Why isn't there a 'Which Collar' Magazine?!!

[JMohegan]

And one for the Dom/mes out there.....what do you like?

I love the beauty and vulnerability of a woman's bare neck.

For this reason, I don't like collars at all and would never permit a partner to wear one at any time. (The one exception would be if I had placed it on her for the purpose of temporary restraint, in which case it would have no more meaning than wrist or ankle cuffs).

As a symbol of formal commitment I have given a band for her finger, decorated with small, alternating birthstones of the month in which we first met and the month in which the commitment was made.

but I think for me sometimes they tend to be more of a sucurity blanket

I have given an old shirt of mine for this purpose.

 

[serijules]

I have two "everyday" collars kind of. One was meant to be a replacement for the other, but I'm so attached to it I wear them both. I react to it sometimes, but I found if I take it off and clean it really good, my skin can tolerate it.

One is an italian charm bracelet. Each link had a gold embossed dolphin on it, but the gold has long since faded. There are only two charms on it...a gold letter D, and a garnet jewel (Ma'am calls me her garnet). I badly want two more charms for it to symbolize two other aspects of our relationship, but since the other two charms are from Ma'am, I just keep hoping she'll get me the other two someday. I think italian charm bracelets make great everyday collar jewelry though...you can personalize it with charms that signify things and even have custom ones made with pet names, dates, etc.

My other is from bondagecollars.com and is one of the screw down patterned silver collars. It is engraved on the inside with "garnet - Her slave". I never take it off without permission, and it feels and looks like a collar, yet can be passed off as a choker with ease if needed.

I wear both the choker and the italian bracelet 24/7, in the shower, swimming, sleeping, etc.

I have a leather collar with a brass plate that was my original collar when she took me. I still am allowed to wear that on occasion when we play by proxy just to have the feel of it on my neck, or when she wants me in a certain headspace.

When I am with her in person, I wear a rolled steel locked collar. This one is a bit more risky as while it could look like a choker, most people raise a brow at it. It's rather heavy too, and can get a bit uncomfortable after awhile, an aspect of it that I think Ma'am rather likes.

I also have a burgundy velvet collar, but we never have used that one as when I am with her in person, the slave collar is worn the entire time. I like having it in my toy bag though, even if I never wear it LOL. It pretty

 

[minx1]

Master and i picked my collar out together. we were at the mall with my kids and we went into Hot Topic and as soon as i seen it i knew it was the one i wanted. when we first bought it it had a skull and cross bones on it but i asked if i could cut them off because they were just NOT me..He allowed me to and now it just looks like a choker, it has a rose pendant in the middle, somewhere around here is a picture of it that i posted, i believe it's on the distance Domination support thread. before we got this collar i had a necklace that He had bought me for christmas that i wore as a collar. they have them all over the place, we did look online but i couldn't find anything i really wanted. Hot Topic has alot, we even found one in Claires that i liked.....

I'll go check out the thread Rose, thanks

 

[minx1]

I love the beauty and vulnerability of a woman's bare neck.

For this reason, I don't like collars at all and would never permit a partner to wear one at any time. (The one exception would be if I had placed it on her for the purpose of temporary restraint, in which case it would have no more meaning than wrist or ankle cuffs).

As a symbol of formal commitment I have given a band for her finger, decorated with small, alternating birthstones of the month in which we first met and the month in which the commitment was made.


I have given an old shirt of mine for this purpose.

Thankyou JMohegan, its good to hear about the different alternatives that are in use....I think the idea of your ring and the birthstones is a beautiful one

 

[minx1]

I have two "everyday" collars kind of. One was meant to be a replacement for the other, but I'm so attached to it I wear them both. I react to it sometimes, but I found if I take it off and clean it really good, my skin can tolerate it.

One is an italian charm bracelet. Each link had a gold embossed dolphin on it, but the gold has long since faded. There are only two charms on it...a gold letter D, and a garnet jewel (Ma'am calls me her garnet). I badly want two more charms for it to symbolize two other aspects of our relationship, but since the other two charms are from Ma'am, I just keep hoping she'll get me the other two someday. I think italian charm bracelets make great everyday collar jewelry though...you can personalize it with charms that signify things and even have custom ones made with pet names, dates, etc.

My other is from bondagecollars.com and is one of the screw down patterned silver collars. It is engraved on the inside with "garnet - Her slave". I never take it off without permission, and it feels and looks like a collar, yet can be passed off as a choker with ease if needed.

I wear both the choker and the italian bracelet 24/7, in the shower, swimming, sleeping, etc.

I have a leather collar with a brass plate that was my original collar when she took me. I still am allowed to wear that on occasion when we play by proxy just to have the feel of it on my neck, or when she wants me in a certain headspace.

