Am I bisexual?

[Gods_Favorite]

Well the guy is down for it, hes a white 44 year old divorced male who wants to jack off together, give me a massage and a blowjob and if I'm comfortable, I can give him oral, I jacked off at work 4 times today thinking about it hes really big also he is 6 foot 4 220 pounds while I am 5 foot 10 180 pounds, so thats really interesting for me, the problem is now I am getting nervous again and can;t seem to pull the trigger and make a day and time to meet this guy, I still haven't told my girlfriend yet even though she has been encouraging me to go out and explore these things, everytime after I jack off the urge goes away but it comes right back when I'm horny, god I'm so confused....

 

[PhoebeGB]

Between the desire and the act falls the shadow. You have first night nerves, and it is very understandable. This is new to you, and you have the jitters... but in the meantime your desire to do this is building. It'll happen when you let it...

 

[ShyLana]

Fuck it. You gotta do this. My thought is you've really done this before, and you're just teasing us!

 

[human_male]

For all your talk about low self esteem and being scared about it you're braver than I am. I fantasise about it a lot too, but I've never had the opportunity to carry it out, and I haven't had the guts to seek it out (except online where I didn't have to deal with any repercussions), so give yourself some credit.

I think you're really lucky to have a girl who's into it with you, and is encouraging you. You're lottery lucky! So I'd say explore, but do so with her, take her with you, share everything with her, let it be something you explore together as a couple. If like you say you want to do it more and more and at some point she gets uncomfortable with it then you can re asses your situation and make a decision about which is more important to you.

As for the bi thing, I suppose you are but why label yourself. Just be yourself.

I wish you well.

 

[Gods_Favorite]

Fuck it. You gotta do this. My thought is you've really done this before, and you're just teasing us!

The ony things I've done with a guy were what I already said, an erotic massage and a blowjob each by a different guy, thats it, I'm curious to try more.

 

[Gods_Favorite]

Well I asked the guy for a pic on Monday before I set a time to meet him and so far no response, and I was so nervous and anticipating his return email I will have to start all over again, but I appreciate the responses I see on here its encouragin for my nerves to read stuff like this from time to time.

 

[PhoebeGB]

Well everyone is rooting for you. Hope you have news for us soon

 

[human_male]

Well the guy is down for it, hes a white 44 year old divorced male who wants to jack off together, give me a massage and a blowjob and if I'm comfortable, I can give him oral, I jacked off at work 4 times today thinking about it hes really big also he is 6 foot 4 220 pounds while I am 5 foot 10 180 pounds, so thats really interesting for me, the problem is now I am getting nervous again and can;t seem to pull the trigger and make a day and time to meet this guy, I still haven't told my girlfriend yet even though she has been encouraging me to go out and explore these things, everytime after I jack off the urge goes away but it comes right back when I'm horny, god I'm so confused....

I still think you should talk to your girlfriend. If she's excited about it it might be all the encouragement you need to take the plunge.

I'm the same about wanting it when I'm horny, then not wanting it when I cum. 'Tis annoying.

 

[Gods_Favorite]

Well everyone is rooting for you. Hope you have news for us soon

Thank you for the support

 

[Gods_Favorite]

I still think you should talk to your girlfriend. If she's excited about it it might be all the encouragement you need to take the plunge.

I'm the same about wanting it when I'm horny, then not wanting it when I cum. 'Tis annoying.

I have talked to her many times during foreplay and sex about what I want to do with a guy, my dream scenario is for me and the guy to play with each other, stroke each others cock, some nipple play, and some cocksucking, while my girlfriend watches and masturbates, then we can focus our attention on her, I would love to have my girlfriend on all 4's sucking my cock while another guy pounds her pussy from behind furiously because its new to him I am backing to "cruising" craigslist for guys now, I will let you guys know if I have any luck.

 

[fortiesf]

God's favorite-

You are bi, and very lucky.

Have some fun. Suck some dicks and let your imagination guide you.

You are lucky to have a GF that is turned on by it, and should have no trouble finding people on CL to participate.

I would try not to think too much about what to do, what to plan, what she will think. Just organize some 3 somes and see what happens.

Good luck, you lucky dog...

