A better husband...

[jethrobodeen]

I read this thread and see how I lack certain romantic behaviors (I am capable but do not evidently adequately express). You would think at my age, I would know these. I do know some, practice some, but I have soooo much room for improvement. My wife did say she wanted more out of sex than screams and countless -gasms. She wants closeness and cuddly time too. I thought I was at least...kinda...Damn, its almost easier the other way

Reading as the eager student......

-JB

 

[M's girl]

I read this thread and see how I lack certain romantic behaviors (I am capable but do not evidently adequately express). You would think at my age, I would know these. I do know some, practice some, but I have soooo much room for improvement. My wife did say she wanted more out of sex than screams and countless -gasms. She wants closeness and cuddly time too. I thought I was at least...kinda...Damn, its almost easier the other way

Reading as the eager student......

-JB

Listen to your wife. Most people think these kind of things for a loooooong time before they, very carefully, start to speak their mind.....

You are listening... now react, before it's too late! There is probably something boiling deep inside for some time already. The time is: now!

 

[jethrobodeen]

Listen to your wife. Most people think these kind of things for a loooooong time before they, very carefully, start to speak their mind.....

You are listening... now react, before it's too late! There is probably something boiling deep inside for some time already. The time is: now!

Check it out We've had a breakthrough

Thank you
-JB

 

[M's girl]

Check it out We've had a breakthrough

Thank you
-JB

Oh goodie!

 

[jethrobodeen]

Oh goodie!

Yes , now we've communicated about stuff that has little or no emphasis on sex. It's personal connectedness that transcends sexual attraction or gratification that appears to be lacking. We've fallen into our own behaviors and have both focused less in non-sexual bonding activities, although she has been a much more inspired cook lately. I take that as her wanting to show me love. Now I recognize it that way, and I can show her love by remembering she hates to come home and find the bed un-made or dishes in the sink. So my small effort to make the bed after I get up means a surprisingly lot to her. Esp since I am so NOT into the frilly shams and other stuff she likes that makes making the bed a pain in the ass. Perhaps, when I make that effort for her (I don't get it looking very pretty-can't hold a candle to her ability there) it is received as an act of love as I intended. She told me once that such a little thing means a lot to her.

So, I'm going to start reading more stuff here in this thread and threads like it to find ideas of little "nothings" relatively on my part, that add up to really big "somethings" for her and try incorporate them into regular practice, even habit or routine. Like checking if the kitchen trash can is full before her, and emptying it before it's overflowing and she's nagging me to take out the trash.

As times goes on, I hope to get better at thinking of original ways to show my love, and mixing in a variety of other spontaneous efforts. See I am getting in touch with my feminine side

-JB