Analyze this please...

[IrezumiKiss]

Cuckolding implies that you're totally under her lock in love-lust, like married-style lock – and you're getting off directly on other men fucking her while you sit on the sidelines with no touchy-touchy because she told you to and you obey her.

If you're on and off with her, that's not being cuckolded. She's enjoying sex on her terms while you are too. And your particular butter gets especially churned thinking about her getting fucked and getting her O-game on.

It's just human bean sex and passion, guy. Nothing abnormal about it. Unless you seriously wanna put a ring on that finger and be hers for forevers, I wouldn't overanalyze it any. Enjoy this particular ride while it lasts, maybe later down the road you'll get with someone else more suitable for your greater whole that'll erase the need for her to be in your life.

 

[richard_daily]

you and that bloody passport

If I gave you paper cuts with it, it might get bloody.

 

[Laurel]

I think this is probably closer than chaos and certainly closer than cuckolding...

Thank you...

This is actually the single most controversial/heated topic on the story side of the site. There are roughly two camps: men who are really turned on by the anger/jealousy that seeing/imagining their mates with other men engenders, and men who are very much NOT turned on by that anger/jealousy. There's potentially a third group who are severely conflicted by the feelings their mate's "infidelity" brings them.

The cuckold/femdom/wifedom kink is an entirely separate thing altogether. While cuckold is all about the subjugation of the husband/man - the man basically passively accepting the "affair", often being completely denied sexual gratification - the "wife-watcher" kink is about the woman's dalliance being foreplay for the committed couple. She does it to turn her husband/mate on. He watches to get turned on. Afterwards, he fucks her - reestablishing his place by her side. It's not an msub thing at all. And again, it's a very common fantasy.

 

[richard_daily]

Cuckolding implies that you're totally under her lock in love-lust, like married-style lock – and you're getting off directly on other men fucking her while you sit on the sidelines with no touchy-touchy because she told you to and you obey her.

If you're on and off with her, that's not being cuckolded. She's enjoying sex on her terms while you are too. And your particular butter gets especially churned thinking about her getting fucked and getting her O-game on.

It's just human bean sex and passion, guy. Nothing abnormal about it. Unless you seriously wanna put a ring on that finger and be hers for forevers, I wouldn't overanalyze it any. Enjoy this particular ride while it lasts, maybe later down the road you'll get with someone else more suitable for your greater whole that'll erase the need for her to be in your life.

I don't know if I fully agree with that. I have cuckolded women who I wasn't in a serious relationship with. I don't think the intensity or commitment level of the relationship has that much of a bearing on it.

Like most things, there's a huge range, from casual cuckolding, to key holders, to submissive husbands or wives engaging in compersive behavior to please their partner... It runs a gamut.

 

[Laurel]

I fap on it. but only if I get all the smutty details.
if not, it's just meh.

That's interesting! Any other ladies here get turned on by the idea of their guy dallying with another woman?

 

[Laurel]

Cuckolding implies that you're totally under her lock in love-lust, like married-style lock – and you're getting off directly on other men fucking her while you sit on the sidelines with no touchy-touchy because she told you to and you obey her.

If you're on and off with her, that's not being cuckolded. She's enjoying sex on her terms while you are too. And your particular butter gets especially churned thinking about her getting fucked and getting her O-game on.

It's just human bean sex and passion, guy. Nothing abnormal about it. Unless you seriously wanna put a ring on that finger and be hers for forevers, I wouldn't overanalyze it any. Enjoy this particular ride while it lasts, maybe later down the road you'll get with someone else more suitable for your greater whole that'll erase the need for her to be in your life.

Zumi said it better than I.

 

[Curtis71]

Cuckolding implies that you're totally under her lock in love-lust, like married-style lock – and you're getting off directly on other men fucking her while you sit on the sidelines with no touchy-touchy because she told you to and you obey her.

If you're on and off with her, that's not being cuckolded. She's enjoying sex on her terms while you are too. And your particular butter gets especially churned thinking about her getting fucked and getting her O-game on.

It's just human bean sex and passion, guy. Nothing abnormal about it. Unless you seriously wanna put a ring on that finger and be hers for forevers, I wouldn't overanalyze it any. Enjoy this particular ride while it lasts, maybe later down the road you'll get with someone else more suitable for your greater whole that'll erase the need for her to be in your life.

