Cock Talk

[hotwords229_A]

It’s all in the behind.

After a relationship has ended, how honest are you with the forensic audit of what went wrong?
Who would you say was at fault more times than not in your past relationships falling apart?
On average, have you remained friends with, or at least civil with, your past flings?
Do you try not to make the same mistakes picking a partner or are you a recidivist bad relationship participant?
What is the biggest thing you learned about yourself that you did wrong in past relationships that you have fixed about yourself moving forward?
Have you ever rekindled a failed relationship? How did that go?
Why do you think some people have a better relationship with each after they break up?
If you could say one random thing to a past partner, what would it be?

 

[MischiefMakerAlways]

It’s all in the behind.

After a relationship has ended, how honest are you with the forensic audit of what went wrong?

I feel like I'm pretty good about it. I don't have an ego that prevents me from acknowledging my own fault or contribution to a relationship's end.

Who would you say was at fault more times than not in your past relationships falling apart?

Really hard to quantity that due to lack of data points and relative youthfulness during them. Mostly, we were just not good matches. One failure was primarily my fault and it haunts me to this day.

On average, have you remained friends with, or at least civil with, your past flings?

Yep, where it was logical.

Do you try not to make the same mistakes picking a partner or are you a recidivist bad relationship participant?

See question #2

What is the biggest thing you learned about yourself that you did wrong in past relationships that you have fixed about yourself moving forward?

Boldness, openness. I lacked both. If I can't be honest with my partner, we're doomed.

Have you ever rekindled a failed relationship? How did that go?

One went very well. Extremely emotional.
The other one is not what it was, but something is better than nothing.

Why do you think some people have a better relationship with each after they break up?

Because sharing all of life with a person isn't always best due to personality differences.

If you could say one random thing to a past partner, what would it be?

I'm sorry. I'm sorry how it all went, I'm sorry for my youthful ignorance and foolishness. I'm sorry I didn't know who I was then. But, I'm glad we keep in touch now, after almost 2 decades of silence. I want nothing the best for you, and I hope you event reach that.

 

[Endless_Night]

After a relationship has ended, how honest are you with the forensic audit of what went wrong?
Pretty honest. I am my own worst critic.

Who would you say was at fault more times than not in your past relationships falling apart?
That is a tough one. I am difficult to deal with, which is something I'm very upfront about. No one ever believes me, which has the tendency to lead to a certain amount of chaos.

On average, have you remained friends with, or at least civil with, your past flings?
Nope. I always wonder how people manage that type of thing.

Do you try not to make the same mistakes picking a partner or are you a recidivist bad relationship participant?
I've been thinking on this lately and recidivism leans in certain areas.

What is the biggest thing you learned about yourself that you did wrong in past relationships that you have fixed about yourself moving forward?
I need honesty, transparency, and steady communication. Anything resembling duplicity is guaranteed to spike my temper.

I wouldn't necessarily say that it's something I've done wrong, but I've come to realize that my boundaries in that area are unusually rigid. I've learned to be more careful as far as vetting other peoples' standards before becoming involved to any degree./

Have you ever rekindled a failed relationship? How did that go?
Yes, but as a friendship. Let's call it a miserable failure.

Why do you think some people have a better relationship with each after they break up?
Presumably they are better as friends than lovers?

If you could say one random thing to a past partner, what would it be?
I clear that type of thing out once the relationship I've finished the post mortem and reached closure. Make whatever apologies I feel are due. It's important to me to take responsibility for my actions and I like definitive endings.

The only downside is that sometimes the other party wants to think you are apologizing for everything that went wrong.