❓ PLP Inquires II ❓

[UsuallyPresent]

When things are hard personally or worldwide, do you have the urge to escape or disassociate from time to time? Do you feel like this is a helpful impulse? Do you think escapism is good or bad, ultimately?

Like almost everything, to me escapism is in itself neutral. How you use it makes the situation good or bad. If you're coping getting through a difficult time via escapism, it'd generally be a good thing. If you're NOT coping with the real world due to escapism, it's generally a bad thing.

If you do use escapism -
What is your go to way to escape for a bit? Does is help or hurt your ability to deal with reality later? Do you ever feel guilty for disconnecting from reality for a bit?

I escape in different ways. I find a distraction (like Lit!), or take a 'farmer's vacation' (Tired of plowing? Paint the barn!) as just two examples of many in my life. As long as you keep up on deadlines & keeping healthy IMO it's much less damaging than otherwise - and yes, I've failed in those conditions in the past.

 

[Shymidwestgirl]

10.15.25

When things are hard personally or worldwide, do you have the urge to escape or disassociate from time to time? Do you feel like this is a helpful impulse? Do you think escapism is good or bad, ultimately?

I think we all need an escape from time to time. Reality of adulting day in and day out is hard.

If you do use escapism -
What is your go to way to escape for a bit? Does is help or hurt your ability to deal with reality later? Do you ever feel guilty for disconnecting from reality for a bit?

I read and I read a lot. I get lost in a book and concentrate the characters and figuring out who did it. I also, pop in here for a laugh, a chat, and to be nosy about what others are doing or thinking. Plus going to the movie is pure escapism entertainment. I’m fortunate as well, that I’m able to travel and that’s also a great escape from the reality of being a responsible adult.

 

[Anastasia1999]

10.15.25

Escapism

es·cap·ism​

/əˈskāpˌizəm,eˈskāpˌizəm/​

noun​

the tendency to seek distraction and relief from unpleasant realities, especially by seeking entertainment or engaging in fantasy.​

When things are hard personally or worldwide, do you have the urge to escape or disassociate from time to time? Do you feel like this is a helpful impulse? Do you think escapism is good or bad, ultimately?

If you do use escapism -
What is your go to way to escape for a bit? Does is help or hurt your ability to deal with reality later? Do you ever feel guilty for disconnecting from reality for a bit?

If you don't use escapism -
Do you wish you could? Do you find it odd when others do? What helps you instead?

I only allow myself to “escape” when all the important stuff has been dealt with.

I come to lit, listen to a meditation podcast or cook something tasty just because I can.

I think escapism is necessary for us to be able to regulate our emotions.

 

[MissSNG]

10.15.25

Escapism

es·cap·ism​

/əˈskāpˌizəm,eˈskāpˌizəm/​

noun​

the tendency to seek distraction and relief from unpleasant realities, especially by seeking entertainment or engaging in fantasy.​

When things are hard personally or worldwide, do you have the urge to escape or disassociate from time to time?

All the time

Do you feel like this is a helpful impulse?

Yes and no, I think finding coping mechanisms when life gets hard is totally valid but you also can’t escape forever

Do you think escapism is good or bad, ultimately?

When used too much I think it can be detrimental but i don’t think there’s anything inherently bad about wanting to shut off the “real world” for a bit

If you do use escapism -
What is your go to way to escape for a bit?

Books are my biggest one, when I find a good book - or even better, a series - I can absolutely lose myself in that story for hours on end. And I love it!
Lit and chatting are also high up on my list, but for me those are more distraction vs true escapism.

Does is help or hurt your ability to deal with reality later?

Sometimes it’s a rather harsh landing when you come back to reality, and usually makes me a bit moody

Do you ever feel guilty for disconnecting from reality for a bit?

Not really, maybe I should but when I’m generally ignored or left to my own devices for long periods of time, why should I feel bad about finding a way to not wallow in all the feels I’m feeling?

If you don't use escapism -
Do you wish you could? Do you find it odd when others do? What helps you instead?

