Anal: when you've been told you're 'too big'

[EroticApology]

LOL...wait, so let me get this straight. So because I did not agree with a couple of responses I am being instructed to keep my mouth shut or else I will be blacklisted from the site and have to deal with certain consequences because I gave my opinion just like everyone else did?

So, you are going to threaten me to conform or else...because you think I'm an internet troll? (I have better things to do with my time...I thought this site was for mature adults)

So because I disagree I'm going to be bullied by you...

Well then, YOU and the rest reading this can do what you must because I'd be DAMNED before I have someone tell me to stand down or suffer the consequences when there is OBVIOUSLY no sexual pleasure involved for me...LOL. Carry on please.

And you REALLY think I'm going to apologize when someone called me an idiot.....LOL. Keep waiting on that apology.

 

[EroticApology]

My point is there is a better approach to do things. Its not unusual for people to feel uncomfortable about doing something for the first time....ESPECIALLY when they express they are curious but afraid. She might have had a bad experience before...it could be a millions reasons why she doesn't want to. The main thing that was not said was she finds it disgusting and would NEVER do it. She expressed she's given it thought. If she has given it thought then why not advice him to take his time...No one asked ANYTHING...everyone jumped to conclusions. I thought the people here were suppose to be open-minded. This was clearly not an open-minded discussion.

BTW, in no way am I saying a man should pressure a women to do something she does not want to do. I'm saying how some responded to this man was very harsh...the responses to me have been equally unjust as well. But I see you don't see anything wrong with that.

 

[NippleMuncher]

You can call me names all you want...LOL. I find it rather comical how you do that to deflect from the topic....LOL.

I apologize, I misspoke, you're not an idiot, you're a complete and total fucking moron with the complete and total lack of ability to comprehend the typewritten word.

I could attempt to explain to you what has already been clearly stated, but alas a brick wall would be more understanding. What I would suggest to you is to drop your attitude for 10 minutes and reread the comments posted BEFORE you entered this thread. If you still have questions, I would highly recommend you pour gasoline across your internet connected devices and burn them, because this is obviously too complex a world for someone the likes of you.

Have yourself a wonderful life in ignorance.

 

[satindesire]

LOL...wait, so let me get this straight. So because I did not agree with a couple of responses I am being instructed to keep my mouth shut or else I will be blacklisted from the site and have to deal with certain consequences because I gave my opinion just like everyone else did?

So, you are going to threaten me to conform or else...because you think I'm an internet troll? (I have better things to do with my time...I thought this site was for mature adults)

So because I disagree I'm going to be bullied by you...

Well then, YOU and the rest reading this can do what you must because I'd be DAMNED before I have someone tell me to stand down or suffer the consequences when there is OBVIOUSLY no sexual pleasure involved for me...LOL. Carry on please.

And you REALLY think I'm going to apologize when someone called me an idiot.....LOL. Keep waiting on that apology.

LOL I'm LOL not LOL bullying LOL you LOL. LOL Merely LOL stating LOL fact LOL LOL. LOL LOL LOL You LOL should LOL mind LOL your LOL manners LOL when LOL calling LOL a LOL moderator LOL thing LOL like LOL crass LOL LOL LOL LOL. LOL I'm LOL not LOL telling LOL you LOL to LOL shut LOL up LOL, LOL merely LOL telling LOL you LOL to LOL act LOL your LOL age LOL LOL LOL LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLO. LOL If LOL you LOL can't LOL do LOL that LOL LOL, LOLOL maybe LOL shutting LOL up LOL would LOL be LOL a LOL wiser LOL option LOLOLOLOLOLOL!!!!!!OLOLOL!!!!

LOL LOL You LOL obviously LOL did LOL not LOL get LOL it LOL LOL. LOL LOL If LOL being LOL "crass" LOL was LOL such LOL an LOL issue LOL for LOL you LOL LOLOLOLOLOL, why LOL "sink LOL to LOL their LOL level" LOLOL! LOL! LOL!!!! EL OH FUCKING EL!

