At what point did you recognize your kink?

[crazybbwgirl]

Your name is Toby!

*sob whimper* Kunta Kinta *SLASH!*

oh - even that makes me a bit horney! lol

 

[Richard49]

I do not see my domnes as kink
I realized I was a Dom when I was 15
but that was just an incident that gave me the word
I think I was a Dom from birth

now
I do discover new kinks each day
even though I have no one

 

[Blushing Bottom]

For those who do not know, vampire gloves are leather gloves with tiny spikes in the palm section. Being on the receiving end of a spanking while the Dom/Domme wears them is near heaven.

Vampire gloves?

 

[Cricket Song]

For those who do not know, vampire gloves are leather gloves with tiny spikes in the palm section. Being on the receiving end of a spanking while the Dom/Domme wears them is near heaven.

Hmmm, curiouser and curiouser

 

[sunnydawn]

barbies

now i dont feel so wierd. its a nice feeling to know im not the only one that was like that. although i didnt realize til i was 19 why i wasnt interested in boys like the other girls in my school. but i descovered alot about myself when i broke away from my "christian" family.

 

[FurryFury]

now i dont feel so wierd. its a nice feeling to know im not the only one that was like that. although i didnt realize til i was 19 why i wasnt interested in boys like the other girls in my school. but i descovered alot about myself when i broke away from my "christian" family.

*hugs*

Fury

 

[BeachGurl2]

Okay, I'll bite. Very interesting reading so far. I can't imagine how much sooner I would have been directly involved in BDSM if we had had the internet when I was a kid.

While I didn't have the terminology until my late 30s, I've always been submissive and have always been drawn to very dominant men. When I was a kid, I, too, did the Barbie thing, but my brothers had GI Joe dolls, and they were much more manly than Ken. Ken was a wuss. GI Joe would often beat Ken to a pulp, kidnap Barbie, and tie her up and beat her. It's probably a very good thing that they aren't anatomically correct, or I would have been much worse with them.

Then when I got into junior high, I discovered my mom's stash of historical romance novels - most of them about pirates, but many of them either Victorian or Southern. I also craved True Crime magazines. Would spend my allowance on them almost every week, then read them with the flashlight under the covers after everyone else was asleep. Then I graduated to vampire novels and still enjoy them on occasion today.

As for acting things out, as I said, I've always been drawn to very dominant men. And throughout my teens and 20s I would seek out the ones who were the most dominant in the room. I, too, ended up marrying one who was more abuser than Dom, stayed with him for 12 years, then finally escaped. It wasn't until then that I started learning more about BDSM and my place in the spectrum. My knowledge of abuse has made me much more aware of the red flags of the abuser over the Dom, although I have made a couple of errors in judgement. But I've been able to quickly rectify them because of my awareness.

 

[rosco rathbone]

There wasn't really a clear line. By age 20 or so, I had a blurry understanding that my hottest sex experiences all somehow involved coercion and aggression and unfair, one-sided sexuality. I was doing vanilla and non-self-aware kink at the same time and craving the latter. I tended to put it all off on my partners...some girls were just "sexier" than others--the ones that let me do as I pleased.

 

[ObsidianRose]

This has been fascinating reading! Thank you all so much for your posts. I've even learned a little more about myself by reading them. It's thrilling!

 

[Coy_Whisper]

I think I have known for quite some time, but am just now beginning to understand .. I'm 28. And thanks to the people on this bored, I'm also starting to accept it.

 

[boz]

Just to throw in another version of the stories,

I started out being interested in anything remotely related to sex, especially as a teenager not having any. Didn't matter whether it was kinky or not. I do remember a few stories I read, like one Harold Robinns-like novel about a woman that rose to run a fashion house or something, but a scene when she was young where she was spanked by her stepfather and had the most explosive orgasm that she had ever had. Later she was tied up and had her first intercourse experience with the same stepfather. At the time, the kinkiness didn't do anything special for me. As long as it had something to do with sex, I was interested.