I’m curious what others find helpful when things are rough and you just don’t want to have to deal

 

[lavendersilk]

10.15.25

Escapism

es·cap·ism​

/əˈskāpˌizəm,eˈskāpˌizəm/​

noun​

the tendency to seek distraction and relief from unpleasant realities, especially by seeking entertainment or engaging in fantasy.​

When things are hard personally or worldwide, do you have the urge to escape or disassociate from time to time?

Yes. I have anxiety, so for me it helps to stop and not think about something that is stressing me out. I love a good time out.

Do you feel like this is a helpful impulse? Do you think escapism is good or bad, ultimately?

I have used it as a crutch when I dont want to deal with a person or situation. Ultimately, I know I will have to deal with them/it. As long as I don't run away completely, I think it is warranted.

If you do use escapism -
What is your go to way to escape for a bit?

YouTube videos. ASMR, True crime (solved cases preferably) drag queens and silly cat videos. I have also used sex as a way to cope, but that can have it's own set of problems down the line.

Does is help or hurt your ability to deal with reality later? Do you ever feel guilty for disconnecting from reality for a bit?

I feel guilty about everything. But as I've gotten older, I recognize that my mental health is very important.

If you don't use escapism -
Do you wish you could? Do you find it odd when others do? What helps you instead?

I enjoy hearing others' methods. It gives me new ideas.

 

[Whiskeyjack]

10.15.25

Escapism

es·cap·ism​

/əˈskāpˌizəm,eˈskāpˌizəm/​

noun​

the tendency to seek distraction and relief from unpleasant realities, especially by seeking entertainment or engaging in fantasy.​

When things are hard personally or worldwide, do you have the urge to escape or disassociate from time to time? Do you feel like this is a helpful impulse? Do you think escapism is good or bad, ultimately?

I indulge in escapism frequently. Maybe too much. I worry sometimes that I'm just keeping my head in the sand. But then I look up, see what's going on, get overwhelmed, and it's back to escapism. It's a crutch, but a necessary one for me. Otherwise I'll just break down and not be able to function (sleep, eat, go to work, put food on the table, etc. - I've been there before). I wish I didn't have to give in to the temptation so often, but I know what my brain can and cannot handle. And right now there's just so much beyond my control...

If you do use escapism -
What is your go to way to escape for a bit?

D&D. Movies. Porn. Lit. There's lots of ways.

Does is help or hurt your ability to deal with reality later?

Given my personal experiences, it helps. Because if I have to deal with reality 100% of the time I was absolutely fall apart.

Do you ever feel guilty for disconnecting from reality for a bit?

Nope. See above.

If you don't use escapism -
Do you wish you could? Do you find it odd when others do? What helps you instead?

 

[TheNurseWithPrettyLegs]

04.28.21

It's the sequel nobody asked for! Mwahaha!

For our first question, let's do something fun.... what 3 objects would you purchase together to most shock the cashier??

KY Jelly, PlanB, and a home ovulation predictor kit

 

[redsnowbunny]

When things are hard personally or worldwide, do you have the urge to escape or disassociate from time to time?

YES.
it's a big yes , in bold letters.

Do you feel like this is a helpful impulse? Do you think escapism is good or bad, ultimately?

It gives me relief, room to elaborate, or to settle my emotions, so that I can later deal with them in a healthier way.
It is especially helpful when I have to deal with things out of my control, because nothing good ever came from feeling a whirlwind of negative emotions ( and it happens every time I watch the news, lately).

If the matters are personal though , escapism becomes more like a drug, a way to avoid the problem, to ignore it, to bury and forget it.
Yet, we all know the nature of real life problems : they are still there, when you get out of your fantasy world, waiting for you to take action, nagging at you, subconsciously building anxiety.

Escapism in itself is neither good or bad, is the way and purpose you "use" it for, that makes it either bad for you , or very very good.

If you do use escapism -
What is your go to way to escape for a bit?

I don't have a GO-TO way, my Escapist-Destination is very much dependant on the mood of the moment and the need I have.
Sometime it's a podcast, sometimes it's a book or an audiobook, other times it's literotica, or a new series on netflix.

