apparently backwards, anyone out there like me?

[texharley]

I love sucking cock but the chance of catching something holds me back from letting him come in my mouth. Does anyone else have this fear?

Yes, fear of catching something does hold me back. That and fear of divorce. My wife would hate me if I cought something from another woman but would be really hurt if I cought something from a guy. So my bi side is just satisfied through fantasy.

 

[Pattythebelle]

I say thought, because I finally had the opportunity to actually be with a man and suck his cock tonight. The thought of finally sucking cock was very exciting until I actually did it. No offense to anybody who likes doing it, but I didn't find the actual act of sucking cock to be in any way exciting. I didn't think it was gross, or unexciting, but I just thought it was about as interesting as sucking on somebody's finger.

I saw several good responses to this question. For this individual, I would have to say that he found the idea exciting but not the actual physical response that he was looking for. This is a prime example of sex being 80% mental. The thoughts and ideas of actually doing it carry more weight than than actually doing it. For some, it can be a beautiful and exciting experience to actually do it. I know for one, I really enjoy giving my partner the pleasure which helps to excite me too. But if you are only trying to play out a fantasy then the actual physical sensations won't be there.

Yes, fear of catching something does hold me back. That and fear of divorce. My wife would hate me if I cought something from another woman but would be really hurt if I cought something from a guy. So my bi side is just satisfied through fantasy.

This may be another unlying factor that could have caused the lack of satisfaction. It could be just a subconceous thought that could have caused this individual to not get the full enjoyment.

Greetings all,
Something I experienced was what I believe is an over-emphasis on masturbation while alone. I live alone, and most of my sex in the last couple years has been masturbation. I cum fine when I'm alone, and, when I'm not alone, it doesn't matter if my partner is a man or a woman. It seems that it's become difficult to cum with another person around. I have no problem with helping partners to cum, though.Rags

And here is also another example of why some don't always find the pleasure that one is seeking. When we masturbate, we allow our bodies to become conditioned to just a set of parameditors that help us achieve orgasim. Over time these learned parameditors become fixed and over riding when having sexual experiences with another person. The feel may not be right or the timing off but whatever the reason it could also be the reason it is not as pleasurable as we would hope for.