At some point, maybe 15 years ago, I started getting interested in more variation, looking for more different things to try. Went through a brief swinging phase, then into bondage, then topping, and still gradually working through different spices to experience.

For me, it's not a "this is the way I'm wired" situation, but more of a "I just like a lot of different things".

 

[Dale42]

after the feminist thing.....

I had this particular thing about feeling guilty in my late 20s/early 30s about the desire to dom women. No doubt due to my living with a feminist at the time.

Now that Im 42, domming "feminists" is particularly exciting......

 

[crazybbwgirl]

I had this particular thing about feeling guilty in my late 20s/early 30s about the desire to dom women. No doubt due to my living with a feminist at the time.

Now that Im 42, domming "feminists" is particularly exciting......

It took me awhile to wrap my head around being a 'feminist' submissive. Sounds contrary at first...

 

[WriterDom]

It was around 1997. I had a spanking partner before I knew of bdsm. Also around the same time I read the Beauty series and was corrupted by the first power exchange. It was the same feeling I got when I first discovered sex in novels. Soon after I stumbled upon bdsm online. Came to lit after aol shut down their naughty story boards.

 

[WriterDom]

I wish I had a dollar for every time I heard a sub say she did kinky things with her dolls.

I had a GI Joe. I hated him until a few years ago when I sold him, one arm and all for 50 dollars on ebay. I still have two outfits I haven't even taken out of the package.

 

[Pure]

if i may ask

Originally Posted by sub38dd
//i was raped n found myself having multiple orgasms //

Swetn I don't respond to many posts - but this is my second response to this one board. I thought it this was interesting because I too was raped and it took me a long time to get over the shame of it. Not because I was raped but because I really enjoyed it. For the longest time I thought that there was something "wrong" with me for having had enjoyed it so much. I don't know if you had those same, or similar, thoughts/fears about it...
----

P: so how do you--either of you-- follow this up? (i mean aside from putting yourself in the way of an actual rape?)

i ask because many of us, myself included realized some kink in reading something or seeing a picture (when means, if it's porn it's somewhat staged--e.g., a rape). i remember reading of torture --and responding--as a teen.

what i'm getting at is that, in a way, this is a start from fantasy, whereas you're talking of a start from reality.

i'm not sure if this is clear, but...

J.

 

[jaga7337]

i was 12 when i started "exploring" my differences but of course there are things you do not tell your friends at that age,,,,i was fortunate enough to find some understanding people in my life which in ohio was supprising

 

[crazybbwgirl]

i was 12 when i started "exploring" my differences but of course there are things you do not tell your friends at that age,,,,i was fortunate enough to find some understanding people in my life which in ohio was supprising

Ohio is full of pervs...

 

[WindWarrior]

I knew early on that I was somehow "different" than the rest of my girl friends. They ooohed and awwwed over romantic movies and slow lovemaking, while I was turned on by watching movies that contained rape and torture. Pretty much from age 15 onwards, I could only orgasm during masturbation when I thought of being dominated, taken, forced, etc. Later, going out on dates and meeting men ... I just couldn't get turned on by their mannerisms, how they kissed, how they set the mood, etc. It wasn't enough for me. I needed more. I just didn't know how to find it.

Finally, I met someone who introduced me to D/S. A whole world opened up to me. My experiences with him were just exquisite. I loved every moment; I couldn't get enough. Even though the relationship didn't last, and actually ended rather badly, I'll still always remember how wonderful my sexual experiences were with him.

 

[Proudsubinatl]

Long story

Thanks

 

[TheWickedMe]

stupid

 

[Richard49]

Ohio is full of pervs...

I was there two weeks ago
for
(ready for this?)
A men's spiritual retreat

 

[crazybbwgirl]

I was there two weeks ago
for
(ready for this?)
A men's spiritual retreat

But of course, that's what we do... lure you in on false pretenses!

 

[Richard49]

But of course, that's what we do... lure you in on false pretenses!

welp I am more than ready for some perversion

 

[crazybbwgirl]

welp I am more than ready for some perversion

Well you'll just have to come back again and visit!