Does is help or hurt your ability to deal with reality later?

Sometimes it's very helpful, especially if I choose a bit of healthy escapism..
A ted talk , or an interesting podcast, a meaningful interview or a masterclass: there I can find new ideas, be gently nudged towards new perspectives, new ideas, new solutions to my problems, even.

Do you ever feel guilty for disconnecting from reality for a bit?

Sometimes, when I over-indulge

 

[EvaLane]

When things are hard personally or worldwide, do you have the urge to escape or disassociate from time to time?

When things are hard, my words and thoughts feel worthless and all that remains is my body.

Being funny, or kind, or present - I may as well attempt to traverse the 1, 776 steps of the CN Tower on my tippy toes, it sounds sorta more doable, actually.

Disassociation is a tool, a gift, a necessity in order not to shut down completely. I retreat into my body, filling up every corner with the parts of me that usually reside upward. It’s a bit cramped, honestly.

Overwhelming and hot. Eventually, the red lights start flashing, alarms buzzing - all of that energy needs to either be expelled or we risk brute-forcing our way back into brain-land.

Absolutely not! So here I am, mostly bodying, hardly braining.

I’d rather be fucking but this is also fine. I guess, it’s fine. It’s fineeeeeeee.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

That’s the way I usually escape - daydreaming. I’ll even go so far as looking at million dollar houses to find the perfect one for when I win the lottery! I think it does hurt my ability to deal with reality somewhat.

Omg, it would never have occurred to me to put day dreaming on my list but I do the same thing! It does make crashing back to reality very difficult.

I think I do the opposite. I use escapism all the time. My mind is always floating around bizarre, fictional places of wonder.

And that's what makes you so amazing

Absolutely.


For me, it's definitely a helpful impulse. Especially for long-term situations where a problem can't necessarily be solved, but has to be managed. Escapism helps me to let go and relax and focus on something else for a little while.

I think using escapism to "manage" is such a good way to frame it. It's the perfect word.

I escape in different ways. I find a distraction (like Lit!), or take a 'farmer's vacation' (Tired of plowing? Paint the barn!) as just two examples of many in my life. As long as you keep up on deadlines & keeping healthy IMO it's much less damaging than otherwise - and yes, I've failed in those conditions in the past.

Well I've learned the idea of a Farmer's Vacation! Or at least the name for it. It makes my ADHD rabbit trails seem so much healthier now

I think we all need an escape from time to time. Reality of adulting day in and day out is hard.

I get so tired of being an adult. Washing the same dishes and clothes forever. Escapism is best employed while adulting sometimes, I think.

I only allow myself to “escape” when all the important stuff has been dealt with.

Oooh, this is very responsible and good advice. I do this with other things in my life - no fun stuff until the blah stuff is out of the way. (I call it "eat your vegetables first). It helps you enjoy the fun stuff even more.

Books are my biggest one, when I find a good book - or even better, a series - I can absolutely lose myself in that story for hours on end. And I love it!
Lit and chatting are also high up on my list, but for me those are more distraction vs true escapism.

Same. I love when a book is so good it makes you time travel. You don't know how you got 3 hours in the future but here you are!

Yes. I have anxiety, so for me it helps to stop and not think about something that is stressing me out. I love a good time out.

I have used it as a crutch when I dont want to deal with a person or situation. Ultimately, I know I will have to deal with them/it. As long as I don't run away completely, I think it is warranted.

YouTube videos. ASMR, True crime (solved cases preferably) drag queens and silly cat videos. I have also used sex as a way to cope, but that can have it's own set of problems down the line.

I feel guilty about everything. But as I've gotten older, I recognize that my mental health is very important.

Are you me? I think you might be me!

I indulge in escapism frequently. Maybe too much. I worry sometimes that I'm just keeping my head in the sand. But then I look up, see what's going on, get overwhelmed, and it's back to escapism. It's a crutch, but a necessary one for me.

I have the same worry. But it can be so tempting sometimes.