When I am with her in person, I wear a rolled steel locked collar. This one is a bit more risky as while it could look like a choker, most people raise a brow at it. It's rather heavy too, and can get a bit uncomfortable after awhile, an aspect of it that I think Ma'am rather likes.

I also have a burgundy velvet collar, but we never have used that one as when I am with her in person, the slave collar is worn the entire time. I like having it in my toy bag though, even if I never wear it LOL. It pretty

*smile* funny it was a charm bracelet that first put the idea of an alternative collar in my head...it was delicate and understated, but one of the charms was a small silver lock...it was really quite beautiful.

I thinks yours is a agreat idea Serijules...that you can add different charms to illustrate various times or aspects of your relationship

 

[callinectes]

As a symbol of formal commitment I have given a band for her finger, decorated with small, alternating birthstones of the month in which we first met and the month in which the commitment was made.

*le sigh*...that is so beautiful and and meaningful.

 

[jasonlf]

Something me and my girl did was I gave her a regular necklace (leather necklace, with a water-filled heart charm with my name on a piece of rice inside) and she's under orders to always wear it -- it acts as a "collar" for us, without so much of the worry about someone putting 2 and 2 together and her getting "exposed".

However, we are currently looking for a play collar, so reading some of the stuff in here has been great.

 

[h_i_s]

He chose the collar, not i. *For us (in this relationship)*.. that i wear a collar at all and the type of collar which i wear are bot very personal choices to He and i. Collars means different things to those who wear them. When i wear His collars i wear them because i am His... they symbolize that i am His property and belong to Him. They are symbolic of His ownership of me, and my place (aka station or status... or more accurately my lower station or lack of status in comparison to Him ..) in our relationship.

i wear His collar for His pleasure... not for anyone else. He has several collars that He enjoys seeing around my neck. He picks and chooses whichever one He prefers according to occasion and/or who else may be present and in our company and according to whim (whichever one strikes His fancy at any given moment). As much as i enjoy wearing His collar and as proud as i am to be allowed to wear them, ... i don't *need* the collar for all that it symbolizes to exist between He and i. The most significant connection which binds me to Him exist in my heart and soul.... not around my neck or any other appendage of my body.... and certainly not written upon any paper of a contract or marriage certificate.

All of the collars i wear are either made by or purchased for Him. i had no say in choosing any. None were expected... i was either handed them and told to put them on or they were placed upon my neck, unannounced... unplanned etc. i do not view them as mine.. they are His. i have no right to them. i wear them by priviledge... for His pleasure.

The first collar (below) is leather and He made it Himself long before He and i ever met. He prefers that i wear this collar when we attend local 'BDSM type' functions. i wear it to bed each night too.

Second collar shown here (below) is the collar that i wear most of the time. He purchased this one at the jewelry counter of a local Marshall's Department Store. Sterling silver, hollow, and very flexible with a twist to either side it slips on or off easily and was very reasonably priced. It's lightweight and very comfortable and has never tarnished and rarely needs cleaning. Others have commented that it looks kind of like an eternity collar. It doesn't lock. It's worn daily any other time that the first collar is not appropriate, as this one passes as a necklace for most non-BDSM people who notice it. The photo of this collar shows His ownership mark, a tattoo of a padlock with His initial 'J' as the keyhole, on the back of my neck.

His third collar is a black leather posture collar which was purchased recently. He's had me wear it only a couple of times so far.... once for His private pleasure.... and once at a public local fetish fair. --Not shown here... no photos available for this one yet.... sorry.

 

[A Desert Rose]

Lovely collars, sinn.

 

[myinnerslut]

yes, lovely collars and also a lovely tattoo

 

[minx1]

Something me and my girl did was I gave her a regular necklace (leather necklace, with a water-filled heart charm with my name on a piece of rice inside) and she's under orders to always wear it -- it acts as a "collar" for us, without so much of the worry about someone putting 2 and 2 together and her getting "exposed".

However, we are currently looking for a play collar, so reading some of the stuff in here has been great.

OMG...all this romance! *sighs*

Thats a really lovely idea too Jasonlf

 

[minx1]

He chose the collar, not i. *For us (in this relationship)*.. that i wear a collar at all and the type of collar which i wear are bot very personal choices to He and i. Collars means different things to those who wear them. When i wear His collars i wear them because i am His... they symbolize that i am His property and belong to Him. They are symbolic of His ownership of me, and my place (aka station or status... or more accurately my lower station or lack of status in comparison to Him ..) in our relationship.

i wear His collar for His pleasure... not for anyone else. He has several collars that He enjoys seeing around my neck. He picks and chooses whichever one He prefers according to occasion and/or who else may be present and in our company and according to whim (whichever one strikes His fancy at any given moment). As much as i enjoy wearing His collar and as proud as i am to be allowed to wear them, ... i don't *need* the collar for all that it symbolizes to exist between He and i. The most significant connection which binds me to Him exist in my heart and soul.... not around my neck or any other appendage of my body.... and certainly not written upon any paper of a contract or marriage certificate.

