A PUBLIC apology

[Trinique_Fire]

yea but our kind of trouble maker. LOL

 

[LadyG]

you love it. *waggles eyebrows*

Most certainly. Don't be waggling those eyebrows, Missy.

 

[A Desert Rose]

Love your emoticons... LOL they say so much.

 

[Trinique_Fire]

i'm hijacking this thread. can i stretch out across ADR's and Lady G's laps?

please? *doe eyes*

 

[LadyG]

i'm hijacking this thread. can i stretch out across ADR's and Lady G's laps?

please? *doe eyes*

Depends...on your back or face down? I opt for the first choice

 

[A Desert Rose]

Depends...on your back or face down? I opt for the first choice

Sure, me too!

 

[Trinique_Fire]

Depends...on your back or face down? I opt for the first choice

ten minutes on one side, ten on the other.

 

[debuddha72]

Alright kids...stop pickin'...

 

[LadyG]

ten minutes on one side, ten on the other.

*taps foot*

Well??? What are you waiting for?

 

[Trinique_Fire]

*taps foot*

Well??? What are you waiting for?

i'm deciding if i want spanked first or fondled.

 

[A Desert Rose]

i'm deciding if i want spanked first or fondled.

If it were me, I'd opt for the spanking first. And since it's me and LadyG doing it, you should opt for it too.

 

[LadyG]

If it were me, I'd opt for the spanking first. And since it's me and LadyG doing it, you should opt for it too.

Oh most definitely! Of course, no one said exactly where the spanking had to be now, did they

 

[Trinique_Fire]

let me go smoke a ciggy foist.

 

[LadyG]

let me go smoke a ciggy foist.

Did you ask permission????




(hmm did that sound all Domme enough? So not my forte' )

 

[Trinique_Fire]

Did you ask permission????




(hmm did that sound all Domme enough? So not my forte' )

*bursts out laughing*

that was terrible. *runs away*

 

[Trinique_Fire]

okay. i'll be back. i'ma lettin someone else on the computer for a minute...

 

[graceanne]

My first reaction was "are you serious?" LOL

Then my next thought was "who gives a fuck?" (But you know what kind of flaming that would bring on. LOL)

Then my last thought was "ah hell... why's it even here?"

Well, once again it's your fault I'm here. I almost didn't read the thread at all, then I saw that you'd posted and thought I'd come see what you said.

Beyond all that I'm willing to bet her master was hoping we'd make fun of her and embarrass her more. It worked, this kind of thread sinks like a lead ballon in this forum.

Chaos? Please tell your master that we really don't want to know this kind of personal information. It seriously is just TOO much.

 

[the captians wench]

Gone are the days of Domly responsibility toward the rest of the community and their wishes on whether they wish to be involved in private play and issues or not. Consent is an important thing to have and uphold.

Catalina

Okay forgive me, but I don't see how this really falls under non consent in any way. No one is forsed to read any thread here. Just because a thread is posted doesn't mean that you have to read it and by reading it and then replying to it are you not consenting to be involved?

I also find it odd that I when I was required to fallow thru with a simular punishment for a simular crime it was not so overwhelmingly bashed, but rather went un noticed for the most part. Was it because I posted in the Cafe to begin with?

Ahh, too much thinking this late and this far thru my rum.

 

[saw_man1]

Thank you, Thank you, Thank you

I am sitting in another non-descript Marriott and laughing my ass off. Thanks.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Okay forgive me, but I don't see how this really falls under non consent in any way. No one is forsed to read any thread here. Just because a thread is posted doesn't mean that you have to read it and by reading it and then replying to it are you not consenting to be involved?

I also find it odd that I when I was required to fallow thru with a simular punishment for a simular crime it was not so overwhelmingly bashed, but rather went un noticed for the most part. Was it because I posted in the Cafe to begin with?

Ahh, too much thinking this late and this far thru my rum.

There is this thing amongst responsible BDSMers which says you do not involve others in your play unless you get their consent first, and to do otherwise is not considered very nice to put it mildly. Unfortunately I as a mod am supposed to read all threads and posts, so I don't get a choice here, but also until you read any post/thread, how do you know you don't want to? Thus to post this dribble here, and yes I do see it as online RP dribble and not at all serious, you are forcing everyone who opens the thread to see what it is about to participate in your play without their consent. My theory is if you want to play RPG's go to the appropriate forum where it is welcomed...if you want to have your sub apologise for something, have them apologise to you, not a group of strangers who do not want any part of it. Replying to anything certainly does not mean you have consented. If you get attacked on the street and say no, do you think that is consenting? Same idea if you ask me, you are voicing your opinion and desire to not be involved. Sheesh, if that was all that was required, consent would become a very easy thing to abuse. Why did yours go unnoticed?....it wasn't so unnoticed, but sometimes due to what else is happening on or off screen you can get away with it. Being ignored can also be a way of people here voicing their disapproval or desire to not be involved...and if you think posting means you have given consent perhaps they were intuitively aware of this and did not want to send any wrong messages. Approach and tone can sometimes go a long way to but in general these type threads rarely have what I see as sincerity, but lots of 'look at me' overtones.

