a survey for married couples...

[servant2use]

Barely ever

i'm lucky if i get it once a month. i always feel that i'm the one initiating and that i'm the only one who really wants it. everything else is great. what do i do? i need an outlet and masturbation is getting boring!

 

[bubbatxman]

Once a month, maybe?

My biggest problem is that I find the kids in my bed more than me. She's and "early to bed" type and I'm a "late to bed" type. My daughter will crawl in with her to "talk", and then they both fall asleep. When I show up at 11:30, I have a choice, either wake her and kick her to her bedroom, or let her sleep.

I could probably double my action, if my damn kids would not crawl in my bed. It happened again last weekend. It happened again last night!

Usually, there's a window either Saturday or Sunday morning where I have morning wood, she's in the mood, and all the kids are still asleep (in their own beds). The planets "must" align. She hasn't initiated sex since our mid 30's (we are late 40's now).

It's that kind of "stars must alighn" type of thing. We need a "hotel room weekend" where we just disappear and the kids (2 high school, 1 milddle) "fend for themselves", but my wife is worried that the kids will have a party, have a car accident, starve, a pet will die, or some other tragedy will happen. So we haven't done one of those in 10 years. And that's the last time we had oral.

Bubba

 

[Greensparrow82]

2-4 times a week...sometimes more, sometimes less...and we are both getting it 2-3 times a week from our fuck buddies too...married 7 years..together for 9

 

[romancejunkie]

Married 17 years, once or twice a month

 

[Accalia83]

2-3 times a month. Not nearly enough. Married 2.5 years but together 10 years.

 

[Lexi_6]

We have been married 13 years and our love life is hotter then ever...we fuck between 3-4 times daily....we are often exhausted due to not sleeping through the night but it's well worth it!

 

[2TryAnything]

Sometimes only once or twice a week if we're really busy/tired but we often make up for it with wild weekends when we'll go 5, 6, or even 7 times between Friday night and Sunday night!

She may be getting it more in the near future, too, as a FB is now nearby.

Married 15+ years, together for over 20

 

[THROBBS]

Married 24 years.
Guestimates:
pre-marriage ave> 3/week
early marriage> 3-4/week
post kids 1/week.
kids (2) 5-6 years old> 1-2/month
kids (2) 8-9 years old> special occasions (birthdays, holidays...?)
last three or so years 1/year.
been 14 months now.

She has no interest. Maybe less than none. (an aversion)

 

[Penelope1961]

married going on 27 years ~ no sex for the past 14 or so years due to erectile dysfunction ~ so it has been a while

 

[Scribber]

1-2 times per week average. 20 years

 

[PleasePeesMe]

Married 12 years

Sometimes once a week, sometimes twice a day. That's why it works.

 

[Cowboy1jh]

bad bad off

got married in Oct. 09 and since the fall of 2010 we have had sex once.

 

[bruce454]

Married 22 years, a few times a month, up to 8. Kids and work, as well as other things in life eat up a lot of free time, and leave one or the other too tired. Wish it was more, but thats life.

 

[AZianNymph]

2 - 3 times a week on average for my hubby and I - married for a little over a decade.....

And between 1 - 4 times a month with my lover.

 

[Pj2424143]

2 - 3 times a week on average for my hubby and I - married for a little over a decade.....

And between 1 - 4 times a month with my lover.

Does your hubby know about your lover?

 

[teacher78]

2-3 times a week here.
Married for 3 years.

Now, sometimes is more and sometimes there are some bj or cunnilingus inbetween

 

[karmatat]

1-3 times a month, married 15 yrs ALWAYS initiated by me...she says she is willing but doesn't have any desire

 

[kfoster1515]

Year 1 - 3 times a day
Year 2- once a day
Year 3 - every few days
Year 4 - once a week
Year 5 - 4 -5 times a month
Year 6-10 once and a while
Year 11-15 went through a thing back up to 7 a month
Year 15-22 maybe 4 with her and 4 somewhere else

That's pretty much my schedule, except Year 15-22 maybe 4 with him and now at least once a week with someone else.

 

[Romanov]

Once a month
Married 2 years
Wife has health problems
We waited for marraige :-(
21 years old
Had a high sex drive before I started living with a gorgeous woman
Wearing out my wrist muscles

 

[about_average]

Still legally married..however before I left and even when I didn't like him, 4x a week or anytime I could get it. This single and no sex thing is killing me.

Well, lets meet at Talladega National Forest, do some off-roading then fuck.

 

[about_average]

Married 4 1/2 years, I'm 56, she's 25...generally a few times a week, though I've been having to work long hours lately and we're doing a lot of work on the house, so you know what that means. But also sometimes several times a day when we decide to have a fun day.
She wants a woman to move in with us, so that'll probably kill me. But at least I'll die with a smile. LOL

 

[givemeverything]

Married 5 years and only once this month. Twice last month. Might explain why I am on this forum and reading stories.
It really doesn't take much to keep men happy. 3-4 times a week would be perfect. Sometimes I wish I had a mistress.

 

[jhuson]

Married 17 years and generally we have one 15-minute session a week in which we do the same thing we have always done.

Sometimes we sprinkle in variety. I should consider myself lucky we still do.

 

[Tevez1980]

Once every two or three months. Married for ten years since I was twenty-two

 

[Que]

I have been married for 20 yrs now and I might get some 1 time a year. (really no joke) She no longer desires it (so she says) but I did say for better or for worse.

This isn't aimed just at you 'Bama///your quote was just a nice jumping in point.

yes and she said to love honor and cherish...if for some (bizarre highly unlikely) medical reason there are NO sexual activities she can engage in...fine - there's always affectionate cuddling...but this isn't a marriage. period.

pretend this is a girlfriend....assuming you have no idea when or if you will EVER get laid again why would in any way it be inappropriate for you to have another asexual girlfriend or for that matter a virtual harem of asexual girlfriends...

the only point of monogamy is to voluntarilly reserve your sexuality for your partner...it isn't to forcibly deny your partners sexuality to others.

she doesn't get to cloak herself in the antiquated protection of religiously created tradition of marriage, while playing the I am modern woman and not bound by antiquated ideas of what she is to bring to the marriage.

I'm not (exclusively) protesting that your needs aren't being met....neither are hers. If you want to love someone find ways to serve and cherish them...you do so you love her...she isn't being encouraged to do the things that will bring her closer to you and make her feel good about her part of this relationship.

Google Athol Kay (Kaye maybe?) Married man sex life...it would have saved my marriage I'm sure. start working your MAP...be a better you, you don't have to (and I dont think you should) cheat to get her attention but she needs to believe you have options.