A Peak Inside - Detailed Sex Diary

[Westman123]

I'm trying something out, and we'll see how it works.

I like real and authentic in all aspects of life. I don't contribute much online, but thought if there are others out there that are like me, that maybe I could share something I'd like to read. And I'd enjoy it and maybe others would too.

So this is a bit of a sex diary, lots of details, not holding back the human moments.

I'm 30's, as is my wife. We have kids, jobs, and a nice life in a nice town with nice friends.

Like most married couples, our sex life has been up and down. But we work at it and keep finding new ways to keep it exciting.

She's pretty, slightly curvy, with perky tits and a great ass. I'm a runner and stay in good shape.

Our sexcapades are usually twice a week - once very close and love-making, once intense and boundary pushing. That's just the rhythm we found, it wasn't intentional.

But we've come to like the idea of giving each other something to think about during our daily lives....the dirty secret idea definitely drives us when life allows it.

To get started with a short story.....one thing we've been paying attention to and talking about is how she contracts after her first orgasm and getting close to her second. We usually go for two, and lately we've been going REALLY slow when she brings the vibrator back to her clit. When we go slow I can feel all along my cock where her pussy is contracting and squeezing me. Sometimes its right at the base, sometimes further up. At times the squeezing almost hurts - it doesn't, but it's VERY strong. The last time we did this, she was on top, and I waited until I felt her wetness coming back (there's some time where she's not as naturally lubed after that first orgasm) to grab her hips and hold her down/steady so I could fuck her at the speed/depth that I wanted. She totally gave in, and as she relaxed she moan and whispered 'yes' and I filled her while she collapsed on me.

More specifics to come...the good and the bad.

 

[Westman123]

For a long time we had a very vanilla sex life. Lots of good feelings, but not memorable. That was okay, but as we got into our 30's I pushed us a little more. I think the instigator was having some friends who talked fairly openly about their sex life and I realized it was something we hadn't done. Like - we had a routine and thought that was what it was.

More details on that path someday. But here's a recent chapter.

I ask and suggest things, but very rarely (if ever?) do I push on her tasting herself in any way. I figure that's not something I should push on. A few times I've made out with her after I've gone down on her - most times she turned away, but over the past few months she hasn't, and she actually seemed to enjoy it. I noticed it for sure. Not my place to push though, so I didn't change what I do.

The other night, after a great start of a vibrator orgasm for her, followed by me fucking her deeply for a few minutes, we changed positions. During the change she immediately started giving me oral - no requesting or urging. She had NEVER done that after I had been inside her. I could tell she hesitated just a little, but was clearly very into it.

Her second orgasm, while on top of me, was huge.

Mine was pretty big too, with both hand wrapped around her ass and my face between her breasts.

So now, I've sexy texted her about this just a little while she's at work, and yes, I can tell she liked the dirtyness of it.

 

[Kissjoanie]

For a long time we had a very vanilla sex life. Lots of good feelings, but not memorable. That was okay, but as we got into our 30's I pushed us a little more. I think the instigator was having some friends who talked fairly openly about their sex life and I realized it was something we hadn't done. Like - we had a routine and thought that was what it was.

More details on that path someday. But here's a recent chapter.

I ask and suggest things, but very rarely (if ever?) do I push on her tasting herself in any way. I figure that's not something I should push on. A few times I've made out with her after I've gone down on her - most times she turned away, but over the past few months she hasn't, and she actually seemed to enjoy it. I noticed it for sure. Not my place to push though, so I didn't change what I do.

The other night, after a great start of a vibrator orgasm for her, followed by me fucking her deeply for a few minutes, we changed positions. During the change she immediately started giving me oral - no requesting or urging. She had NEVER done that after I had been inside her. I could tell she hesitated just a little, but was clearly very into it.

Her second orgasm, while on top of me, was huge.

Mine was pretty big too, with both hand wrapped around her ass and my face between her breasts.

