6 inches ..is it enough

[TBKahuna123]

...and the perennial favorite - pouring your heart out to a female friend who's probably half in love with you but you ignore her for women who laugh at your penis size.

Hey I've been on the other side of this too! I've had women who I've really liked sit there and cry on my shoulder about some asshole boyfriend, then go out two hours later and jump back in the sack with em. Remember that old adage about nice guys finishing last? There ya go!

Of course, we also always get the girl in the end. Maybe not the first one, but definitely the right one.

 

[LadyJeanne]

OK ok ok, come on now, let's not get another scortching penis size debate going! I too was waiting to see who'd jump in first Bi or Eilan, but this thread is a touch different. This guy's stated he's a virgin, so obviously inexperienced. Hell when I was that age I thought 6 inches was small too, because the only experience I'd had was with porn, and we all know how realistic that is. Give the kid a break, he wasn't asking how to make it bigger, just basically if size mattered. Remember, we're here to educate the young, amongst other things.

So now that you never have to worry about the size of your cock again, on to positions. I would defintely keep it simple for your first time. Either go missionary or with her on top. You don't have to try everything at once, get your bearings the first time. Hopefully you'll have many more encounters to explore other positions. Keep it simple so your first time has less pressure, it'll be more fun.

One other thing, more important than positions, if you aren't orally experienced, do some research. I firmly believe that the most important thing a man can learn is to orally satisfy your lover. If you've given her a good tongue lashing or two, most women will forgive any minor mistakes you may make along the way to losing your virginity. Am I wrong ladies?

Awright, fine. PENIS SIZE DOESN'T MATTER!

There. So much for reassurance. I doubt it made him feel better.

Yes, oral is very, very, very important. As is all kinds of touching and fondling and playing. Position sort of takes care of itself - it's fun to try different things out. Here's a nice little sample of options:

http://www.canal96.com/extra/strange/kamasutra/

But yes, research oral! And research the clitoris! It's the key to orgasm!

 

[chris9]

Let her guide you. Don't attempt to find her vagina with your penis the first time around. Sounds simple to put it in there, I know. But it isn't. She knows where you are supposed to go, so it makes sense to let her guide you, using her hands, or if she really knows her way, with her on top.
Don't worry should you come before she does. You seem to be a bit nervous about the whole thing (understandable) and so it's natural to not last very long.
I'd agree on either missionary or her on top. I would say with her on top would be best, because 1) she is experienced, so she can take charge, 2) it allows more variation as she can sit up or lie down on top of you. It's also intimate and great to snuggle afterwards.

 

[TBKahuna123]

Let her guide you. Don't attempt to find her vagina with your penis the first time around. Sounds simple to put it in there, I know. But it isn't.

Good point. You can even ask her to help you. Do it in a sex voice and she'll respond I'm sure.

Somthing else I think should be brought up. Does she know you are a virgin? If not TELL HER! Not only do women see to love that, well most anyway, but it'll take the pressure off you.

 

[Eilan]

Damn. I sure dropped the ball on this one.

And for the record, let me just say that my husband has an average-sized penis and we can do spooning just fine, thankyouverymuch.

Move along, folks. Nothing more to see here.

 

[bisexplicit]

OK ok ok, come on now, let's not get another scortching penis size debate going! I too was waiting to see who'd jump in first Bi or Eilan, but this thread is a touch different. This guy's stated he's a virgin, so obviously inexperienced. Hell when I was that age I thought 6 inches was small too, because the only experience I'd had was with porn, and we all know how realistic that is. Give the kid a break, he wasn't asking how to make it bigger, just basically if size mattered. Remember, we're here to educate the young, amongst other things.

Thats something I suppose I don't understand at all. How do these people manage to get so far in life and be so completely clueless?

Its not like I knew everything there was to know about sex by the age of twelve (or I know everything you need to know about sex now, for that matter) - in fact, I always figured that I was a tad naive and a little behind in learning things sexual.

But, maybe its just those people who have reached their twenties and are still pretty clueless didn't attend a public school. hehe.

