Adult Dating Site Question...

[DrivingSouth]

Has anyone had any experience with Adult Dating sites such as AmateurMatch or AdultFriendFinder? Are these scams or are they legitimate avenues to meet people in your area?? I would appreciate any information that you all may have!!

Thanks

 

[NomadLady]

Has anyone had any experience with Adult Dating sites such as AmateurMatch or AdultFriendFinder? Are these scams or are they legitimate avenues to meet people in your area?? I would appreciate any information that you all may have!!

Thanks

I've had quite a bit of success with Adult Friend Finder....it does help to become a paying member however.

 

[SweetErika]

Are you male or female? What are you looking for, specifically? The answers to those questions might help us point you in the right direction.

From what I've seen here, women tend to have luck with these sites and men typically don't. AFF is widely known to have a lot of spam, bots and some very questionable business practices (e.g. overcharging, charging after cancellation, selling info, etc.) [click me], so you might want to take that into consideration before signing up or paying for a membership. Just about every adult dating site has an outrageous ratio of men to legit women.

Like anywhere else, you'll have to be willing to put in the time and effort required to create a good profile, screen and meet people. And there are going to be very few gems among the liars, creeps and fakes.

I wouldn't spend my time or money on one of these sites, but a lot of people do.

Here and here are some previous Lit threads on AFF.

 

[phelon]

most the online sites require careful and cynical reading of their privacy agreements and terms of service.

as example... many let you post pics.. however the pics become their property so they can legally reuse them for years

 

[bronzeage]

A couple years ago, I received and email from a friend I have known since high school. It was an invitation to a forum. It sounded like a political discussion forum, so I clicked the link. To enter the site, I had to give an email address and my age. They asked for my zipcode, which I thought was strange. Next, they asked if I was looking for men or women.

It was a dating site. They had mined my buddies email address book and sent invites to everyone he knew.

For the next 3 months, I received at least 3 emails a day from women who had "seen my profile and found me intriguing." Based on nothing more than my age and email, I had about 100 contacts before they gave up.

 

[bobinks2]

snip... They had mined my buddies email address book and sent invites to everyone he knew. ...snip

Most networking sites try to do this (including the big players like Facebook). They'll usually have something along the lines of 'search for people you already know on our network'. They'll ask for your username and password to your yahoo, gmail... Once they have your username and password, they have access to all of your emails and address book.

Every few months, I get an email invitation to join Linkedin from a guy I knew casually about six years ago. It says something like "I want you to join linkedin because you are a trusted and valued friend".

My guess is that your friend gave them his username and password.

 

[Rockitballs]

You could try the site plentyoffish.com it is free but there aren't a lot of users in some areas.

 

[teknight]

I've had success with OK cupid in the past...can't speak for their terms of service though..didn't occur to me to look....
And you could try fetlife....
Both are free, at least....

 

[millieteases]

Well...met the spouse through AFF, but that was a long time ago, when they actually let you do things for free, especially if you posted in the disussion groups, etc. He was the only one I found worth meeting, he met one couple that were nice but he just didn't click with and a woman who talked him into a threesome with her female friend (it didn't take much talking!)

Basically, our experience with these sites is what folks are saying - you have to put up a reasonably thorough profile, deal with a lot of garbage, and maybe you'll find a few gems. If you're a woman it's easier - one- night stands, threesomes with couples, or something long term take different levels of commitment to the effort. If you're a guy you have to patient, polite, and persistent. For men I think it's pretty much a numbers game. You contact a lot of people and maybe you'll get a response.

And of course, you have to be very safe about meeting in person for the first time - pick a public place, agree to nothing more than a coffee or a meal that first time, etc. Lots of advice about that all over the forums.

Good luck.

Millie and the Spouse

 

[JTobia]

I was with Adult Friend Finder for a month. It was good but had no one near my area.

The problem with some of these online dating sites is that there may not be enough active member in your city/town, but their profiles will still be visible. It's really annoying, you know?

Some of these sites have recurring payments meaning you'll be charged every month automatically until you cancel, so bare that in mind. AFF didn't, thank god!