anal sex better than intercourse?

[ecstacey]

by intercourse i mean you know dick in pussy. anyways, this day and age alot of people seem to enjoy doing it anally from the sounds of it, it even sounds better than regular sex. so i was wondering which one you guys perfered?

 

[MasturbatingGal]

I prefer actual intercourse. Anal sex hurts and is uncomfy for me.

 

[Bobmi357]

Prefer? Its not really a matter of preference. Its more like being offered a prime rib or a piece of cake and being told to chose. Both are great, both have great points about them. But I wouldn't pick one over another.

I like anal, but my wife doesn't come from anal alone. For that reason alone I would stick to the more traditional way for 95% of the time. Sure every so often I feel like a break, but I don't want to make love to my woman if she's not going to enjoy it at least as much as I do.

Besides, why do we have to pick? Anal is anal and vaginal is vaginal. Both are different and fun. No choice here.

 

[duke4227]

Anal.

I had one GF that told me she actually had greater orgasms from anal than she did from vaginal. Now understand she taught me the proper way to do it and that is a BIG factor in the ladies enjoyment. I have had several women that way since and not one complaint. Most tell me that is is a very pleasurable experience, when done correctly.

 

[white_mage_goddess]

I don't think either is "better", just different. Some nights I want anal, because my orgasms are really, really intense,and also because it has a dirty, slutty feel to it...sometimes I want vaginal, especially for intimate, emotional sex. Sometimes I just want oral, or even just masturbation....all depends on my mood.

 

[Wickid Cherry Pie]

As stated before, it is hard to pick when it comes to choosing PIV or anal.
For me, anal is a very intense experience, a lil treat to be enjoyed from time to time. I have stronger orgasms from anal, and the sensation, I think, is different from orgasms achieved through vaginal or clitoral stimulation.

 

[Angel_Diva]

Anal or just sex? there's no reason to choose....

I would probably choose Anal because its something i havn't tried yet, but i would stick to vaginal sex because it gets me easier to cum right now.

Plus Anal sounds more taboo like.

 

[y=mx+b]

both are really great, but if my wife said one day, "you can either fuck me in the ass for the rest of our time on earth, or you can fuck me in vagina" I would go for the vagina.

 

[BlueSugar]

I'm not a fan of anal.

vaginal please!

 

[Bobmi357]

I'm not a fan of anal.

vaginal please!

Ummm wouldn't a fan of anal be the same thing as the shit hitting the fan?

Oh gawd sometimes I have such nasty thoughts....

 

[Vixandra]

Most of the time- I'm traditional, PIV.
Occasionally- anal's fun and intense and sometimes more emotion provoking then vaginal is.

It all depends on my mood and on his mood.
If I didn't trust him the way I do then there would be no anal- way too easy to get hurt that way. Trust is a must.

 

[BlueSugar]

Ummm wouldn't a fan of anal be the same thing as the shit hitting the fan?

Oh gawd sometimes I have such nasty thoughts....

::groan:: that was bad.. bad bad bad... ugh. ... lol.


I try it every now and then, bc I know its mental. I've done soooo many other things ... and I can't get past anal?? ... sometimes it drives me crazy, other times I don't mind... not one bit, not at all.

::shrug::
I've made the analogy "its like coleslaw" one too many times.

 

[ReadyOne]

Probably PIV over anal, though I like anal Very Much. But you can do PIV in a lot more ways...

Cake vs Steak is right,
plus learn to do it right!

 

[sexy_geek_girl]

I like anal but I have regular sex more often than anal. A lot of my friends don't. So I guess I'm kind of the exception. Then, I found out one of my friends has anal sex ten times more than she has regular sex. It's like having the cake all the time and the vegetables just some of the time. A cake is a treat and the vegetables are what you need.

 

[Bobmi357]

::groan:: that was bad.. bad bad bad... ugh. ... lol.


I try it every now and then, bc I know its mental. I've done soooo many other things ... and I can't get past anal?? ... sometimes it drives me crazy, other times I don't mind... not one bit, not at all.

::shrug::
I've made the analogy "its like coleslaw" one too many times.

Why should it drive you crazy Blue? Everyone has limits and this is one of yours. Its not a big deal and I certainly wouldn't consider it a relationship breaking issue.

You should not feel like this is something you have to do, or not being able to do it makes you any less than what you already are. We all have limits beyond which we will not pass. Acknowledge those limits, maybe work close to them if you desire, but don't feel bad because you have a limit. And don't let some guy make you feel bad about it either! Its your limit and if someone can't respect that, fuck'em.

And if the idea of anal sex makes you cringe, this might be more interesting.
Let me tell you another way I found that I love. ABSOLUTELY love, its semi-anal. My wife has a wonderful butt. For years she slept next to me and driven me to distraction by wiggling her butt against my knee while she slept. I never did anything about it since I knew she was asleep, but I always fantasized about using her marvelous butt. We've had anal sex, and its great, but what I had in mind wasn't really anal sex, there was no penetration at all, it was just me rubbing my lubed dick between her butt cheeks til I came.

