Couldn't get the sucka up

[lacokanostra]

Kay well the other night first time tryna go for the full 9 yards, and i couldn't seem to get it up in full effect.... I mean there should be no reason why i couldn't, i was turned on so much. Just it wouldn't get the hardest it could, resaulting in it coming out every now and then...and i'm not circumsized, and the skin peels back sometimes, that's compleatly normal right? even though it's supppper suppperr sensetive.....

 

[M's girl]

Try not to worry too much. I'm not a man, but from what I understand this is not an uncommon thing to happen, especially during first time (PIV) sex. Because after all... sex is not only performed with your penis, but with your whole body, mind and soul (well.... that's how it's supposed to be anyway - in my book).

I'm sure men will barge in here and give you their reassurance. Also, check out the blank manual (sticky on top in How To). I know more has been written about this and the Blank Manual features all threads that are worth reading catagorized.

 

[Let_it_come]

A first time is just a first time - I like to think that they're just practice runs... The first time you rode a bike was similar.
You'll get there - take your time, talk a lot, keep on trying & you'll get further & further - 9 yards, 10 yards, 15 yards!
jenny

 

[phoenix1224]

I'm sure men will barge in here and give you their reassurance.

Yes we will.

It is very common for us guys to have performance issues... The first time (or first few or more) we ever attempt to engage in sex, the first time with a new partner (no matter how experienced we are), because of fatique, because of stress, because of nerves, because of alcohol and/or drugs, etc., etc., etc.

Despite how the media portrays us men, we can't always get it up and perform at will (even if we're extremely mentally turned on)... Just about anything can prevent the "little soldier" from "saluting".

So, don't worry about it (that's actually the WORSE thing that you can do)... Sex (just like life) should be about the journey... NEVER the destination.

 

[Straight-8]

First time jitters. Don't worry about it! And the peeling part is fine too. My advice: practice practice practice....

 

[Moxon4]

First time jitters. Don't worry about it! And the peeling part is fine too. My advice: practice practice practice....

Totally agree with this, especially for your first time it's new and it takes some practice before you and your girl can really have a good time. Just try some new things as to what you both enjoy and things will be great

 

[Chicklet]

Lacok, this has happened to guys I've been with. Maybe they could get it up, but it just simply wasn't as hard as normal, no matter what we did. And yes, it results in a poor PIV sexual experience. Slippy slippy.

Since I'm not a guy, I can't give you many reassurances there. I can tell you that it's just as frustrating for the women you're with, because frankly sometimes it makes me feel like I'm not turning the guy on as much as usual when he can't get hard. It's like physical proof of my ability to arouse, know what I mean?

Some things you could do if this happens again... Go down on her. Don't worry about yourself so much, just try to get her off. Maybe that'll even help the problem.

If this becomes a regular occurance, maybe you could look into getting some medication like Viagra for it.

But it's definitely not a huge deal every once in a while. It happens to even the youngest, most experienced, virile men