Cheated-on husbands and boyfriends who get off on it . . .

[Ed_Sumner]

Cheating is wrong and the betrayal and loss of trust can destroy a relationship. But when the couple commits to staying together and overcoming it, when the betrayal is understood and forgiven, what's left is the intense eroticism of (in my case) a woman, a wife and mother, exercising sexual agency, indulging her most primal impulses, seeking and getting satisfaction from a strong, sexually attractive man on the side. Being so consumed with lust that she's willing to risk her marriage, her family, to experience sex with that man, to get fucked by him. That's hot. I'd love to hear from other men who have had this experience and want to explore the topic.

 

[SPARTAN047]

I've heard so many cuckolding stories and cheating ones where the husband's know damn well what's going on.

I have a horrible feeling that sometimes the husband doesn't really get off on it. Some of them initiate it and want it, more power to them, but the others don't want to confront a bigger and stronger man, or they know they'll be cleaned out in the divorce, or they're actually upset and feel so helpless. They just turn that anger and desperation into eroticism even when they didn't want it.

 

[Swuq]

I've heard so many cuckolding stories and cheating ones where the husband's know damn well what's going on.

I have a horrible feeling that sometimes the husband doesn't really get off on it. Some of them initiate it and want it, more power to them, but the others don't want to confront a bigger and stronger man, or they know they'll be cleaned out in the divorce, or they're actually upset and feel so helpless. They just turn that anger and desperation into eroticism even when they didn't want it.

I get off on knowing my wife is fucking another man although she denies it.

While she goes on her trips to fuck her bf. I bring men over and them fuck me. When they are in me I imagine my wife being railed by her bf.

 

[SPARTAN047]

I get off on knowing my wife is fucking another man although she denies it.

While she goes on her trips to fuck her bf. I bring men over and them fuck me. When they are in me I imagine my wife being railed by her bf.

That's incredibly hot because you want it too.

For every husband who loves his wife being fucked by strange cocks, there are several more who don't know what she's doing or put up with it to avoid divorce.

 

[Swuq]

She has no idea I am being fucked like she is by her bf.

While giving me blow jobs she has asked if I shave my hole. I told her no. She didn’t follow up with any other questions. She was preoccupied with my cock in her throat.

 

[Yarglenurp]

She has no idea I am being fucked like she is by her bf.

While giving me blow jobs she has asked if I shave my hole. I told her no. She didn’t follow up with any other questions. She was preoccupied with my cock in her throat.

You need to take it up a notch and get her boyfriend to fuck you.

 

[Swuq]

By happen stance I met her bf that she dated before we met. I had no idea it was him until he showed up to fuck me. It was a little awkward at first but he fucked me good. We met a few more times before calling it off. His cock was about the same size as mine, 6”.

 

[Yarglenurp]

By happen stance I met her bf that she dated before we met. I had no idea it was him until he showed up to fuck me. It was a little awkward at first but he fucked me good. We met a few more times before calling it off. His cock was about the same size as mine, 6”.

Does your wife know that her boyfriend has also fucked you?

At this point, I’m not even sure if she’s trying to be secretive or just pretending for her own amusement/kinks.

 

[Swuq]

Does your wife know that her boyfriend has also fucked you?

At this point, I’m not even sure if she’s trying to be secretive or just pretending for her own amusement/kinks.

This was a bf before we dated and she doesn’t know.

I am sure she is pretending. She knows that I am aware. A little gaslighting.

 

[SPARTAN047]

Oh. Well, I suppose it's a good way to get your own back or to keep a big secret like that, since her boyfriend fucks you too and she doesn't know.

 

[Justfantasies]

When my first wife had an ongoing affair with a man in New York it would always turn me on because she had me buy her clothes for the trip and because when she got home she rode my cock while she told me what they did together.

 

[LexiSmiles92]

From the other side:

I had a brief affair and confessed. I didn't get caught and there was no suspicion but the guilt made it impossible for me to continue. After LOTS of conversations where raw emotions were justly spilt in my direction and even more apologies from my direction ... we were able to talk honestly about the "why" I behaved badly.

To the point of the post, we committed to stay together and overcome my betrayal and in the midst of our rekindling, we learned something about ourselves and what we wanted (not needed) for "us". What we discovered through our many open hearted conversations and through my bluntly, honest answers to "why" ... was that, on some strange level, we both agreed that "it was hot" that "I exercise my sexual agency" in the future. And so we have with safety measures and boundaries put in place. That all reads as being a very clinical answer ... but just trying to speak outside of the "fantasy".

