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Bi thoughts - any one else like me?

My girlfriend is bisexual and early in our relationship we were surfing porn online together. We came across a MMF threesome scene and she said to me. "I'm sorry but I just find that two men together is so hot." I consider myself straight being that I'm not interested in ever being one on one with another guy, but doing it to turn her on the other hand I think is very erotic. Since that day it's been very easy to talk open to her about any sexual wants, fantasies and desires.
 
sardog1 said:
I am 40 year old married guy who has fantasizes about bi, gay and shemale sex. When I am out on the town, I never find another guy attractive and can't stop looking at attractive woman. But when alone and horny or had a little to drink my fantasy comes out. My porn watching is almost all bi, gay,strapon or shemale. My wife and I sometimes use toys and pretend the dildo is another guy. Sometimes she will ask me to suck the dildo. She thinks I go along for her but I love the thought of it too.
Just wondering why I never look at another guy as sexual but have the thoughts I do.
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It's because our society--the tv, advertizing, parents, magazines, porn, high heels, hollywood, peer group, threats -- you name it -- conditioned us from birth to focus our arousal only upon the feminine mystique. Women are objectified in order to sell shit. Women are the biggest victims of this culture, but men run a close second.

When boys reach a certain age they realize they must suppress (sublimate) any homosexual urges they have in order to fit in with normative sexual values. For all but a very few this isn't so difficult and those few become gay.

But there is a much larger number of men who have homosexual feelings that successfully submerge them into other activities forever. Then there are men who once they develop emotionally into self-assured adults find various levels of homosexual desires resurfacing, precisely because they now have the self-esteem and maturity to face up to their real sexual identities for the first time. This can occur at any age.

Yet, because such men are already adept at heterosexuality they see no reason to abandon it for a new kind of gay monosexuality. In fact, bisexuals in general wish to transcend the stereotypes of het and gay exclusivity to a greater synthesis of the two polarities. Best of both worlds, as they say. Ironically, this self-awareness of your true sexuality often comes after you have built a heterosexual prison- a wife, family and friends who know you only for the sexually unenlightened person you were.

Sardog doesn't normally look at men sexually, only women, yet secretly he sexually desires both. It's a cultural conditioning. To find where one's sexuality really lies on the scale between totally gay and straight, one has to under take a great sexual adventure.

It might begin here online. But it can't remain virtual or you'll develop fetishes divorced from reality. Nothing wrong with that, but it's an end in and of itself. For real personal discovery you have got to go out into the real world and experience it first hand.

Until then it's all just pornography fantasy.
 
I don't look at men on the street, but if I like a guy a lot, I will then think start to think about him sexually. I don't care all that much for gay porn either but love lesbian, shemale & straight porn. I would rather have sex with a woman than a man but, that being said, I have immensely enjoyed being physically intimate with a man (by which I mean both kissing and embracing him as well as sucking his cock) and would looooove to give & receive anal from one.

So I guess I'd say that my natural 'instinct' or 'interest' (my 'default') is (more or less) straight, but I'm not bound by that and am more than happy to toss it out the window for the sake of a good time or if I really like the person.
 
lustatopia said:
It's because our society--the tv, advertizing, parents, magazines, porn, high heels, hollywood, peer group, threats -- you name it -- conditioned us from birth to focus our arousal only upon the feminine mystique. Women are objectified in order to sell shit. Women are the biggest victims of this culture, but men run a close second.

When boys reach a certain age they realize they must suppress (sublimate) any homosexual urges they have in order to fit in with normative sexual values. For all but a very few this isn't so difficult and those few become gay.
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I started a big long rant about this, but I've deleted it in favour of simply saying that I agree with you absolutely.
 
I have been going crazy to find a sexy shemale or effeminate man to have sex with. I am curious about the guys who want to be dominated or forced to dress like a woman. I would like to do that to someone but I just want to suck if I want to and be fucked if I want to not to be humiliated. I'm not judging those who do. I think a bi couple would be awesome or even two guys who would take their time and understand me.
 
I believe we are all bi. Some are too scared to admit it but I can't help but think its true. I do see guys i think man I would like some of that, whatever that means since all my experience is mostly in my mind. I did meet a crossdresser on line and had him over. He gave a great blow job and wanted me to fuck him but he was really now attractive and overweight. I have a friend that keeps hinting but I'm not sure because we work together and he talks out of school.
 
sardog1 said:
I am 40 year old married guy who has fantasizes about bi, gay and shemale sex. When I am out on the town, I never find another guy attractive and can't stop looking at attractive woman. But when alone and horny or had a little to drink my fantasy comes out. My porn watching is almost all bi, gay,strapon or shemale. My wife and I sometimes use toys and pretend the dildo is another guy. Sometimes she will ask me to suck the dildo. She thinks I go along for her but I love the thought of it too.
Just wondering why I never look at another guy as sexual but have the thoughts I do.
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I am exactly like you....I'm 40.....I love my wife and sex with my wife but I also have the same fantasies, I am not really attracted to a man either but I have the bi/gay fantasy also. My wife and I also use toys and pretend it's another man.....but my wife knows I like doing it and I know how much it turns her on. So don't feel alone there are other married men out here who have the same thoughts.
 
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