 

[EroticApology]

Muncher,

LOL...get off the nipple and take an anger management course. You are hostile for no reason. This conversation is not that serious for you to be acting like this. This is way over the top behavior...its childish. You are acting like a bully. If you feel you can't speak to me then remove yourself from the conversation. If you are having issues with dealing with ME then fix it...you can go. But to keep going back and forth with me says you must like it.

 

[satindesire]

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[EroticApology]

"throw a rock in a pack of dogs and the one that barks the loudest is the one that got hit."

Satin,

where did I call ANYONE specifically 'crass'? I made a statement in reference to the comments.

And if someone is a moderator does that give them license to speak to people however they want?

 

[njlauren]

My take on the OP's question is both you and she need more information about anal sex before even going further with discussions in whether to do it or not. There are a lot of misconceptions out there about anal sex, about the risks (still here the one that if you do anal sex with any regularity, you are going to have trouble with incontinence), or that having anal sex means 'ripping' something (like of like breaking the hymen), all kinds of idiotic my passing as fact. I think the OP and his gf need to know what they are talking about before even trying to do it, anal sex is not just about shoving something in there, there are methods and techniques to make it work whether a guy is smaller or larger.

One book I recommend is Tristan Taormino's "Complete guide to Anal Sex", it has a lot of really useful information and talks about the whole shebang, from how to work up to it, to what positions to use, to what to be wary of, to getting rid of a lot of preconceived notions, like anal sex has to be painful. A woman friend of mine loves anal sex with her husband and he is well endowed by porn standards, and she is not some freak of nature (she actually is pretty petit, about 5' 2)....it sounds like your girl is interested but has reservations about doing it with what she sees as too large a cock, with information she might feel more comfortable. It could be she simply doesn't want to go there, and that is her decision to make, but IMO with things like anal sex once someone learns about the reality of it, rather then the myth or the crap you read in stories (He was, big, really, big, and he used the lubrication from my pussy on his dick and proceded to shove it into my rosebud..... give me a break.....*lol*)

 

[satindesire]

"throw a rock in a pack of dogs and the one that barks the loudest is the one that got hit."

Satin,

where did I call ANYONE specifically 'crass'? I made a statement in reference to the comments.

And if someone is a moderator does that give them license to speak to people however they want?

Francois de La Rochefoucauld: “The true means of being misled is to believe oneself finer than the others.”

uuhhhhyeah. Yeah, pretty much yeah. That's -exactly- what the role of Moderator can mean around here. I usually tell people that when there's a problem here, to talk to the moderator, but I believe that would be too hilarious to actually get through straight-faced if I actually tried it.

I don't know why you're asking me to reference your own speech, unless in your bouts of Obtusious Brainious Disorder you've forgotten how to read the English Language, but let me quote you.

The advice given I found to be a bit crass. Advising him to stick a dildo in his own rectum to give him clarity on what his partner would/might experience says nothing because no two people will experience sex the same way. In addition, the male anatomy and the female anatomy are two complete different things so the experience is expected to be different. Since he's a male he asked WOMEN for advice.

He was simply asking other women what is the best approach to deal with this topic with his wife. She's open to it but is obviously fearful of pain. Why not try advising him to start out slow by using a finger first or using lots of lube. Or even suggesting the right lubricant to use.

Even if you offered the advice for him to stick a dildo up his rectum...no one even suggested the best way to start.

So. There you go. The word "Crass" you used was directly in relation to Eil's advice. You're welcome.

 

[EroticApology]

NJLauren Now that was an intelligent response. I loved your response to his question. I agree with you BTW.

My take on the OP's question is both you and she need more information about anal sex before even going further with discussions in whether to do it or not. There are a lot of misconceptions out there about anal sex, about the risks (still here the one that if you do anal sex with any regularity, you are going to have trouble with incontinence), or that having anal sex means 'ripping' something (like of like breaking the hymen), all kinds of idiotic my passing as fact. I think the OP and his gf need to know what they are talking about before even trying to do it, anal sex is not just about shoving something in there, there are methods and techniques to make it work whether a guy is smaller or larger.