KY Jelly, PlanB, and a home ovulation predictor kit

I see what you... almost did there

Sometimes it's very helpful, especially if I choose a bit of healthy escapism..
A ted talk , or an interesting podcast, a meaningful interview or a masterclass: there I can find new ideas, be gently nudged towards new perspectives, new ideas, new solutions to my problems, even.

I love that, even in your escapism, you're still using it as an opportunity to grow and learn!

Disassociation is a tool, a gift, a necessity in order not to shut down completely. I retreat into my body, filling up every corner with the parts of me that usually reside upward. It’s a bit cramped, honestly.

Every. Single. Word. Of this.

I’d rather be fucking but this is also fine. I guess, it’s fine. It’s fineeeeeeee.

Lol, I love that I can hear you saying this

 

[morelikeasong]

When things are hard personally or worldwide, do you have the urge to escape or disassociate from time to time? Do you feel like this is a helpful impulse? Do you think escapism is good or bad, ultimately?

The urge? It often feels like an imperative to me. I think it absolutely can be healthy, in moderation. Ask me how good I am at moderating.

If you do use escapism -
What is your go to way to escape for a bit? Does is help or hurt your ability to deal with reality later? Do you ever feel guilty for disconnecting from reality for a bit?

Lit, TikTok, reality tv, reading, rewatching shows/movies, podcasts, sudoku, smoking pot.

Help or hurt is kind of hard to say without an opposite scenario running where I stay present and tuned in and let myself think all the thoughts I run away from.
I’m still here. I’m still waking up every day and doing what needs to be done. I do sometimes fear that escapism is the only thing keeping me afloat.
I try to be present for my time with other people, my family and friends. When it comes to myself, I engage in some form of escapism to avoid being alone with my own thoughts at almost all times.

I do feel guilty sometimes about tuning out while the world feels like it’s on fire around me. I think if we didn’t have all these different ways of escaping and placating ourselves, maybe we’d all be more focused on change. Revolution.

 

[sammyIammy]

When things are hard, my words and thoughts feel worthless and all that remains is my body.

Being funny, or kind, or present - I may as well attempt to traverse the 1, 776 steps of the CN Tower on my tippy toes, it sounds sorta more doable, actually.

Disassociation is a tool, a gift, a necessity in order not to shut down completely. I retreat into my body, filling up every corner with the parts of me that usually reside upward. It’s a bit cramped, honestly.

Overwhelming and hot. Eventually, the red lights start flashing, alarms buzzing - all of that energy needs to either be expelled or we risk brute-forcing our way back into brain-land.

Absolutely not! So here I am, mostly bodying, hardly braining.

I’d rather be fucking but this is also fine. I guess, it’s fine. It’s fineeeeeeee.

Really interesting description

 

[Neanderthal247]

When things are hard, my words and thoughts feel worthless and all that remains is my body.

Being funny, or kind, or present - I may as well attempt to traverse the 1, 776 steps of the CN Tower on my tippy toes, it sounds sorta more doable, actually.

Disassociation is a tool, a gift, a necessity in order not to shut down completely. I retreat into my body, filling up every corner with the parts of me that usually reside upward. It’s a bit cramped, honestly.

Overwhelming and hot. Eventually, the red lights start flashing, alarms buzzing - all of that energy needs to either be expelled or we risk brute-forcing our way back into brain-land.

Absolutely not! So here I am, mostly bodying, hardly braining.

I’d rather be fucking but this is also fine. I guess, it’s fine. It’s fineeeeeeee.

I don't know how to react to your answers, but it's very sexy. It reminds me of emotional and heated discussions I've had with woman and my mind goes into a predator hunting it's prey. Unleashing all that energy and frustration.

 

[EvaLane]

I don't know how to react

*nods* I understand

It definitely ties into my kinks and preferences. Saying I’d rather be fucked is a flowery way of expressing what I’d really want, but some things are better left up the imagination - or intuition, of others.

 

[Neanderthal247]

*nods* I understand

It definitely ties into my kinks and preferences. Saying I’d rather be fucked is a flowery way of expressing what I’d really want, but some things are better left up the imagination - or intuition, of others.

