Writer's Frustration with Morality Police

[Pure]

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erotican,

it's a decent first effort at porn, and it's above the run of the mill stuff, in that it contains a few surprises. keep at it!

i notice you got several very positive responses, and you should be happy over them. the 'morality' folks visit certain categories, and seemingly take what happens to the husbands, personally. as others have said, ignore them and consider posting in a different category.

btw, i think all that present tense stuff did not really work, and it seemed to come in patches.

all those who write and persist, in my experience, have learned--except for a few privileged confidants-- to ignore almost all negative criticism, esp. from the non literate.

 

[WifeWatchman]

Ya gotta wonder why the so-called "moralists" are even reading this board in the first place... I also get tired of them voting my stories that were in the "H" category down out of it. But one thing I've learned is that some people just cannot "live and let live", they feel that they must impose their philosophy/agenda on everyone else. The worst I saw was a guy who hated Christianity and Christians so much that he would attack Christians all the time. I think he must've been molested by a priest when he was young. I just could not understand why he just couldn't go his own way and let others do their own thing....

 

[roomfor1more]

Taking another look at the story, I notice it is in "Loving Wives" category and from experience, "Loving Wives" can be a bruital category that brings out the morality police for this type of story. As I read the coments, they appear to be more positive than negative and they seem to debate some of the aspects of your story. Furthermore you score for this type of story I feel is good and I feel you might not be seeing the overall picture . The advice I would give if in the future you do not want these type of comments for this type of story then you may want to consider "Group Sex" category.

 

[cannabisindica]

I think the anger is less to do with you than with themselves. I suspect these stories strike a chord somewhere, dissonant or otherwise. I have seen less of these angry comments when it is the man crossing the boundaries. So, I would say that its got less to do with the stories and more to do with their own insecurity.

 

[autoplot]

Ya gotta wonder why the so-called "moralists" are even reading this board in the first place... I also get tired of them voting my stories that were in the "H" category down out of it.

It's just a little red letter on a web page. It doesn't really mean anything. At least you're not spending hours of your life trying to make sure other people don't get the little meaningless red letter. Mine come and go all the time, too -- but even if I drop below a 4.5, I still know lots of people have read my stories and enjoyed them, and that's good enough for me.

As for why people come to this site to moralize and lecture... because it gets them off, and because it's easy to get attention with no risk of being punched in the face.

 

[nakdsub]

If it's any consolation?

I'm sure anyone who has a story on this site has received those wicked comments. I know I sure have and, yes, it can be extremely frustrating when you've taken the time and effort to write and share your story.
If it's any consolation, I have found that 99% of the people who write the most vile comments, are people who have never contributed a single story themselves. These are people, (and I could name several) who are too ignorant to put two phrases together in a coherent sentence.
I did not get a chance to read your whole story yet, but from what I've read so far, I like it. I will be sure to read the whole story soonest.
Keep writing.

 

[WifeWatchman]

and many are anonymous

If it's any consolation, I have found that 99% of the people who write the most vile comments, are people who have never contributed a single story themselves. These are people, (and I could name several) who are too ignorant to put two phrases together in a coherent sentence.
Keep writing.

Adding to your comments, many of these detractors post as "anonymous", not offering their opinions under a name, but hiding behind the cloak of internet anonymity.

 

[VFR1944]

Ignore the haters

I posted my first attempt at Loving Wives and got flamed. I ignored their comments and posted more.
I am not a writer in any sense of the word. I barely got through English in high school. I do use spell check and give my best try at grammar.
I post here to try something I find very difficult. I have also had some good comments and I look forward to the helpful ones.
Maybe if I can persist I will get better. I agree there should be a better catagory for those of us that want to write about the hot wives in our lives.

 

[KarlMartinK]

Adding to your comments, many of these detractors post as "anonymous", not offering their opinions under a name, but hiding behind the cloak of internet anonymity.

Yeah, I think it's pretty cowardly in a lot of cases. Many times, the people complaining can barely make complete sentences and can't say anything more descriptive than "this sucks."

 

[GinaTina]

I have a couple of hecklers who feel the same. They don't approve of my character's behavior and comment as such.

They've been following the entire series, though....so I'm not sure whether to be confused or flattered.

Personally, I like getting feedback. All sorts. Even the trolls. I actually ask them for more sometimes. That's just me, though.

