Blowjobs

[Erlikkhan]

I love blowjobs. There's nothing I enjoy more than watching a sweet young babe's lips sliding up and down my cock. The only problem is that it takes me forever to cum and sometimes she gets tired. I don't have the same problem when I'm fucking... in fact sometimes I cum too quickly. I don't think it is technique either, because I have had some terrific blowjobs. Does anyone else have this problem?

 

[Lust Engine]

I dunno if I'd call it a problem but realize that as wonderful as your girlfriend may be with a blowjob, it just might not be enough stimulation to get you off immediately. I'd enjoy them as much as possible and eventaully explain to your girlfriend that you absolutely adore your technique but you'd much rather be inside of her so you can BOTH enjoy.

 

[English_Dan]

I'm the same way. My girlfriend is great at it, and it gets me rock hard, but I'm lying there and I just know that it won't be enough to make me cum. I think part of it for me is having my shaft stimulated, because this happens when I masturbate, get a handjob or during intercourse, and I have no problems. My girlfriend hasn't made me orgasm with a blowjob from start to finish, what I've had to do is use my fingers on her, kiss her/suck her nipples and use my other hand on myself, then when I get close she finishes me off. She swallows as well, which is something very special for me.

I suppose in my case we were quite pressed for time and she never did it solidly for more than 10 minutes, so I'm not sure how long it takes. Taking into account the fact that I lasted an hour and a half during intercourse, I get the impression she might get a little bored.

Maybe if we try a 69 I'll have my mind on other things so I'll cum quicker...

 

[lovetoread]

Maybe if we try a 69 I'll have my mind on other things so I'll cum quicker...

I dunno, I tend to get distracted myself and it takes me forever to get him off that way.

 

[Guest]

I'm lying there and I just know that it won't be enough to make me cum. I think part of it for me is having my shaft stimulated, because this happens when I masturbate, get a handjob or during intercourse, and I have no problems.

Wait... so what you're saying is that you have trouble reaching climax during a blowjob because your girlfriend doesn't stimulate the shaft of your penis? ...Then why doesn't she just use her hands at the same time she's going down on you? I always just get my boyfriend's penis nice and wet with my mouth and then stroke the bottom of his shaft with my hand in time with my lips' movement around his head and the top half of his penis...

 

[Lust Engine]

Wait... so what you're saying is that you have trouble reaching climax during a blowjob because your girlfriend doesn't stimulate the shaft of your penis? ...Then why doesn't she just use her hands at the same time she's going down on you? I always just get my boyfriend's penis nice and wet with my mouth and then stroke the bottom of his shaft with my hand in time with my lips' movement around his head and the top half of his penis...

Even though this might get your boyfriend off, this technique isn't guaranteed for everyone. There's all sorts of subtleties in grip, pressure that masturbating or a woman's vagina offers. As much as we guys claim to love blowjobs... it doesn't guarantee climax for all of us.

And Tania- congrats to your boyfriend for having someone like you who CAN get him off. Lucky guy!

 

[Guest]

Even though this might get your boyfriend off, this technique isn't guaranteed for everyone. There's all sorts of subtleties in grip, pressure that masturbating or a woman's vagina offers. As much as we guys claim to love blowjobs... it doesn't guarantee climax for all of us.

And Tania- congrats to your boyfriend for having someone like you who CAN get him off. Lucky guy!

Yes, I imagined that what works for my boyfriend would not work for every single other man in the world, lol. But... if you could get off from a handjob and if 'shaft stimulation' was what you felt was lacking from your blowjob life... then it seems like it would be a simple matter of combining blowjob/handjob.

I don't know, it just baffles me that some men can't come from oral... makes me want to give it a try.

 

[English_Dan]

Well my girlfriend has small hands, sharp nails and not a massive level of grip strength. Its easy to get hurt when she's concentrating on lip work

I don't know for sure if the shaft thing is the problem, I just assumed it was as it was the only 'extra' thing I was receiving in the other forms of stimulation. She does hold my penis up with her hand, and the other hand wanders.

What just occurred to me is that maybe it's a psychological thing. I always feel a little guilty lying there and getting all the attention! When she's giving me a handjob I can do stuff to her simultaeneously, intercourse obviously is pleasureable for both of us. I also play bass, so my grip strength in both hands is above average meaning I can squeeze the hell out of my entire dick, and as my hands are large a stroke of my hand during masturbation gets the bottom of my glans as well. I've been doing it everyday for a long time, so my handjob technique is just what I need . I concentrate on her all the time, so when I'm lying there receiving it could be that I'm not relaxed enough to do the 'male pig' thing and get an ego trip. This is why I want to try a 69, something about simulateneous oral really rings my bells.

She is an absolute godsend in that she PREFERS using her mouth on me than her hand. I'm really not complaining, just a little saddened that we might not be compatible in this very bizarre, specific way.

 

[Lust Engine]

Well my girlfriend has small hands, sharp nails and not a massive level of grip strength. Its easy to get hurt when she's concentrating on lip work

I don't know for sure if the shaft thing is the problem, I just assumed it was as it was the only 'extra' thing I was receiving in the other forms of stimulation. She does hold my penis up with her hand, and the other hand wanders.

