]

The chokers in movies are really the best expensive but NICE and yes the padlock is important!

ooh yes good choice RonClarkeson

But can you explain why the padlock is important to you....is it to do with the fact it signifies your ownership as in you are the keyholder.Its just that I read that until a few years ago a closed padlock and an open padlock singified whether as a sub you were owned or not...but that thiswas no longer 'in vogue' lol

 

[minx1]

I sent my online sub a bracelet, fortunately it went well with her uniform, not so much a "collar" but more of a bonding device, something that was chosen, and could be worn "out of sight" as well, i feel at the end of the day it could be a ring or anything, as long as you both know its meaning

Thats a great alternative Micky....and quite subtle I guess

 

[mickyp123]

Originally Posted by sinn0cent1
At the same time, when i think of what makes our union what it is...... and what binds us together.. the ring, like the collar, is not the first thing that i think of.... they are not at the top of priorities. The easiest way to explain it: If the ring and collar were suddenly lost forever... it would not effect all that exists between He and i.... and as long as i have He and i... i *need* for nothing else.

Ehh... tough to explain...something about you and what i have read so far of your posts tells me that i think you already know where i am coming from on this subject though.


Most elequently put sinn

 

[jasonlf]

jasonlf: The necklace, as you've described it, sounds very sweet.... so unique. Where did you find that? In case i WANT one ... and in the unlikely event that i'd be allowed to wear one (he always gets to choose... not me) lol. No idea what the grain would read though...as i don't feel 'in my place' using His given name..... so, to me, He is nothing other than 'Master'... but having that on a grain of rice would bring all of the 'noseys' who don't already KNOW...running forth with their questions. Bad enough that our children already wonder why i label His sandwhiches with an 'M' instead of a 'J'...

I got it from a street vendor in San Fran when I was visiting there a little while ago.

Something I pondered putting on there was something like "Owned" or "Owned by Jay" (you can get a different thing on each side)... but I decided against it, again to keep her from 'exposure'.

 

[h_i_s]

I got it from a street vendor in San Fran when I was visiting there a little while ago.

Something I pondered putting on there was something like "Owned" or "Owned by Jay" (you can get a different thing on each side)... but I decided against it, again to keep her from 'exposure'.

Ahh... no fair. i'm on the opposite coast and have no plan of traveling to the west coast any time soon.... if ever. Unless they sell them online someplace... it's unlikely i'll get my hands on one. i'll look any way though.
Thanks!!

... If i get one, it could say owned and i'd be fine with it ... of course it would say whatever He decides, anyway .. so, no issue either way

 

[FluteMaster]

Flutemaster.. Very nice, indeed...... i especially appreciate the thought that the collar and ring are to be worn as a set..... that's VERY sweet of you to even of doing so (it's not often nor the norm that we hear of a PYL wearing something to signify their connection to their pyl--- my Master does though, a matching wedding band minus the O-ring).

'A heads up' to you though, as an 'FYI' sort of thing... You may wish to look into proper methods for preservation of the leather for both the collar and that ring. Items such as those, if worn daily... at first will appear as being 'nicely broken in'... until they reach the point of when they may tend to age and show the type of deterieoration which is less likely to be admired and appreciated. It would be upsetting, i am certain... if some day in the far future.. the leather cracked or became broken etc ect.
Not trying to rain on your parade by any means... and in looking at your collar and ring set i am reminded of a topic of discussion on another forum where the Master is asking for advice in preserving a collar that has been custom designed to replace on that had broken due to age and use.

Hi Sinn

Good point, and I'll certainly research that issue. Until we meet face to face the items are being kept under cover, but I'll make sure they're kept looking new and shiny!!

And many thanks for the kind words.

 

[mickyp123]

Hi Sinn

Good point, and I'll certainly research that issue. Until we meet face to face the items are being kept under cover, but I'll make sure they're kept looking new and shiny!!

And many thanks for the kind words.