 

[human_male]

I have talked to her many times during foreplay and sex about what I want to do with a guy, my dream scenario is for me and the guy to play with each other, stroke each others cock, some nipple play, and some cocksucking, while my girlfriend watches and masturbates, then we can focus our attention on her, I would love to have my girlfriend on all 4's sucking my cock while another guy pounds her pussy from behind furiously because its new to him I am backing to "cruising" craigslist for guys now, I will let you guys know if I have any luck.

I don't mean just dirty talking about fantasy. I mean tell her you've been talking to this guy, and you're thinking about hooking up with him and would she like to come along.

You gave me the impression from your other posts that she'd be up for this, or at least would consider it. But if by "talking to her about it" you just meant dirty talking about fantasies then that's another story.

Sorry if I got the wrong impression.

 

[Hitchiker69]

Heres a suggestion...

Well I asked the guy for a pic on Monday before I set a time to meet him and so far no response, and I was so nervous and anticipating his return email I will have to start all over again, but I appreciate the responses I see on here its encouragin for my nerves to read stuff like this from time to time.

Heres an idea that might help find the right guy to have sex with: have your girlfriend find him. She could say she's looking for a bi guy for a threesome with you. I'll bet that would get a fast response.

As for your worries, relax. You're in a supportive environment, and you're very lucky to have your girlfriend's support. You get to have the best of both worlds, sexually. Go enjoy sex any way you like.

I envy you. If I were in your position I would be having the time of my life.

 

[human_male]

what if you're curious about being with a guy but you have a long term girlfriend who you don't want to know about these feelings? especially if you're not sure if you're actually bi or if you just have some fantasies? i'd feel pretty silly if i went through the whole drama and conversation of telling my girlfriend that i wanted to suck a dick and then, assuming she didn't dump me and tell all my friends, find out that i didn't really. how do y'all feel about doing the initial experimenting clandestinely, just as a one time thing?

Personally I wouldn't. I'd put my relationship first.

 

[Samuelx]

Personally I wouldn't. I'd put my relationship first.

If you think you might be bi, then you're bi.
If you think you might be bi, then you're bi.
If you were bi
It'd be okay.
Just find someone who'll love you anyway.
cause you are bi.
And it's okay.
Happy bi pride day !

 

[PhoebeGB]

Well put. If you run away from who you are then you'll never find yourself.

 

[Gods_Favorite]

I don't mean just dirty talking about fantasy. I mean tell her you've been talking to this guy, and you're thinking about hooking up with him and would she like to come along.

You gave me the impression from your other posts that she'd be up for this, or at least would consider it. But if by "talking to her about it" you just meant dirty talking about fantasies then that's another story.

Sorry if I got the wrong impression.

She told me she was ok with me going out and playing with a guy as long as I came back and told her all about it, I want her to be there though, my birthday is coming up in 2 months so I am trying to arrange something very special for that.

 

[Vacheron58]

Am I bisexual??

Interesting question. One I have asked of myself . . . . a lot and for many years now. I discovered my prostate and my sphincter nerve endings sometime ago and have been using dildos in my ass for a long time now. I finally got the balls of telling my wife of my liking anal sex and what I have been doing for some time. Her first yell was "are you gay??? To which I responded, also yelling, NO!!, I am not gay. And here is the clincher, I continued yelling, I don't like men. I don't care for men in a sexual way and I will not take a "real cock" on my ass from any man.
Now, having said all that, I do want to say that anything I write here is not intended to disrespect nor to insult gays.
Ok, back to my story. I said I found the prostate (male "g" spot) and the sphincter nerve endings (that for a lack of better identifying statement I will label as my boypussy following a general term used in literotica writings) And I began having very private sex with several different dildos. Different sizes, vibs, butt plugs, etc. No, never a cucumber but yes a hair brush.
I believe that, bi or gay, are defined by who you have sex with, not how you have sex. I have only have hetero sex with women. Some girls back in my college days and my wife since 30 years ago.
And now I wanted to take my anal sex to a different level which is why I told my wife. I wanted her to be with me into this different level. I wanted her to fuck my boypussy and to hit my "g" spot and make me cum. I wanted her to wear a strap on and fuck me with it. After many conversations and a bit more of hollering and screaming I convinced her to give it a try.
The gay-bi possibility was very well explored by the both of us. We thought that Mother Nature had placed those two items, "g" spot and boypussy, on the male population for, among others, one purpose. That is for the man to have sex and/or receive sex. We thought that they were there not to give man a label but to give man sex. So why waste them??
Also, Gaby my wife said, well maybe now you may have a better appreciation what we do for you. You fuck us now if I fuck you, you may feel for me different. But also I do admire you for taking this step head on.
I do love my "g" spot and my boypussy. I enjoy sex there and now since my wife has been fucking me, she also enjoys it. As a matter of fact we have progressed only because she was having orgasms by the strap on harness hitting her clit and making her have an orgasm. Gaby now has researched the possibility of other attachmentts to the strap on harness and we have bought a couple more harneses to use the attachments Gaby likes.
All my anal sex comes from Gaby!!. I continue to just love women and to have hetero sex ONLY.
Call me prejudiced but I was raised pretty macho and I have no interest what-so-ever to have sex with another man. I not only shudder at the possibility of a man's cock on my boypussy but I totally refuse another man french kissing me.
I had no idea that there could be such a general acceptance to this kind of sex by other men that were not bi or gay. At the same time, I can see why gay's and bi's like anal sex and like also strap ons. I have read on many stories here this two alternative ways to look at anal sex. I am not alone and so are gay's and bi's. We all can have our sex and eat it too and life is unfair to give a label to this practice of anal sex. Gay's and bi's do not deserve it neither am I. So, no, I am neither bi nor gay.