Trying to find a balance, while maintaining control of my reactions. Since I don't know you well enough, I won't assume and react with vulgarity

 

[CuriousCat89]

10.15.25

Escapism

When things are hard personally or worldwide, do you have the urge to escape or disassociate from time to time? Do you feel like this is a helpful impulse? Do you think escapism is good or bad, ultimately?

If you do use escapism -
What is your go to way to escape for a bit? Does is help or hurt your ability to deal with reality later? Do you ever feel guilty for disconnecting from reality for a bit?

If you don't use escapism -
Do you wish you could? Do you find it odd when others do? What helps you instead?

- I am a problem solver. Things have been extremely hard to me, but I attack them head first. Worldwide? I get involved where I can, but I try to stay off social media. "Escaping" just delays the inevitable.

- When I want to "escape", I focus on self care during times of difficulty. I do things like exercise, clean my living space, get a spa treatment. Things that make me feel good but in control. I have to work out so when the fascists come for me, I can overpower them!

I also try to look at things in perspective. Things might be bad, but they could always be worse. I have my health (for now) and a roof over my head - a lot of people can't say that.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

The urge? It often feels like an imperative to me. I think it absolutely can be healthy, in moderation. Ask me how good I am at moderating.

Lit, TikTok, reality tv, reading, rewatching shows/movies, podcasts, sudoku, smoking pot.

Help or hurt is kind of hard to say without an opposite scenario running where I stay present and tuned in and let myself think all the thoughts I run away from.
I’m still here. I’m still waking up every day and doing what needs to be done. I do sometimes fear that escapism is the only thing keeping me afloat.
I try to be present for my time with other people, my family and friends. When it comes to myself, I engage in some form of escapism to avoid being alone with my own thoughts at almost all times.

I do feel guilty sometimes about tuning out while the world feels like it’s on fire around me. I think if we didn’t have all these different ways of escaping and placating ourselves, maybe we’d all be more focused on change. Revolution.

Should I answer or just say "same" ?

 

[CuriousCat89]

I do feel guilty sometimes about tuning out while the world feels like it’s on fire around me. I think if we didn’t have all these different ways of escaping and placating ourselves, maybe we’d all be more focused on change. Revolution.

I agree, but I also think "the word is on fire around me" is often exaggerated by the media. Good things are happening, but bad news and fear sell more than optimism. I try to remember that, too. And then I pre-purchase plan B for the young people in my life.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

10.15.25

Escapism

es·cap·ism​

/əˈskāpˌizəm,eˈskāpˌizəm/​

noun​

the tendency to seek distraction and relief from unpleasant realities, especially by seeking entertainment or engaging in fantasy.​

When things are hard personally or worldwide, do you have the urge to escape or disassociate from time to time? Do you feel like this is a helpful impulse? Do you think escapism is good or bad, ultimately?

I draw a line between escapism and procrastination. I do like to mentally escape even when I'm physically being productive. This can be by daydreaming, fantasizing, planning, disassociating, listening to podcasts or audiobooks while I'm working at work or home. It does feel helpful. I have a very very active mind. It's going to be spinning regardless. If I don't give it something good to spin on, it will spin on bad things that fuel anxiety, negative self thoughts, and panic. I think when my escapism turns into avoidance and procrastination or denial... then it's a bad thing.

If you do use escapism -
What is your go to way to escape for a bit? Does is help or hurt your ability to deal with reality later? Do you ever feel guilty for disconnecting from reality for a bit?

I use books, tiktok, podcasts, D&D (playing and prep), word and other games, Tumblr and Lit, amongst other things. I have a pretty active imagination so it's fun to put that to good use too.
However, I do feel INCREDIBLY guilty when I check out of the current world shit show. I know I can do the things that I can do to be a helpful ally and good American but it always feel like the opposition is so much busier and people are continuing to suffer. But, I acknowledge that even the best of us need to focus on the beauty of the world and not just the ... absolute nonstop shitshow. Pause while I disassociate for a while.