One book I recommend is Tristan Taormino's "Complete guide to Anal Sex", it has a lot of really useful information and talks about the whole shebang, from how to work up to it, to what positions to use, to what to be wary of, to getting rid of a lot of preconceived notions, like anal sex has to be painful. A woman friend of mine loves anal sex with her husband and he is well endowed by porn standards, and she is not some freak of nature (she actually is pretty petit, about 5' 2)....it sounds like your girl is interested but has reservations about doing it with what she sees as too large a cock, with information she might feel more comfortable. It could be she simply doesn't want to go there, and that is her decision to make, but IMO with things like anal sex once someone learns about the reality of it, rather then the myth or the crap you read in stories (He was, big, really, big, and he used the lubrication from my pussy on his dick and proceded to shove it into my rosebud..... give me a break.....*lol*)

 

[EroticApology]

LMAO...this must be the name calling thread...lol

Satin,

Yes, I said the response was crass...but to WHOM did I direct it to for YOU to conclude I called a MODERATOR or ANYONE CRASS....my post was not directed to ANYONE SPECIFIC...so how did you conclude this?

 

[satindesire]

LMAO...this must be the name calling thread...lol

Satin,

Yes, I said the response was crass...but to WHOM did I direct it to for YOU to conclude I called a MODERATOR or ANYONE CRASS....my post was not directed to ANYONE SPECIFIC...so how did you conclude this?

Moving the goalposts of the argument when you've already lost it isn't a great idea. But whatever.

It doesn't matter WHO you directed your post to. You still SAID it in text, and anyone can call you out on being a D-bag when you publicly act like a D-bag. That's....that's how FORUMS WORK ya dingbat!

 

[EroticApology]

Satin,

Girlfriend...I don't know what to tell you...lol. If YOU want to stay shut and go by what someone says because you fear the backlash of a moderator well then that's you. I don't operate under those guidelines. I give everyone respect because I expect respect. I choose what I want, I'm not going to be bullied into something I don't agree with.

 

[EroticApology]

LOL...wait, and you say I have issues with the English language. I never denied saying it. I deny your accusation that I called a moderator crass. You reiterating what I already said is rather moot at this point.

And furthermore...I'm not looking for reassurance from you or anyone. Therefore, I don't need YOU or anyone else to say I lost an argument. This wasn't a battle...I was not especially seeking to win anything. If that's the way you feel that says a whole lot. The fact of the matter is...EVERYONE on this board is opinionated. I gave my opinion like everyone else did. And I still still with my original opinion when I said some of the responses were CRASS. And please add IGNORANT to that...Thank you.

Moving the goalposts of the argument when you've already lost it isn't a great idea. But whatever.

It doesn't matter WHO you directed your post to. You still SAID it in text, and anyone can call you out on being a D-bag when you publicly act like a D-bag. That's....that's how FORUMS WORK ya dingbat!

 

[satindesire]

Satin,

Girlfriend...I don't know what to tell you...lol. If YOU want to stay shut and go by what someone says because you fear the backlash of a moderator well then that's you. I don't operate under those guidelines. I give everyone respect because I expect respect. I choose what I want, I'm not going to be bullied into something I don't agree with.

LOL...wait, and you say I have issues with the English language. I never denied saying it. I deny your accusation that I called a moderator crass. You reiterating what I already said is rather moot at this point.

And furthermore...I'm not looking for reassurance from you or anyone. Therefore, I don't need YOU or anyone else to say I lost an argument. This wasn't a battle...I was not especially seeking to win anything. If that's the way you feel that says a whole lot. The fact of the matter is...EVERYONE on this board is opinionated. I gave my opinion like everyone else did. And I still still with my original opinion when I said some of the responses were CRASS. And please add IGNORANT to that...Thank you.

Yyyyeah no.