What just occurred to me is that maybe it's a psychological thing. I always feel a little guilty lying there and getting all the attention! When she's giving me a handjob I can do stuff to her simultaeneously, intercourse obviously is pleasureable for both of us. I also play bass, so my grip strength in both hands is above average meaning I can squeeze the hell out of my entire dick, and as my hands are large a stroke of my hand during masturbation gets the bottom of my glans as well. I've been doing it everyday for a long time, so my handjob technique is just what I need . I concentrate on her all the time, so when I'm lying there receiving it could be that I'm not relaxed enough to do the 'male pig' thing and get an ego trip. This is why I want to try a 69, something about simulateneous oral really rings my bells.

She is an absolute godsend in that she PREFERS using her mouth on me than her hand. I'm really not complaining, just a little saddened that we might not be compatible in this very bizarre, specific way.

I know your dilemma there all too well! Sometimes we guys just want to reciprocate as much as we like receiving. It DOES take some mental concentration to enjoy a blowjob- therefore it's not an entirely physical stimulation thing. Despite how gloriously wonderful a woman can be in lathering us with attention we just might not mentally allow ourselves that pleasure. None of us would ever say no to a good blowjob, but for some of us it's just a pre-cursor to other things that we'd like to share with our partners.

 

[Guest]

What just occurred to me is that maybe it's a psychological thing. I always feel a little guilty lying there and getting all the attention! When she's giving me a handjob I can do stuff to her simultaeneously, intercourse obviously is pleasureable for both of us. I concentrate on her all the time, so when I'm lying there receiving it could be that I'm not relaxed enough to do the 'male pig' thing and get an ego trip. This is why I want to try a 69, something about simulateneous oral really rings my bells.

Ah... I know lots of guys who feel that way. They run major guilt trips on themselves because they think they aren't pleasing their girlfriend. 69 is really wonderful for evening out those feelings but, as lovetoread said, it's easy to get distracted and I usually end up slacking on my end, LoL. I love going down on my boyfriend though... sometimes I prefer it over intercourse... the thought that I'm submitting to him and pleasing him just really turns me on . Another thing that works really well for us is just turning in any sort of position where I can still go down on him and he can finger me or massage my body... 69 is just too intense for me to keep going for an extended period of time, lol.

 

[English_Dan]

I know your dilemma there all too well! Sometimes we guys just want to reciprocate as much as we like receiving. It DOES take some mental concentration to enjoy a blowjob- therefore it's not an entirely physical stimulation thing. Despite how gloriously wonderful a woman can be in lathering us with attention we just might not mentally allow ourselves that pleasure. None of us would ever say no to a good blowjob, but for some of us it's just a pre-cursor to other things that we'd like to share with our partners.

Agreed. In the grand scheme of things she's more important to me.

 

[Erlikkhan]

My girlfriend loves to 69 and always cums hard with my cock in her mouth. She often cums just from sucking my cock if I play with her pussy. She even likes me to cum in her mouth and to swallow it. The problem for me is that I always get impatient because it takes so long so I end up fucking her instead. Not that I'm complaining, but sometimes I wish I could cum faster from a blowjob.

 

[Guest]

 

[Guest]

I like 69 as a bit of foreplay but Tania you are right it can be distracting. I prefer to eat my girls pussy ar she can give me a blow job, each of us pleasing the other one at a time. Sometimes I like it better than intercourse too. I have a passion for pleasing the person I am with. And I love to use my mouth and tongue. I think I get almost as much pleasure out of making her cum as she gets cumming.

God, I miss Chris, lol. I love 69 but I don't think I could ever orgasm from it... because I'll be concentrating on myself and then completely get lost and out of the mood as I think, "Oh wait... I'm supposed to be sucking dick right now..." I can't multi-task when it comes to that apparently, lmao. Like you, 69 is pretty much just great foreplay rather than something we do to reach climax.

I usually don't even want Chris to go down on me actually... I love to go down on him and I can usually orgasm just from being so turned on when he cums in my mouth and I swallow... but I find myself getting antsy when he's going down on me. Every now and then I lust for it but 95% of the time I just hate it. It makes me panic when I can't touch him and I don't have the upper body contact.

 

[Guest]

 

[Guest]

Tania, I love to eat pussy, give it a chance. you have a long life to get used to it and enjoy it. Just think how much you love his cock in your mouth. It is the same for me. I get so turned on when my mouth is between her legs. I think we are alot alike when it comes to that. Keep letting him eat you though. when he does grab his head and pull it in tight and enjoy it.

I keep giving it chances... you know me... 'try anything twice', LoL. I can only really think of three times in the last ten months that I have enjoyed oral though. Usually I just panic, sit up, jerk his head up, and beg him to make love to me...

I can't explain it, the panicky feeling I get. I'm one of those people that like to be constantly held and petted and coddled... and when he's between my legs and the only thing I can reach is his hair... it just upsets me because I want more of him. I want to feel him scratching and biting and bruising me... all the while kissing me softly and telling me how sweet I am and how much he loves me. When he's going down on me I feel like I lose everything... all that's left is his tongue on my clit, lol.

 

[Guest]

 

[Guest]

Not much I can say to that. I would hold you too and tell you those things if you were that passionate about me. Do what you feel comfortable with.

Oh... but I am that passionate about you... . Well, I might be if I don't hear from Chris within the next few hours, lol.

 

[Guest]