Thanks everyone for your really interesting answers!

 

[seela]

10.15.25

Escapism

es·cap·ism​

/əˈskāpˌizəm,eˈskāpˌizəm/​

noun​

the tendency to seek distraction and relief from unpleasant realities, especially by seeking entertainment or engaging in fantasy.​

When things are hard personally or worldwide, do you have the urge to escape or disassociate from time to time? Do you feel like this is a helpful impulse? Do you think escapism is good or bad, ultimately?

I’m an heavy user of escapism. I think it’s nice to just let go for a little while and I can’t really see any downsides for myself. It helps me disengage my brain which tends to be whirring way too fast sometimes.

If you do use escapism -
What is your go to way to escape for a bit? Does is help or hurt your ability to deal with reality later? Do you ever feel guilty for disconnecting from reality for a bit?

I’ve never felt guilty for escapism and it’s never hindered my ability to deal with reality. I’m really good at compartmentalizing, it turns out, so escapism is kind of an alternate universe to me that I pop into occasionally. I’m too much of a realist and way too boring to ever get truly lost or stuck in my escapist fantasies for too long.
My usual go to ways are books, games and movies or going out for a walk, mostly because they’re the easiest to achieve. My favorite way is mushroom picking on a crisp autumn morning, it really resets my brain. The most effective way, though, is long term orgasm denial and edging. When in “that state”, my brain can go into a happy place in an instance.

 

[Paul_Chance]

When things are hard personally or worldwide, do you have the urge to escape or disassociate from time to time? Do you feel like this is a helpful impulse? Do you think escapism is good or bad, ultimately?

I don't worry about those things that are worldwide, pretty much only things that a) I have control over and b) have personal impact. Thw worldwide stuff I just let go.

I don't use escapism per se. I can disassociate like a mohterfucker, but that is not a good thing (outcome of PTSD). I jokingly refer to it as the lizard switch. I flip it and become a cold-blooded reptile for as long as necessary.

Ultimately, I think the outcome is what matters. Let's say you have a difficult thing to accomplish. If your escapism helps you accomplsh it, then it's a good thing. If your escapism prevents you from accomplishing it or hinders you, than it's a bad thing.


If you don't use escapism -
Do you wish you could? Do you find it odd when others do? What helps you instead?

No, I don't wish I could use escapism. I don't find it odd, given how common it is, I just don't find it particularly works.

I rely heavily on my Buddhism. I find in very difficult circumstances the ability to focus and to confront things directly, to deal unflinchingly with what is, to be what works best of me.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

10.22.25

Personal Style

Do you have a personal style? How would you describe it? How did you craft your personal style? I am thinking a lot of how you present yourself (clothing, home decor, way of being) but it could also be how you carry yourself online - things that are symbolic or specific to you. If you don't have a personal style, why not? What holds you back from expressing yourself more? Is there a style you wish you could pull off? Have you ever undertook a major change in your personal style?

 

[Paul_Chance]

10.22.25

Personal Style

Do you have a personal style? How would you describe it? How did you craft your personal style? I am thinking a lot of how you present yourself (clothing, home decor, way of being) but it could also be how you carry yourself online - things that are symbolic or specific to you. If you don't have a personal style, why not? What holds you back from expressing yourself more? Is there a style you wish you could pull off? Have you ever undertook a major change in your personal style?

Do you have a personal style?

I do.

How would you describe it?

Retired professor.

How did you craft your personal style?

It was a combination of self-awareness, professional assistance, and excellent advice from several lovers over the decades.

Is there a style you wish you could pull off?

I have contemplated switching entirely to three piece black suits, but never did. I’ve also considered becoming a dandy, which is probably my favorite style.

Have you ever undertook a major change in your personal style?

Yes. I evolved through several styles

How did you craft your personal style?

It was a combination of self-awareness, professional assistance, and excellent advice from several lovers over the decades.

Is there a style you wish you could pull off?

I have contemplated switching entirely to three piece black suits, but never did. I’ve also considered becoming a dandy, which is probably my favorite style.

