big d fantasy

[LadyJeanne]

You know, it frightens me how much you sound like my wife at times. She's also said that one of her biggest turn ons is feeling me grow and harden.

SO hijacking this thread a bit, do you other lovely ladies find this experience arousing as well?

Yes, yes, YES. I love seeing him go from soft to hard, particularly when he's in my hands or mouth. Very hot.

 

[TBKahuna123]

alternately, you could create a poll...

ed

Nah, that's your department.

 

[silverwhisper]

OK!

ed

 

[gravyboat]

She's also said that one of her biggest turn ons is feeling me grow and harden.

I know I've been told that before. Not that your question was directed at me, but I'll throw a couple pennies at it anyway

Swinging back onto topic to really just repeat what others have said. The only times I've really heard anyone talking about size....it's been guys. Despite what maybe a lot of stories on this site might say....a woman's body is only given a finite amount of space to accomodate....visitors

 

[SweetErika]

You know, it frightens me how much you sound like my wife at times.

That just means you have excellent taste in women.

She's also said that one of her biggest turn ons is feeling me grow and harden.

SO hijacking this thread a bit, do you other lovely ladies find this experience arousing as well?

I do think it's arousing, but it's also just pure fascination, curiousity, wonder, and delight. I never get tired of provoking, watching, and feeling the metamorphasis; it's like it takes on a life of its own, and I find it intoxicating.

 

[M's girl]

I'm totally with you, TBK. I'd much rather have my lover tell me he thinks my ass is hot than that it's small or whatever. If he's grabbing and squeezing and rubbing it while he's telling me, even better.

For the record, my ass is on the small to medium side, size 6 to 8 in Levi's.

Threadjack alert! Very good; we're talking ass-size instead of dick-size now. No offense taken, by the way, Kahuna, the ass was just an example and you put it into better words than me... haha. And my ass is on the medium to large side (no idea what US size that would be, pfew!) but M seems to love it anyway. Kahuna is right though... if he were to say my ass is small I would not take him (M) serious about anything anymore and would probably think he was a moron Oh well...

As well as almost everything about me is average (in my opinion) and M is not exactly Mr. Perfect Body either I do compliment him on the (physical) things I like about him all the time. And vice versa. And thát all boils down to love.. We love each other and therefor each other's bodies... with all their flaws and "inperfections"....

 

[midwestyankee]

Threadjack alert! Very good; we're talking ass-size instead of dick-size now. No offense taken, by the way, Kahuna, the ass was just an example and you put it into better words than me... haha. And my ass is on the medium to large side (no idea what US size that would be, pfew!) but M seems to love it anyway. Kahuna is right though... if he were to say my ass is small I would not take him (M) serious about anything anymore and would probably think he was a moron Oh well...

As well as almost everything about me is average (in my opinion) and M is not exactly Mr. Perfect Body either I do compliment him on the (physical) things I like about him all the time. And vice versa. And thát all boils down to love.. We love each other and therefor each other's bodies... with all their flaws and "inperfections"....

Threadjack continued

Maybe this is a good place to insert one of my favorite beliefs: the best thing about my lover's body is that it is attached to her. That's all that really matters.

 

[M's girl]

SO hijacking this thread a bit, do you other lovely ladies find this experience arousing as well?

Oh yes! Very much so! I don't know which I like better; to watch it grow or to feel it grow. I always try to make sure to experience both if I can. Only sometimes M is ahead of me .... so to speak....

 

[M's girl]

Threadjack continued

Maybe this is a good place to insert one of my favorite beliefs: the best thing about my lover's body is that it is attached to her. That's all that really matters.

Sweet. Very sweet.

 

[TBKahuna123]

That just means you have excellent taste in women.

Well, that's true.

I do think it's arousing, but it's also just pure fascination, curiousity, wonder, and delight. I never get tired of provoking, watching, and feeling the metamorphasis; it's like it takes on a life of its own, and I find it intoxicating.

Wow!

 

[Chicklet]

actually I find it an incredible turn *OFF* if a guy is excited to tell me how big his dick is... if he is talking to me online or on the phone and brags that he has a HUGE cock, I instantly think "god, what a fucking moron I'm talking to." I've never gone all the way with a guy who seemed to need his ego stroked. I'll stroke dicks, but I don't want to stroke your ego if you HAVE to have it done. I'll do it because I like you, tell you dirty things that might excite you to hear, but I just think it's dumb to want to hear how big your dick is. That's my two cents. Five maybe.

