Writing something you haven't experienced.

[EmilyMiller]

I probably misspoke. I thought the three categories made sense (with a little license)

1. Tried and it hurt / finds the idea disgusting / why would I want to do that?
2. Likes it occasionally either as it’s taboo and they like being naughty sometimes, or to please their partner - kinda enjoys it, but wouldn’t want it three times every day
3. Me

I think there aren’t that many women in 3. But I agree that there are quite a few in 2. Over 60% in the combination of 2 and 3 seems a little on the high side to me though. Although it’s probably more prevalent in younger people as it has become more mainstream in recent decades.

Em

Saw a few of the other responses. I agree. My best guess as to the split would be:

1. 70%
2. 29%
3. < 1 %

But that’s pure speculation on my part.

The girls I know in 3 (and people I know is a biased sample, but it’s still not that many) tend to be able to orgasm from either just anal, or anal and clitoral stimulation. Most of them are petite, or at least skinny, and my half-baked theory is that the clitoral / vaginal / urethral nerve bundles lie closer to the rectum. I should really apply for a grant to study it in detail.

Of course if you get off on something, that is going to make you view the act somewhat differently.

Em

 

[EmilyMiller]

Saw a few of the other responses. I agree. My best guess as to the split would be:

1. 70%
2. 29%
3. < 1 %

But that’s pure speculation on my part.

The girls I know in 3 (and people I know is a biased sample, but it’s still not that many) tend to be able to orgasm from either just anal, or anal and clitoral stimulation. Most of them are petite, or at least skinny, and my half-baked theory is that the clitoral / vaginal / urethral nerve bundles lie closer to the rectum. I should really apply for a grant to study it in detail.

Of course if you get off on something, that is going to make you view the act somewhat differently.

Em

Thinking about it a bit more. And also noting the number of guys I have seen or spoken to on here who have never had anal, then I’m going to change my numbers to:

1. 80%
2. 19%
3. < 1 %

Em

 

[CyranoJ]

I probably misspoke. I thought the three categories made sense (with a little license)

1. Tried and it hurt / finds the idea disgusting / why would I want to do that?
2. Likes it occasionally either as it’s taboo and they like being naughty sometimes, or to please their partner - kinda enjoys it, but wouldn’t want it three times every day
3. Me

I think there aren’t that many women in 3. But I agree that there are quite a few in 2. Over 60% in the combination of 2 and 3 seems a little on the high side to me though. Although it’s probably more prevalent in younger people as it has become more mainstream in recent decades.

Em

I expect the three categories aren't mutually exclusive. Like, I've known plenty of people who aren't categorically opposed to anal and have had a mixture of good and bad experiences, much as with any other form of sex. Except that anal is easier to fuck up if your only prior exposure to it has been porn, and you think it works IRL the way it's represented in porn.

 

[EmilyMiller]

I expect the three categories aren't mutually exclusive. Like, I've known plenty of people who aren't categorically opposed to anal and have had a mixture of good and bad experiences, much as with any other form of sex. Except that anal is easier to fuck up if your only prior exposure to it has been porn, and you think it works IRL the way it's represented in porn.

Porn isn’t much of a guide to anything. I had a whole thread about how I can’t get on with DPs. Sounds and looks sexy, uncomfortable and not that stimulating for me IRL. The only people disagreeing seemed like fantasists to me.

Another example, I’d normally rather have cum inside me than sprayed over me, though it’s undeniably photogenic, if that’s what you are going for.

Hiwever, porn is great for getting ideas for JOIs though .

Em

 

[Voboy]

Think of it this way: does everyone do anal the same way? Meaning, does it feel the same for everyone?

Of course not. There are as many ways to "feel" anal as there are people who "do" anal. So there's no expectation that what you write will correspond to every kind of anal sex every reader has ever had. Don't worry about it. Write an anal scene that turns YOU on, and the rest will follow no matter what words you choose to use.

 

[CyranoJ]

Another example, I’d normally rather have cum inside me than sprayed over me, though it’s undeniably photogenic, if that’s what you are going for.

Yeah, the whole "facials" thing has always seemed weird to me.

 

[EmilyMiller]

Yeah, the whole "facials" thing has always seemed weird to me.

It’s a deeply sexy look in photos. I guess it’s also a primal marking his territory thing. I get off on it. But - on the whole - it’s much more loving to have it inside me. I guess I’m in the equivalent of the middle #2 camp for facials. It’s fun sometimes.

Em

 

[yukonnights]

My now wife and I met as teens and we'd go often to a remote pasture on my grandfather's ranch. We'd role out a thick sleeping bag in the back of my pickup and lay naked under the stars. She, we, discovered that she enjoyed being fingered in her bum — that evolved into a "scissoring" technique with one finger in her bum and one in her pussy. Using sort of a rotating motion with the finger in her bum stretched the sphincter and loosened her up enough to take my cock in her bum. She loved it, but slow and gentle is the rule for things to work well.

After we were married, we continued this at times — not every night — and she always enjoyed it.

If I were writing a story on this theme, I'd emphasize the care and gentle approach and probably add her saying; "I'm ready for it babe.", as she gets on her knees, lays her face on the bed and spreads her legs. The gentle approach would include kisses and licks in all the right places to open the way.

 

[gordo12]

Guess I'm different. Tried it once and gave it up halfway through. It was boring as shit! (no pun intended)