So now, I've sexy texted her about this just a little while she's at work, and yes, I can tell she liked the dirtyness of it.

So I love my own taste and my girlfriend also tastes amazing.

 

[Westman123]

So I love my own taste and my girlfriend also tastes amazing.

Guess we can add another lady to the roster of enjoying the taste then! I actually find it really hot that she came on to it her own way. I've suggested many things that she's tried and loved (just a few that she hasn't loved), and that's been great. But it's WAY hotter when she comes to it on her own.

Probably didn't hurt that I let out a little sigh/moan often when I first go down on her. She really does taste great, and it's maybe worked its way into her head a little!

 

[Westman123]

But it doesn't all go well.

After we had our first realization that we needed to evolve things, I suggested one of those apps with quizzes you take, showing the 'yes' answers to the other. At that point I was very up for trying everything and getting immersed in growing together.

She was much more iterative. Let's add one thing (a toy, a position, etc) and try it a few times. If it sticks, great, add something else. If not, move on with something else.

But for a good long while I didn't really recognize that difference in approach. So with the app, for instance, there was way too many concepts in there that she couldn't picture. But for me, it got me excited about having the conversation.

So it did lead to lots of miscommunications, or nights where expectations weren't aligned. And on some of those nights I'd be anxious, and if something didn't go smoothly I'd take it personally and get kind of down about it. And maybe end the night early (before I finished, basically), leading to both of us being a little confused and either passive aggressive or walking on eggshells the next day.

In the end, I probably dropped my expectations down a little, but it lead to more positive and good feelings for sure.

Okay back to the sexy stuff soon.

 

[Westman123]

Been busy, but still here.

Let's talk about the moment that I realized I had to 'switch' my thinking. I'm generally more submissive - not overly so, but I do like when others take control in the bedroom. For me, I like to know they are getting what they want, and using me to get there.

My wife can do that a little bit, but she's much more interested in being taken.

The only problem is, she never really asked for it.

So, a few years ago, as I mentioned we started getting more creative. Toys, apps, all that stuff. Nothing crazy, but good steps for us. She started to discover more about orgasming every time, and i started to understand how to make it happen.

But then one day, around a year ago, she was on top of me. She's slowly grinding as I have my hands around her ass, semi-pushing her further onto to me. All feeling good, but nothing out of the ordinary. But then I reached up, slowly moving my hands between her tits and up to her neck.

At first, I just caressed her neck, but as soon as my fingers went all the way around (not squeezing, very loving), she moaned in a very deep way. I withdrew my hand a little as I processed, and put it back after a few seconds. this time I left it there, again, not hard, but there. She leaned in a little and her moaning intensified quite a lot.

Right then I could feel her get super wet, which really put me over the edge, and I grabbed her hips, went hard, and finished deep inside her.

That was one of those where she rolled over onto the bed, let out a sigh, and was clearly feeling very good.

I had to spend some time thinking about it, and grappling with the fact that it wasn't how I normally think or act. But that little moment definitely unlocked my ability to 'switch' a little, and that's worked out well...

 

[Kolejdayz]

I found my first wife's college sex diary when she was on a trip. She said I could read it and . ,.. what a turn on. She did nearly 25 guys in those four years

 

[bethany_s]

Been busy, but still here.

Let's talk about the moment that I realized I had to 'switch' my thinking. I'm generally more submissive - not overly so, but I do like when others take control in the bedroom. For me, I like to know they are getting what they want, and using me to get there.

My wife can do that a little bit, but she's much more interested in being taken.

The only problem is, she never really asked for it.

So, a few years ago, as I mentioned we started getting more creative. Toys, apps, all that stuff. Nothing crazy, but good steps for us. She started to discover more about orgasming every time, and i started to understand how to make it happen.

But then one day, around a year ago, she was on top of me. She's slowly grinding as I have my hands around her ass, semi-pushing her further onto to me. All feeling good, but nothing out of the ordinary. But then I reached up, slowly moving my hands between her tits and up to her neck.

