human_male
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College_geek said:
Yeah see, a guy made the first move, that's exactly my point. If men were like women and didn't do that then you'd never have got any action, male or female, ever!
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Yeah see, a guy made the first move, that's exactly my point. If men were like women and didn't do that then you'd never have got any action, male or female, ever!
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Xectxny19X said:hehe...what are YOU complaining about...heck, no one wants to kissy face w/ me sober or drunk...and heck, I'm all OUT! *hugs* awww....!
X...you gotta be kidding me!
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Sweet College_geek
You are absolutely luscious and if I were still a baby byke and not living on the west coast, I would try to bed you myself... (unfortunately, at 46 I have sworn off people under 30, no matter how alluring they are...) From your description, have a question - are you hanging/partying with/lusting after bi-wanna-be-cause-it's-cool-right-now-so-let's-do-this-to-titillate-the-men type of women? (I know that others have asked the same but at the risk of being redundent will ask again.)
If so, I would recommend taking a few women's classes or going to a campus LGBT group meeting and making friends there - I guarantee you that you will find (most likely several) someone(s) of the female persuasion who will be more than interested in joining you in your desire to experiment.
Don't be put off if you have to make the first move - some other posters were right when they said that women are not always good at making passes at other lasses.
Re: the drinking - I have never understood why people want to suppress their sexual responsiveness with liquor (or pot). While it loosens libido, it not only makes it much more likely people won't play safe, it slows down sexual response, making it harder for women to lubricate and both women and men to come (not to mention how unarousing it is to see someone who is about to go down on one suddenly overcome with alcohol-induced nausea)...
No apologies for the rant needed. Now to read the remaining posts to see just how badly I've embarrassed myself by stating the already 20-times stated...
But honestly, you are as cute as a button...
You are absolutely luscious and if I were still a baby byke and not living on the west coast, I would try to bed you myself... (unfortunately, at 46 I have sworn off people under 30, no matter how alluring they are...) From your description, have a question - are you hanging/partying with/lusting after bi-wanna-be-cause-it's-cool-right-now-so-let's-do-this-to-titillate-the-men type of women? (I know that others have asked the same but at the risk of being redundent will ask again.)
If so, I would recommend taking a few women's classes or going to a campus LGBT group meeting and making friends there - I guarantee you that you will find (most likely several) someone(s) of the female persuasion who will be more than interested in joining you in your desire to experiment.
Don't be put off if you have to make the first move - some other posters were right when they said that women are not always good at making passes at other lasses. Re: the drinking - I have never understood why people want to suppress their sexual responsiveness with liquor (or pot). While it loosens libido, it not only makes it much more likely people won't play safe, it slows down sexual response, making it harder for women to lubricate and both women and men to come (not to mention how unarousing it is to see someone who is about to go down on one suddenly overcome with alcohol-induced nausea)...
No apologies for the rant needed. Now to read the remaining posts to see just how badly I've embarrassed myself by stating the already 20-times stated...
But honestly, you are as cute as a button...
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Xectxny19X
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human_male said:
Hey...what about you tell us when you ask that girl out for coffee, and I will ask a girl out as well? hehe...trying to get some incentive here!
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NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO, I am not kidding. *smiles*
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making the first move does not always work... at least with guys... maybe i should try it with a girl lol.. the two girls i have gone out with made it themselves.. one just flat out kissed me.. and the other gave her number to my friend and made him give it to me to call her....
of the two guys.. one made up a lame excuse.. and the other took a raincheck.. whatever the heck that means
of the two guys.. one made up a lame excuse.. and the other took a raincheck.. whatever the heck that means
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Xectxny19X said:NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO, I am not kidding. *smiles*
*Sighs* Well I mean, I guess if I really HAD to, I could volunteer to help you out. But this would be strictly for your own benefit of course. I would be getting noooothing out of it
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missedith said:
Well no, making the first move does not guarantee success, I mean if the guy's not interested he's not interested. And not all men who are interested will make a move, but generally they are more likely to than women. You're obviously an exception. Sorry you got shot down but at least you tried.
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i think i may be cursed in the "making the first move" depatment lol... the third attempt i had planned to make.. i was waiting for the right moment (it was a friend of mine)... and he told me he was bi.. and had a boyfriend... so i am done with moves lol
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I really do admire those who do make the first move...I think that takes A LOT of courage. Hey, I'm pretty chicken sh!t myself about it. *smiles*
Taking a 'rain check' doesn't always indicate low interest. I mean I've used the term a couple of times w/ my friends, because I really couldn't go out w/ them at the time.
Anyway, I'm really glad CG created this thread(that's my girl *hugs*)...got me thinking about some things. hehe, I've been on a long non-dating hiatus. I think it's time for me to go back in and errr...brave the multitude of possible rejections...but whatever, hehe. It's just dating!
CG: As a girl that's out and about myself, I'd only not make a move on you...b/c you have Zerg! Seriously, I'm really protective of my heart and all. Maybe a reason you're having a tough time, because some of the girls who like girls out there don't want to kiss and leave as much. What types of girls are you looking for to figure out things w/? *curious look*
Taking a 'rain check' doesn't always indicate low interest. I mean I've used the term a couple of times w/ my friends, because I really couldn't go out w/ them at the time.
Anyway, I'm really glad CG created this thread(that's my girl *hugs*)...got me thinking about some things. hehe, I've been on a long non-dating hiatus. I think it's time for me to go back in and errr...brave the multitude of possible rejections...but whatever, hehe. It's just dating!
CG: As a girl that's out and about myself, I'd only not make a move on you...b/c you have Zerg! Seriously, I'm really protective of my heart and all. Maybe a reason you're having a tough time, because some of the girls who like girls out there don't want to kiss and leave as much. What types of girls are you looking for to figure out things w/? *curious look*
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taking the risk
is always so damn hard because you're putting yourself so much on the line... rejection is never pretty - I always have to remind myself that chemistry is an unpredictable thing, not based on soley on what two people look like, etc. so then the person rejecting me is doing me a favor - after all, why would i want to be with someone who doesn't feel the same click with me? (I know, it's easier thought about than done with such equanimity..)
is always so damn hard because you're putting yourself so much on the line... rejection is never pretty - I always have to remind myself that chemistry is an unpredictable thing, not based on soley on what two people look like, etc. so then the person rejecting me is doing me a favor - after all, why would i want to be with someone who doesn't feel the same click with me? (I know, it's easier thought about than done with such equanimity..)
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Welll....
I don't pretend to know much about female-femaile relationships, but like some have indirectly and directly said, you're probably not hanging around with the right people!
I'll tell you what, if I was in college, I'd be checking you out! And I'm not even female!
I have been known to HATE this word MANY times in my life, but patience. Someone right will pick up on it and you'll probably have the experience of your life.
And as Ma Petite said, a drunk experience may not be what you're looking for. More people get emotionally hurt that way. Not to mention, too much alcohol can taint a sexual experience, anyway. Ok, well, at my age anyway.
Phil
I don't pretend to know much about female-femaile relationships, but like some have indirectly and directly said, you're probably not hanging around with the right people!
I'll tell you what, if I was in college, I'd be checking you out! And I'm not even female!
I have been known to HATE this word MANY times in my life, but patience. Someone right will pick up on it and you'll probably have the experience of your life.
And as Ma Petite said, a drunk experience may not be what you're looking for. More people get emotionally hurt that way. Not to mention, too much alcohol can taint a sexual experience, anyway. Ok, well, at my age anyway.
Phil
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