Women of Lit: A Safe Place To Share

[forgotmyantidepressants]

I get this. And I feel this way a lot of the times these days. But then I get down on myself about something, need a boost, and come on here and post something I know is going to get me attention. But it's just like when I used to do casual hookups... it is a short lived boost and it makes me feel shitty afterwards. And yet, I do it time and time again. I guess in a way I'm using them as much as they use me, albeit in a different way.

Wow. You're really making me think over here lol

 

[genzsub]

I tried that authors hangout when I first found these forums and I was not a fan. Seems to be very clique-y.

Aren't all of the Lit forums a bit cliquey? We are on a thread that explicitly excludes men, after all. Each thread has its regulars that get to know and joke around with each other. Admittedly, I don't visit the Author forums much but when I have, they seemed nice although I can't argue about the white knight misogyny . Of course, I'm pretty clueless when it comes to things like cliques.

I also can't argue about the moralizing. That was tiring and probably the reason I don't visit there much. There are too many things people could and have judged me about both right and wrong. I have no business trying to tell anyone how to live their lives. Am I moralizing now? Damnit!

 

[JennyCapricorn]

I've posted a  number of times about my experience with having my cervix hit. I literally cringe every time I think about it and start to get crampy ._.

YES! THIS!

men who brag on their massive cocks have never had to deal with one of those. If you’re hung like I horse I am running as fast as possible away.

 

[JennyCapricorn]

I seldom visit. It's like Groundhog day over there: every 30 days there's a new thread about rape; every 5 days one griping about the underage rule; each quarter they have a thread about the differences between men and women - that's a doozey.

Oh god I can imagine. That sounds like a horror show.

 

[JennyCapricorn]

I get this. And I feel this way a lot of the times these days. But then I get down on myself about something, need a boost, and come on here and post something I know is going to get me attention. But it's just like when I used to do casual hookups... it is a short lived boost and it makes me feel shitty afterwards. And yet, I do it time and time again. I guess in a way I'm using them as much as they use me, albeit in a different way.

When I first started on Lit it was just in the chat rooms and even there I would talk to a guy, get to PMing and share a photo because I had horrible body image issues (even with Hubby and friends telling me I looked good). And the affirmation here would feel good. On the forums the “show us your style” and what not gave me very positive responses. It was nice to have strangers affirm that if it was real life I would get a second look (guess which member of my college circle didn’t attract a lot of attention but had to be distracted while men moved on my hot dancer friends?)

Then men started getting stalk-y and that just killed the whole thing. Now I generally only share with women via PM. My need for outside affirmation is less, I’m feeling better about myself, but I’ve found men in PM are unconsciously entitled to the point of being gross or infuriating.

ETA: I think I lost the thread there a little. Very tired. Sorry if that was incomprehensible

 

[JennyCapricorn]

Aren't all of the Lit forums a bit cliquey? We are on a thread that explicitly excludes men, after all.

yes but I’ve also never seen any woman post here and not be immediately treated as a sister in arms. There’s a difference between a safe space and a clique.

 

[genzsub]

yes but I’ve also never seen any woman post here and not be immediately treated as a sister in arms. There’s a difference between a safe space and a clique.

Fair point

 

[KatieDoes]

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Credit where credit is due, @Bellinah 's post: Women on here? helped give me a push.

Since so many of us ladies on here have had absolutely horrid experiences with men on this site, alone, I thought we should be able to comfortably share these things with one another. Call it online group therapy.

To that end, responses from men are not welcome in this thread; no, you're not as witty as your testosterone tells you.

Please feel free to tell us how you've been shocked, hurt, angered, or otherwise disrespected without worrying about if said jackass is reading your post. Fuck 'em. This is for us to get the weight off our minds and find relief/fellowship through our shared experiences.

There are several thousand threads on lit where men are welcome to participate.


This is not one of them. So go away.

 

[stickygirl]

When I first started on Lit it was just in the chat rooms and even there I would talk to a guy, get to PMing and share a photo because I had horrible body image issues (even with Hubby and friends telling me I looked good). And the affirmation here would feel good. On the forums the “show us your style” and what not gave me very positive responses. It was nice to have strangers affirm that if it was real life I would get a second look (guess which member of my college circle didn’t attract a lot of attention but had to be distracted while men moved on my hot dancer friends?)

Then men started getting stalk-y and that just killed the whole thing. Now I generally only share with women via PM. My need for outside affirmation is less, I’m feeling better about myself, but I’ve found men in PM are unconsciously entitled to the point of being gross or infuriating.

ETA: I think I lost the thread there a little. Very tired. Sorry if that was incomprehensible

That's a whole side of Lit I've never visited - the chat room areas. I guess because I just anticipated creeps heavy breathing over their keyboard. I prefer the open discussions and banter on the threads but, just like in real life, you need the right balance of characters in the room to make a convo click.

I'd always look to other women for affirmation and honesty, if honesty is what I wanted! If you've got tits, guys will either tell you anything they imagine you want to hear or else try to intimidate you. There's always two pairs of hands on their steering wheel and it's usually the sex-drunk-bozo weaving down the Lit road.

Ooop! Am I becoming angry and cynical?! Is that an age thing?

 

[JennyCapricorn]

There are several thousand threads on lit where men are welcome to participate.


This is not one of them. So go away.

