Women in authority

[SEVERUSMAX]

Interesting. Because that would be my situation if my boss and I ever got it on. Hypothetically, of course.

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

Rather like that, is it?

 

[policywank]

But as long as we have hands, we are in control of our own orgasms.

True enough. You don't even need hands as long as you have somewhere to stick it. But the topic is women in authority which to me implies authority over another person (as opposed to control of one's self).

Per southern gals comments if a woman wishes to hold authority she can do so. But contrary to what most people think having authority (at least in a free society) is something that is earned and those who abuse it lose it. In a sexual relationship that means if a woman is prepared to attend to her man's sexual needs (not just what she thinks they ought to be but what they really are) she can hold a great deal of authority and he will be happy to cede it.

Of course there will always be some guys who prefer to be alone with their fist and their stubbornness pretending they are in charge. There will always be some women who prefer not to be in authority. And there will always be lots of women who don't know how to exercise authority. But a woman who wants to be in authority and realizes that it comes with commitment and responsibility - not just the right to be bossy and bitchy - can seize it easily enough without force or coercion.

When I hear men talk about being sexually neglected (i.e. no release for a month) it occurs to me that his SO lacks the interest in indulging his sexual needs and desires. There are many possible reasons but there is always two sides to that story.

 

[irishblade]

True enough. You don't even need hands as long as you have somewhere to stick it. But the topic is women in authority which to me implies authority over another person (as opposed to control of one's self).

Per southern gals comments if a woman wishes to hold authority she can do so. But contrary to what most people think having authority (at least in a free society) is something that is earned and those who abuse it lose it. In a sexual relationship that means if a woman is prepared to attend to her man's sexual needs (not just what she thinks they ought to be but what they really are) she can hold a great deal of authority and he will be happy to cede it.

Of course there will always be some guys who prefer to be alone with their fist and their stubbornness pretending they are in charge. There will always be some women who prefer not to be in authority. And there will always be lots of women who don't know how to exercise authority. But a woman who wants to be in authority and realizes that it comes with commitment and responsibility - not just the right to be bossy and bitchy - can seize it easily enough without force or coercion.

When I hear men talk about being sexually neglected (i.e. no release for a month) it occurs to me that his SO lacks the interest in indulging his sexual needs and desires. There are many possible reasons but there is always two sides to that story.

This discussion was real? My bad Lol. I was just being facetious in my earlier replies.

 

[southern_gal]

When he's home, there has never been a time that I didn't take care of my husband. Never will be. He might come home horny as can be and maybe I've had less than a stellar day but I'm gonna tell him I'm not in the mood? Not a chance. How hard is it to give a blowjob really? Is it all that difficult to play with him a little bit then hop on top and grind a few minutes until he's finished? Nope. Plus he always cuddles me after and that's worth it. I refuse to have him talk about me the way some of his friends talk about their wives. He will always be taken care of sexually no matter the silly fetish or odd timing. In return I get taken care of better than most of my friends. I'm spoiled and I like it that way. I give, he gives. It works. Maybe the authority is mutual? Nah, I'm in charge.

 

[Cat_Stark]

Well I am definitely the queen of my castle in that regard. Perhaps a bit of a domina in the bedroom. I'd say my marriage is equal in a lot of ways. Not to say that hubby doesn't know his place. Lol.

 

[Lilylovex64]

I have always liked women in authority, teachers, bosses, etc. I was a secretary for one lady and I always thought it was so hot being under her like that and she always dressed really professional.

 

[policywank]

When he's home, there has never been a time that I didn't take care of my husband. Never will be. He might come home horny as can be and maybe I've had less than a stellar day but I'm gonna tell him I'm not in the mood? Not a chance. How hard is it to give a blowjob really? Is it all that difficult to play with him a little bit then hop on top and grind a few minutes until he's finished? Nope. Plus he always cuddles me after and that's worth it. I refuse to have him talk about me the way some of his friends talk about their wives. He will always be taken care of sexually no matter the silly fetish or odd timing. In return I get taken care of better than most of my friends. I'm spoiled and I like it that way. I give, he gives. It works. Maybe the authority is mutual? Nah, I'm in charge.

I share your sentiments. I am not at his beckon call, but I do understand that sexual gratification is high on his priority list. And if I couldn't accommodate that I shouldn't have married him. In return he provides pleasure and affords me sexual freedom that is truly exceptional.