Have you ever undertook a major change in your personal style?

Yes. I evolved through several styles across the decades.

Through my teen years I dressed in western style, cowboy hats, shirts, jeans, and boots.

Through my military and law enforcement years, I mostly wore uniforms, and when I was off duty dressed low-key blend in style, and when I evolved out of the uniform it was into business suits (meaning navy or charcoal).

That style carried me over into private industry, where my style was sort of a universal business casual.

By about my late thirties, early forties I was established enough in my career I could violate the unwritten dress codes of America and express myself, which meant more personalized choices in clothing, which gravitated back toward my western roots, including hat and boots, along with a more western cut to the blazers and a big rodeo belt buckle and a good pair of boots.

The biggest change that hit my style in my thirties was I could now afford very good quality in things. My emphasis shifted to minimalist and high quality items, both worn and in decorating my abode.

(If you’re like me and have very little sense of style as you start out, use a stylist, it’s worth it. They can teach you how to build a personal style that conveys a feeling or persona. Depending on what you do, changes in style can positively impact your career path and the course of your personal life.)

 

[MissSNG]

10.22.25

Personal Style

Do you have a personal style?

It feels like there’s less and less these days

How would you describe it?

Any style I do have could be described as homebody/comfy/girl next door.. maybe?

How did you craft your personal style?

It’s evolved out of a change in routine and being out of the house less.
And these days it’s changed even more so due to the whole “growing a tiny human” thing .. much less options for style in that department. I’ve ranted, quite frequently lately, about the lack of availability for comfortable/affordable maternity wear here
But all that aside, I think the older I get and the smaller my social circle has become, the more i just dress for comfort over anything else. I definitely still make an effort when I’m going to be around people and I want to look nice but I don’t feel like I fall into any particular category of style - I’m not a sporty girl, not ultra stylish or hip and current with fashion trends, I can’t pull off the artsy boho vibe or retro chic
I stick with jeans/leggings/linen pants and tshirts or cute tops/blouses , dresses when the occasion calls for it or I’m feeling the need to be a little more girly

And now that it’s finally fall here, that’s definitely going to transition into much more leggings and oversized sweaters/sweatshirts

. If you don't have a personal style, why not?

Mostly because I have no where to wear it anymore or no one to show off to/for
But, also, I feel like it’s a little harder to craft a specific style on a plus size body … sadly a lot of stores still aren’t very size inclusive, even online! And the ones that do cater to a different body style tend to be more than my budget would ever allow.

What holds you back from expressing yourself more?

The same answer as above really

Is there a style you wish you could pull off?

I used to love the rockabilly/pinup style but I think I’ve migrated out of that to enjoying something more down home comfort level.
My ultimate goal is to be the eccentric old lady who wears whatever the hell she wants

Have you ever undertook a major change in your personal style?

I definitely went through some phases in my early 20’s and then again after I got divorced. But I think I settled pretty quickly on just basic comfort items

I think I’ll always be a jeans & tshirt kind of girl

 

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When I returned to college...at a large Big10 university that starts with the word "The"...I mean how egotistical can a university be...as if you are "the only one that matters"...but i digress...I applied for departmental scholarships for my Sophomore year. How could I not get something? Straight 4.0 grades...taking coursework designed for Pre-Vet. But I was shocked....nothing. And those that did receive the awards....were barely C students. So I went to my Advisor and asked why? He said..."Your hair is too long". Seriously.

Yea...I had long hair. Middle of the back. But it was well kept. I dressed good. I just wanted to keep a part of a lifestyle to remind me of where I came from. At that time....I was less than 3 years clean. I had to give up everything...friends...family...jobs...music...everything. Couldn't I just keep a part of who I was?

So I cut it off. Shaved it. Two foot change in one evening. For money. And from that day forward...my tuition was always covered. Either scholarships...or tuition waivers. And I won National Awards. That meant absolutely nothing to me. They valued more how I looked than the research I gave them.

So have I changed my image? Multiple times. Each time selling out for money. And each time a part of me died.