Married Woman Who Like To...

[myorangelily]

It sounds like we are in a similiar situation. The past few years my sex drive has increased where his has decreased. I miss the groping, touching etc. that we had way back when we first met. When we couldn't keep our hands off each other. Nowadays we use more toys than anything else. I miss having him inside me. He has a bad back, so sex is painful for him in that respect. Toys are fine for occasional use, but not every time we get it on. I've tried sending him stories, telling him what I like, sending dirty texts/pics, nothing seems to work. So, I come to Lit to have a litte fun, read some stories & listen to some audio.

I completely agree with you. I've tried sharing things with him, he just doesn't know they came from here. He's a good man and I would hate for anything I write here to be seen as bashing him in any way. With us both working and raising our children I know things can get stressful and mundane. I try to keep my appearance pleasing to him...from my hair length, to my weight, to my clothes, and makeup. It's all for him. He loves that his coworkers call me "hot" and he always tells me how attractive he thinks I am. He's great with his words, but I'm more of a service oriented girl. Words and gifts dont mean a whole lot to me. I feel the most loved when he arranges for us to have time together, or puts something off to have some fun in the bedroom. I just miss that animal drive he used to have. I tried to get him to go to a hotel during his lunch one day or at least let me give him some love in the car but it was a big no from him. The crazy thing is he has no idea how many things I'd love for him to do to me. I have shared a few ideas with him and he tries, but I can tell it's not for him. We watched porn together a few weeks ago and I think I scared him a bit with my likes. There is one with Nacho Vidal and Melissa Lauren that gets me every time. I hate professional porn but if I could only watch one for the rest of my life, that would be the one I'd choose. I've thought about holding out a bit on him to see if he'd get worked up enough to just take me, but let's face it...any time he's offering I'm there with bells on.

 

[Lust Engine]

It sounds like we are in a similiar situation. The past few years my sex drive has increased where his has decreased. I miss the groping, touching etc. that we had way back when we first met. When we couldn't keep our hands off each other. Nowadays we use more toys than anything else. I miss having him inside me. He has a bad back, so sex is painful for him in that respect. Toys are fine for occasional use, but not every time we get it on. I've tried sending him stories, telling him what I like, sending dirty texts/pics, nothing seems to work. So, I come to Lit to have a litte fun, read some stories & listen to some audio.

You've at least found a way to have your sexual release still. Bravo to you for being mindful, loving and still celebrating your sexual side too.

 

[Hiliburn]

I'm married. And nothing gets me going more than lurking on lit on my phone in bed while my husband sleeps.

Well I had to laugh at that as I'm completely doing the same thing. Lit lurking on my phone at 3am, sleeping hubby in the living room while I enjoy the king sized bed, lol

 

[rugby8]

Well I had to laugh at that as I'm completely doing the same thing. Lit lurking on my phone at 3am, sleeping hubby in the living room while I enjoy the king sized bed, lol

Sometimes I don't wait for my wife to drift off... I go to another room, just to see what's going on..

 

[jrwams]

I have to say, I love that you ladies are expressing how you feel and at least getting to release a little frustration. If any of you would love to chat just pm me I tend to have a sypmathetic ear and just love talking. I am in the same boat but with my wife, it is hard to get her to open up and talk about sex and express how she feels.

 

[Freckleface]

Well I had to laugh at that as I'm completely doing the same thing. Lit lurking on my phone at 3am, sleeping hubby in the living room while I enjoy the king sized bed, lol

Lol! We are kindred spirits. A lot of the time he won't even come to bed. He falls asleep on the couch downstairs.

 

[mustang200]

Men's testosterone starts to drop off around the age of 30. By 45, most of us have less than 50% of what we had available at 20. When I was 45, I had my first experience with ED. She was ready, willin', so was I, but I just couldn't get it up.

By the age of 52, the damn thing just wasn't reliable at all. I felt less than... unworthy... you get the picture. I was a couch potato, hating life, grouchy all the time, I didn't even want to be around me.

I had my testosterone tested, (same root word, did you notice?) and it barely register on the chart. An 80 year old normally has more testosterone than I did. I am now on replacement therapy, and WOW, what a difference.

I'm not yet back to where I want to be, but the hormone replacement has made a huge difference in my desire.

For all you ladies whose husband has gone from randy to recluse, get his testosterone checked, and then on the hormone.

You can thank me later.

 

[Freckleface]

Men's testosterone starts to drop off around the age of 30. By 45, most of us have less than 50% of what we had available at 20. When I was 45, I had my first experience with ED. She was ready, willin', so was I, but I just couldn't get it up.

By the age of 52, the damn thing just wasn't reliable at all. I felt less than... unworthy... you get the picture. I was a couch potato, hating life, grouchy all the time, I didn't even want to be around me.

I had my testosterone tested, (same root word, did you notice?) and it barely register on the chart. An 80 year old normally has more testosterone than I did. I am now on replacement therapy, and WOW, what a difference.

I'm not yet back to where I want to be, but the hormone replacement has made a huge difference in my desire.

For all you ladies whose husband has gone from randy to recluse, get his testosterone checked, and then on the hormone.

You can thank me later.

You are sweet to post this information. I wish my husbands issue was this simple. It's psychological though. His ego is in the way and he refuses to ask for help.

 

[JonnyD1]

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[Freckleface]

I was begining to blame my wife for my lack of sacksual interest so I had mine tested and it came out normal. Think I'll go back to blaming my wife. It's better than wondering if there is something wrong with me.

There is nothing wrong with you, my dear.

 

[andyomama66]

Freckle fresh

There is nothing wrong with you, my dear.

...with, let me guess, strawberry-blonde hair?