 

[TBKahuna123]

Threadjack continued

Maybe this is a good place to insert one of my favorite beliefs: the best thing about my lover's body is that it is attached to her. That's all that really matters.

OK, I think you just took my title for the sappiest thing ever said on Lit. What a great sentiment!

 

[DanHarr]

Dan, I'm curious if you've been in a relationship where your partner loves and is impressed by your cock for what it is, does, and because of who it's attached to. If not, do you think the desire to pretend would go away once you were? If so, did you believe her/their feelings and words were genuine?

Yes, I have. I'm also not insecure, in that I think that for most women, i can satisfy them as well as anyone else. thats probably cocky...

i just think id like it.

im guessing you wont like the following argument for a variety of reasons, but
in porn, the girls reaction to it (yeah, its shoddy acting, i know) and in these chick books, the guys are packing, and these books are written by and for women. also, the fact that there are women who prefer bigger. its these things, the ego boost, i dont know. i think ive upset half of you, i should shutup.

 

[chinalady]

You know, it frightens me how much you sound like my wife at times. She's also said that one of her biggest turn ons is feeling me grow and harden.

SO hijacking this thread a bit, do you other lovely ladies find this experience arousing as well?

Oh yes! Definitely! It's really amazing! I love it when I see my fiancee gets big and hard...especially when I know that *I* turned him on. We actually had a discussion about this over the weekend. My fiancee worries that he's not big enough. Frankly, it is not an issue to me because he makes me happy and that's what counts.

Chinalady

 

[Eilan]

According to my hubby, it's really neat to watch a guy LOSE an erection. Impressive display of hydraulics and all that.

It was a cop thing. Really.

 

[TBKahuna123]

Yes, I have. I'm also not insecure, in that I think that for most women, i can satisfy them as well as anyone else. thats probably cocky...

i just think id like it.

im guessing you wont like the following argument for a variety of reasons, but
in porn, the girls reaction to it (yeah, its shoddy acting, i know) and in these chick books, the guys are packing, and these books are written by and for women. also, the fact that there are women who prefer bigger. its these things, the ego boost, i dont know. i think ive upset half of you, i should shutup.

This tells me where you're coming from though. It sounds to me like you just have a porn star type fantasy. I guess there's nothig wrong with that. Yes, there are women who prefer large cocks, but I've never met one who wasn't in a porn movie. Seriously, every woman I've met has said they prefer an average or maybe slightly larger than average cock. Too big hurts unless you're used to taking it all day long.

If you are concerned about the reaction your getting though, you have to understand the type of women who frequent this forum. I think you'll find that around this particular forum there is a classy bunch of females who really like to keep it real. Porn's not real.

I think you'll find that these lovely ladies can get plenty nasty when they want to, but they like it real. Porn's fake and is responsible for more bad lovers than anything else. That's why the reaction.

 

[TBKahuna123]

According to my hubby, it's really neat to watch a guy LOSE an erection. Impressive display of hydraulics and all that.

It was a cop thing. Really.

Huh. I'm assuming that if it a cop thing, then the circumstances under which said erection was obtained was probably just brought to a screeching halt. Perhaps at gun point wiht lots of lights and noise.

 

[Eilan]

]im guessing you wont like the following argument for a variety of reasons, but in porn, the girls reaction to it (yeah, its shoddy acting, i know) and in these chick books, the guys are packing, and these books are written by and for women. also, the fact that there are women who prefer bigger. its these things, the ego boost, i dont know. i think ive upset half of you, i should shutup.

Porn actresses get paid to worship cock.

Erotica and porn (there IS a difference) generally cater to fantasy; they aren't necessarily based on the reality of sex, as TBKahuna said. I'd don't read as many Lit stories as I used to, but, frankly, the stories written by men are, in my experience, far more likely to be concerned with physical descriptions (e.g. men with large dicks and porn-goddess women). Almost any of us who try to hold ourselves up to those standards just set ourselves up for failure.

 

[Eilan]

Huh. I'm assuming that if it a cop thing, then the circumstances under which said erection was obtained was probably just brought to a screeching halt. Perhaps at gun point wiht lots of lights and noise.

Yeah. It involved two men, a blow job at a rest area off an interstate, a public indecency charge, and some guy telling his wife and kids that he got arrested for mooning someone.