 

[KatieTay]

I almost *wish* I could get a flame or two. When people mark my stories down I never know why, and it peeves me.

 

[Blackwinter]

Quoting a signature I liked.

QUOTE BEGINS
"A veteran is someone who, at one point in his life, wrote a blank check made payable to 'Canada' for an amount of 'up to and including my life.' Think of that the next time you see a soldier."
QUOTE ENDS

I'll add, in the spirit of Nov 11...
And say; 'Thank-You'.

 

[SevenSquared]

I'm a bit confused about the Loving Wives category. I always assumed it was about sex within a strong and stable marriage, which didn't really appeal to me in a literary sense, so I never bothered reading it. Then I started posting on the forums and heard that the category is constantly flamed by readers who feel personally insulted if the husband in the story is badly treated in any way. I thought this was weird, but just one of the quirks of the internet. Then I started actually reading some of the stories in LW and found that hardly any of them were actually about 'loving wives' but more wives having affairs with other men.

So it go me thinking, what is this category actually for? Is it supposed to be about Loving Wives (i.e. women who are very loving towards their husband)? Or is it supposed to be about Loving Wives (i.e. having sex with married women)? I assumed the former, but the stories are more skewed towards the latter. Maybe that's why there is a lot of problem with 'trolls' and 'morality police' there.

 

[LindsayRae]

Lit describes the category as: Tales of adventurous married women & their mates; however, the trolls who always seem to frequent the category have their own idea. Read a few stories there and then check out the story's score and the feedback that was left behind by the "Anon".

 

[SevenSquared]

Lit describes the category as: Tales of adventurous married women & their mates;

Okay, so what does that mean? Is that code for cheating wives? If so why not just call the category that?

 

[LindsayRae]

I think the idea esentially was "loving everyone". lol And others seem to think it means "loving everyone but the husband". I suppose only the owners truly know what the category should be then.

 

[Blackwinter]

Considering the world as it is...

Am I wrong to be a little peeved after spending quite a bit of time crafting a story about a sexy married woman and a one-time extramarital rendezvous, just to be trashed by readers offended by what the character does? My story seems to have received a wildly polarized response - some loved it, and others loathed it because of the adultery undertones. This website is a playground for sexual fantasy. In some circles it would be considered adultery just for a married person to read any of these stories. I really didn't expect to find such backlash in this (presumably) accepting community.

STORY: Jennifer's Secret

http://www.literotica.com/s/jennifers-secret

I'm amazed that you'd encounter such...although perhaps not, when I think about it.
I've lived a lot in my 4 decades, travelled a lot, and one thing I have noticed about people across the world is this;
They are host to a sub-breed of sanctimonious, hypocritical, self-righteous and holier-than-though type called, as you so well describe them; The Morality Police.

They want the world to practice 'You'll live and think as we tell you.'
Don't let them get to you, they're just largely unhappy with their own lives, or hiding their own secrets and get all up-in-arms when something offends them because they consider themselves to be perfect.

So, in closing, don't let them get to you. Ignore their gibbering monkey-chatter and continue to write as YOU choose.
Don't let them damage your creative aspect.
Besides, working on your writing is a better expenditure of your time than listening to them anyways, right???

 

[Erotican]

Morality Police

Your responses mirror my confusion about the Loving Wives category. It's somewhat open to interpretation, yes? Adventurous married women - hmmm, what could that possibly mean? And it doesn't continue with "and their faithful husbands", does it?

Anyway, I didn't intend my story to be about a filthy, slutty, unhappily married nymph. I wanted it to be plausible, and maybe touch a nerve with some middle-aged woman who might visualize herself in the situation - a real person who suddenly finds herself on the slippery slope. Sexual, but not just sex.

Interesting that no one had anything negative to say about the other man in the story. I wonder, do the anonymous flame-throwers just as quickly attack the married man 'one-night-stand' stories?

To those that have done so, thanks for reading.

STORY: Jennifer's Secret

http://www.literotica.com/s/jennifers-secret

 

[Blackwinter]

Don't let'em bug ya.

Your responses mirror my confusion about the Loving Wives category. It's somewhat open to interpretation, yes? Adventurous married women - hmmm, what could that possibly mean? And it doesn't continue with "and their faithful husbands", does it?