 

[Eilan]

It's unfortunate that people use porn (not the "amateur" stuff) as sex-ed. Porn sex is not real sex. Not all men have thick, veiny 10-inch cocks that last for hours and then cum buckets. Well, that's what my husband's been telling me.

As for positions, I've gotta agree with the people who have been saying keep it simple. You have lots of time to try new things.

 

[TBKahuna123]

Thats something I suppose I don't understand at all. How do these people manage to get so far in life and be so completely clueless?

Its not like I knew everything there was to know about sex by the age of twelve (or I know everything you need to know about sex now, for that matter) - in fact, I always figured that I was a tad naive and a little behind in learning things sexual.

But, maybe its just those people who have reached their twenties and are still pretty clueless didn't attend a public school. hehe.

Nah I attended public school, but I was also pretty shy. I didn't really start exploring my sexuality until I was almost 18, a late bloomer I guess. Still I wasn't exactly checking out the other guys in the locker room to see how I stacked up. I worried about it occasionally, but not a ton. When I did become active I never had any complaints, so I never really worried about it too much. Hell I'd never even measured mine until I was married and that was just a curiosity thing during a night of drunken debauchery.

I can tell you this though, I never really stopped wondering how I "measured up" until one night at a party in college. My buddy and I were sitting drinking with an ex girlfriend who we had both dated and slept with (not at the same time) and some other friends. Of course the talk turned sexual and someone asked her which of us had the bigger dick. She responded that mine was both longer and thicker.

Well my ego was sufficiently salved for life. It doesn't matter that I'm not hung like Peter North, I have confirmation that I have a bigger dick than my best friend. What more validation do I need?

 

[LadyJeanne]

Well my ego was sufficiently salved for life. It doesn't matter that I'm not hung like Peter North, I have confirmation that I have a bigger dick than my best friend. What more validation do I need?

See, this is the part that women just roll their eyes about. Best validation is your lover telling you that you're a wonderful lover. Not that your dick is big, but that you please and satisfy her.

I know you know that. But that's why the size issue is so frustrating for women. No matter what we say, it always comes back to penis size.

 

[TBKahuna123]

See, this is the part that women just roll their eyes about. Best validation is your lover telling you that you're a wonderful lover. Not that your dick is big, but that you please and satisfy her.

I know you know that. But that's why the size issue is so frustrating for women. No matter what we say, it always comes back to penis size.

I wondered what the react to this would be, but couldn't resist. It's an old joke between me buddy and I, and it was damned funny.

I can honestly say that any worries I had personally went out the window when I lost my virginity. I had fun, she had fun, I guess that meant my equipment worked ok, so I was golden. I think Eilan hit it right on the head, the problem is Porn. Now I'm not one of those ultra-moralists who says porn is bad. Hell I write porn for fun and spend way too much time here, so I'm not saying porn is bad. Porn however, is responsible for a myriad of sexual self-esteem issue sin both men and women. As Eilan said, not all men have big veiny ten inch dicks, (BTW, that's the story I give my wife too), but there are a lot of others too:

Not all women are screamers
Not all men can shoot jizz 5 and a half feet and pip the ace on a playing card mounted on a bleach blonde's forehead.
Not all women like anal sex
Not all men can stay hard for an hour
Not all women have big hard fake tits
Not every woman is bi sexual

The list goes on and on, but it's like I say in my signature. If you use Porn as a sexual how-to manual, you'll spend most of your time masturbating, because you're gonna have trouble pleasing a real woman.

 

[bisexplicit]

Not all women are screamers
Not all men can shoot jizz 5 and a half feet and pip the ace on a playing card mounted on a bleach blonde's forehead.
Not all women like anal sex
Not all men can stay hard for an hour
Not all women have big hard fake tits
Not every woman is bi sexual

Damnit, but they all /should/!

Actually, if real life sex was anything like porn sex, I'm not sure I'd be real into it.

 

[Eilan]

As of my post, this thread has 477 views. It was started at 10:00 last night.

Why is it that thread like this one will get tons of views even though the dead horse has been beaten beyond recognition? Do people really think that the popular opinion is gonna change from one thread to another? Or that maybe THIS cock size thread will contain all the secrets of Big Cockdom?