One: Eil's response was NOT crass.

Two: You saying that a man won't experience anything like what a woman experiences because the male and female ass was too different was ludicrously undereducated and pretentious.

Three: People qualified with an actual working knowledge of the human body would be better suited at giving advice about anal sex, but you did it anyway, even without actual working knowledge of the human body.

Four: I don't "stay shut". Eil and I have never had beef because I've never given any mod here cause to kick me out of the forums. I'm not bullying you, I'm telling you that the mods don't tolerate trolling. So slow your roll if you want to stick around. Facts are facts, and if you don't like 'em, you can theoretically magically transport yourself to a parallel universe where the mods don't actually Mod but that ain't likely to happen.


Edit: You...are a moron. /facepalm.

 

[EroticApology]

1. Thanks for telling me your opinion of Eil's post.

2. What is that a battle of intelligence....LOL. I don't know but when I was in grammar school I was told a man has a penis and a woman has a vagina. Although we both have a rectum a woman's body is designed completely differently from the male. Not only that, but the pleasures he experiences does not mean SHE will experience the same pleasures. What if he ends up loving it and its easier for him tolerate anal penetration. You are then advising him that SHE will feel what he's feeling. So he might ignore her reluctance can measure her abilities based on HIS experience. In my opinion that's not just a good advice because THEY MIGHT NOT EXPERIENCE THE EXACT SAME THINGS.

3. You don't know my level of knowledge on the human body which is why I gave an opinion. But I know yours...you think men and women are constructed the same it seems...have you ever gone to get your prostrate checked?

4. Ok so moderators don't like trolls...are they going to be paranoid and think everyone is a troll. I'm merely making a comment...LOL. So I'm going to be threatened to keep shut because a moderator is paranoid. So because they are paranoid that gives them license to call me names?

Yyyyeah no.

One: Eil's response was NOT crass.

Two: You saying that a man won't experience anything like what a woman experiences because the male and female ass was too different was ludicrously undereducated and pretentious.

Three: People qualified with an actual working knowledge of the human body would be better suited at giving advice about anal sex, but you did it anyway, even without actual working knowledge of the human body.

Four: I don't "stay shut". Eil and I have never had beef because I've never given any mod here cause to kick me out of the forums. I'm not bullying you, I'm telling you that the mods don't tolerate trolling. So slow your roll if you want to stick around. Facts are facts, and if you don't like 'em, you can theoretically magically transport yourself to a parallel universe where the mods don't actually Mod but that ain't likely to happen.


Edit: You...are a moron. /facepalm.

 

[EroticApology]

The only thing I will apologize for at this point are my typos...lol

 

[NippleMuncher]

EroticApology,

Jesus Christ, shut the fuck up already! If you are incapable of reading the comments posted BEFORE you entered the discussion, then it would be suggested that you refrain from comment.

You've got your panties in a bunch over your own misinterpretation of the advice given. And for the record, we encourage debate, what we don't tolerate is the likes of someone like you "taking offense" to a question being answered as it should have been, rather than the way you would have replied. Because I know you failed to read every post BEFORE yours, I will pull one of them forward that does indeed answer the OP's question AND specifically and categorically answers it in the manner you say was missed. This is only ONE quote of many reflecting the same or similar advice:

You need three things:

1 - Knowledge
2 - Open and honest communication with your partner
3 - A willingness to work together to find a solution or compromise

1 - You AND your partner need to read up on the subject, preferably together. There are a number of topics here to choose from or stroll down the adult section at your local book store. You BOTH need to know how to do anal properly. With knowledge comes security.

2 - If you can't communicate openly and honestly with your partner, then what chance have you at "talking her into it"? Don't worry, I didn't read into your opening statement that you were trying to force her to do anything, but unless you can talk honestly with each other, how will you know why she's against it completely, even though she hints at an interest? If you can't honestly communicate, then how do you propose to find a solution to the problem?