At first, I just caressed her neck, but as soon as my fingers went all the way around (not squeezing, very loving), she moaned in a very deep way. I withdrew my hand a little as I processed, and put it back after a few seconds. this time I left it there, again, not hard, but there. She leaned in a little and her moaning intensified quite a lot.

Right then I could feel her get super wet, which really put me over the edge, and I grabbed her hips, went hard, and finished deep inside her.

That was one of those where she rolled over onto the bed, let out a sigh, and was clearly feeling very good.

I had to spend some time thinking about it, and grappling with the fact that it wasn't how I normally think or act. But that little moment definitely unlocked my ability to 'switch' a little, and that's worked out well...

Thank you for sharing your ‘diary’. I love the realness and openness of what you wrote. I enjoyed reading it and look forward to more of your experiences

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

Super good.

 

[Westman123]

Sex toys.

For 15 years we didn't even consider them. But as I was trying to figure out how to give her more consistent orgasms I encouraged her to buy one or two. She was into it, especially when I told her why. I was a little surprised, maybe, that she didn't try to buy one earlier. I think sex was fun but she didn't think mind-blowing orgasms were possible for her (they were/are).

So we bought a few. This one hard plastic one with a curve on it that I think is mainly for the G-spot. It was fine. Worked a couple of times but wasn't perfect. Then a little one that focused all vibes around the clit. That one worked, and it works fast! We keep it around.

But it was the big wand that changed the game. I bought that one. I wanted one that I could use WHILE I was fucking her, as I was pretty sure that was the path.

So I ordered it, surprised her with it. She was surprised at how big it was - I could tell she was a little hesitant that it might be too much. It wasn't.

That first time, wow. Only got up to level 2 but it was intense for her in the best way. I remember so clearly that right after she flipped to her knees/hands and stuck her ass in the air just read for more. Heh, now that I think about it, I distinctly remember grabbing her hips really well, and I could see our shadow on the wall, and I was a little surprised at how hard/fast I was going and that she was into it.

I didn't last super long, I don't think she came a second time. But it was all part of more long post-orgasm feeling and she was quite happy. Since then we've used it 80% of the time.....other than when I deny her it sometimes for some weekend long fun....hehe.

 

[Westman123]

Trying to figure out where porn ends and real experiences begin....

But it's not what you think.

I don't watch a TON of porn, but sometimes. I do have a healthy awareness of it's disconnect from real life. And when I do watch, I pretty much always picture my wife in the role (in a positive/sexy way...awww).

Porn doesn't fuel our expectations. But what's surprised me is the pieces of porn that are proving true that I am only just realizing.

For example. Our lovemaking is maybe roughly split into 3rds. Oral/touching for each of us (2/3s) and then penetrative sex. The combo of foreplay means I can usually last a good amount of time during full-on sex, 7-10 minutes or so. Always seemed long enough for both of us.

But lately I've been feeling like maybe I wasn't lasting long enough. So a couple of times I've made a concerted effort to last longer and see what happens. The other night was a good example.

After some fun foreplay, and starting penetrative sex, we rolled into prone bone position and I started going hard, deep, and consistent. There's no easier phrase to use than 'fuck machine', lol. This was in combo with my putting a lot of my weight on her and holding her down so she could feel my arms squeezing her.

This went on far longer than it normally would....and.....she quite liked it. The ensuing orgasm for her was very large and full-body. I could feel it (more on that another time) and she said so.

I'm now thinking more about that aspect of porn that I didn't think was real - going on for super long. I'm not talking 45 minutes or anything, but recent data suggests when the vibes are right....fuck machine is alright.

Thoughts are always welcome, here in the tread or DM.

 

[bethany_s]

Trying to figure out where porn ends and real experiences begin....

But it's not what you think.

I don't watch a TON of porn, but sometimes. I do have a healthy awareness of it's disconnect from real life. And when I do watch, I pretty much always picture my wife in the role (in a positive/sexy way...awww).

