"Coming out" to a 9 year old.

[playwithlezli]

Something I'll add, from the point of view of a primary school teacher.

Children, even those as old as 9 or 10, often have few preconceptions regarding what is normal and 'abnormal'.

Sadly, people like neo here, believe that we are abnormal.

The idea of starting from thenpoint of view that you are in love is the best way. Simply that 'mummies and daddies love each other' and that sometimes, daddies and daddies, and mummies and mummies love each other too.

A child should have little difficulty in grasping the idea of two people loving each other.

I'm glad its working out for you

Thanks Heaven for your informed input, we had noticed that it didn't faze him in the least, two women together.

Last night he decided I could take him to school in the morning as his mom has to go to work early for the next week or so. He said he would try me, then get up early the next day and go with his mom. Then he would choose who to ride with, once he had tried both and saw what he liked better. I thought that was very good reasoning for a 9 year old. Heck, I know adults that wouldn;t have come up with that line of thought!

So this morning went off without a hitch. He even made me laugh when he came through with a collection of spit bubbles on his chin!

 

[naughtyinsilk]

lezli, glad to hear its going well, children being brought up in a happy and loving environment is the important thing, the sexuality of the people bringing them up isnt important. Children with happy parents and guardians, recognise that happiness and are quite open about accepting it, and often its the so called adults who could learn a thing or two from their attitudes.

Its people with the bigotted opinions of folk like Neocon that shouldnt be allowed to bring up kids. All their attitudes do is poison childrens minds and screw them up emotionally.

 

[Anniejustagirl]

make a child feel loved and wanted and secure and you have a happy child.

Brilliant addition!

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Children, even those as old as 9 or 10, often have few preconceptions regarding what is normal and 'abnormal'.

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The idea of starting from the point of view that you are in love is the best way. Simply that 'mummies and daddies love each other' and that sometimes, daddies and daddies, and mummies and mummies love each other too.

I've found this to be true as well. My granddaughter is 7 and is certain that it's the most natural thing in the world that her Grammie is in love with P. She loves having another grandma in the family. I also agree with love as the starting point. If more discussions started from love we wouldn't have so many close-minded people around. They just don't have enough love in their lives... my humble opinion only.

Lez.... so glad this is going so well. He sounds like an intelligent and fun kid. Which means your in for a fun ride! *eg* Good luck and continued success! Much love to you and C!

 

[playwithlezli]

Well, I know one thing for sure, without lit, I woudl still be on this path, but I would be stumbling rather than sailing!

My gel adn I went to a lesbian support group the other night, and in I was saying how much I loved C, how comfortable and right it was, how I felt "at home".

I have never, not even when I was married, said I loved someone in front of anyone else before!

 

[naughtyinsilk]

Well, I know one thing for sure, without lit, I woudl still be on this path, but I would be stumbling rather than sailing!

My gel adn I went to a lesbian support group the other night, and in I was saying how much I loved C, how comfortable and right it was, how I felt "at home".

I have never, not even when I was married, said I loved someone in front of anyone else before!

Its sad you never felt you could say that before, but damn excellent that you feel you can now. May you grow old together, stealing each others slippers and holding hands, watching the child grow up happily, and finding there own way on the path of love.

 

[playwithlezli]

Its sad you never felt you could say that before, but damn excellent that you feel you can now. May you grow old together, stealing each others slippers and holding hands, watching the child grow up happily, and finding there own way on the path of love.

ahhhh, (blush) thanks!

 

[Wolfman1982]

playwithlezli: you need a big smile from me and a little hug, since this sounds so wonderful, that I can´t help it, but smile