This one I did not bash (thought I was rather polite and civilised actually), just reminded the 'Dominant' in question that there are manners most respect within the community and consent is one which holds high priority with those who post here, even in the case of involving others who have not been consulted first...there are a few threads about on it. I personally do not see any reason to involve others on a forum in your apologies, and see it as an attention seeking exercise on the part of either the sub or Dom, and never take it, and often them, seriously, but that is just my opinion and experience. Any apologies I ever have to make (even long distance) are done with sincerity and serious remorse in person, or if that not possible through email or phone with a long period following of trying to make ammends...going public would never feel real to me and if asked to do so I would likely have decided they were not very grounded or serious, so not for me. Unfortunately not eveyone think alike, but as has been seen in this thread, it is not welcome to be involved without consent.

Catalina

 

[the captians wench]

There is this thing amongst responsible BDSMers which says you do not involve others in your play unless you get their consent first, and to do otherwise is not considered very nice to put it mildly. Unfortunately I as a mod am supposed to read all threads and posts, so I don't get a choice here, but also until you read any post/thread, how do you know you don't want to? Thus to post this dribble here, and yes I do see it as online RP dribble and not at all serious, you are forcing everyone who opens the thread to see what it is about to participate in your play without their consent. My theory is if you want to play RPG's go to the appropriate forum where it is welcomed...if you want to have your sub apologise for something, have them apologise to you, not a group of strangers who do not want any part of it. Replying to anything certainly does not mean you have consented. If you get attacked on the street and say no, do you think that is consenting? Same idea if you ask me, you are voicing your opinion and desire to not be involved. Sheesh, if that was all that was required, consent would become a very easy thing to abuse. Why did yours go unnoticed?....it wasn't so unnoticed, but sometimes due to what else is happening on or off screen you can get away with it. Being ignored can also be a way of people here voicing their disapproval or desire to not be involved...and if you think posting means you have given consent perhaps they were intuitively aware of this and did not want to send any wrong messages. Approach and tone can sometimes go a long way to but in general these type threads rarely have what I see as sincerity, but lots of 'look at me' overtones.

This one I did not bash (thought I was rather polite and civilised actually), just reminded the 'Dominant' in question that there are manners most respect within the community and consent is one which holds high priority with those who post here, even in the case of involving others who have not been consulted first...there are a few threads about on it. I personally do not see any reason to involve others on a forum in your apologies, and see it as an attention seeking exercise on the part of either the sub or Dom, and never take it, and often them, seriously, but that is just my opinion and experience. Any apologies I ever have to make (even long distance) are done with sincerity and serious remorse in person, or if that not possible through email or phone with a long period following of trying to make ammends...going public would never feel real to me and if asked to do so I would likely have decided they were not very grounded or serious, so not for me. Unfortunately not eveyone think alike, but as has been seen in this thread, it is not welcome to be involved without consent.

Catalina

I conceede that some of my expressions last night were a bit off base (serves me right for trying to be serious with that much rum in me). This question of concent really does get to me tho. Maybe it's because I'm new. I don't know about this thread (personally I think you're right upon rereading it that it was an attempt to get attention and lacked that certain sinsarity a true appology usually has) but for me, when this punishment came it felt like a way to show the world how greatful I was as well as how ashamed. Have you ever felt like you wanted to tell the world that you loved some one? It was sort of like that. I was deeply ashamed of what I did, and I still am, but I wanted every one to know how great and understanding He is. If that makes any since.

I would think it would be no different than a person standing on the street babling about one cause or another. You listen to the first sentence or two, then if you wish to get involved you stay, but if you don't you just move on.

And you weren't really rude Cat. i was thinking more of some of the other comments with that sintence, your post just caught my eye is all.

 

[Chicklet]

I had to quote you to read the silver part. (I need whispers to be done in red... or I can't read them. LOL)

i highlight things with my cursor when i can't see them

 

[graceanne]

i highlight things with my cursor when i can't see them

Me, too. Makes it white on black, which is totally readable.

 

[A Desert Rose]

i highlight things with my cursor when i can't see them

LOL. That's because you're smarter than I.

But thanks for the help. I'll use it from now on. ;-)


And sorry, but I have to agree with Catalina. This thread was nothing more than an attention-getting device... and a silly one at that.

I don't need a spellcheck... I can spell. Like KC, I wish others would use one, though. If I have a question about a word, I use my computer dictionary.

 

[Private_Label]

LOL. That's because you're smarter than I.

No, it's because we haven't had our pretty brain exposed and poked at by vicious doctors. (Please tell me that made you laught or I'll be sorry I said anything).