Jander1
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Just thought I would reply since I lost this in the middle of all the clutter. Communication, is really what it comes down to and thanx for the compiment!tomboy58 said:Hey there,
I just found this thread and though it is so Far into a discussion and depth... already-- I still figured I will put in my 2 cents...
My husband and I just experience our first Ever couple - couple 4some and It was a wonderful and incredibly sexual experience. So we are New to this and my opinion is that from a new experience, but that also allows me know Exactly where you are coming from..
Let me say that ALL of what you say -- Those were many of my very same fears and feelings that I and he had and why we had not explored sooner... And we did discuss and talk in great deal about our feelings, And... about what we Might feel or were Afraid we might feel.
I agree on setting your limits ahead of time but I also Had to communicate to him what I was Not sure of ... LIke I really wanted to try "this" and I really want to see him do "that" but I may not like it when it really comes down to seeing it.
Being comfortable with the Other persons involved is so.. important too!! You all really need to be on the same page. We all understood and respected each others limits and uncertainty and took it slow.... We did not exclude anything when we started but we all felt each others body language and actually spoke or asked when proceeding... It was very cool! All that said We only did oral on one another This time (except one situation of a double) And it was still an absolutely Incredible experience. We have talked (all of us) and I do believe we are comfortable enough that we will pursue more the next time it happens.
But as I said the comfort level between Her and I was as important as my husband and I. I did not feel threatened by her and them, and they were there For exactly the same reason we were - and they seemed to have the same respect and love for each other
I must say Jander and Erika always have good well-thought advice,
Definitely I say Try Your fantasies.... if you are comfortable...
And you Are Definitely NOT Wrong to address your fears and concerns!!
Good Luck, It has been an awesome journey...
Jander1 Initially I wanted to be present when my husband had his first time with another guy. I came to understand why he would prefer he do it without me and now agree with the view your wife takes Just thought I'd share...
Yeah if your husband is like me, his desire for men is a completely seperate from my relationship with my sife. I love my wife and my family more than anything and wish to remain with my wife. Since she is OK with me experimenting we just look at it like I have a hobby that may or may not be so unusual.
