Cheated-on husbands and boyfriends

[Kolejdayz]

Years ago my wife accused me of cheating because an ex and I had texted and DM’d, on my part there was zero emotional connection and because we lived in different time zones there was definitely no physical connection, just chatting.
My wife couldn’t get over it, we went to counseling and I eventually got to the point where I told the counselor that maybe she should “get even with me” by cheating or sleeping with someone else. It got to the point that I literally didn’t care! Make it make sense”even” then let’s move on together.
That was the first time I knew I could handle her fucking someone else and I would be okay with it.
I know it sounds fucked up but that’s the truth

Did she do it?

 

[Cardinal]

Did she do it?

No she didn’t but the counselor said that me wanting her to “even the score” so to speak is a common feeling for men who have been caught cheating, even though I didn’t cheat

 

[Beachsyrf]

No she didn’t but the counselor said that me wanting her to “even the score” so to speak is a common feeling for men who have been caught cheating, even though I didn’t cheat

Sounds like the incessant nagging and (FALSE) accusations, not to mention being dragged through "counseling" sessions, would be enough to kill any romance that remained ... much easier to go your own ways. I did after my wife cheated on me with our neighbor.

 

[gtnlynn]

My wife and I started dating in high school. We went to different colleges, and I only saw her once or twice a month so she was free to date others. After we married, she confessed that she had been a real slut before we became engaged, having regular sex with other guys in college. I would have been devastated if I had known about it at the time, but when she told me, I was turned on and loved to hear her stories as we fucked. In our 30's, I gave her permission to have sex with others, and she did a few times. It was with my permission, and she told me all about it. She could only have sex with each man one time, and she obeyed that restriction. She stopped all "outside activity" when she turned 40.

 

[Nellie60]

My wife and I started dating in high school. We went to different colleges, and I only saw her once or twice a month so she was free to date others. After we married, she confessed that she had been a real slut before we became engaged, having regular sex with other guys in college. I would have been devastated if I had known about it at the time, but when she told me, I was turned on and loved to hear her stories as we fucked. In our 30's, I gave her permission to have sex with others, and she did a few times. It was with my permission, and she told me all about it. She could only have sex with each man one time, and she obeyed that restriction. She stopped all "outside activity" when she turned 40.

Well organised and stress free understanding!

 

[gtnlynn]

Well organised and stress free understanding!

It worked for us.

 

[Silvergrizzly31]

My wife and I started dating in high school. We went to different colleges, and I only saw her once or twice a month so she was free to date others. After we married, she confessed that she had been a real slut before we became engaged, having regular sex with other guys in college. I would have been devastated if I had known about it at the time, but when she told me, I was turned on and loved to hear her stories as we fucked. In our 30's, I gave her permission to have sex with others, and she did a few times. It was with my permission, and she told me all about it. She could only have sex with each man one time, and she obeyed that restriction. She stopped all "outside activity" when she turned

I love hearing how couples turn something potentially relationship breaking and make it a strength. I am curious with the "sex one time" part. Was it one orgasm or one "time" meaning if he isn't a one and done, multiple times with wifey? What do you think shifted in you about the timing of hearing her activities?

 

[gtnlynn]

I love hearing how couples turn something potentially relationship breaking and make it a strength. I am curious with the "sex one time" part. Was it one orgasm or one "time" meaning if he isn't a one and done, multiple times with wifey? What do you think shifted in you about the timing of hearing her activities?

"One time" meant one date. Multiple sex acts on that date were fine. I was terribly jealous when she was dating others in college. I found hickeys on her tits and other signs she was having sex, but she promised me she was not. I'm glad I didn't know for sure. Once she was mine, I was no longer jealous. I was not afraid of losing her. She convinced me that her sex in college was just a physical thing and if her partner wanted a romantic relationship, she dumped him. I talked to a couple of them, and they confirmed her story.

 

[Nellie60]

"One time" meant one date. Multiple sex acts on that date were fine. I was terribly jealous when she was dating others in college. I found hickeys on her tits and other signs she was having sex, but she promised me she was not. I'm glad I didn't know for sure. Once she was mine, I was no longer jealous. I was not afraid of losing her. She convinced me that her sex in college was just a physical thing and if her partner wanted a romantic relationship, she dumped him. I talked to a couple of them, and they confirmed her story.

As I guy I am quite happy to just make out with her without sex if she didn't want at that moment. I honestly would be just as happy with some hand action. I enjoy the intimacy of it all even if it doesn't led to a full romantic relationship. If she wants sex, OK let's do it

 

[gtnlynn]

As I guy I am quite happy to just make out with her without sex if she didn't want at that moment. I honestly would be just as happy with some hand action. I enjoy the intimacy of it all even if it doesn't led to a full romantic relationship. If she wants sex, OK let's do it

I think she had a few of those situations. I know she was fingered in bars a couple of times, and I think she gave at least one hand job to a guy.