Are we just cursed?

[MischiefMakerAlways]

sort of in the same fix lol my bf is deployed going on almost 8 mo now. So fucking around on here is not going to help when he comes home

Just don't Jody him, please.

Nice to know I am not the only one with things lacking. It is a struggle for me to accept because I am the "happily ever after, be one with one person the rest of your life" kind of girl, but so far, I have not found that. Every relationship I have ever been in, I end up feeling alone and like I am too hard to please emotionally. Such is life, right?

I wonder about the emotional balance beam, or should I say teeter-totter? The more emotionally volatile my wife gets, the less emotional I become - I go more numb, but with an undertone of irritation. If every little thing is an emotional travesty, then nothing is; right? If someone over reacted to everything, then immediately calmed, it would be hard to keep up; right?

I'm not presuming or projecting, your comment just made me think of things from her side, but I come back to, "What would you expect?"

Why do you feel as though you're hard to emotionally please? I feel like the counterpoint to your lament, I can never please her.

 

[Boredwithtnt]

I know that I am part of my relationships problem, because I failed to step away when I saw and identified an issue fairly early into my engagement and thought...this will go away. Well it didnt, and thats my goof. I cant be mad at a cat for being a cat right? (That is a quote, not an insult btw lol.)

 

[Cheshire_cat71]

Just don't Jody him, please.


I wonder about the emotional balance beam, or should I say teeter-totter? The more emotionally volatile my wife gets, the less emotional I become - I go more numb, but with an undertone of irritation. If every little thing is an emotional travesty, then nothing is; right? If someone over reacted to everything, then immediately calmed, it would be hard to keep up; right?

I'm not presuming or projecting, your comment just made me think of things from her side, but I come back to, "What would you expect?"

Why do you feel as though you're hard to emotionally please? I feel like the counterpoint to your lament, I can never please her.

No emotion is an emotion

 

[johnwyne007]

I would mention too, that there are alot of people who are emotionally immature and are incapable of emotional connections

 

[johnwyne007]

I could Have written this same thing, only I am The wife

I’m so sorry you are in that spot. I did read your profile and it’s beautiful and refreshing to have someone who is honest and open. It’s what I am and desire myself. It’s so much a better way to live in my opinion. Allows for the ease of true bonds and connections.

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

I’m in a relationship… have been for a while now and I am a good girl by not talking to anyone in any way other than platonically staying in touch with a few people from here. Which is a change from relationships in the past, and I don’t really desire sexual talk with others but damn do I miss deeper connections. My partner and I have a good connection to a point but there’s some things lacking that leave me missing connections where I feel valued and pretty.

Anyone in a committed relationship and have similar issues of wanting to be faithful to your relationship but missing connections with like minded people??

married nearly 50 years.
That is why I'm here.
The relationship is my number one priority, but it does not encompass all aspect of my mind.

 

[LostHorizon]

I’m in a relationship… have been for a while now and I am a good girl by not talking to anyone in any way other than platonically staying in touch with a few people from here. Which is a change from relationships in the past, and I don’t really desire sexual talk with others but damn do I miss deeper connections. My partner and I have a good connection to a point but there’s some things lacking that leave me missing connections where I feel valued and pretty.

Anyone in a committed relationship and have similar issues of wanting to be faithful to your relationship but missing connections with like minded people??

Yes!