 

[TBKahuna123]

I'd don't read as many Lit stories as I used to, but, frankly, the stories written by men are, in my experience, far more likely to be concerned with physical descriptions (e.g. men with large dicks and porn-goddess women). Almost any of us who try to hold ourselves up to those standards just set ourselves up for failure.

Guilty as charged, I think, though I would hope my new editor would point out such a flaw if it were present.

 

[jerseyman1963]

Just play the game

Bringing this thread back to the original question... you didn't mention whether you were in a relationship or not, so I am guessing not. This isn't something I would ask a woman to do for you on the first date, or even the first time you have sex (assuming that those are two different times!). But assuming you were with someone you knew, trusted and liked, and were reasonably sure she felt the same about you, if this is your fantasy, what's the harm in asking her to do it for you? It doesn't mean you actually think you're not endowed enough (and you didn't make it sound like you thought that either). If it's just something you want or like to hear, if your partner digs you and wants to please you, she'll do it. What's the big deal about that? It's just words.

Now, to go off thread, on the subject of a woman's ass size... best advice I ever got on topics like this was from, believe it or not, my mother. Something similar came up in conversation, like, I had responded to a woman's question about something similar by being very literal and too honest. My mother says to me, "Are you an idiot?" (You can always count on your mother to bring you down.) "Don't you know you're supposed to say what she wants to hear? She knows you're lying. She just wants to hear it. If I ask your father, 'Honey, is my ass too big?' I want him to say, 'No honey, your ass is not too big.' I know and can tell from his response he's just playing along whether it's the truth or not. But it makes me feel better because he cares enough to play along and say the right thing.'

And finally, I am with everyone else. Dick size doesn't matter. (Speaking of course from a straight man's perspective.) One of the nicest things a girlfriend ever said to me was that I had a, "Perfect penis. Not too big, not too small." I do know women who truly prefer a large one. But as the saying goes, it's not the size, it's what you can do with it.

But if it's your fantasy to hear someone coo at how large you are, what's the harm in playing a little game?

 

[Eilan]

Guilty as charged, I think, though I would hope my new editor would point out such a flaw if it were present.

Are you doing what your readers want?

 

[TBKahuna123]

Are you doing what your readers want?

That's not the point. I'm an artist!

And back on topic, I have to agree there's no harm in a little role-play now and then. I just happen to find this fantasy a bit silly. But hey, to each their own, it's not the most way out one I've heard of.

 

[Kinksville]

I don't get it. I mean I honestly don't get it? How would a woman pretend yo have a big dick and why would you want her to? I don't mean to ridicule your fantasy but this one just doesn't make sense, and has the potential to be damaging.

We've been throught he whole cock-size thing before aorund here, and one thing always rings true. WOMEN DON'T CARE! It seems that the only one's worried about how big our dicks are is us guys, which seems awfully wierd to me. I mean I've had a lot of women tell me nice and nasty things about my dick, but never how big it is, and you know what, I'm ok with that. Sure I'd like to have a horse cock just for the novelty of it, but what's the point? I'm not getting any complaints at home.

The whole fantasy thing just throws me though. If it were me and my girl started telling me how big it was, then I looked in the mirror and it wasn't, I'd get awful depressed. I guess I just don't see what you're hoping to get out of this fantasy.

I'm right with TBK. With my ex, I KNOW that I'm not the biggest she ever had. But whatever, I'm a reasonable size, she looved having me inside her, and she always said that I was just right. I wouldn't want her to pretend that I was the biggest (or the best) that she ever had.

Because basically she'd be lying to me if she pretended. It would be like faking an orgasm. I'd rather know that I didn't get her there and that she's okay with it, or that she'd like me to try something else so I can make it better for her. Ugh! I hate the thought of someone lying to me about that. It's so insidiously damaging.

I'm pretty sure she never faked it with me, and I can be sure about that because she taught me what she liked and after a while I was able to give her orgasms that left her literally unable to walk

But that wasn't because of my size or lack thereof. It was because we felt strongly for each other, she was very orgasmic, and I knew what to do with what I have (in her case at least).

I never even bring up the subject unless someone asks (more likely to happen in an online setting than elsewhere). Then I just say that I'm average.

 

[Kinksville]

To answer the original question.

I think that the fantasy might be damaging to the relationship. At the very least she'll probably think it's silly.

I think you'd have better luck saying "I like it when you tell me the things you like about my body. It gets me turned on and makes me feel good".

I think a woman who's in a relationship and likes you would be a lot more willing to go along with something like that (and will probably praise your cock in the process) than exclusively telling you, you have a big cock.