WTF?! You're 14! Let it go for a couple years, alright?
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onceburned said:
So true, yet as an adult it's very hard to accept the idea. Sex is a BEAUTIFUL thing, no doubt about it. This is probably why kids want to test the waters. But the law makes sense here. Kids are not emotionally ready for the consequences and emotional attachments that come with sex until they are at least 18, sometimes longer
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jasonlf said:
haha being on Lit doesn't necessarily mean you're over 18, I started coming here at 13
edit- And there are some kids on here that are still under 18....*insert suspense filled music here* (and no Jason, I'm not one of them, despite your fanatasies about me being 12)
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It seems way too young for me (coming from the ripe old age of 20) but thinking back, I started to be sexually active at fifteen, and had sex for the first time at seventeen. I'm not sure when, exactly, I started having BDSM fantasies, but it was fairly young. Not as young as these girls though.
I don't know whether to say Cripes! or warn you about FBI agents, but either case is worrying. Although, I'd think most fourteen year old girls would lie about their ages and say they're at least sixteen (I certainly did when we first got AOL), so just be careful. If they're saying they're fourteen, they might be twelve - or cops who want to show up at your door with the kind of handcuffs that aren't fun.
I don't know whether to say Cripes! or warn you about FBI agents, but either case is worrying. Although, I'd think most fourteen year old girls would lie about their ages and say they're at least sixteen (I certainly did when we first got AOL), so just be careful. If they're saying they're fourteen, they might be twelve - or cops who want to show up at your door with the kind of handcuffs that aren't fun.
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I've been thinking about sex and trying to get information on sex for as long as I can remember. I was a very late bloomer myself, didn't fully hit puberty until 15, way after many of my friends. I never really tried to masturbate before then, but one time in the bath washing my dick felt reeeeaaaaly good and I stroked it until semen came out.
I was fucking two weeks later.
I quite often regret the girls I didn't fuck, and very rarely the ones I do. It seems wrong, but I definitely would've had a threesome at 14 if I could've pulled it together so I can't really say much.
I was fucking two weeks later.
I quite often regret the girls I didn't fuck, and very rarely the ones I do. It seems wrong, but I definitely would've had a threesome at 14 if I could've pulled it together so I can't really say much.
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Ok, so I've been reading this thread and having all sorts of odd thoughts. Looking at a lot of 18 year olds that I have to card for cigarettes and the lot, I keep noticing that they look like babies and I don't remember looking that young at that age.
Of course, I'm one of those girls that developed early and was asked about ordering alcohol in restaraunts without being carded by the time I was 16. I always hated that I looked different than the other girls and the attention and comments that my rapidly developing breasts got was often painful to me. I started being sexually active when I was 14 with both males and females and I know that I was having fantasies about BDSM (though I didn't know what to call it) and masterbating to them by the time I was 7.
Ok, having said all of that...now looking back I often wish that I had waited on some things. People make mistakes and I know I've made several but I was very lucky in a lot of regards. I started early but I was smart enough that I came away with no diseases and no unwanted children. I look at 14 year olds now and they look so young to be having sex. I just don't know. In some regards I understand both sides and it's hard for me to separate them. Having thought about this situation with any future children I basically decided to try and be as open as possible with them about the consequences of sex and what it is. Children are bound to make mistakes in life. That's how they learn. It's their parents' job to try and soften the impact of those mistakes in any way they can. I suppose that's just my take on it and I'll probably feel differently when I have a 14 year old.
Of course, I'm one of those girls that developed early and was asked about ordering alcohol in restaraunts without being carded by the time I was 16. I always hated that I looked different than the other girls and the attention and comments that my rapidly developing breasts got was often painful to me. I started being sexually active when I was 14 with both males and females and I know that I was having fantasies about BDSM (though I didn't know what to call it) and masterbating to them by the time I was 7.
Ok, having said all of that...now looking back I often wish that I had waited on some things. People make mistakes and I know I've made several but I was very lucky in a lot of regards. I started early but I was smart enough that I came away with no diseases and no unwanted children. I look at 14 year olds now and they look so young to be having sex. I just don't know. In some regards I understand both sides and it's hard for me to separate them. Having thought about this situation with any future children I basically decided to try and be as open as possible with them about the consequences of sex and what it is. Children are bound to make mistakes in life. That's how they learn. It's their parents' job to try and soften the impact of those mistakes in any way they can. I suppose that's just my take on it and I'll probably feel differently when I have a 14 year old.
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O'Mac said:
Dude I don't know what boards and fourms you hang around at, but if a person claiming to be 14 started a conversation with me on a fourm or email, I'd delete it, turn my comp off, and run like hell
.My question is, where the hell are the parents, and why the hell aren't they monitoring what their kids are doing online?
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I personally don't really consider anyone under the age of 21 an adult, and thus, I'm not comfortable discussing sex/BDSM with anyone under 21. There are plenty here that are under 21 and while most will deny it, their age is very evident in their posting. I talk to many of them, but I'm not all that comfortable doing so at times. *shrugs* I'm a prude I guess but I just never have been comfortable around teenagers and young adults.
If a 14 year old wants to talk about and explore BDSM, fine....but do it with other 14 year olds please.