So cuckolding is really not it... I think I can conclude that (Laurel's posts helped on that also).

Seeing her get fucked seems to be it because even reading that get mah' loins ah'stirrun....

Incidentally, I do have a very fulfilling and permanent primary relationship which is why I do need to back away, it has caused issues at home which isn't at all cool.

 

[lovetoread]

That's interesting! Any other ladies here get turned on by the idea of their guy dallying with another woman?

Nah doesn't do anything for me if it is a woman, a man on the other hand would be hot.

 

[IrezumiKiss]

I don't know if I fully agree with that. I have cuckolded women who I wasn't in a serious relationship with. I don't think the intensity or commitment level of the relationship has that much of a bearing on it.

Like most things, there's a huge range, from casual cuckolding, to key holders, to submissive husbands or wives engaging in compersive behavior to please their partner... It runs a gamut.

Mmmmm...but doesn't actual cuckolding involve true possession and command over an uncontested, dutiful significant other and denying them the treat of their body while admitting another?

Here, his imagination is filling in the gaps of what she's not telling him when she gets with other guys. I can't see any "cuckolding" going on. I mean, if we ran with his situation being under the umbrella of cuckolding, you can say that every porn star on Earth cuckolds the people who watch them fucking in order to get off.

And key parties are just another form of spouse-swapping with a lottery element attached, yes? There's no cuckolds or cuckqueans in the mix when everyone's getting something with someone else.

 

[Learnsmith]

So cuckolding is really not it... I think I can conclude that (Laurel's posts helped on that also).

Seeing her get fucked seems to be it because even reading that get mah' loins ah'stirrun....

Incidentally, I do have a very fulfilling and permanent primary relationship which is why I do need to back away, it has caused issues at home which isn't at all cool.

The spectrum is definitely a tricky one to navigate. I've played both sides of it - I've been the bull, and I've also been the one wearing the horns, so to speak. Either can be a great deal of fun, but I'm also super-not into a lot of the chastity, SPH, clean-up stuff. Some people are, and that's okay. It's about figuring out what you're comfortable with.

 

[richard_daily]

Mmmmm...but doesn't actual cuckolding involve true possession and command over an uncontested, dutiful significant other and denying them the treat of their body while admitting another?

Here, his imagination is filling in the gaps of what she's not telling him when she gets with other guys. I can't see any "cuckolding" going on. I mean, if we ran with his situation being under the umbrella of cuckolding, you can say that every porn star on Earth cuckolds the people who watch them fucking in order to get off.

And key parties are just another form of spouse-swapping with a lottery element attached, yes? There's no cuckolds or cuckqueans in the mix when everyone's getting something with someone else.

While I agree that this case isn't cuckolding, I think that there's a lot more subtlety and nuance that can be assigned to the term than you're allowing.

If he was watching from a closet, but videotaping the encounter for his own enjoyment, regardless of their power dynamics (let's say for example, he was a top or dominant), I'd consider that cuckolding.

If she was sending him text messages or pictures while fucking some other guy, I'd consider that cuckolding.

If he just was into her fucking other dudes, and didn't really care about the details, that's not really cuckolding...

Basically, I just think there's some flexibility in the term, and it's more than a married woman being a cuckqueen in front of her husband. That much I'm sure of.

 

[dolf]

While I agree that this case isn't cuckolding, I think that there's a lot more subtlety and nuance that can be assigned to the term than you're allowing.

If he was watching from a closet, but videotaping the encounter for his own enjoyment, regardless of their power dynamics (let's say for example, he was a top or dominant), I'd consider that cuckolding.

If she was sending him text messages or pictures while fucking some other guy, I'd consider that cuckolding.

If he just was into her fucking other dudes, and didn't really care about the details, that's not really cuckolding...

Basically, I just think there's some flexibility in the term, and it's more than a married woman being a cuckqueen in front of her husband. That much I'm sure of.

if the other man is wearing a Bluetooth earpiece and receiving instructions from The Man on how to give his slutty little bitch a proper seeing to, that would be the awesomest sort of cuckoldry.

 

[richard_daily]

if the other man is wearing a Bluetooth earpiece and receiving instructions from The Man on how to give his slutty little bitch a proper seeing to, that would be the awesomest sort of cuckoldry.

