Bi people, serious question here....

[neonflux]

....in terms of a long-term relationship, which do you prefer? Your own sex or the opposite one? Would you consider going against your usual tendency in a special case, for a special man or woman?

Ah, well, I would have answered this quite differently a year and a half ago. I am very queer - that is where I "live." Since my early 20's (am 50 now) most of my serious relationships have been with women. So I was completely taken aback when I ended up falling in love with not only a man, but a straight man at that.

He was supposed to just be a fuck-buddy. I was clearly blindsided, LOL, but I have to admit that I have never been more in love. For the record, we have an open relationship, he accepts that I will eventually want to have a serious relationship with the right woman, and he has never expressed any interest in being part of an FMF trio. He respects that, as with my current, more casual relationships with women, this would be separate from ours.

 

[yevkassem72]

Ah, well, I would have answered this quite differently a year and a half ago. I am very queer - that is where I "live." Since my early 20's (am 50 now) most of my serious relationships have been with women. So I was completely taken aback when I ended up falling in love with not only a man, but a straight man at that.

He was supposed to just be a fuck-buddy. I was clearly blindsided, LOL, but I have to admit that I have never been more in love. For the record, we have an open relationship, he accepts that I will eventually want to have a serious relationship with the right woman, and he has never expressed any interest in being part of an FMF trio. He respects that, as with my current, more casual relationships with women, this would be separate from ours.

Interesting. Well, I wondered about this. My interest in women is never in doubt, and I am not sure whether I could be with a man long-term....but I wonder about it. My main attraction seems to be toward effeminate and androgynous, if you're speaking of same-sex interets.

What can I say?

Thanks for the responses.

 

[rusty1941]

I have been a bi male all my life. However, I feel no emotional attachment to other men whatsoever. If I see an "attractive" man in the street, I harbour no particular desire for him. I do very much enjoy M on M sessions, though anal sex holds no attraction for me at all. For an emotional contact, it can only be women for me (not much chance now at age 66 though everything still works lol). I suspect everyone is different, and I suspect that in my case at least, men are fine for fuck-buddies, but for relationships, it has to be women. Don't know if that helps, but don't worry-you're not alone! Good luck.

 

[seanthomas2200]

male or female for long lasting relationships

I like the question. I am openly and actively bisexual. I do what I do with the full knowledge and blessing from my wife of 11 years.

During that time, in fact going back eight more years, I have never had a sexual relationship with any woman other than my wife. Also, during specific that time, I've only had three male lovers, all of whom are married and have their own wives blessings and permission.

So for me, I guess everything is equal. However, the sexual relationship I have with the guys is strictly sexual; we do it because its fun, relaxing, and mutually satisfying.

 

[nighthawk289]

For a long term relationship, I would only go with a woman (I being male).

I have been a bi male all my life. However, I feel no emotional attachment to other men whatsoever. If I see an "attractive" man in the street, I harbour no particular desire for him. I do very much enjoy M on M sessions, though anal sex holds no attraction for me at all. For an emotional contact, it can only be women for me (not much chance now at age 66 though everything still works lol). I suspect everyone is different, and I suspect that in my case at least, men are fine for fuck-buddies, but for relationships, it has to be women. Don't know if that helps, but don't worry-you're not alone! Good luck.


Pretty much the same goes for me !! I'am married to a woman but I like to play with guys sometimes too!!I don't even find men attractive, have had lots of M to M experiences & MMF experiences, never got into anal though, had a rimming once that was quite exquisite indeed...I love making & eating creampies alltime fav!!!

 

[deliciously_naughty]

....in terms of a long-term relationship, which do you prefer? Your own sex or the opposite one? Would you consider going against your usual tendency in a special case, for a special man or woman?

I tend to go opposite sex for long term relationships (as in my husband0.

If he had been born in a female body, I probably still would've married him.

 

[yevkassem72]

I tend to go opposite sex for long term relationships (as in my husband0.

If he had been born in a female body, I probably still would've married him.

Cool. I like that idea. That one can have usual preferences, but still make exceptions to them.

 

[deliciously_naughty]

Cool. I like that idea. That one can have usual preferences, but still make exceptions to them.

Regardless of who I've dated, I've been attracted to the person.

My husband is a little bi-curious and we keep meaning to have a MMF threesome, but I'm always more interested in being with another woman again--I think he might be the only man on the planet to complain that his wife never want to be other guys

 

[yevkassem72]

Regardless of who I've dated, I've been attracted to the person.

My husband is a little bi-curious and we keep meaning to have a MMF threesome, but I'm always more interested in being with another woman again--I think he might be the only man on the planet to complain that his wife never want to be other guys

LOL. That is an unusual complaint.

But I like the mindset, anyway. Being new to opening up to other sexual options, the idea of a guy is still jolting, but I am trying not to rule it out for the future.

 

[rainofashes]

I don't really have a preference. I've found it harder to find truly bisexual or lesbian girls who want a relationship, so I've primarily been with men (as I am right now).

 

[bison1]

bi male

Have a 42 year relationship with a woman but used men to satisfy my urges for cock all during that time in secret.
Don't really feel comfortable with most women.

Feel comfortable with men but would not like a long term intimate relationship But they do give the relief i need.
My normal relationship with men is very mascaline but with one man for sex i like to switch and be submissive.
But thats a secret that i keep to myself.
Love my hetro life but just cain't handle that being all there is.
If i were younger again who knows????
Sometimes a small choice one makes sets ones life for ever off in a certain direction and then there's so much to lose ones fears to change ...lacks the courage to change... and settles ..compramises ..and tries to do it all.
And suffers and never reaches the total happiness that a single choice would give.
Peace of mind and soul will elude me now but i make the best and all is not lost
Living in the moment helps
Its not the lack of committement to the love of a single sex
But the love of both as if they were the same that got me on the hook