I'm glad you have found someone FM, and i hope it worksout for you both

 

[FluteMaster]

I'm glad you have found someone FM, and i hope it worksout for you both

To you and Minx, many thanks for the kind thoughts, and I'm sure it will.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

He chose the collar, not i. *For us (in this relationship)*.. that i wear a collar at all and the type of collar which i wear are bot very personal choices to He and i. Collars means different things to those who wear them. When i wear His collars i wear them because i am His... they symbolize that i am His property and belong to Him. They are symbolic of His ownership of me, and my place (aka station or status... or more accurately my lower station or lack of status in comparison to Him ..) in our relationship.

i wear His collar for His pleasure... not for anyone else. He has several collars that He enjoys seeing around my neck. He picks and chooses whichever one He prefers according to occasion and/or who else may be present and in our company and according to whim (whichever one strikes His fancy at any given moment). As much as i enjoy wearing His collar and as proud as i am to be allowed to wear them, ... i don't *need* the collar for all that it symbolizes to exist between He and i. The most significant connection which binds me to Him exist in my heart and soul.... not around my neck or any other appendage of my body.... and certainly not written upon any paper of a contract or marriage certificate.

All of the collars i wear are either made by or purchased for Him. i had no say in choosing any. None were expected... i was either handed them and told to put them on or they were placed upon my neck, unannounced... unplanned etc. i do not view them as mine.. they are His. i have no right to them. i wear them by priviledge... for His pleasure.

The first collar (below) is leather and He made it Himself long before He and i ever met. He prefers that i wear this collar when we attend local 'BDSM type' functions. i wear it to bed each night too.

Second collar shown here (below) is the collar that i wear most of the time. He purchased this one at the jewelry counter of a local Marshall's Department Store. Sterling silver, hollow, and very flexible with a twist to either side it slips on or off easily and was very reasonably priced. It's lightweight and very comfortable and has never tarnished and rarely needs cleaning. Others have commented that it looks kind of like an eternity collar. It doesn't lock. It's worn daily any other time that the first collar is not appropriate, as this one passes as a necklace for most non-BDSM people who notice it. The photo of this collar shows His ownership mark, a tattoo of a padlock with His initial 'J' as the keyhole, on the back of my neck.

His third collar is a black leather posture collar which was purchased recently. He's had me wear it only a couple of times so far.... once for His private pleasure.... and once at a public local fetish fair. --Not shown here... no photos available for this one yet.... sorry.

very nice sinn, and i like the padlock with His initial as the keyhole.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Ahh... no fair. i'm on the opposite coast and have no plan of traveling to the west coast any time soon.... if ever. Unless they sell them online someplace... it's unlikely i'll get my hands on one. i'll look any way though.
Thanks!!

... If i get one, it could say owned and i'd be fine with it ... of course it would say whatever He decides, anyway .. so, no issue either way

sinn, i know here, at the county fairs during the summer they have the little stands that have those necklaces with a peice of rice that they write on. i always thought it was cool and i never really thought of it as getting one to use as a collar, but it is a great idea.....

 

[the captians wench]

Ahh... no fair. i'm on the opposite coast and have no plan of traveling to the west coast any time soon.... if ever. Unless they sell them online someplace... it's unlikely i'll get my hands on one. i'll look any way though.
Thanks!!

... If i get one, it could say owned and i'd be fine with it ... of course it would say whatever He decides, anyway .. so, no issue either way

http://www.glasstrinkets.com/index.php

 

[the captians wench]

I have given an old shirt of mine for this purpose.

I've been toying with the idea of asking if he'd mail me one that he wouldn't mind parting with as a birthday present. I've always been really big on smells (which is funny since due to terrible sinuses and allergies I don't have much of a since of smell).

The first package he sent me he must have had laying about for a while because he smelled heavily of his cigarette smoke and a bit of a....musk almost. I loved it and I'd actually sniff and cuddle the packaging long after christmas had past.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

I've been toying with the idea of asking if he'd mail me one that he wouldn't mind parting with as a birthday present. I've always been really big on smells (which is funny since due to terrible sinuses and allergies I don't have much of a since of smell).

The first package he sent me he must have had laying about for a while because he smelled heavily of his cigarette smoke and a bit of a....musk almost. I loved it and I'd actually sniff and cuddle the packaging long after christmas had past.

i have 3 of Master's shirts *grins* i talked Him out of two of them the first time He was here, and one more the last time He was here *grins* the smell has no worn off them however *sighs* though i do still sleep with the one He left this last time. the hoodie i talked Him out of, i wear all of the time....i also have my stuffed animals that He has bought me that i sleep with

 

[minx1]

*jumps up and down petulantly* I wanna shirt, I wanna shirt!!