And, yes, I realize that I'm not helping matters by continuing to post.

 

[Pyro Paul]

because we are all waiting untill they pull out the next horse, line it up next to the last one and beat that one to death...

 

[TBKahuna123]

This does bring up a good point though. Now that we've hijacked the thread and beaten the horse that pulled it way past rigor mortis, I think it might be prudent to ask:

Hey aswj2g1, di your questions get answered? I mean seriously, did you get the info you were looking for?

 

[Leviluv]

okay this question is for the ladies of lit pretty much....

well i'm 21 and i am a virgin and i have a girlfreind now and she really wants to have sex with me..and i think my penis is pretty good size (6inches long...6 inches around)
i know that's supposed to be the average and whatnot but i guess i 'm looking for some individual opinions on the matter. maybe it just looks smaller to me cause i'm 6'3" 250 pounds ..could u ladies suggest any positions for me to use

Your dick size doesn't matter. It's how you work it. And since you're a virgin, you'll learn as you go. She should have a blast riding you on top. Let her lead if you feel you can't right away. You'll learn the motions in no time.

 

[LadyJeanne]

I wondered what the react to this would be, but couldn't resist. It's an old joke between me buddy and I, and it was damned funny.

Does your buddy think it's as funny as you do???

 

[Eilan]

Does your buddy think it's as funny as you do???

I just choked on my pop. Thanks.

 

[TBKahuna123]

Does your buddy think it's as funny as you do???

He finds it amusing now. We have enough crap to throw back and forth so it all works out in the mix. He's certainly not suffering from penis envy by any stretch of the imagination, having had much more, um...success with women in his youth then I did. I was always the shy one, he was the outgoing confident one. Funny how we're totally the opposite now that we're all grown up.

Crap I just had a horrible thought! If we're the total opposite of how we were back then, maybe his dick's bigger then mine now! Did his grow? Did mine shrink? Oh crap, now I'm starting to worry!

I better go ask my wife if my dick is still big enough.

 

[aswj2g1]

i love this site

you guys are killing me over here but yes i did get an answerto my question and i appreciate all the feedback as crazy as some of it might have been ....maybe i'll post a pic for u girls one day ....and by the way do you think it's weird that my girlfiend said i have a pretty cock...she said she loves the way it looks...have any of you other girls told a guy something like that before

 

[Eilan]

maybe i'll post a pic for u girls one day

That's okay. Really.

....and by the way do you think it's weird that my girlfiend said i have a pretty cock...she said she loves the way it looks...have any of you other girls told a guy something like that before

I can't speak for the other women, but I don't find cocks particularly attractive. That's not to say that I'm not fond of cock; I just don't worship the Penis Almighty because my husband happens to have one. If a pretty cock was all I was after, I'd dump him and buy a dildo (hell, I might buy the dildo, anyway).

I much prefer the person attached to the cock because if the attraction isn't there, then I'll never see the goods.

Look on the bright side. At least she didn't call it "cute."

 

[aswj2g1]

good thing she didn't

you're right that would have been weird

 

[bisexplicit]

Most random penises are sortof...well...not all that attractive.

On the other hand, I quite like the way my boyfriend's penis looks - I think her saying that she likes your penis is more that she likes your penis because she likes you. Its attractive to her because you're attractive to her.

 

[aswj2g1]

you're right

i like that biexplicit thanks that was very insiteful ....you're absolutely right

 

[LadyJeanne]

Bi is right - random penises aren't really attractive. However, there may be some, er, qualities that can make one somewhat 'prettier' than others. I'm thinking maybe smooth skin (not veiny), a medium size (neither very long or thich nor very skinny or short - a good overall proportion), uniform color, and proportional to his body.

*shrug*

I don't know. My feelings about a penis are much more about the guy sporting it.

It's a good thing if she thinks it's pretty. Maybe you could ask her to tell you what she likes about it, in detail, while you're giving her oral...

 

[TBKahuna123]

I told my wife about this thread and asked her if she thought my cock was pretty. She said oh absolutely, totally magnificent, we should have it bronzed and put on the mantel in the living room!

Then she rolled her eyes and left the room. What's that mean?