In all honesty, I still can't forget the hurt in his eyes when I confessed and I don't believe that exercising my sexual agency during my betrayal was worth it. It may not be now. Me behaving badly changed us ... I'm not sure for the better. I guess time will eventually tell. There are ways that we are open now that we weren't before ... but full disclosure is not always helpful. We are sexually adventurous in ways we weren't before ... but while we try to always make sure that our adventures are about still about us and for us, he's not always as intimately involved. I enjoy the sex that I have with my husband in ways I didn't before as well as the different kind of sex that I have with other men ... but I'm analytical by nature and so I'm forever conflicted. (That's true of almost every part of my life -- it's a curse)

There's obviously a lot more that I'm not spilling ... and I'm sure some will lean towards hurling bombs in my direction. But I wanted to share from my side as honestly as I could to a topic that I had intimately experienced.

 

[PapaRomantic]

From the other side:

I had a brief affair and confessed. I didn't get caught and there was no suspicion but the guilt made it impossible for me to continue. After LOTS of conversations where raw emotions were justly spilt in my direction and even more apologies from my direction ... we were able to talk honestly about the "why" I behaved badly.

To the point of the post, we committed to stay together and overcome my betrayal and in the midst of our rekindling, we learned something about ourselves and what we wanted (not needed) for "us". What we discovered through our many open hearted conversations and through my bluntly, honest answers to "why" ... was that, on some strange level, we both agreed that "it was hot" that "I exercise my sexual agency" in the future. And so we have with safety measures and boundaries put in place. That all reads as being a very clinical answer ... but just trying to speak outside of the "fantasy".

In all honesty, I still can't forget the hurt in his eyes when I confessed and I don't believe that exercising my sexual agency during my betrayal was worth it. It may not be now. Me behaving badly changed us ... I'm not sure for the better. I guess time will eventually tell. There are ways that we are open now that we weren't before ... but full disclosure is not always helpful. We are sexually adventurous in ways we weren't before ... but while we try to always make sure that our adventures are about still about us and for us, he's not always as intimately involved. I enjoy the sex that I have with my husband in ways I didn't before as well as the different kind of sex that I have with other men ... but I'm analytical by nature and so I'm forever conflicted. (That's true of almost every part of my life -- it's a curse)

There's obviously a lot more that I'm not spilling ... and I'm sure some will lean towards hurling bombs in my direction. But I wanted to share from my side as honestly as I could to a topic that I had intimately experienced.

I for one truly appreciate your honest answer. We may be going through the same thing here.

 

[Lifestyle66]

When I come up with ideas like this, a cheating wife, and how the husband gets through it, ... I write it out into a story. I frame the story around the initial idea, then think through and try to answer my own questions.

I was into writing stories about a swinger couple, and some of the things which can happen. Then the idea came to me "What if they have "rules" about always swinging together, and the wife cheats, breaking their rule? How does that change with a swinger couple, who already have extra-marital sex? How would a swinger husband handle his wife taking a lover privately? Would they need marriage counseling?"

I wrote two stories on that idea "What Were You Thinking?" and "What Were You Thinking? - Therapy."

In thinking through such a situation, it's not necessarily the extra-marital sex which causes jealousy, angst, and emotional drama. It's the breaking of trust in the spouse which can never be recovered or repaired. Imagine promising "I'll never lie to you" to your spouse. It only takes one lie, and that word "NEVER" is unrecoverable. In the future, any promise you make has the spouse wondering "but what about that time you ...", and they can't trust you in the same way.

 

[Lustopia]

Cheating is wrong and the betrayal and loss of trust can destroy a relationship. But when the couple commits to staying together and overcoming it, when the betrayal is understood and forgiven, what's left is the intense eroticism of (in my case) a woman, a wife and mother, exercising sexual agency, indulging her most primal impulses, seeking and getting satisfaction from a strong, sexually attractive man on the side. Being so consumed with lust that she's willing to risk her marriage, her family, to experience sex with that man, to get fucked by him. That's hot. I'd love to hear from other men who have had this experience and want to explore the topic.

Not exactly your experience, but analogous: Back in the 1990's I was living with a hot petite blonde named Debbie in Austin, Texas. The sex was great, but our lives were diverging because of work travel and outside interests. Things between us became distant and strained. Then while I was away on a business trip she left me. She didn't even leave a note. A few days later a friend came over with a bottle of jack and said, "sit down Lusty, I got bad news."

"Debbie's done run off to New York City with Dave," he said. Now Dave was a good friend and well known to be the most hung guy in our circle of friends. Hell, he loved to brag about his cock size and the ladies would all giggle. More than a few of them knew from personal experience how hung and long lasting Dave really was.

I can not explain the massive sense of betrayal and outrage I felt both at Debbie and my shitty friend Dave. Turns out he had been fucking my lady for months right behind my back. They planned their getaway knowing thing would get ugly if they stayed in Austin. I was so humiliated.

