Are you gay because you were molested as a child????

[april-wine]

Must you have such a preachy attitude, e~m? Must you make such confident assertions about people you don't know? Must you establish that your word is law without knowing all the possibilities? You may be right...but you may not.

I say NOT, but unfortunately she seems to have a huge chip on her shoulder....I thought about a response to her posts,now I just think it's not worth it....


Life must be perfect in your lil boxed utopia....

 

[Ms_Lilith]

I'm not gay.

But I was abused. Twice, by two different men. Not as a child, but as an adult. I never admitted my bisexuality until I lost my virginity to rape. I had held it inside, and only came to explore it because even though I KNEW I was bi beforehand, I'd never really had "a reason" to explore it. So I started, after the first rape.

After the second rape, I immediately found solace with two women. After them, I found it with men incapable of hurting me. I went through a string of lovers so fast that day to day, I didn't know who I was with, just searching for safety.


I reiterate that I was not a child.. but I've written the above to point out that abuse fucks a person up. In the end, FOR ME, it was positive.. it helped me embrace my bisexuality, and I'm convinced I would not have met my current SO had it not been for every event in my past... but abuse.. *sigh*... I'm not an easy woman. I'm not a slut. I'm not loose. But after the abuse, I sought sexual gratification, to let me understand that it was good. I sought love, in ANY form, I sought gentleness, and people who could not hurt me... women, older lovers, shorter, less strong lovers.. people I could dominate if I felt threatened...


Minx, I don't know what's driving you here, but I would ask that you just stop pushing your point.. in your head, it might be a valid one, but everyone is different. I don't think like you, ricksayer doesn't think like you, etc. You just have to accept that we are different.. and that we all react differently to the things that happen to us.

And I reiterate what pet said: we are not victims, we are survivors.

 

[sigh]

These two paragraphs make me feel icky.

I was trying find a word to describe how I felt after reading that post, and icky is exactly right.

I'm still feeling icky, damn it.

 

[sigh]

I say NOT, but unfortunately she seems to have a huge chip on her shoulder....I thought about a response to her posts,now I just think it's not worth it....


Life must be perfect in your lil boxed utopia....

I'm not sure about the chip, hon. In fact, I think maybe she was trying to be nice, but what she said doesn't sit comfortably with me at all. I feel...insulted somehow.

 

[Bitchslapper]

I still don't understand... I need to do some more thinking. I understand the confusion and the desire to be with men ~~I understand the turn on, I was trying to imagine if it had been a woman doing it to you... but I just can't imagine it because I don't believe innately feminine women are driven by this sexual urge as men are..

I'm not sure what you're saying. Are you saying that only men can be child molestors or are you saying that feminine women can't be attracted to other women?

 

[m2m]

From the beginning of this of this thread, it was difficult for me to see what the point of E~M's posts were...it seems as though you have something important to say about yourself and you are just not saying it.

Rickayster, Pet and some others have come out and said what they think about themselves. Your posts are missing something. Please tell us more about you , if you care to share with us.

 

[april-wine]

I'm not sure about the chip, hon. In fact, I think maybe she was trying to be nice, but what she said doesn't sit comfortably with me at all. I feel...insulted somehow.

You and I, both.....

 

[Mary Hall]

I am bi and never been molested