Does anyone experience having clitoris too sensitive after orgasm to continue. what can I do

[AsiRua]

Hello,

I am new here, I just start with one of the things I wanna do here. I am hoping to get some feedback, maybe someone experienced similar things and could give me tips what to do.

I am 36 years old and a professional dancer. Sexually I consider myself like a complete beginner. I had my first sex with 23 and my first orgasm with a clitoral vibrator around 30.

I am highly interested in anything sexual, however often I find myself not wanting it which is strange. I can get off touching myself but nothing too crazy, I go soft and when I wanna climax I use my womanizer and then I come within seconds. It is difficult for me to come without it, sometimes I cum with just rubbing my clit very fast.

I am dissatisfied with these kinds of orgasms though, as I feel there are more intense layers lying behind them but I don`t know how to access them because after this first climax, I loose all desire to continue and clit is too sensitive.

I feel when I just pleasure myself inside vagina that I barely feel anything, at least nothing sexual, maybe just that desire for more and that makes me compulsively reach to my vibrator.

I`m in a relationship with a lovely man, however I am interested in women too, often I ask myself if my lack of turn on comes from dating on the wrong side, idk.

I don`t know if I just need to practice more as I never masturbated in my teens or twenties, only started when womanizers came on the market and then I had an aha moment, at first I did not even recognized that I just orgasmed, I just felt that clit was all of a sudden to sensitive.

Please don`t judge me, I know this can come across as someone that is completely weird, but I am just trying to find my way around my sexuality and why it was dormant for so long.

 

[Loyalish1245]

My wife has struggled with clitoral sensitivity, her whole life. We have learned to alternate between nipple, penetrative, and gentle stimulation to hold off on orgasm. Her problem is that she has found if she delays it too long she cannot achieve orgasm. So there’s a delicate balance. I don’t have any real suggestions, but I hope you can find something that will help you be successful.

 

[IARainman]

As was said above , if clit is too sensitive, focus on other areas, especially with an understanding partner, and can they make it wet and horny with nipple play. One of my favorites is fingering her g spot while tonguing her anus, if that doesn't get you there, you can finish with your clit... have fun, don't stress!

 

[Rob_Royale]

If my wifes first O which is usually brought on by oral/finger combo or a vibrator, she's not ready for more clitoral stim. She gets over-stimed.
At that point she loves penetrative attention.

It's all about experimentation and trying new things at new times. A finger on my wifes G-spot with the vibe on her clit is a guaranteed squirting orgasm for her, and then I'll slide inside her fast, and really get agressive. The next O is usually a screamer and I don't stop until I cum.

 

[eaee]

Your comments sound entirely normal and within the boundaries of "normal" sexual responses to this old guy who is not expert but has a little, shall we say, history. There are wide variations in the response of all humans, women especially, to sexual arousal. Clitoral sensitivity after climax? Normal for some not for others. Some times lack of sexual desire? Normal--one lady told me if a cock wasn't available, she had no desire for sex--ever.. An inclination toward intimacy with a female? Normal. I'd suggest you try it at least.
Keep on keeping on. And better late than never.
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[Mrs_and_mr]

Very common. You just have to focus on somewhere else and come back to it. Everyone is different, I was with a lady that when her clit got overly sensitive she would want me to press hard on the area.

 

[GentleFlower]

I do experience high sensitivity of my clitoris after i orgasm sometimes. When that happened in past sometimes I asked my bf at the time to go slower or to stop for few moments.

But later I learned to overcome it in a submissive way. I try to just let it happen as I have in my mind the idea of submitting to him and being there for him... so i kind of just let it happen even if it is intense for me because i wish to be there for him when he needs me and i find way to submit to him. I love being submissive so that helps. Hopefully you know what I mean. Usually quiet soon after he proceeds it is not sensitive anymore.

 

[Exploringwife46]

I have at times...though it only happens went repeated over stimulation with multiple orgasms. Its worth the uncomfortable sensations to get to the point. Focusing on different areas gives it the time calms the hyper sensitivity.

 

[Rastus_m]

The clitoris is a large organ, the womanizer just focuses in the tip.
Don’t touch the nub, and don’t use the womanizer.
Concentrate on the sides and base of the clitoral area using your fingers and set aside a good half an hour or more to build up to a much deeper rolling type of orgasm.
A gently vibrating dildo just sitting inside you will help.

