Ask for a open marriage

[Somehowyou]

Psst...look at his other posts. There's a clear pattern of ridiculous advice in them, and he's straddling the "troll" line, from what I can tell.

Why are you so sure my advice is ridiculous? Who says your right all the time Erika? This is Literotica.com. When I look at your puritanical advice I think I am reading something from www. religioustolerance.org. I feel like I have to tell the OP to go for it just to offset the advice from all you judgmental, self-righteous, holier-than-though cock-blockers. You are all such a buzz kill.
It's always, don't have the 3-sum, the affair, see the escort etc.

On another note, People do have affairs once in awhile and they are not always a disaster. Sometimes a fling is all we needed to keep sane! Meanwhile, our lives, our families, and our bank accounts all remain in tact. Which one of you has not had an affair? Who among us is going to throw the first stone? Why if these self righteous women on this panel would want to have an affair they would tell their husband first and say honey, we are just not connecting on a existentialistic level etc. (plug in your own psycho babel here) and the cuckold wimp ass-kisser would say that's nice honey, I will watch the kids because what choice do I have?

 

[Somehowyou]

I'm thinking neurosyphilis. Probably from when he banged all those hot, "disease-free" prostitutes.

Who the fuck are you to judge? I have practiced the hobby a few times when I have had the chance and I have no regrets. What's the difference between this and you ladies saying "I think I'll get laid tonight" and making yourself available at the singles bar. It is not as easy for us guys and that is why we have to pay for it.

The hobby is only illegal in the USA and the Islamic Republics. I'm going to go out on a limb here and guess that a few of the contributors have seen an escort or two.

 

[culloden]

Which one of you has not had an affair?

Hand up. In fact, I never even cheated on any of my girlfriends before marriage. And that was never about them so much as about personal integrity.

Dude, all I object to is your seeming desire to paint everyone with the same brush. Some folks enjoy monogamy and come here looking for ideas to expand their sex life with their life partner. Other people have different reasons. The only expectations I have of others is honesty.

 

[infinity706]

Why are you so sure my advice is ridiculous? Who says your right all the time Erika? This is Literotica.com. When I look at your puritanical advice I think I am reading something from www. religioustolerance.org. I feel like I have to tell the OP to go for it just to offset the advice from all you judgmental, self-righteous, holier-than-though cock-blockers. You are all such a buzz kill.
It's always, don't have the 3-sum, the affair, see the escort etc.

On another note, People do have affairs once in awhile and they are not always a disaster. Sometimes a fling is all we needed to keep sane! Meanwhile, our lives, our families, and our bank accounts all remain in tact. Which one of you has not had an affair? Who among us is going to throw the first stone? Why if these self righteous women on this panel would want to have an affair they would tell their husband first and say honey, we are just not connecting on a existentialistic level etc. (plug in your own psycho babel here) and the cuckold wimp ass-kisser would say that's nice honey, I will watch the kids because what choice do I have?

Well, that's definately going too far. Ms Erika is clearly not puritanical. The fact that you'd make such a claim about a polyamorous dominitrix is just makes it look like you don't have a clue. Her point is that you're making rediculous statements like how everyone should totally give up on monogamy. Just try and stay away from extreme, blanket statements in the future.

 

[Somehowyou]

Well, that's definately going too far. Ms Erika is clearly not puritanical. The fact that you'd make such a claim about a polyamorous dominitrix is just makes it look like you don't have a clue. Her point is that you're making rediculous statements like how everyone should totally give up on monogamy. Just try and stay away from extreme, blanket statements in the future.

Oh yes, I remember now. She is a dominatrix that asks her husband permission before she fucks someone else or something like this. Like he can really say no.

But seriously Erika is a nice person and I am sorry if I ever offended her in any way. I just think that sometimes her advice is too conservative at times and I feel that too many people attack the OP that submits these types of threads which I find ironic (especially coming from a dominatrix-polygamist) . Therefore I like to play the devils advocate at times and other times I think that the OP should follow their instincts and have the affair, the 3-sum, seek out that experience with the escort or whatever. We are on this earth for such a short period of time. Why deprive yourself? You can do these things if you take precautions.