All of the collars i wear are either made by or purchased for Him. i had no say in choosing any. None were expected... i was either handed them and told to put them on or they were placed upon my neck, unannounced... unplanned etc. i do not view them as mine.. they are His. i have no right to them. i wear them by priviledge... for His pleasure.

The first collar (below) is leather and He made it Himself long before He and i ever met. He prefers that i wear this collar when we attend local 'BDSM type' functions. i wear it to bed each night too.

Second collar shown here (below) is the collar that i wear most of the time. He purchased this one at the jewelry counter of a local Marshall's Department Store. Sterling silver, hollow, and very flexible with a twist to either side it slips on or off easily and was very reasonably priced. It's lightweight and very comfortable and has never tarnished and rarely needs cleaning. Others have commented that it looks kind of like an eternity collar. It doesn't lock. It's worn daily any other time that the first collar is not appropriate, as this one passes as a necklace for most non-BDSM people who notice it. The photo of this collar shows His ownership mark, a tattoo of a padlock with His initial 'J' as the keyhole, on the back of my neck.

His third collar is a black leather posture collar which was purchased recently. He's had me wear it only a couple of times so far.... once for His private pleasure.... and once at a public local fetish fair. --Not shown here... no photos available for this one yet.... sorry.

Thanks for that Sinn....your collars are lovely. Again I agree with sentiments you express wholeheartedly and if He decided tomorrow that I don't wear one it would have no impact wharsoever on the bond we have and all we share, afterall its only a symbol of our relationship and His owning me.

Having said that I am still excited to wear His...sorry!

 

[trisquel_astur]

I decided make the collar for my birdie by myself.

it was a trainig one and I designed it.

Now she asked me to do a new one more soft for sleep with it or more "general use" than the trainig collar. I'm thinking in put a semi-precious stone in it.

 

[minx1]

I decided make the collar for my birdie by myself.

it was a trainig one and I designed it.

Now she asked me to do a new one more soft for sleep with it or more "general use" than the trainig collar. I'm thinking in put a semi-precious stone in it.

God there's plenty of talented people on Lit eh and it makes it so personal that you made a collar for your subbie Tris.
The next one sounds special....though I'm a bit of a magpie..love anything that sparkles

 

[trisquel_astur]

God there's plenty of talented people on Lit eh and it makes it so personal that you made a collar for your subbie Tris.
The next one sounds special....though I'm a bit of a magpie..love anything that sparkles

I imagine you more like a swallow.

I like to do thing with my hands (spanks included).

Yep, will be a special collar. I'm still thinking in it.

Will be black suede, with silver and still thinking what stone to put

But don't tell, it's a secret!

 

[minx1]

I imagine you more like a swallow.

I like to do thing with my hands (spanks included).

Yep, will be a special collar. I'm still thinking in it.

Will be black suede, with silver and still thinking what stone to put

But don't tell, it's a secret!

You're right I do like a swallow....but on this occassion Tris, my lips are firmly sealed

 

[trisquel_astur]

You're right I do like a swallow....but on this occassion Tris, my lips are firmly sealed

I know that will be very hard to do, but I can believe you!

 

[minx1]

I know that will be very hard to do, but I can believe you!

*laugh* get back to the Kink thread you great big Flirt!

gee you Doms

 

[trisquel_astur]

*laugh* get back to the Kink thread you great big Flirt!

gee you Doms

*spank*

gee, sweet subbie.

hmmmmmmmmmmmm

you smell fresh and proper. Did you shave?

 

[FluteMaster]

My Choice

This last Winter was really tough, and at one point I doubted whether I would find my special submissive. However, a month ago I was sorting out some things in a jewellers, and I found these.

They are a leather plaited necklace with a silver clasp and a matching silver ring with plaited leather inlay. The idea struck me that my future submissive could wear the collar in public and I could wear the ring as a sign of my ownership of her.

I bought them as step of faith that one day I would find a way through the dark times I was in.

Since then I am pleased to say that I have found the one who will wear the necklace when we are finally together. Needless to say, she is absolutely delighted with her collar.

Of course, I also have a "play" collar with several D rings and a padlock, but that is a bit obvious for general everyday use.

 

[minx1]

This last Winter was really tough, and at one point I doubted whether I would find my special submissive. However, a month ago I was sorting out some things in a jewellers, and I found these.

They are a leather plaited necklace with a silver clasp and a matching silver ring with plaited leather inlay. The idea struck me that my future submissive could wear the collar in public and I could wear the ring as a sign of my ownership of her.

I bought them as step of faith that one day I would find a way through the dark times I was in.

Since then I am pleased to say that I have found the one who will wear the necklace when we are finally together. Needless to say, she is absolutely delighted with her collar.