Finally a few weeks ago I actually got to do this sorta by accident, ok we were sorta in the wrong position and it felt too good to change positions. It was absolutely fantastic. Ok, its my kink, but all of my kinks involve my wife and her wonderful body, this was great and I hope its something we add to our regular menu of things we do.

Butt play without penetration, its something to consider if you trust your partner and do not like anal sex.

So don't over ANALyze your limits, and stop using ANALogies as they confuse simple people like. Its wrong to ASSume you have a problem with something just because you don't like it. This shouldn't worry you, pASS on anal sex if you like. BUTT don't worry aBUTT it.

oh gawd... I did it again!

 

[Stu21]

No preference here. Depends on the mood. Anal is nice at the right time and place and it is an incredible mind fuck as well.

Two main reasons don't do so often is
1 you need a lot of time and patience
2 its a little messy and i always want a shower after so it does kinda break the mood

Oral Anal Vaginal. Some choice. Could add a few more too!!

 

[BlueSugar]

Why should it drive you crazy Blue? Everyone has limits and this is one of yours.

You should not feel like this is something you have to do, or not being able to do it makes you any less than what you already are. And don't let some guy make you feel bad about it either! Its your limit and if someone can't respect that, fuck'em.

And if the idea of anal sex makes you cringe, this might be more interesting.

...and I hope its something we add to our regular menu of things we do.

So don't over ANALyze your limits, and stop using ANALogies as they confuse simple people like. Its wrong to ASSume you have a problem with something just because you don't like it. This shouldn't worry you, pASS on anal sex if you like. BUTT don't worry aBUTT it.

oh gawd... I did it again!

OK. The act if not done in the right state of mind, makes me sick beyond belife to think about or even hear it I gag a little. Its so so weird.
But I can read stories about it, and get turned on. Usually along the lines of "taking what I own" dirty slut, this is mine and if you don't give it to me, I'm going to take it anyway.
I can be teased and talked to that way, and we slip into bdsm mode and it'll just bring me to a hight, a stage of being that its fine if it happens (as long as its done right) i'll enjoy it, and even cum with a little help from my hand on clit/vibe or something.
Turns me on like crazy to think of two men (or more)... something we often roleplay out. And I just, i don't know... out of body experience type stuff.
He can play around with his fingers and run his cock over it, and slip it between my thighs and butt... running my juices all over the area and it makes me delerious thinking of the the things he could do to me. the non penetration play does that too.

But if I'm not up there, in that state of mind or lack of mind really... I can't even think about it or it totally ruins it for me. I've tried it a few times and by the time I'm comfortable hes done. I've tried with various partners bc theres always "i've never had anal... i'd realy like to try it" and who am I to deny experience? I don't mind ... its the same as asking "i've never had a blow job" (but i'm more then happy to do that) I like experiencing... I try it every now and then to make sure my "palate" hasn't changed ((same thing with coleslaw..that stuff grosses me out, but i try it anyway- just to make sure))
Maybe I'm weird like that.

which makes me say no to regular play - but bdsm is a big part of our life so I get to that stage pleanty (we just don't take advantage of it most times)

SO is it a limit? I have no idea. Does it count? Sometimes...


I don't really worry aBUTT it, but it makes me crazy sometimes bc its ok in one way BUTT not in another.

 

[Bobmi357]

which makes me say no to regular play - but bdsm is a big part of our life so I get to that stage pleanty (we just don't take advantage of it most times)

SO is it a limit? I have no idea. Does it count? Sometimes...


I don't really worry aBUTT it, but it makes me crazy sometimes bc its ok in one way BUTT not in another.

I reckon this is where we differ then Blue. I've always been one to respect a partner's wishes. If she says she doesn't like X, we don't do X.

Doesn't matter if she's only tried it once, or 100 times. That she doesn't like it is good enough for me. Just like brocolli, I hate the stuff, won't touch it and wouldn't dream of insisting someone else eat it.

BTW, I love cole slaw, but mayo makes me break out with itchy hives..

 

[Lady Tango]

It is hard to choose between the two. For me, anal is a very intense experience, but it is not something I do all the time. I have stronger orgasms from anal intercourse, and the sensation is different from orgasms achieved through vaginal or clitoral stimulation.

Anal sex is just one aspect of good lovemaking as is oral sex.

 

[sexymochawoman]

I agree with whoever said both are great. it just depends on what i want at the time, but alot of the time i can still get anal if we have just regular sex first... i wont complain with either though whoever said it hurts, give it a chance. it only burns for like one quick second while he's getting all the way in...from there on it's just one big party Also i find that i like mounting him initially that way i have control of how slow or fast he goes in. you may want to try that. Even if he pulls out and has to go back in it doesnt hurt, me likey too much to let a little pain get in the way anyway lol