Nobody has the right to tell someone else what they should or shouldn't enjoy. Yet somehow our attitudes about sex have developed such that otherwise compassionate women find it acceptable to completely ignore or demean sexual inclinations that are outside their comfort zone. Likewise people who regularly engage in activities they might not otherwise have been in the mood for in order to please their spouse somehow think sex can only occur when their desire and motivation is perfect.

If my husband endures dinner with my judgmental mother and does so with good humour......the least I can do is suck his dick and happily whatever outfit he likes while doing it.

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

And if he's happy to accept your authority in exchange for the regular sexual dynamism, then well, the saying is true that, "everything is worth whatever the buyer is willing to pay for it." Applies to commerce and applies to the give and take of relationships, too. I don't judge that stuff anymore or the people involved. You have the right to pursue relationships that make both of you happy. That's the right of men and women alike, whether that puts man or woman in charge. There is no right or wrong way to live among consenting adults.

 

[policywank]

And if he's happy to accept your authority in exchange for the regular sexual dynamism, then well, the saying is true that, "everything is worth whatever the buyer is willing to pay for it." Applies to commerce and applies to the give and take of relationships, too. I don't judge that stuff anymore or the people involved. You have the right to pursue relationships that make both of you happy. That's the right of men and women alike, whether that puts man or woman in charge. There is no right or wrong way to live among consenting adults.

My authority is a separate matter from how I feel about satisfying his sexual desires/needs.

Sex is part of marriage and while things will obviously ebb and flow over time it is part of my marital commitment to put as much emphasis on our sex life as the many other important aspects of our relationship.

My having authority is another aspect of our relationship that we both enjoy and to the extent we find it titillating it does amp up sexual desire for both of us. But it is not a quid pro quo where my sexual attentions are contingent upon having authority.

The link if anything is that by not abusing my authority and using it for both of our benefit I have convinced him to be an enthusiastic follower. I believe this is true for any leader. The portrayals of heartless bitches or hen pickers are not portrayals of good leaders, but selfish abusers.

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

Thank you for clarifying that. And yes, I find that not abusing authority definitely helps.

 

[LizVegas79]

My boss is a woman. Most of the staff in my department are women. Our department has the highest customer satisfaction record and lowest number of any other department where I work.

Girls rule, boys drool is my motto for today and perhaps, the rest of this month!

 

[oxfordsea]

Women of Authority Rule

A friend of mine is truly a police officer. When she pulled out her badge to show me for the first time, to say I got hard instantly, is an understatement.

 

[Straponluvr]

I love strapon play, my g/f loves to be in control like that

 

[sexysquid90]

Wow....

Little did I know this thread would take this turn, but I definitely love reading it!

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

What I think really turns me on is having authority over a guy (like a boss or teacher), but then the establishment of power is completely reversed in the bedroom. The authority figure becomes completely powerless to the stud's almighty cock.

Yeah, this would be how it went if I dated the boss lady.

 

[sexysquid90]

When he's home, there has never been a time that I didn't take care of my husband. Never will be. He might come home horny as can be and maybe I've had less than a stellar day but I'm gonna tell him I'm not in the mood? Not a chance. How hard is it to give a blowjob really? Is it all that difficult to play with him a little bit then hop on top and grind a few minutes until he's finished? Nope. Plus he always cuddles me after and that's worth it. I refuse to have him talk about me the way some of his friends talk about their wives. He will always be taken care of sexually no matter the silly fetish or odd timing. In return I get taken care of better than most of my friends. I'm spoiled and I like it that way. I give, he gives. It works. Maybe the authority is mutual? Nah, I'm in charge.

What a lucky man, southern_gal.

 

[islandguy]

In my working life, I am the woman in authority. I teach underclassmen at a college, and I do my best to be prim, proper, and professional. My students generally "know their place" because they are aware of the power I have to make them miserable if I chose to do so. Thanks to social media, I have found out that I am considered a MILF to some of them. (But hey! I'm not even a M!) I'm sure that they'd be shocked to learn that in my private thoughts, I often have very sexual thoughts about them.

Thank you.....

 

[ConflictedOne]

Yes, a well dressed, intelligent, female boss is VERY sexy...

 

[mterrence]

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