Of course, I also have a "play" collar with several D rings and a padlock, but that is a bit obvious for general everyday use.

Thats a lovely idea FM, that you both wear something to symbolise your ownership of her.
And congratulations to you on finding her

 

[h_i_s]

Thank you for the compliments, A Desert Rose , and myinnerslut .

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jasonlf: The necklace, as you've described it, sounds very sweet.... so unique. Where did you find that? In case i WANT one ... and in the unlikely event that i'd be allowed to wear one (he always gets to choose... not me) lol. No idea what the grain would read though...as i don't feel 'in my place' using His given name..... so, to me, He is nothing other than 'Master'... but having that on a grain of rice would bring all of the 'noseys' who don't already KNOW...running forth with their questions. Bad enough that our children already wonder why i label His sandwhiches with an 'M' instead of a 'J'...

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minx1: Thank you... glad to know that you like the collars and share the same thoughts etc....
No apologies.. please. i'd hate to be misunderstood for not appreciating and not being excited and filled with pride at wearing my Master's collar....... or to be suggesting that anyone else should or should not feel the same toward their own.. etc ect... That is certainly not at all what i mean to convey. i believe that the collar is important and i have no shame in stating such, ... and at the same time, i know well enough, to understand just as well, that it's not 'everything'.

i feel the same way about my wedding ring.

When we exchanged marriage vows, we decided not to exchange rings. i wear a silver band ... an 'O' ring to be exact, on my left index finger. He put it on my finger about 1 month after we met.. 9 months before we married. i didn't want another ring to replace it on our wedding day. For sentimental reasons, if i no longer had this ring... i'd be VERY upset. At the same time, when i think of what makes our union what it is...... and what binds us together.. the ring, like the collar, is not the first thing that i think of.... they are not at the top of priorities. The easiest way to explain it: If the ring and collar were suddenly lost forever... it would not effect all that exists between He and i.... and as long as i have He and i... i *need* for nothing else.

Ehh... tough to explain...something about you and what i have read so far of your posts tells me that i think you already know where i am coming from on this subject though.

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Flutemaster.. Very nice, indeed...... i especially appreciate the thought that the collar and ring are to be worn as a set..... that's VERY sweet of you to even of doing so (it's not often nor the norm that we hear of a PYL wearing something to signify their connection to their pyl--- my Master does though, a matching wedding band minus the O-ring).

'A heads up' to you though, as an 'FYI' sort of thing... You may wish to look into proper methods for preservation of the leather for both the collar and that ring. Items such as those, if worn daily... at first will appear as being 'nicely broken in'... until they reach the point of when they may tend to age and show the type of deterieoration which is less likely to be admired and appreciated. It would be upsetting, i am certain... if some day in the far future.. the leather cracked or became broken etc ect.
Not trying to rain on your parade by any means... and in looking at your collar and ring set i am reminded of a topic of discussion on another forum where the Master is asking for advice in preserving a collar that has been custom designed to replace on that had broken due to age and use.

 

[RonClarkeson]

Tifiny's

I've been with my Master since the end of September last year, we are in a long distance relationship and are very happy. Recently we have been discussing collars....I don't have one as yet. We both see it as a significant step and don't want to rush into it, but He has told me to start looking into them more. God I am so EXCITED!! *laugh*
I am relatively new to the D/s scene and so am seeking some advice. I have seen some of the more traditional collars out there, but I wondered what alternatives other subs have, for example a couple of subs I know wear necklaces instead. I know many subs have a collection for different occassions, but at this point I am particularly interested in the collars or alternatives subs wear out in public.
A silly question but....where do you get them from? I've looked online, but perhaps I'm looking in the wrong place.
And one for the Dom/mes out there.....what do you like? do you prefer traditional or are you happy just so long as you both know its meaning?
And I know that the padlocks used to be significant...is this still the case?

Forgive me if this has been covered before...perhaps you can just point me in the right direction. Thanks for your help!

The chokers in movies are really the best expensive but NICE and yes the padlock is important!

 

[mickyp123]

I sent my online sub a bracelet, fortunately it went well with her uniform, not so much a "collar" but more of a bonding device, something that was chosen, and could be worn "out of sight" as well, i feel at the end of the day it could be a ring or anything, as long as you both know its meaning

 

[minx1]

At the same time, when i think of what makes our union what it is...... and what binds us together.. the ring, like the collar, is not the first thing that i think of.... they are not at the top of priorities. The easiest way to explain it: If the ring and collar were suddenly lost forever... it would not effect all that exists between He and i.... and as long as i have He and i... i *need* for nothing else.

Ehh... tough to explain...something about you and what i have read so far of your posts tells me that i think you already know where i am coming from on this subject though.

*smile* Yes sinn I know exactly where you are coming from and thankyou