Bringing to the Lit party

[Bachlum Chaam]

I have had conversation with someone new to the scene who finds it intimidating to post in the BDSM forum. I say that no matter who posts, there is something that can be gleaned from everyone to interest us.

This lady says she has nothing to add of interest to any of us here that she cannot bring anything to our party

Any thoughts anyone? Your replies are asked for

 

[D's mariposa]

I have had conversation with someone new to the scene who finds it intimidating to post in the BDSM forum. I say that no matter who posts, there is something that can be gleaned from everyone to interest us.

This lady says she has nothing to add of interest to any of us here that she cannot bring anything to our party

Any thoughts anyone? Your replies are asked for

Everyone brings a unique perspective; that's what makes it so cool round these parts. Almost everytime I'm here I find myself going "Now that's something I never considered.." Like erotic enemas. They still don't seem all that erotic to me, but I'm starting to see why some feel that way.

 

[Daedalus77]

I can understand being intimidated because our replies are often very frank and to the point. When someone posts "How do I turn my wife into slave when she has no interest in being one" the answers get very frank.

Newcomers that are trying to feel out this whole bdsm thing usually get treated gently. We all started somewhere and brought something to the table and others helped us along. I put out my view knowing others may not agree. Maybe they will think I'm a jerk or an idiot or maybe they will gain some insight to a different world view.

 

[zipman]

I've learned from people who have been in the lifestyle for a long time and I've learned from a newbie posting a question and I had a realization while articulating my answer.

I say post away!

 

[Caitlynne]

I say post away too!

I lurked for way too many months before I got up the nerve to post in here and I missed out on a lot of very good discussions and a lot of fun!

Tell her I'm relatively new too and to come play with me in the BDSM Word Association game!

Actually, tell her to come to this very thread and say hello! That will break the ice!

~ Cait

 

[wicked woman]

Unless she's unhappy not posting I'd leave her be...nothing wrong with just reading and learning and enjoying...that's what I usually do on the BDSM forums (in fact this is my first post here). Even when I joined Lit I dabbled in posting until I became more comfortable with the players and how the various forums worked. Every one has their own comfort levels.

 

[Desdemona]

I like to see fresh blood join us. I hope she'll decide we aren't so scary after all.

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

Welcome to your friend, when she decides to de-lurk. We'll be here when she's ready. The fact that she's checking US out shows interest and willingness. I hope she finds that she's got more than that--she's got point of view as well

Looking forward to hearing from her.

~anelize

 

[le_kinklet]

Ditto to all the above,,, go for it, and Enjoy aabove all

 

[WriterDom]

I think new people here are responded to well as long as they don't show up just to stir shit or post a personal ad. And if she PMed someone of like mind, I'm sure they be kind enough to reply.

 

[Bachlum Chaam]

She has posted here but is intimidated although I see no reason for her to be that way, she is clever and there is nothing to worry about but alas she won't listen to me as we all know she should

 

[Daddyslilpet]

I think all of the advice so far is great! Can't add much more than to say, if she feels like it's the right thing for her to do then she should post. Otherwise, she's not going to feel comfy. I do hope she feels like she can post whenever she wants.

 

[Etoile]

And my first thought on seeing the thread title was "I'll bring the potato salad!"

 

[enigma nocturne]

And my first thought on seeing the thread title was "I'll bring the potato salad!"

I was thinking green chilly cheese dip with wheat thins.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

The only warning I have for a complete newbie is to not claim any knowledge beyond what they actually possess. There is nothing worse, in my opinion, than a newbie coming for advice, and being told to do something dangerous by another newbie.
Besides that, come hang out, newbie kids!!

 

[sweet T]

The only warning I have for a complete newbie is to not claim any knowledge beyond what they actually possess. There is nothing worse, in my opinion, than a newbie coming for advice, and being told to do something dangerous by another newbie.
Besides that, come hang out, newbie kids!!

I'm a newbie, of sorts. I have read in the pages for years.I only started posting here after that. I was somewhat overwhelmed by some of the threads in all Forums. Others I started out of curiosity. I'm not so witty or a scholar, but I have found a place where I can ask a question and be recieved well with feedback..I confess I have lurked and learned! If knowledge is power.. I'm getting stronger every day... Love ya A/all

 

[deezire1900]

I felt a little off my first time...but now i feel at home.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Any opinion expert one or newby one is valid and can bring a viewpoint which has not been seen yet.

I love reading opinions and thoughts of anyone so please do post as much as possible.

Francisco.

 

[deezire1900]

i am getting so close to 100.

 

[Daedalus77]

Well.... Hoping she delurks

 

[niteshade]

I missed this before, somehow. Yes, please do bring it! By all means... it seems the more new people arrive, the more interesting things we dream up!

 

[BrightFlower]

Having been a lurker myself, I think fresh insights are imperative to an honest discussion.
This particular thread has given ME the need to start posting.

Thank you

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

Having been a lurker myself, I think fresh insights are imperative to an honest discussion.
This particular thread has given ME the need to start posting.

Thank you

Hi BrightFlower, beautiful nick you have there. Welcome to the Community, glad you decided to start posting. I hope you'll check out the sticky, it's got a couple of great essays in it, as well as some valuable info. Did you know we have a wonderful Library here? It's loaded with all sorts of threads, on a myriad of BDSM topics. Feel free to browse through and find a thread that interests you, bump it up for discussion, or just read for your own pleasure. If you have any questions or comments regarding the Library, feel free to PM me.

I'm looking forward to reading your posts.

~anelize, BDSM Librarian

 

[BrightFlower]

Thanks Anelize, I have already done extensive reading in your library. I enjoy browsing through it. Thanks for taking the time to oversee it.

 

[Bachlum Chaam]

Having been a lurker myself, I think fresh insights are imperative to an honest discussion.
This particular thread has given ME the need to start posting.

Thank you

Then it appears this thread hasn't been wasted although the one it was meant for still hides too often

Glad it helped my lady