 

[annagreen73]

First, let me say this is a great thread. LOVE my other half, and we have a great sex life, plenty of adventure and lots of hotness. We are far from vanilla. I just can't seem to get enough so I find myself lurking around here when things get boring. We'll plan to spend time together, then one of us ends up having to work on a project, or one of us has a late meeting, and by the time we finally get home we're both exhausted. ::: Sigh :::

This is more of a comment than anything else....I guess I just get bored and look for stimulation from outside sources! I do go through a lot of batteries, but I don't think I would ever actually hook up with anyone but my guy. It's fun to fantasize, though.

 

[JonnyD1]

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[PutMeInCoach12]

Men's testosterone starts to drop off around the age of 30. By 45, most of us have less than 50% of what we had available at 20. When I was 45, I had my first experience with ED. She was ready, willin', so was I, but I just couldn't get it up.

By the age of 52, the damn thing just wasn't reliable at all. I felt less than... unworthy... you get the picture. I was a couch potato, hating life, grouchy all the time, I didn't even want to be around me.

I had my testosterone tested, (same root word, did you notice?) and it barely register on the chart. An 80 year old normally has more testosterone than I did. I am now on replacement therapy, and WOW, what a difference.

I'm not yet back to where I want to be, but the hormone replacement has made a huge difference in my desire.

For all you ladies whose husband has gone from randy to recluse, get his testosterone checked, and then on the hormone.

You can thank me later.

I've asked my hubby to get his levels checked. He went to our doctor (who is a good family friend ) and got a physical. He failed to mention he wanted his testosterone level checked....supposedly. I think the frustrating part is if the situation was reversed he would be realllllly upset. After I had our second child I was feeling pretty down about the extra weight etc... I was embarrassed and didn't want him to look at me. He was not a happy camper. I lost the weight and snapped out of my funk. I think my husband just gets distracted easily. If he gets interested in something , all of his time and energy goes into that. I bought a new toy last week and I told him; didn't really phase him. I have a feeling my new toy and I will become close.

 

[Freckleface]

I've asked my hubby to get his levels checked. He went to our doctor (who is a good family friend ) and got a physical. He failed to mention he wanted his testosterone level checked....supposedly. I think the frustrating part is if the situation was reversed he would be realllllly upset. After I had our second child I was feeling pretty down about the extra weight etc... I was embarrassed and didn't want him to look at me. He was not a happy camper. I lost the weight and snapped out of my funk. I think my husband just gets distracted easily. If he gets interested in something , all of his time and energy goes into that. I bought a new toy last week and I told him; didn't really phase him. I have a feeling my new toy and I will become close.

*Hugs Coach* I know how you feel. Don't be afraid to reach out. A lot of people are in your shoes.

 

[Lust Engine]

*Hugs Coach* I know how you feel. Don't be afraid to reach out. A lot of people are in your shoes.

And even if we're not- we're still very sympathetic to what it is you're going through. Hang in there with it and keep the lines of communication open.

 

[PutMeInCoach12]

And even if we're not- we're still very sympathetic to what it is you're going through. Hang in there with it and keep the lines of communication open.

Thanks, Freckleface and Lust Engine. It's nice knowing there are people out there who understand and don't judge me for feeling this way. This is a subject I wouldn't feel comfortable talking about with my RL friends since they are friends with my hubby too. At least there's Lit to keep me busy or cheer me up when I need it.

 

[bailadora]

I still say it takes a lot of courage for women to post here, because you never know what your going to get in response.

Ah, no. Most women know EXACTLY what kind of responses they're going to get. Tons of PM's from all the horndogs, offering to "help" them out.

 

[Eilan]

Ah, no. Most women know EXACTLY what kind of responses they're going to get. Tons of PM's from all the horndogs, offering to "help" them out.

Where's the "Like" button?

 

[mutato]

Ah, no. Most women know EXACTLY what kind of responses they're going to get. Tons of PM's from all the horndogs, offering to "help" them out.

And it's all those horndogs that give the guys who do care a bad name. It's not something that is solved by a provocative and carnal PM. While I do enjoy trading sexy and erotic PMs with the ladies here, there is a time and a place for it.

 

[bronco_2006]

I'm married. And nothing gets me going more than lurking on lit on my phone in bed while my husband sleeps.

Hahahaha I can relate to that but since I have moved into the basement I now get on or off, when I want, but yes knowing she was there in bed at the time was sort of a turn on,

 

[bailadora]

And it's all those horndogs that give the guys who do care a bad name. It's not something that is solved by a provocative and carnal PM. While I do enjoy trading sexy and erotic PMs with the ladies here, there is a time and a place for it.

It's also a case of knowing your target audience. It takes no time at all to check a post history to see if the lady in question is even open to such messages.

But a lot of guys can't be arsed to do so. It's more of a cast a wide net and hope you catch something MO.

 

[bronco_2006]

It's also a case of knowing your target audience. It takes no time at all to check a post history to see if the lady in question is even open to such messages.

But a lot of guys can't be arsed to do so. It's more of a cast a wide net and hope you catch something MO.

I would agree with you on that, I know I don't send just blind PM's with out at least getting to know a person by posting some first, and then I don't send sexual ones unless the PM's turn that way on both our parts.

 

[mtrainer]

It's also a case of knowing your target audience. It takes no time at all to check a post history to see if the lady in question is even open to such messages.

But a lot of guys can't be arsed to do so. It's more of a cast a wide net and hope you catch something MO.

Yes.... but the "horndogs" are missing the best part...
the "Dance"... the "Flirt".. the tango that two people can devise by keyboard.

 

[bailadora]

Yes.... but the "horndogs" are missing the best part...
the "Dance"... the "Flirt".. the tango that two people can devise by keyboard.

You must not have been cc'd on the memo. Lit's strictly a porn board and it's all about the sex - raw, unadulterated sex! (Or so I've been told).