 

[AsiRua]

Thank you all for your replies and tips! Feels good to read that I am not the onlz one

 

[AsiRua]

The clitoris is a large organ, the womanizer just focuses in the tip.
Don’t touch the nub, and don’t use the womanizer.
Concentrate on the sides and base of the clitoral area using your fingers and set aside a good half an hour or more to build up to a much deeper rolling type of orgasm.
A gently vibrating dildo just sitting inside you will help.

Thanks! That is what I try to do each time, but somehow I feel like I am not getting anywhere with that approach.. Do you have an example of gently vibrating dildo?

 

[subbywannabe]

Hello,

I am new here, I just start with one of the things I wanna do here. I am hoping to get some feedback, maybe someone experienced similar things and could give me tips what to do.

I am 36 years old and a professional dancer. Sexually I consider myself like a complete beginner. I had my first sex with 23 and my first orgasm with a clitoral vibrator around 30.

I am highly interested in anything sexual, however often I find myself not wanting it which is strange. I can get off touching myself but nothing too crazy, I go soft and when I wanna climax I use my womanizer and then I come within seconds. It is difficult for me to come without it, sometimes I cum with just rubbing my clit very fast.

I am dissatisfied with these kinds of orgasms though, as I feel there are more intense layers lying behind them but I don`t know how to access them because after this first climax, I loose all desire to continue and clit is too sensitive.

I feel when I just pleasure myself inside vagina that I barely feel anything, at least nothing sexual, maybe just that desire for more and that makes me compulsively reach to my vibrator.

I`m in a relationship with a lovely man, however I am interested in women too, often I ask myself if my lack of turn on comes from dating on the wrong side, idk.

I don`t know if I just need to practice more as I never masturbated in my teens or twenties, only started when womanizers came on the market and then I had an aha moment, at first I did not even recognized that I just orgasmed, I just felt that clit was all of a sudden to sensitive.

Please don`t judge me, I know this can come across as someone that is completely weird, but I am just trying to find my way around my sexuality and why it was dormant for so long.

You are not weird, and no one can judge you. You were a late bloomer, that's all. Keep experimenting and get with a female. You might also want to discuss these things with your present partner.

 

[TinaG_2023]

OMG!!! The most wonderful feeling ever!! Touching or licking my clitty after an "O" drives me crazy. Nipples too.
I have seen it work both ways with both of my guy friends though. Try sucking their cock heads after they cum has the same result. It makes them squirm!!

 

[Wonderer67]

You are not weird in any way! Everyone’s body is different and reacts to stimuli in a different way.

My wife is similar. Her clitoris is very sensitive. When she masturbates, she uses a hitachi magic wand but instead of putting it directly on her clit,!she puts it on her pubic bone instead.

At least for her, she had very strong and powerful orgasms using this method.

I wish you luck in your journey!!

 

[ladventures]

Hello,

I am new here, I just start with one of the things I wanna do here. I am hoping to get some feedback, maybe someone experienced similar things and could give me tips what to do.

I am 36 years old and a professional dancer. Sexually I consider myself like a complete beginner. I had my first sex with 23 and my first orgasm with a clitoral vibrator around 30.

I am highly interested in anything sexual, however often I find myself not wanting it which is strange. I can get off touching myself but nothing too crazy, I go soft and when I wanna climax I use my womanizer and then I come within seconds. It is difficult for me to come without it, sometimes I cum with just rubbing my clit very fast.

I am dissatisfied with these kinds of orgasms though, as I feel there are more intense layers lying behind them but I don`t know how to access them because after this first climax, I loose all desire to continue and clit is too sensitive.

I feel when I just pleasure myself inside vagina that I barely feel anything, at least nothing sexual, maybe just that desire for more and that makes me compulsively reach to my vibrator.

I`m in a relationship with a lovely man, however I am interested in women too, often I ask myself if my lack of turn on comes from dating on the wrong side, idk.

I don`t know if I just need to practice more as I never masturbated in my teens or twenties, only started when womanizers came on the market and then I had an aha moment, at first I did not even recognized that I just orgasmed, I just felt that clit was all of a sudden to sensitive.

Please don`t judge me, I know this can come across as someone that is completely weird, but I am just trying to find my way around my sexuality and why it was dormant for so long.

My wife was able to orgasm most of the time through clitoral stimulation from fingers or toys. Especially if combined with penetration. But it often took a significant amount of time and effort.

When we got our first clit suction toy, she was able to orgasm much faster and multiple orgasms, which were rare occurrences, became the norm.

Like you, she is very sensitive after orgasms, particularly multiple orgasms, which usually hit back-to-back. After she has intense orgasms, she still wants to keep going, but I can’t touch her clitoris or even her nipples. She squirms and says it is just too much. Often I finish with penetration and no clitoral stimulation. That is fun for me, especially after a long buildup of focusing on her orgasm, it feels great to thrust hard and deep.

