a survey for married couples...

[TxBoots]

Married Sex

Married 44 yrs.
Nada......"0" for the last 10 years
Not since her uterine cancer.
I love her, but no sex sucks.....no, she doesn't even do that.

"The saddest thing in a relationship is when only one partner still feels the beat."

 

[Que]

Married 44 yrs.
Nada......"0" for the last 10 years
Not since her uterine cancer.
I love her, but no sex sucks.....no, she doesn't even do that.

"The saddest thing in a relationship is when only one partner still feels the beat."

now here, I can see love in the angst....I can see this point of view.

as far as "doesn't do that" shrug if she NEVER did that not ever, well...i'd have to respect her aversion.

but surely there are ways to cuddle and grope even if you are taking things in hand yourself so to speak...sex is such a wonderful connection its a shame when one feels the beat and the other wont at least be an anchor for the partner to twirl around.

I can envision other scenarios where there could be love and MUTUAL respect without sex....debilitating injuries, some mental disorders (assuming one is seeking and following what treatment is available..) the concept makes me sad.

doesnt have to be.

I put up for years...a happy accident led to a degree of honesty that rekindled our sex lives like teenagers....sadly that proved to be a swan song as the marriage ended from subsequent (seemingly) unrelated substance abuse, defiance, infidelity and finally open adultery with a guy who supported her boozing right up until he had her chained down...(he would never let HIS wife (now) go to the bar! Especially alone!)

 

[Laughandlove]

How sad

Im new to this but haveRead the posts with a great deal of sadness

Myself,and my wife
Though in love with her , have sex at my request once a week to once a month
Prior to marriage it was very different
We couldn't keep our hands off each other
Depression on her part and misunderstandings have now set in
Though I could happily make love twice or three times a day
Emotional baggage from the past holds us back but I'm not sure there is going to be an easy solution to all this

Marriage in my opinion is not some thing that should be easily entered into but then shouldn't be easily left either

 

[darkknight01]

married going on 27 years ~ no sex for the past 14 or so years due to erectile dysfunction ~ so it has been a while

You need to slip him some little blue pills in his food.

 

[wortchiller]

Lit helps!

Since joining Lit about 3 times a week. It's therapy!

 

[Bad101]

Married 31 years. First 25 great. Since her surgery maybe once a month closer to once every two months.

 

[BarGuy]

Married a long time.

For a while, things were good.

Then my wife started making excuses....really lame excuses. After a few years of this, I told her, in so many words or less, "I'm choosing the gym over you. Please don't ask for sex, because to be perfectly honest, I'd rather hit the gym."

She was shocked, but I was tired of being the initiator. Needless to say, she hasn't initiated since that day.

Moral of the story: Some women are like fine wine and get better with age. Others absolutely turn to vinegar.

 

[buffplt]

Sex?????

Zip - Zero - Zilch - Nada - None - you get the picture.

She's a super early riser.....absolutely nothing in the morning....got too much to do

Me - go to bed later than she does - morning erection - take matters into my own hands.

It's been that way for 10 years now....I need the touch of a female.

 

[darkknight01]

Married a long time.

For a while, things were good.

Then my wife started making excuses....really lame excuses. After a few years of this, I told her, in so many words or less, "I'm choosing the gym over you. Please don't ask for sex, because to be perfectly honest, I'd rather hit the gym."

She was shocked, but I was tired of being the initiator. Needless to say, she hasn't initiated since that day.

Moral of the story: Some women are like fine wine and get better with age. Others absolutely turn to vinegar.

LOL Are you sure she isn't getting some on the side?

 

[darkknight01]

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[angel2612]

At least daily... On our days off every few hours.. I think I'm the Lucky one... 2 years

 

[promod3672]

How many times on average are you having sex with your spouse?

2 or 3 times a week if not more just coming up on our first wedding anniversary but we have a 6month old son and we both have full time jobs

 

[Irishjimforfun]

A survey for married couples

We've been married 36 years. We have sex 2 or 3 times month. Masterbate 3 or 4 times a month.

 

[cunnilingual2]

In the past five years, I could count on one hand the number of times we've had any kind of intimacy, let alone sex. It's been 18 months without it.

 

[cox_man]

often as I can

average 3-4 times a week, married for 40 yrs. Still having fun!

 

[McMurphywrites]

Married 22 years and still in love.
Started out like rabbits. Always initiated by me.
Then health issues set in. Sometimes we would go 3 months without having sex.
New meds and things got a bit better. Having sex a little more often. Still always initiated by me.

Finally I asked to have a FB. Best thing we ever did. It has really helped our sexual relationship. We are having more sex now and she is actually enjoying it and sometimes even initiating.
She knows there is no pressure on her anymore and I know I will always be getting sex from someone so no more frustration.
I like to call it "emotional monogamy" because I know I could never love anyone else (I easily separate sex and love) and the FB sex is just sex.

 

[ab724u]

sex

.........

 

[myeroticvamp]

Me and my hubby have been married 7 years this June, been together for 10. Me and him have sex anywhere around 6 to 8 times a week, not including BJ and cunnilinguis .

 

[GAGEICUS]

Married 14 years, and avg. 3 times per week. Some weeks 1, others 4...kids really take a toll on this part of your life, but worth it.

 

[spoiledchrissy7]

1 to 2 times a week. Its getting better, we were that couple that went months before.... Funny thing is that I find the more I cum, either with toys or hubby the more I want too!! So all those years when I thought I could care less it was more because I wasn't using those muscles! We have been married almost 16yrs.

 

[peachydreams]

Married almost 34 years....the first 27 were amazing, then he had heart surgery, back surgery and later, lung cancer surgery. Nothing "at home" for the past 7 years. I have "girl's night out" on occasion, but not as often as I would like!

 

[jhuson]

Doooh!

 

[Jetscreamer]

Married 16yrs. Twice a month maybe. She couldn't get enough before we were married. Now she says she still enjoys it when it happens but never thinks about it and is "too busy" when I make advances
Has literally said she could never do it again and be fine

Aggravating to say the least

 

[leglicker]

survey

married 35 years----randy from nebraska maybe 1 or 2 times a week sometimes less my sex drive is strong and hers isn't--masturbate a lot----

 

[TeaforMe]

Married 12 years...

It used to be a couple times a day while dating (2 years), but we average 4-5 times a week, sometimes more, rarely less. I admit I am spoiled, and I get cranky if we go more than two days without any at all.