Porn doesn't fuel our expectations. But what's surprised me is the pieces of porn that are proving true that I am only just realizing.

For example. Our lovemaking is maybe roughly split into 3rds. Oral/touching for each of us (2/3s) and then penetrative sex. The combo of foreplay means I can usually last a good amount of time during full-on sex, 7-10 minutes or so. Always seemed long enough for both of us.

But lately I've been feeling like maybe I wasn't lasting long enough. So a couple of times I've made a concerted effort to last longer and see what happens. The other night was a good example.

After some fun foreplay, and starting penetrative sex, we rolled into prone bone position and I started going hard, deep, and consistent. There's no easier phrase to use than 'fuck machine', lol. This was in combo with my putting a lot of my weight on her and holding her down so she could feel my arms squeezing her.

This went on far longer than it normally would....and.....she quite liked it. The ensuing orgasm for her was very large and full-body. I could feel it (more on that another time) and she said so.

I'm now thinking more about that aspect of porn that I didn't think was real - going on for super long. I'm not talking 45 minutes or anything, but recent data suggests when the vibes are right....fuck machine is alright.

Thoughts are always welcome, here in the tread or DM.

I enjoy seeing when you post something new to your diary You describe it as very real and I feel the love and connection with your wife. It is enjoyable to hear it from your perspective as a male

My thoughts... You talked about porn. Does your wife watch it with you? I have about 4 times with my bf and the first time we tried it he had the idea of being inside me as we watched it. And we enjoyed it so much that is how we do it every time now. We play a little and get aroused and he gets behind me and slides in. Laying down like spoon. Then we turn on the porn on. We only really watch things that seem like real couples and they are slow and sensual with each other. Most porn does not do anything for me. But certain sensual aspects very much turn me on. Then when the video is over we get more passionate

We have been trying prone more also. I don't know it really helps him to last longer. But my experience with guys there are times when a guy will just last longer, like he is in a zone. You said you felt like a fuck machine haha. Those are nice moments to enjoy when he can just keep going more than normal. I am sure your wife enjoyed the longer experience Thank you for sharing your experiences!

 

[Westman123]

I enjoy seeing when you post something new to your diary You describe it as very real and I feel the love and connection with your wife. It is enjoyable to hear it from your perspective as a male

My thoughts... You talked about porn. Does your wife watch it with you? I have about 4 times with my bf and the first time we tried it he had the idea of being inside me as we watched it. And we enjoyed it so much that is how we do it every time now. We play a little and get aroused and he gets behind me and slides in. Laying down like spoon. Then we turn on the porn on. We only really watch things that seem like real couples and they are slow and sensual with each other. Most porn does not do anything for me. But certain sensual aspects very much turn me on. Then when the video is over we get more passionate

We have been trying prone more also. I don't know it really helps him to last longer. But my experience with guys there are times when a guy will just last longer, like he is in a zone. You said you felt like a fuck machine haha. Those are nice moments to enjoy when he can just keep going more than normal. I am sure your wife enjoyed the longer experience Thank you for sharing your experiences!

Thanks Bethany - Glad the love is coming through! It's true and I'm glad we are having experiences we can be excited about.

We've tried watching porn together, she's not super into it. Probably like you, it's not 100% a turn on for her. And honestly, I have near 0% interest in bringing in anything she isn't into, so I don't even really think about it.

She does like stories and podcasts though, so we've shared some that way. Especially when one of us is traveling for work. The erotic writing has come up in some texting role play we've done....just in times where we are building tension throughout the day.

Prone has been a huge turning point, TBH. It's such an easy position for her, and for me it's really comfortable to go hard, fast, slow, deep, shallow. So I can control things a lot more, and she just has to lay there and take it (lol). I know she likes when I just stare at her ass and really grab it in that position.

Pro tip, if your BF hasn't tried prone while putting his arm under you, just above your breasts so he can kind of hold you and push......that's been a move that pushes some buttons...