I have a fantasy about what would happen if I kept playing with her clitoris when she was super sensitive. What if I had her tied up, and just kept going? Would it be painful, or would it take her to a more intense level of orgasm.

I would never try it unless she wanted to, but I am so curious about how her body would react

 

[Friendlyhillbilly]

When the clit gets to sensitive, stroke the libia, around the entrance, or there are spot deeper in that will keep it going. You have to explore a little, because every women is different.

 

[curioustxn]

Hello,

I am new here, I just start with one of the things I wanna do here. I am hoping to get some feedback, maybe someone experienced similar things and could give me tips what to do.

I am 36 years old and a professional dancer. Sexually I consider myself like a complete beginner. I had my first sex with 23 and my first orgasm with a clitoral vibrator around 30.

I am highly interested in anything sexual, however often I find myself not wanting it which is strange. I can get off touching myself but nothing too crazy, I go soft and when I wanna climax I use my womanizer and then I come within seconds. It is difficult for me to come without it, sometimes I cum with just rubbing my clit very fast.

I am dissatisfied with these kinds of orgasms though, as I feel there are more intense layers lying behind them but I don`t know how to access them because after this first climax, I loose all desire to continue and clit is too sensitive.

I feel when I just pleasure myself inside vagina that I barely feel anything, at least nothing sexual, maybe just that desire for more and that makes me compulsively reach to my vibrator.

I`m in a relationship with a lovely man, however I am interested in women too, often I ask myself if my lack of turn on comes from dating on the wrong side, idk.

I don`t know if I just need to practice more as I never masturbated in my teens or twenties, only started when womanizers came on the market and then I had an aha moment, at first I did not even recognized that I just orgasmed, I just felt that clit was all of a sudden to sensitive.

Please don`t judge me, I know this can come across as someone that is completely weird, but I am just trying to find my way around my sexuality and why it was dormant for so long.

A suggestion.............

When you masturbate with your womanizer, start slow and gentle - - don't push yourself toward orgasm too fast. As you start to become more aroused, instead of focusing on the sexual pleasure, let your thoughts drift to your inner-self. Use the arousal to create sort of a trance, and look within yourself for deeper feelings. Use the womanizer to control the experience, rather than creating an orgasm.

 

[Oceanus]

My wife has struggled with clitoral sensitivity, her whole life. We have learned to alternate between nipple, penetrative, and gentle stimulation to hold off on orgasm. Her problem is that she has found if she delays it too long she cannot achieve orgasm. So there’s a delicate balance. I don’t have any real suggestions, but I hope you can find something that will help you be successful.

You described my wife perfectly.

 

[Loyalish1245]

You described my wife perfectly.

I’m sorry for you too.

 

[JT1999]

I would try to work up to clitoral orgasms without the toy. Maybe add in some penetration too if you can multitask well enough. Just experiment with it and see how you go, no pressure. See if it makes any difference to sensitivity afterwards, sometimes toys are a bit too much.

 

[Bigboobbabe]

I married the only man I was with. Sex was boring. If I came first, he would take too long and I would get impatient. If he came first, he didn't want to stay awake for me.

I tought myself how to cum, multiple orgasms, and squirt from watching certain porn.
Once I started to cum alone, my spouse had a different woman in bed.

You know they say you have to love yourself before you can love another? It's true of physical love, too.

I would love to mentor you.

 

[SallyIsHere]

Being sensitive after orgasm is common. When I am using a vibrator and have an orgasm, if I want to continue I put something like a washcloth over my clit to lesson the strength of the vibrations. It is easy for me to cum twice that way. Or I move to nice dildo for more indirect stimulation. Have fun experimenting. That is how we learn.

 

[SirSparky]

My ex wife could cum 2 or 3 times before her clit became too sensitive. She loved having something inside her while her clit was stimulated. Loved the feeling of being full but could only cum from clit stimulation

 

[hrdmngd2find]

Hello,

I am new here, I just start with one of the things I wanna do here. I am hoping to get some feedback, maybe someone experienced similar things and could give me tips what to do.

I am 36 years old and a professional dancer. Sexually I consider myself like a complete beginner. I had my first sex with 23 and my first orgasm with a clitoral vibrator around 30.

I am highly interested in anything sexual, however often I find myself not wanting it which is strange. I can get off touching myself but nothing too crazy, I go soft and when I wanna climax I use my womanizer and then I come within seconds. It is difficult for me to come without it, sometimes I cum with just rubbing my clit very fast.