Debbie and Dave married and are still together to this day. Dave and I don't talk, but Debbie and I follow each other on Facebook, even chat about our sex lives sometimes and the good old days. She assures me that Dave's cock is indeed the real McCoy. I have to confess I've masturbated a lot over the years thinking about Debbie riding his thick long dong.

 

[Justfantasies]

Not exactly your experience, but analogous: Back in the 1990's I was living with a hot petite blonde named Debbie in Austin, Texas. The sex was great, but our lives were diverging because of work travel and outside interests. Things between us became distant and strained. Then while I was away on a business trip she left me. She didn't even leave a note. A few days later a friend came over with a bottle of jack and said, "sit down Lusty, I got bad news."

"Debbie's done run off to New York City with Dave," he said. Now Dave was a good friend and well known to be the most hung guy in our circle of friends. Hell, he loved to brag about his cock size and the ladies would all giggle. More than a few of them knew from personal experience how hung and long lasting Dave really was.

I can not explain the massive sense of betrayal and outrage I felt both at Debbie and my shitty friend Dave. Turns out he had been fucking my lady for months right behind my back. They planned their getaway knowing thing would get ugly if they stayed in Austin. I was so humiliated.

Debbie and Dave married and are still together to this day. Dave and I don't talk, but Debbie and I follow each other on Facebook, even chat about our sex lives sometimes and the good old days. She assures me that Dave's cock is indeed the real McCoy. I have to confess I've masturbated a lot over the years thinking about Debbie riding his thick long dong.

Never sure why thinking about an ex with her new guy is such a turn on. I still think about someone from years ago and get turned on by the idea that she is being extremely promiscuous, which I suspect in reality she never was

 

[Yarglenurp]

Not exactly your experience, but analogous: Back in the 1990's I was living with a hot petite blonde named Debbie in Austin, Texas. The sex was great, but our lives were diverging because of work travel and outside interests. Things between us became distant and strained. Then while I was away on a business trip she left me. She didn't even leave a note. A few days later a friend came over with a bottle of jack and said, "sit down Lusty, I got bad news."

"Debbie's done run off to New York City with Dave," he said. Now Dave was a good friend and well known to be the most hung guy in our circle of friends. Hell, he loved to brag about his cock size and the ladies would all giggle. More than a few of them knew from personal experience how hung and long lasting Dave really was.

I can not explain the massive sense of betrayal and outrage I felt both at Debbie and my shitty friend Dave. Turns out he had been fucking my lady for months right behind my back. They planned their getaway knowing thing would get ugly if they stayed in Austin. I was so humiliated.

Debbie and Dave married and are still together to this day. Dave and I don't talk, but Debbie and I follow each other on Facebook, even chat about our sex lives sometimes and the good old days. She assures me that Dave's cock is indeed the real McCoy. I have to confess I've masturbated a lot over the years thinking about Debbie riding his thick long dong.

Well, fetish aside… it sounds like Debbie made the right decision for herself. Those “gone for weeks at a time” jobs are brutal on the home life.

 

[Beachsyrf]

Cheating is wrong and the betrayal and loss of trust can destroy a relationship. But when the couple commits to staying together and overcoming it, when the betrayal is understood and forgiven, what's left is the intense eroticism of (in my case) a woman, a wife and mother, exercising sexual agency, indulging her most primal impulses, seeking and getting satisfaction from a strong, sexually attractive man on the side. Being so consumed with lust that she's willing to risk her marriage, her family, to experience sex with that man, to get fucked by him. That's hot. I'd love to hear from other men who have had this experience and want to explore the topic.

I've shared and commented on my experiences, feelings and thoughts .... I have always been intrigued by the notion of "my" girlfriends (& later, wife) being sexually active and even promiscuous.

With most of the women I have had relationships with (except my first true gf & my wife) we pretty much met & hooked-up simultaneously. I mean, there were plenty of one-offs but generally, if they were single & we fucked, and It was good, I'd hang around. That is partly true because I didn't have sex with a lot of gals I wouldn't want to be with.

But I've always been fascinated with my SO's sexual past & desires. I'm not naive enough to believe that anyone's sexual curiosity and desire for variety simply ends when they decide to "be" with one particular person. Certainly I still look and imagine how this or that person would be to have sex with.

So, discussing my lovers' sexual past and ongoing fantasies has always been part of my sex life, not EVERY time, with EVERY woman, an occasional added topic. Most of my partner's that I have shared this kind of banter with, while we're fucking have been receptive or engaged in the exchange to our mutual excitement.

In the case of my, yes EX-wife, she took it to another level and not in the spirit in which it was intended .... long story, short, my wife embarked on a secret affair with our neighbor, which LED to her cheating on me. It wasn't a sexual hook-up that led to emotions getting involved; it was months of flirting and the formation of a relationship which I discovered by seeing the phone call & text history on our itemized cell phone bill.