 

[bethany_s]

Thanks Bethany - Glad the love is coming through! It's true and I'm glad we are having experiences we can be excited about.

We've tried watching porn together, she's not super into it. Probably like you, it's not 100% a turn on for her. And honestly, I have near 0% interest in bringing in anything she isn't into, so I don't even really think about it.

She does like stories and podcasts though, so we've shared some that way. Especially when one of us is traveling for work. The erotic writing has come up in some texting role play we've done....just in times where we are building tension throughout the day.

Prone has been a huge turning point, TBH. It's such an easy position for her, and for me it's really comfortable to go hard, fast, slow, deep, shallow. So I can control things a lot more, and she just has to lay there and take it (lol). I know she likes when I just stare at her ass and really grab it in that position.

Pro tip, if your BF hasn't tried prone while putting his arm under you, just above your breasts so he can kind of hold you and push......that's been a move that pushes some buttons...

That is cool you have found things that worked for you like the erotic writing.

I like the feeling of being prone. Yes we kind of lay there and take it lol. But I like being in submissive positions like that with him. And its a good angle for his thrusting haha. He puts his hands under my arms and holds my shoulders at times. I was trying to think how his arms are when we have done it. But I don't think he has done how you described his arm across the top of my breasts. That makes sense and something to try hehe. Do you feel you last longer in that position all the time? Or it was just that one time you experienced that?

 

[Westman123]

That is cool you have found things that worked for you like the erotic writing.

I like the feeling of being prone. Yes we kind of lay there and take it lol. But I like being in submissive positions like that with him. And its a good angle for his thrusting haha. He puts his hands under my arms and holds my shoulders at times. I was trying to think how his arms are when we have done it. But I don't think he has done how you described his arm across the top of my breasts. That makes sense and something to try hehe. Do you feel you last longer in that position all the time? Or it was just that one time you experienced that?

I can 100% last longer, for a few reasons. First, I can control more as she isn't moving. So if I need to slow down, I can. Also, if a guy goes super deep, usually the pressure on the sensitive spots (on us) isn't as intense. So if I go deep and just move a little, she REALLY feels it, but I can recover a little. Oh, and sometimes the wand comes into play. I'll probably write that up sometime - the different ways we use it.

I definitely recommend the arm under you. You really feel the pressure of someone on top of you, with the subtle breast touching (like, holding. I'm not even touching her nipples, slightly above that). And you can move/squirm even less. And his head is right next to your ear for some sexy whispers.

For the record, fucking from behind is the hardest to last. It's just so sexy and one of the positions that feels targeted to orgasm for me, so it's usually fast, hard, and done.

 

[bethany_s]

I can 100% last longer, for a few reasons. First, I can control more as she isn't moving. So if I need to slow down, I can. Also, if a guy goes super deep, usually the pressure on the sensitive spots (on us) isn't as intense. So if I go deep and just move a little, she REALLY feels it, but I can recover a little. Oh, and sometimes the wand comes into play. I'll probably write that up sometime - the different ways we use it.

Love this

I definitely recommend the arm under you. You really feel the pressure of someone on top of you, with the subtle breast touching (like, holding. I'm not even touching her nipples, slightly above that). And you can move/squirm even less. And his head is right next to your ear for some sexy whispers.

Yes we will be trying this. I like it is a way he is holding me tighter. Under his control

For the record, fucking from behind is the hardest to last. It's just so sexy and one of the positions that feels targeted to orgasm for me, so it's usually fast, hard, and done.

I know this is true of other guys also. But it is interesting because it is a similar position to prone you discussed. And prone you can last a long time and doggy is hard to Because you have more view? Or is it a different sensation?

 

[Westman123]

Love this


Yes we will be trying this. I like it is a way he is holding me tighter. Under his control


I know this is true of other guys also. But it is interesting because it is a similar position to prone you discussed. And prone you can last a long time and doggy is hard to Because you have more view? Or is it a different sensation?