I am dissatisfied with these kinds of orgasms though, as I feel there are more intense layers lying behind them but I don`t know how to access them because after this first climax, I loose all desire to continue and clit is too sensitive.

I feel when I just pleasure myself inside vagina that I barely feel anything, at least nothing sexual, maybe just that desire for more and that makes me compulsively reach to my vibrator.

I`m in a relationship with a lovely man, however I am interested in women too, often I ask myself if my lack of turn on comes from dating on the wrong side, idk.

I don`t know if I just need to practice more as I never masturbated in my teens or twenties, only started when womanizers came on the market and then I had an aha moment, at first I did not even recognized that I just orgasmed, I just felt that clit was all of a sudden to sensitive.

Please don`t judge me, I know this can come across as someone that is completely weird, but I am just trying to find my way around my sexuality and why it was dormant for so long.

Hello, I want to offer a couple of thoughts
a) First, you would probably benefit from omgyes.com. I am in no way connected to it, but it is done by women to promote women's sexual pleasure. I have only watched the first two seasons, or segments, and they have added more content since I checked out that resource. Some things they discussed I knew or had experienced with partners, but found it helpful how they confirmed hunches I had and packaged the information more coherently. Other things were new and much appreciated. It's for women and their partners, but one quick take-away, women can vary alot in how they are wired sexually.
b) Many women, including some of my partners, experience a hyper-sensitive clit after an orgasm. By hyper-sensitive, I mean their clit becomes so sensitive that further contact is intolerably painful. omgyes.com has a discussion about this because it can prevent a woman from thinking she can have multiple orgasms. They discuss how to keep going. I think I saw someone in this thread offering similar advice about that, namely, to avoid direct contact after an orgasm, but "keep going" with other forms of stimulation, and eventually the clit will "recover" from the hyper-sensitivity.
c) omgyes.com discusses how some women can just go from one orgasm to the next without pausing, and I have also experienced this with some partners. Woman vary from each other. There is no "right" way to be.
d) Having said that, there is a lot of science out there about the plasticity of the brain and the neural-pathways. Plasticity here refers to how your brain can change over time. If you reinforce a certain behavior or process, then that will grow stronger while other, neglected pathways attenuate or become weaker from under use. To me, that means you are in a good place to explore and experiment, strengthen neural-pathways.
d) Therefore, whether you missed out on masturbating while younger or not, there is a lot of merit in exploring your body by yourself and with a partner. It sounds like you have done some of this, but I would say, keep going. Use a mirror maybe, experiment with touching in different ways, and learn to be precise about what works and doesn't. I know I always enjoy when a woman already knows her body well. It helps for communication. There's lots of techniques out there: tapping, spanking on or around the clit or labia, different finger movements, edging, teasing, etc.
e) In my experience, and I think I read this in various places too, the g-spot stimulation can be a matter of timing. I believe it becomes more sensitized after arousal has reached a certain level. It's not a place to start off stimulation. So that is something to consider and experiment with.
f) There are more pleasure potential places inside the vagina and around the vulva to consider. Within the vagina there is AE-spot, or A-spot, up higher, up near the cervix along the front wall (and for some women it may be along the back wall), and there is the "V-spot" around the entrance to the vagina which is usually more sensitive. I have found some women who are very responsive and sensitized to simulation of their crura, the wishbone shaped tails of the clitoris, making the areas alongside their labia majora, and the crease of their inner thigh a place they love to be touched. Of course, around your anus and perineum, there is a high concentration of nerve-endings too and I know women who really like being touched around there. You can look up all these pleasure spots on the internet. I stumbled across the AE spot with one woman in the parking lot of a Denny's (long story), but this particular woman had a continous orgasm from touching that spot that went on until my forearm was burning in pain from the constant hand motion while leaning over the console.
g) Women go through many changes starting from your age and up through their 50s. I've known women who didn't have any orgasms during sex in prior relationships (during their 20s and 30s), but then exploded into multiples and extended orgasms in their 40s and 50s. Many women only had the clitoral-focused orgasms, but then experienced broader/deeper/more intense orgasms once those areas became involved. It's well-documented that women experience hormonal changes that raise their sex drive or interest in sex in different ways. It's possible those changes could also affect how they orgasm. Maybe someone has studied that. Remember, there is no ONE way women are, and there is no RIGHT way.
h) Have fun exploring!

 

[LookN2Talk]

a) First, you would probably benefit from omgyes.com.

My wife loves this organization and site. HIGHLY recommend it as well.