Anyway, I didn't intend my story to be about a filthy, slutty, unhappily married nymph. I wanted it to be plausible, and maybe touch a nerve with some middle-aged woman who might visualize herself in the situation - a real person who suddenly finds herself on the slippery slope. Sexual, but not just sex.

Interesting that no one had anything negative to say about the other man in the story. I wonder, do the anonymous flame-throwers just as quickly attack the married man 'one-night-stand' stories?

To those that have done so, thanks for reading.

STORY: Jennifer's Secret

http://www.literotica.com/s/jennifers-secret

Haven't you heard??
Silly girl....women are supposed to be obedient, quiet, faithful, sex-only-when-the-man-calls, and docile.
Running around and having sex outside marriage, for the pleasure???
Scandalous!!
Sorry, bad jokes, waiting for dinner to finish cooking.
My point is, don't let it bother you.
What they have to say, doesn't matter.
Just from the fact that there's a specific category for it, you know immediately there's an avid and genuinely interested and appreciative audience for your work...even if they're quiet about it.
Follow your Muse, and leave the Morality Police in your wake to sputter and drown in their own bile and vitriol.


Martin

 

[LindsayRae]

Your responses mirror my confusion about the Loving Wives category. It's somewhat open to interpretation, yes? Adventurous married women - hmmm, what could that possibly mean? And it doesn't continue with "and their faithful husbands", does it?

Anyway, I didn't intend my story to be about a filthy, slutty, unhappily married nymph. I wanted it to be plausible, and maybe touch a nerve with some middle-aged woman who might visualize herself in the situation - a real person who suddenly finds herself on the slippery slope. Sexual, but not just sex.

Interesting that no one had anything negative to say about the other man in the story. I wonder, do the anonymous flame-throwers just as quickly attack the married man 'one-night-stand' stories?

To those that have done so, thanks for reading.

STORY: Jennifer's Secret

http://www.literotica.com/s/jennifers-secret

I know it's frustrating, but sadly nothing can be done unless Laurel ever decides to ban those ISPs from coming to Lit. (Which is extreme.) I do know that the author can choose to accpet feedback or not, and they can choose to "allow anonymous feedback or not". I know that's probably not a large help, though.

 

[Blackwinter]

Query

I know it's frustrating, but sadly nothing can be done unless Laurel ever decides to ban those ISPs from coming to Lit. (Which is extreme.) I do know that the author can choose to accpet feedback or not, and they can choose to "allow anonymous feedback or not". I know that's probably not a large help, though.

Those ISPs??
I thought the Morality Police were 'In-House' slaggers.
Not to impose unduly, but could you point out where I could find more info about the Morality Police we're discussing??

 

[LindsayRae]

Of course, I could be wrong, but I thought the topic of discussion was the trolls who will "down vote" and post rude, unnecessary, and sometimes disgusting comments in the feedback portal.

 

[Rod Hardwick]

A Cuckold category would fix the Loving Wives category. It's awkward to have a category that has monogamous married relations while also including stories that are the exact opposite of monogamous married relations. If cuckold was its own category, I think the offended could more easily avoid getting angry about being sucked into another cheating story.

How about "Infidelity?" That would cover stories about sex outside of a marriage, whether it's the man cheating or the woman.

As to other comments from people about not being bothered by down votes, I think it is a problem, because people use those ratings to help them pick which stories they might want to read. I'm more likely to read a story with a 4.6 rating than one with a 2.7. Votes should be given based on how well the story is written, and whether or not it delivers what it says in the description.

I really don't understand how infidelity is the inexcusable fantasy to some of these commenters.

 

[sr71plt]

All of the Loving Wives stories I've written here (not many) have been of the infidelity-in-marriage type, usually with an element that justifies doing it. I've done well with most of them (including a green E on one). The ratings don't always show this, but the comments (and lack of the usual "morality police" type comments LW is famous for) tend to show that at least they are being taken seriously.

 

[PayDay]

Am I wrong to be a little peeved after spending quite a bit of time crafting a story about a sexy married woman and a one-time extramarital rendezvous, just to be trashed by readers offended by what the character does? .... I really didn't expect to find such backlash in this (presumably) accepting community.

If they were engrossed enough by your story to complain, then you wrote your story well. Period. Their mind was angered by your character's choices. Sounds like good writing, and good brain sex, to me. You should revel in their complaints, because your story is going to be stuck in their head(s).