 

[minx1]

http://www.glasstrinkets.com/index.php

Aww the bracelet is so cute...nice idea

 

[the captians wench]

i have 3 of Master's shirts *grins* i talked Him out of two of them the first time He was here, and one more the last time He was here *grins* the smell has no worn off them however *sighs* though i do still sleep with the one He left this last time. the hoodie i talked Him out of, i wear all of the time....i also have my stuffed animals that He has bought me that i sleep with

*giggles*

I think when I visit him one may just jump into my bag.

 

[Chantilyvamp]

My collar is essentially for playtime only. Well it would have to be since it is attached to a strap that leads to my cuffs. Both the cuffs and collars have locks which we dont normally use. Similar to this

I do wear other jewelry that could be taken as a collar. Some which he gave me and some which have been gifts over the years. But none of them were given in a way to remind me. The closest I would have is some black chokers and an indain bone choker that I got this christmas with the cuffs and collar.

Then again we arent in a full time M/s relationship.

 

[Chantilyvamp]

i have 3 of Master's shirts *grins* i talked Him out of two of them the first time He was here, and one more the last time He was here *grins* the smell has no worn off them however *sighs* though i do still sleep with the one He left this last time. the hoodie i talked Him out of, i wear all of the time....i also have my stuffed animals that He has bought me that i sleep with

To help with the smell wearing off or at least part of the smell. Next time talk him out of a bottle of his aftershave or deodorant. I know thats strange but the hubby always wore this spray on deadorant. First time we met for 3 weeks and when he left i kept a t-shirt and his deodorant spray so every now and again I would lightly spray the shirt. Made it smell more like him and calmed me when I missed him.

 

[trisquel_astur]

My collar is essentially for playtime only. Similar to this

Nice training collar, CV.

 

[Chantilyvamp]

Nice training collar, CV.

It is yes, very much so.

Though for us to be able to use the locks we would probably have to go away and leave kiddie with grandma. One day we will get to use them and I will have no control at all. Though I must admit, trying to keep the bonds closed when they are not locked takes a lot more effort and body control on my part. In a way I think that makes it more special for us since I am willing to do whatever it takes to stay as he has put me.

 

[myinnerslut]

i have 3 of Master's shirts *grins* i talked Him out of two of them the first time He was here, and one more the last time He was here *grins* the smell has no worn off them however *sighs* though i do still sleep with the one He left this last time. the hoodie i talked Him out of, i wear all of the time....i also have my stuffed animals that He has bought me that i sleep with

Sir gave me a big stuffed dog for our six month anniversary (i cant believe it was so long ago) that i sleep with every night. i also sleep in one of his shirts that i managed to get.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

To help with the smell wearing off or at least part of the smell. Next time talk him out of a bottle of his aftershave or deodorant. I know thats strange but the hubby always wore this spray on deadorant. First time we met for 3 weeks and when he left i kept a t-shirt and his deodorant spray so every now and again I would lightly spray the shirt. Made it smell more like him and calmed me when I missed him.

*smiles* He did spray it on them when He gave them to me and even put it on my stuffed animals He got me, but yea, i should have conned Him out of a bottle *sighs*

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Sir gave me a big stuffed dog for our six month anniversary (i cant believe it was so long ago) that i sleep with every night. i also sleep in one of his shirts that i managed to get.

one year for Christmas He sent me like 6 or so stuffed animals *smiles* and my favorite out of them all was a big bear that i named checkers *grins* this year He got me fluffy and very cuddly lil bear.

 

[minx1]

My collar is essentially for playtime only. Well it would have to be since it is attached to a strap that leads to my cuffs. Both the cuffs and collars have locks which we dont normally use. Similar to this

I do wear other jewelry that could be taken as a collar. Some which he gave me and some which have been gifts over the years. But none of them were given in a way to remind me. The closest I would have is some black chokers and an indain bone choker that I got this christmas with the cuffs and collar.

Then again we arent in a full time M/s relationship.

great training collar Chantily....the indian bone choker sounds lovely too

 

[minx1]

Thanks for everyone who has shared their collars up to now and

Giving the thread a bit of a bump......there must be many more of you Litsters who have recently been collared or are about to give their sub a collar. Or perhaps you have decided against a collar for various reasons.

Yup its true I'm a girly and love to know what types and styles of collar you subbies are wearing but I am also interested to know the thoughts (of both subs and Dom/mes) behind your chosen collar or alternative.

Please come and share.........