3 - You BOTH need to be willing to educate yourselves, communicate with each other, and experiment with different things that may eventually lead up to what you're looking for. This may or may not include using a dildo on yourself, however, if you have a willingness to step outside your comfort zone, then she may be willing to step outside of hers. In the end (no pun intended ) it may never happen, but you may find some new things to enjoy along the way.

Again, if you are incapable of comprehending the written word, then possibly an online forum is not the environment you should be choosing to interact on.

 

[EroticApology]

Muncher,

Get off the nipple and grow up. First off, I'm not disrespecting anyone with foul language. I find your attitude to be disgusting and irrational behavior. What makes you think I did not read the additional comments...does that negate the previous comments that were crass.

People come here looking for genuine advice. Of course people can find a book and they can also do research online. But did you or anyone else give thought to the fact that people come to message boards to ask questions because they can engage in conversation which is something a book or research might not be give them.

Your behavior is rude and uncalled for. Then you are going to curse at me...this is really immature and uncalled for.

 

[Miles Long]

Has anyone else jerked off 7.5 times to this thread? No? Just me? Interesting.

 

[EroticApology]

LOL @ Miles Long...

 

[NippleMuncher]

People come here looking for genuine advice. Of course people can find a book and they can also do research online. But did you or anyone else give thought to the fact that people come to message boards to ask questions because they can engage in conversation which is something a book or research might not be give them.

Oh, so you CAN be rational, who knew, the thing is, you still just don't get it.

Yes, people DO come here looking for interaction and advice, the OP was given that without malice. He was also told that he and his wife needed to do more research on this forum and other informational sites to educate themselves on the subject.

Had the OP come back with more questions of a specific nature he would have continued to get more advice. The more interactive a person is, the more interactive we are to answer their questions, trolls, like you, will continue to get kicked to the curb.

You chose to come into this thread on the attack, how did you really expect the rest of us to react? You chose to blind-eye the information already provided here and accuse us of bullshit responses, then you continue to assert your misguided beliefs no matter how many times you are explicitly refuted.

You want some respect, try giving some. You want to contribute to a thread without getting crapped on, then try staying within the confines of your own experience and/or understanding of a topic before you go off on your ranting tangents.

 

[EroticApology]

Muncher,

Why on earth are you taking this so personally? Did I touch a nerve? Did you think my comment was geared toward you? And why did you conclude I did not read all the comments....is it common for some people to call people idiots based on their assumptions...makes me wonder who is the real idiot around here.

Here you are cussing up a storm and getting worked up over something and you don't know who I'm referencing. If you felt you gave the intelligent answer then why are you so concerned? It must be that rock being tossed in a pack of dogs. Is this all necessary...lol.

 

[EroticApology]

Why on earth would the OP bother to engage in further discussion. Did you see his response in reference to a person being a peach....hint, that was sarcasm. Lol. The OP was spoken to unkindly that's why he left.

But I see rude behavior must be norm around here because it seemed to have gone unnoticed. Next time you tell me to shut the fuck up say please and I might consider it.

Oh, so you CAN be rational, who knew, the thing is, you still just don't get it.

Yes, people DO come here looking for interaction and advice, the OP was given that without malice. He was also told that he and his wife needed to do more research on this forum and other informational sites to educate themselves on the subject.

Had the OP come back with more questions of a specific nature he would have continued to get more advice. The more interactive a person is, the more interactive we are to answer their questions, trolls, like you, will continue to get kicked to the curb.

You chose to come into this thread on the attack, how did you really expect the rest of us to react? You chose to blind-eye the information already provided here and accuse us of bullshit responses, then you continue to assert your misguided beliefs no matter how many times you are explicitly refuted.

You want some respect, try giving some. You want to contribute to a thread without getting crapped on, then try staying within the confines of your own experience and/or understanding of a topic before you go off on your ranting tangents.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Ooooh. This thread is a train wreck. It's always good when quotes that are only slightly relevant get thrown used to make a belaboured point.

"Those who live in glass houses can't afford to walk around naked."
-Pmann

Seems relevant:

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