Bluetooth headsets are a hard limit for me.

 

[dolf]

Bluetooth headsets are a hard limit for me.

no remote fucking?

 

[richard_daily]

no remote fucking?

I'm into 2 tin cans and string.

 

[Learnsmith]

no remote fucking?

Playing the bull is one thing. Playing kind of an alpha-male douchebag is one thing. But Bluetooth earpieces are the ur-Douche - the Omega Douche, as it were. The Douche Who Ends.

 

[dolf]

Playing the bull is one thing. Playing kind of an alpha-male douchebag is one thing. But Bluetooth earpieces are the ur-Douche - the Omega Douche, as it were. The Douche Who Ends.

 

[Learnsmith]

Just saying, a man has limits

 

[richard_daily]

Just saying, a man has limits

You gotta bring your A-game to fuck with Dolf.

 

[IrezumiKiss]

While I agree that this case isn't cuckolding, I think that there's a lot more subtlety and nuance that can be assigned to the term than you're allowing.

If he was watching from a closet, but videotaping the encounter for his own enjoyment, regardless of their power dynamics (let's say for example, he was a top or dominant), I'd consider that cuckolding.

If she was sending him text messages or pictures while fucking some other guy, I'd consider that cuckolding.

If he just was into her fucking other dudes, and didn't really care about the details, that's not really cuckolding...

Basically, I just think there's some flexibility in the term, and it's more than a married woman being a cuckqueen in front of her husband. That much I'm sure of.

Your second example I agree with on the cucking. The first example feels more like voyeurism.

Then again, perhaps cuckolding is but a facet of voyeurism, overall. Looking from a distance and not touching. As I've understood the "cuckverse," it's expanded voyeurism of a sort concerning a defined relationship structure with a denial element. I guess the denial part could be anything that just gets in the way.

 

[Learnsmith]

You gotta bring your A-game to fuck with Dolf.

A-game is one thing. But Bluetooth? Really? Perhaps next I should gel my hair and begin popping my collars. Perhaps I should don a visor upside-down and backwards. Perhaps I should talk at nauseating length about my investment portfolio, possibly while crushing beers and/or pussy (Those last two, I think we can manage). Humiliation is one thing - self-respect is another.

 

[richard_daily]

Your second example I agree with on the cucking. The first example feels more like voyeurism.

Then again, perhaps cuckolding is but a facet of voyeurism, overall. Looking from a distance and not touching. As I've understood the "cuckverse," it's expanded voyeurism of a sort concerning a defined relationship structure with a denial element. I guess the denial part could be anything that just gets in the way.

Now we're in agreement. Denial and voyeurism are the key elements to the concept as I understand the concept. Watching or being watched while denying a partner the pleasure of your body, in whatever form works for the two of you. Then you throw the third person into the mix, and there are all sorts of formulas that could fall under the banner of cuckolding.

A-game is one thing. But Bluetooth? Really? Perhaps next I should gel my hair and begin popping my collars. Perhaps I should don a visor upside-down and backwards. Perhaps I should talk at nauseating length about my investment portfolio, possibly while crushing beers and/or pussy (Those last two, I think we can manage). Humiliation is one thing - self-respect is another.

Just do what the woman wants.

 

[Learnsmith]

Just do what the woman wants.

Well, that part is hard to argue.

 

[Curtis71]

While I agree that this case isn't cuckolding, I think that there's a lot more subtlety and nuance that can be assigned to the term than you're allowing.

If he was watching from a closet, but videotaping the encounter for his own enjoyment, regardless of their power dynamics (let's say for example, he was a top or dominant), I'd consider that cuckolding.

If she was sending him text messages or pictures while fucking some other guy, I'd consider that cuckolding.

If he just was into her fucking other dudes, and didn't really care about the details, that's not really cuckolding...

Basically, I just think there's some flexibility in the term, and it's more than a married woman being a cuckqueen in front of her husband. That much I'm sure of.

If I was watching it would't be from hiding and I would be apt to take over and kick his ass to the curb when I was ready.

It's more likely that I would give someone instructions and expect her to carry them out than to actually want to watch though...

Not that either of those scenarios is exactly the subject of my issue in this thread...

 

[dolf]

I think the subject of this thread should be how the three of you would sate me.