Please do not give up on monogamy on my account but take a realistic look at the numbers. How many of you have had affairs or cheated on your significant other? How many of your partners have had affairs? Look at the divorce rate. Have any of you been divorced? Is this don't do as I do but do as I say(eh Erika)?

I am against sex with children, sex with animals, sex against one parties will and sex while defecating on ones partner...Wait a second if it is between consenting adults a Stanley Steamer is O.K. but just not for me. This is different but I digress. Everything else is debatable and probably O.K. under certain circumstances.

 

[infinity706]

I don't remember any of our regulars bashing threesomes or escorts. Most of the advice is just to stop and plan it out in advance, so you don't run into problems. That's what the taking precautions thing is all about. Now, the affair thing is a bit different, but I've admitted to cheating with people and I haven't gotten attacked. If someone does decide on an affair, though, they should definately be taking precautions and getting std tests, condoms, or preferably, both, especially in the event they still fuck their partner they're cheating on.

 

[Somehowyou]

I don't remember any of our regulars bashing threesomes or escorts. Most of the advice is just to stop and plan it out in advance, so you don't run into problems. That's what the taking precautions thing is all about. Now, the affair thing is a bit different, but I've admitted to cheating with people and I haven't gotten attacked. If someone does decide on an affair, though, they should definately be taking precautions and getting std tests, condoms, or preferably, both, especially in the event they still fuck their partner they're cheating on.

Infinity I actually like your advice. I think it is very considerate, evenhanded and you appear to be open to new ideas. I have no quarrel with you.

 

[bi_curious6969]

We have been married 2 yrs and have been together for 7 yrs

only two months,

you haven't been married lond have ya!!

 

[bi_curious6969]

Thanks every one for your replies and input.... This is something that I do have to think long and hard about... And something I am going to talk to my hubby about. Yes I have a vibarater and yes I use it often.

 

[silverwhisper]

bi curious, i hope your conversation went well.

ed

 

[MsGoodBody]

Advice

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[iamsamtoday]

I suggest people just not get married, solves the issue.

That's what I'm telling my daughters. Don't get married. What for?????

 

[TypicalDeviant]

That's what I'm telling my daughters. Don't get married. What for?????

If you decide to live with someone long-term, marriage is one way (and perhaps the easiest way) of resolving certain issues that arise in life, such as visitation rights when one of you is in the hospital or estate issues when one dies. Additionally, there are certain tax benefits in the US to be being married (provided you file jointly).

 

[culloden]

If you decide to live with someone long-term, marriage is one way (and perhaps the easiest way) of resolving certain issues that arise in life, such as visitation rights when one of you is in the hospital or estate issues when one dies. Additionally, there are certain tax benefits in the US to be being married (provided you file jointly).

It also adds an incentive to go back to the table when things get difficult. Relationships aren't easy - marriage isn't easy - and they take work. A lot of it is simply maturation, getting over the selfishness of youth. If it's easy to walk away, then a person might not ever have top learn those lessons.

The benefits of healthy, long-term marriage are real. But both people need to be committed. In that circumstance, you have a partner who is there for you, who you can always trust to have your back. Yes, each of you has to give up something to reach that point, but I have no doubts (looking back over 24 years of being together) that marrying my wife was the best thing I've ever done.

 

[lick8your8face8]

Before you ask him about an open marriage, you should think some things through;

1. How would you feel if it wasn't the medication?
2. How would you feel if he said he has been waiting for you to ask that?
3. Is his tounge, fingers or the ability to use a toy broken? You can have sex with him without having intercourse...
4. You do realize that an open marriage works both ways, right?

We discussed it six months before acting it out, and set down rules well before we acted on ANYTHING. Honesty is the best policy.

By the way, when was the last time you gave him a blow job?

 

[subwannabe]

Good points