If a 14 year old wants to talk about and explore BDSM, fine....but do it with other 14 year olds please.
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First kiss
My first kiss was at 23. The idea of kissing seemed so gross to me. After I had a conversation with my aunt (who's first kiss was at 25), I realized I needed to let go of my hang ups.
My first kiss was at 23. The idea of kissing seemed so gross to me. After I had a conversation with my aunt (who's first kiss was at 25), I realized I needed to let go of my hang ups.
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serijules said:
I can understand why you would be uncomfortable with those who are under the legal age limit, but I think it's unfair to stereotype everyone who's under 21 as not yet an adult. I'm 20, and I'll admit I have my moments of immaturity, but I AM an adult. I have the bills and hassles to prove it, haha. (Sidenote: do not ever to go to Firestone if you need work done on your car. I was there for over three hours before they even remembered my car, and then they screwed up no less than three times...oi. Sidenote ended.)
Maturity is not a factor of age. Just keep that in mind before you write off all 18-20 year olds
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Well the crux of the whole thing is that it's a sports and hobies-related forum. Nothing that anyone could possibly consider somewhere that should be off-limits to kids. That's probably what gets to me the most. It was all out of the blue and pretty heavy stuff. Too much for my liking at least.
I'll admit that I first started on Literotica when I was 16 or so. But even then, there was no desire to hook-up with anyone or discuss my sexual desires with a group of total strangers until I understood what I was getting into. Again though, it's the pragmatic side of me that keeps clamouring for more protection of our children from their own mistakes.
I have a 14 year old daughter, she will be entering high school next year. My child and her friends have told me so many stories of girls and guys who have sex or experiment, it isn't funny. And yes, some of her friends have done things and don't think they can go to their parents for information or help.
In middle school, I know of several girls who were caught giving blow jobs at school functions, one who was caught having sex in the bathroom, one caught in the science lab. At slumber parties, girls go down on each other, feel each other up. In one case, the girl has an older brother who invites his friends over at the same time and you can only imagine what happens. In high school they have "rainbow parties" where each girl wears a different color lipstick and the guys go into a room where girls will give them oral, leaving the different colored lipsticks on his dick .. the rainbow. It is cool now days to be bi, oral sex isn't sex .. guess they got that from Bill Clinton. Girls perform for guys at parties, let them touch them .. this isn't sex to them.
Where are the parents of these kids you ask. Most of them have the "not my kid" attitude, some of them are just trashy and don't give a shit. The parents of the brother and sister who invite their friends over at the same time, they watch tv and aren't "allowed" into the part of the house where the kids are. I'd say tho in all cases most think they are too busy or too stupid to give a rats ass.
My daughter looks like she is well over 18. She has 20 year old guys hit on her in front of me .. of course I am all to quick to point out that she is only 14. We have very open, honest and frank discussions about sex. She knows that I'd rather her wait until she is a lot older, but she also knows about condoms, STD's, AIDS, and other types of birthcontrol.
Once more, I've gone on a rant , sorry.
In middle school, I know of several girls who were caught giving blow jobs at school functions, one who was caught having sex in the bathroom, one caught in the science lab. At slumber parties, girls go down on each other, feel each other up. In one case, the girl has an older brother who invites his friends over at the same time and you can only imagine what happens. In high school they have "rainbow parties" where each girl wears a different color lipstick and the guys go into a room where girls will give them oral, leaving the different colored lipsticks on his dick .. the rainbow. It is cool now days to be bi, oral sex isn't sex .. guess they got that from Bill Clinton. Girls perform for guys at parties, let them touch them .. this isn't sex to them.
Where are the parents of these kids you ask. Most of them have the "not my kid" attitude, some of them are just trashy and don't give a shit. The parents of the brother and sister who invite their friends over at the same time, they watch tv and aren't "allowed" into the part of the house where the kids are. I'd say tho in all cases most think they are too busy or too stupid to give a rats ass.
My daughter looks like she is well over 18. She has 20 year old guys hit on her in front of me .. of course I am all to quick to point out that she is only 14. We have very open, honest and frank discussions about sex. She knows that I'd rather her wait until she is a lot older, but she also knows about condoms, STD's, AIDS, and other types of birthcontrol.
Once more, I've gone on a rant , sorry.
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LunarKitten said:*turning the mommy panic button on full blast and considers home schooling and a chastity belt*
OMG "these days"?! I'm turning into my mother!!!!! *runs and hides*
Sadly happens to all of us.....I'm already turning into my mother and I haven't had any children yet. I think kids should have sleepovers and go out and dance and do stupid things and just have fun like I did. 14 had some good times and I wouldn't change it for all of us.
Although sex is happening at a younger age it means parents have to be ready to talk to their kids about it. Maybe thats why grade 5 kids are getting into the sex ed. classes already....
I tended to read most of what I needed to know and asked people who were older then me. My mom and I watch the sex files...she goes to sex parties(and buys lotion). Until now I haven't explored most of my sexuality so maybe kids are getting more adventurous and more open with how they think of themselves. Not always a good thing but you know how it goes.
I still wanna slap the cheeky bugger of a 10 year old who told me to lift the back of my skirt though...
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