 

[Gods_Favorite]

Well I've been talking to this guy from craigslist for about a week or so and I have never been more tempted and scared by a guy at the same time, this guy is 6 foot 8 and a former cop wounded in action, he is pretty hairy and he likes to be called "the beast", after a few exchanges of e-mails he gave me his number so we could talk, my girlfriend was ok with it and we have been talking at night the last 3 days, the first day was nothing special we just told ourselves about each other and talked as friends, the second day he kind of put me in my place and he told me I need to call him sir from now on, and that he could tell me from our phone conversation that I had a submissive streak, I started to get mad but I got the biggest hard on I ever got in my life and I apologized to him and he told me I was a undercover faggot and told me to remove all my clothes now, which I did and we ended up having the most amazing phone sex I EVER had, he had me do things I never thought I would do like eat my precum and finger fuck myself and lick it dry, we have done this our last 2 conversations with him degrading me and telling me what to do and I came like a tidal wave each time all over my chest and nipples even my neck, he sent me an e-mail the other day that said to be at his house this saturday at 8 in the morning sharp, and he gave me his address, he said not to bother to call and if I was serious to show up, he told me that if I did show up this would be an all day appointment and I wouldn't be done until 4 or 5 in the evening, and not to expect to fuck my girlfriend because I would be very sore, he said he intends to show me to how "take a dick properly" and after he was done with me he said I would no longer be bisexual but a 100% cock loving homosexual, he said he has made 3 bicurious men gay already, I don't know how true that is, he said the first time he doesn't want my girlfriend there, but after that he would be open to her coming to watch but not participate as he only likes men. I told my girlfriend about this and she said if I really want to do it shes fine with it, but it sounds like this guy might be too much for me to handle for my first time, what do you guys think? this guy has this canny ability to make me listen to him, but I don't know if I'm ready to jump right into what he has planned, do you guys have any thoughts?

 

[PhoebeGB]

It may be a turn-on for you as a fantasy, but is this the kind of encounter you were looking for when you first posted here? Only you can decide that.

 

[Gods_Favorite]

It may be a turn-on for you as a fantasy, but is this the kind of encounter you were looking for when you first posted here? Only you can decide that.

Its not, and thats why I'm having doubts about going. I want a guy to be patient with me and take my time, this guys sounds like he will be the opposite of that.

 

[CasinoNight]

Its not, and thats why I'm having doubts about going. I want a guy to be patient with me and take my time, this guys sounds like he will be the opposite of that.

I don't think the guy is right for you. At all.

 

[Vacheron58]

god's fav. I think you have answered yourself. Don't do it then if it does not feel right at all. This guy does not appear to be, according to your comments, right for you. Don't do it.

 

[SilkyDave]

easy one

I forgot to mention we have already watched gay porn together twice, and she was very hot during it we had sex watching it and masturbated while watching the movies.

if you are asking and have done some and liked it and want to do it again..........and do it all.................you're bi, stop fighting it, she likes it, sounds like she wants to play too, oh hell, just do it .....and tell us all about it