I’ve got this asshole blocked - was he responding to one of mine?!

 

[JennyCapricorn]

That's a whole side of Lit I've never visited - the chat room areas. I guess because I just anticipated creeps heavy breathing over their keyboard. I prefer the open discussions and banter on the threads but, just like in real life, you need the right balance of characters in the room to make a convo click.

The chat rooms can be great - Emily’s Escorts that Pixiehoff runs is just an amazing space - and with the right group of people conversations can be a ton of fun. Plus the sex play in chat is faster and more intense if that’s your thing.

And I will always appreciate them because I met one of my closest friends on there.

I'd always look to other women for affirmation and honesty, if honesty is what I wanted! If you've got tits, guys will either tell you anything they imagine you want to hear or else try to intimidate you. There's always two pairs of hands on their steering wheel and it's usually the sex-drunk-bozo weaving down the Lit road.

Well, the dark side of the chat rooms is there’s plenty of those sex drunk bozos including the ones who show up and immediately claim squatters rights/dominion over a room by virtue of their genius and proper male genitalia. And their ability to out obnoxious everyone till we all leave.

! Am I becoming angry and cynical?! Is that an age thing?

No that means “you’ve met people before”

 

[KatieDoes]

I’ve got this asshole blocked - was he responding to one of mine?!

He was. I have him blocked too

I saw that little ‘show ignored content’ and got curious, thinking that I must have somehow inadvertently blocked a woman? Clicked on it wondering who it was, and got to see that invasive asshole.

 

[genzsub]

The chat rooms can be great - Emily’s Escorts that Pixiehoff runs is just an amazing space

I can second that. When I first made a real account and decided to try to interact with some of the other women here, I got pointed to Emily's Escorts and they were super nice. I loved the time I spent there and it got me comfortable enough to make other connections in the forums and PMs. It was a little too fast-paced for me because I like to think about my responses more but I would still highly recommend it.

 

[JennyCapricorn]

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I get the sense you are trying to mean well but this is a women only thread. From the first post:

“To that end, responses from men are not welcome in this thread; no, you're not as witty as your testosterone tells you.”

 

[ToPleaseHim]

They have both been banned from replying to this thread and informed thusly, with this feedback:

“You shouldn’t have to be forced to stay out of a thread like this. But apparently it is necessary.“

 

[dombeotch]

It's simply a reflection of RL. Sure, men here might be more overtly sexualised than the gen pop but that's the lesson I've learned from being at Lit and how men regard women. Then you get the occasional gem, which again mimics RL.... mostly wankers, but y'know... can't shoot them.

We cant?

 

[JennyCapricorn]

We cant?

No. Even in Florida “stand your ground” is only granted to white men.

 

[Barbelle]

Happy Monday, ladies. Just want to send some love and good vibes to all who may need them this week, and maybe bump the thread for someone who may benefit from finding it

 

[JennyCapricorn]

Happy Monday, ladies. Just want to send some love and good vibes to all who may need them this week, and maybe bump the thread for someone who may benefit from finding it

Thank you! this needs to be more visible....

I just don't have any immediate tales of men being dastardly on lit at the moment. I do have something fun planned soon though... <butterflies in stomach>

 

[Barbelle]

We can share good stuff here too! It is about us, after all

 

[JennyCapricorn]

We can share good stuff here too! It is about us, after all

Well in that case... hubby and I have both found a shared friend on here and the conversations have been (if you'll excuse the pun) lit. This place really does open doors and connect people.

 

[charmaine89]

When I first started on Lit it was just in the chat rooms and even there I would talk to a guy, get to PMing and share a photo because I had horrible body image issues (even with Hubby and friends telling me I looked good). And the affirmation here would feel good. On the forums the “show us your style” and what not gave me very positive responses. It was nice to have strangers affirm that if it was real life I would get a second look (guess which member of my college circle didn’t attract a lot of attention but had to be distracted while men moved on my hot dancer friends?)

Then men started getting stalk-y and that just killed the whole thing. Now I generally only share with women via PM. My need for outside affirmation is less, I’m feeling better about myself, but I’ve found men in PM are unconsciously entitled to the point of being gross or infuriating.

ETA: I think I lost the thread there a little. Very tired. Sorry if that was incomprehensible

This. All of it. If you ever need an unbiased shoulder, feel free to reach out

 

[Barbelle]

This. All of it. If you ever need an unbiased shoulder, feel free to reach out

Seconded! Please NEVER feel bad about having wanted or sought out that kind of affirmation. The great majority of us were socialized to do exactly that, to our own detriment and the benefit of others.

We are here to support and hype each other up!

 

[charmaine89]

Seconded! Please NEVER feel bad about having wanted or sought out that kind of affirmation. The great majority of us were socialized to do exactly that, to our own detriment and the benefit of others.

We are here to support and hype each other up!

Absolutely! Cheers!

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

Thank you! this needs to be more visible....

I just don't have any immediate tales of men being dastardly on lit at the moment . . .

Well unfortunately I do. I made what I thought was a sweet post in another forum about something my Daddy Dom did for me on Friday. It didn't take long until this micropenis man slid into my PMs. I nicely referred him to my profile, where it specifically states to stay out of my PM, and the shithead comes back at me talking like HE's my Dom. What an ass.
Anyway, I got notice that he's Following me so I bet he will show up here