By the time I discovered this there was no question that they were involved in a full-blown affair. We tried church-based counseling but she did not curtail the affair and we split.

I'm not sure how it would have gone if she had shared with me at the outset that she wanted to fuck him. Knowing me, as I do, I suspect I would have been ok with it, IF WE'D DISCUSSED IT.

It's fine though, we're still friendly and still do family stuff (Thanksgiving, Christmas, birthdays, etc.) with the kids. It's odd though, I never think about her having sex with him (they still see each other) and the thought of it does nothing for me. Not curiosity, not excitement, not anger. Nothing.

Happily, I am in a long term, long distance relationship with a beautiful lady who, when I met her, was going through her own separation from a "passionless" marriage. When she found out that her husband had been cheating on her, she moved out and began making up for lost time. She was fucking a lot of guys. I was lucky enough to be one of them! What's more, I knew she was having sex with other guys and I didn't mind. We would discuss it, openly.

Now, some 15 years on, even though she maintains that we are exclusive, she will occasionally indulge me and engage in the conversation of her enjoying other men which she knows gets me going and she seems to enjoy, as well.

However, if the topic comes up when we're not having sex, she plays it off and says it'll never happen. It's fine with me, either way. She travels for her job, A LOT, and, as I mentioned, is very good looking. She has plenty of opportunities and options to fuck whomever she wants.

I content myself with the knowledge that it's beyond my control and allow myself the unsubstantiated fantasy that she's getting as much side-cock as SHE wants ... and it hasn't come between us yet. After all, it's her pussy and I love her and "us".

 

[JR284]

I had always fantasized about my wife fucking other men, but I just didn't think that she would be into it. I kept my fantasy to myself. That is until the night that I found out that she had been actively cheating on me. I found texts on her phone with three different guys who she had recently hooked up with and even her posts on Craigslist and Ashley Madison looking for more. I absolutely could not believe it but was rock hard as I looked through her phone and got sent over the edge when I found the pictures. It was like a dream come true. I kept it to myself for a few months and would periodically check her phone for more. And anytime that she would text me telling me that she was going to be stuck at work later than expected I would end up jerking off the entire time figuring that she was probably fucking someone that very moment. Eventually I couldn't keep it to myself anymore and confronted her about it but made it extremely clear that I thought it was extremely hot and wanted her to continue to do it. At the time we were still dating, but I definitely ended up marrying her almost as a direct result of her cheating.

 

[Yarglenurp]

I had always fantasized about my wife fucking other men, but I just didn't think that she would be into it. I kept my fantasy to myself. That is until the night that I found out that she had been actively cheating on me. I found texts on her phone with three different guys who she had recently hooked up with and even her posts on Craigslist and Ashley Madison looking for more. I absolutely could not believe it but was rock hard as I looked through her phone and got sent over the edge when I found the pictures. It was like a dream come true. I kept it to myself for a few months and would periodically check her phone for more. And anytime that she would text me telling me that she was going to be stuck at work later than expected I would end up jerking off the entire time figuring that she was probably fucking someone that very moment. Eventually I couldn't keep it to myself anymore and confronted her about it but made it extremely clear that I thought it was extremely hot and wanted her to continue to do it. At the time we were still dating, but I definitely ended up marrying her almost as a direct result of her cheating.

How long you been married?

 

[JR284]

How long you been married?

Married only 6 years but together for almost 15

 

[Yarglenurp]

Married only 6 years but together for almost 15

Congrats! How’s the marriage these days?

 

[JR284]

Congrats! How’s the marriage these days?

As amazing as always. Still having plenty of fun.

 

[Ed_Sumner]

I had always fantasized about my wife fucking other men, but I just didn't think that she would be into it. I kept my fantasy to myself. That is until the night that I found out that she had been actively cheating on me. I found texts on her phone with three different guys who she had recently hooked up with and even her posts on Craigslist and Ashley Madison looking for more. I absolutely could not believe it but was rock hard as I looked through her phone and got sent over the edge when I found the pictures. It was like a dream come true. I kept it to myself for a few months and would periodically check her phone for more. And anytime that she would text me telling me that she was going to be stuck at work later than expected I would end up jerking off the entire time figuring that she was probably fucking someone that very moment. Eventually I couldn't keep it to myself anymore and confronted her about it but made it extremely clear that I thought it was extremely hot and wanted her to continue to do it. At the time we were still dating, but I definitely ended up marrying her almost as a direct result of her cheating.

Hot! Do you have a specific understanding now as to whether she can make the decision to fuck another man on her own, with no advance notice to you, or is it now a shared, openly made decision?

 

[Justfantasies]

Hot! Do you have a specific understanding now as to whether she can make the decision to fuck another man on her own, with no advance notice to you, or is it now a shared, openly made decision?

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