Hmm, the view for sure, it all just feels more dirty. But also the thrusting is more full, and when a guy is like an inch or so from being 'out' the pressure is much more on the spot and gets closer to orgasm quickly. In prone it's less pressure on that spot as you are typically not coming as close to 'out'....if that makes sense.....at least how I do it!

 

[Westman123]

What her orgasm feels like....

She cums first is usually the case, 9/10 times. The 1/10 is when it's quick/hot/passionate and less foreplay. So, in the 9/10 times, there's USUALLY a second orgasm for her, and that's what I am focusing on.

Once we got more comfortable with her having multiples, her second often became pretty intense, especially if I'm doing my job right. Sometimes REALLY intense. And I can usually tell. If it's small, I often have to ask if she came again before I finish. I'll feel a little fluttering, maybe some extra wetness, but it's not always certain.

But the intense times, that's something to share.

The squeezing that she makes on me is sometimes very intense, and I can tell that she has some series feelings going on. Whatever muscles are happening inside of her, there's a variety of feeling that happens at the base of me, the middle, and the tip. Sometimes there's a strong fluttering between the three. It's almost like her hand is working my penis with a strong grip - which is a super good feeling, probably for both of us.

Sometimes it's warm and enveloping. But other time's it's almost a sharp squeeze. I remember one time she was on top, very deep in, and clearly having a very intense orgasm. The tightness at the base of my cock was almost too intense, the squeeze was sharp and strong. I'll admit it scared me a little, but it was just a new feeling.

In prone position is when I usually feeling pressure on the base, middle, and tip during her orgasm. And when it's really intense for her, it feels like someone squeezing with their hand fairly tight - like, stronger than a normal handjob would feel. And honestly that's one of the most amazing things I've encountered in sex. It's wild and intimate feeling this orgasm build in her and culminate in this intense squeeze that is an unmistakable and unhide-able source of pleasure for her. In turn of course it feels really good for me, and I have a much better orgasm than in other penetrating situations.

So yea, there's some strong muscles in there, and when the right orgasm hits her, we can REALLY feel it.

 

[Westman123]

I've got lots more stories to share, but a quick future-facing interlude here.

I'm going to (embarrassingly) set some weekend goals. And I'll fully honestly report back with how it goes. Might include Monday night in the range if I don't hit the marks!!

-Send her a fantasy/scenario type text that sets a quick/aggressive tone for tonight (Fridays are hard; we are exhausted from the week typically)
-Request and receive her riding my face while teasing my cock.
-Ask her to start some foreplay on me in a non-bed location in the house.
-Tell her in advance that she should orgasm twice before I cum.

Any requests from you all, feel free to share for consideration!

Edited to add: We hit all the marks!!

 

[Westman123]

Being tired sucks. We workout, stay in shape, eat healthy, hydrate well. But the stresses of work, keeping the house going, etc definitely take their toll.

It really does take a toll on the sex life. A big thing I've worked through is to not let expectations create tension. When we have the time and the energy, the sex is great. When we don't have the time or the energy, it's better to focus on mental relaxation. Tension is SUPER easy to create; it's the easy route.

When tension starts to build, over-communicating is best. Trying to set a goal for some time together in a day or two, and creating a space to acknowledge and plan. So much more healthy than being frustrated.

So I guess what I'm saying is - we've been healthier and happier when we don't look at the daily sex activity. But instead focusing on quality and communication. When we do that - things are more energetic, orgasmic, and progressively interesting. I'd have that once a week compared to just mutual release every other day.

 

[Samantha47]

So I love my own taste and my girlfriend also tastes amazing.

Oh me too

 

[Manster90]

So kind of going off on a tangent of my own:

When it comes to a woman's orgasms; is it difficult for them to feel satisfied in general?

This is an honest personal question of mine. Any and all replys comments are welcome and appreciated

 

[jeffreyx344]

Love this thread… thank you!