i have 9 kids ~smile~ yeah.. not sure if i'm a saint or crazy ~smile~ each of my kids have "common names" BUT my husband decided that two of the boys would have unique spellings... one is Aleksandr.. he's 18 and just starting his career as a professional dancer (yeah me!! 14 years of dance classes are finally paying off!!) He plans on going by his nickname Sandr... my 9yo's name is pietr (pronounced peter).... he LIKES the unique spelling.. we have used it as a "code" so that if someone he doesn't know has to pick him up (nevers happened) all he has to do is ask them to spell his name.. if they dont know how to spell it he will refuse to go with them !! When people start to spell his name the "traditional" way.. He rolls his eyes at them and says with a smile on his face and in his voice "dont you know HOW to spell my name.... it's EASY!!"
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My parents weren't too happy about it, but we've always had a pretty bad relationship anyway. I thought it was totally hypocritical of my mother to complain about my name change, because she did the exact same thing when she left home. In her case, she thought her name was too "ethnic" and wanted a more American-sounding name.
The whole idea of Being Unique is a concept created by adults for adults. Children are primal, and for them, fitting in and being like everybody else is the default position. If a child should decide to be "different," that of course is an option, and a sign of a maturing mind. But no child should be forced into that position before they're ready.
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Coming from someone who had the same name as SEVEN OTHER girls (in my grade, there were a big handful more in my entire school) an ordinary name is NOT the best gift a parent can give their child.
'Megan' is such a common name in this area, I often hear it called in my local stores, etc, and turn around thinking someone is looking for me, only to find yet another girl with my name being hollered for.
Personally, I'm quite sick of it. It's a pretty name and very attractive, but ridiculously common in these parts.
My husband's name is practically unpronounceable by Americans, so his "Americanized" name is Vince. Not too common, not too unusual.
We're naming our daughter Brooklyn.
In junior high, there were so many girls in my grade with the same first name as me that a couple of wiseass boys gave us all nicknames. Mine stuck (I encouraged it, because I liked it better than my real name); my ex-husband's family still calls me by it, and I use it as my pen name for the young adult fantasy I write. My partner refuses to call me by the nickname, though, because he used to date a woman with that name.
I think my younger daughter has had someone with the same first name in her class at least three years out of the six she's been in school so far, and there's always been at least one other person with the same name in her grade. I don't think my older daughter's ever had anyone with the same first name in her grade, but we know several adult women with her name. The older one has been going through a phase for the past three or four years where she changes her name every few months just because she likes making up new names. One year, she even persuaded her teachers to use one of the new names, until she got bored with it.
I think my younger daughter has had someone with the same first name in her class at least three years out of the six she's been in school so far, and there's always been at least one other person with the same name in her grade. I don't think my older daughter's ever had anyone with the same first name in her grade, but we know several adult women with her name. The older one has been going through a phase for the past three or four years where she changes her name every few months just because she likes making up new names. One year, she even persuaded her teachers to use one of the new names, until she got bored with it.
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satindesire, i don't believe i was aware until now that you're expecting--congratulations!
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Ooh, thank you baby!! *hugs!*
Thanks Ed! Yes, I'm seven and a half month along now. We've been trying to get pregnant for about two years, this is our first baby.
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two years?! goodness, i'm really glad for you two!
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Yeah, it was a bit of a miracle really, after I was diagnosed to be clinically infertile. We suspected something was wrong after a year with frequent unprotected sex and still nothing.
A surgery I unfortunately had no choice but to undergo had one of my ovaries removed, and that according to my doctor, was the one ovary I was actually ovulating from. The other was...pretty much there for looks, I guess? Doc said it might "pick up the slack" because my body would sense the change and I might start ovulating again, but he said there was a less than 5% chance of that happening.
The fact that I'm going to actually have a baby of my own, that's really mine and my husband's genes, is pretty amazing. To me, it's hard not to believe this is a huge blessing from God.
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megan, that's absolutely wonderful! you guys must be so excited--and overwhelmed! :>
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Yes, and yes! The last seven months have gone by way too fast.
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i've heard that happens. :>
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honestly, my name's a fairly nondescript one. and i am grateful for this on a daily basis when i don't have to spell my name for someone. :>
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My best friend once worked with a woman named her two sons Orangejello and Lemonjello. I'm not making this up and, yes, that is the correct spelling. But, what takes the cake is the other woman she worked with who named her little girl Shithead (pronounced Shi-theed). Honestly, how much must you hate your children to do something like that?
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Holy Hell! That is some messed up parenting. You know, I don't care if you are a neo-Nazi freak but for the love of God, can you imagine what those kids are going to go through when they reach 8th grade history and finally start the chapters on WWII?
Also, you've got to love the father's comments about how "Sure, Nazis were bad back then, but my kids aren't growing up like that."
Yeah, sure man. We'll see how well your son reacts when some Jewish kid who's grandparents died in the camps or the like pelts him with eggs and he slowly starts plotting revenge for his injustice.
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yeah, i gotta say, i'm generally very reluctant to criticize someone's parenting--esp because i'm not myself a parent--but i feel that i'm on some pretty solid ground when i say that's a case of epic parenting failure.
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I don't believe you. Protip: If you're going to claim an urban legend is true, at least use one that's not immediately obvious to anybody who Googles it.
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I don't care if you believe me or not. This was told me as a fact, not as an urban legend, by someone whom I know to be trustworthy. And at that, you can Goggle just about anything and come up with an answer to suit whatever belief you have.
Either way, to the best of my knowledge, in this case it's the truth.
Seems so. I've come across the Orangejello/Lemonjello one a lot of times before, why I recognised it.
Come on. Maybe your friend honestly believed the woman she worked with or maybe she was pulling your leg, but you seriously believe that because your friend told you so there's no chance of it being fake? It's an urban legend, like the one about you can tell how a soldier who's been given a statue died by the number of legs the horse he's riding on has raised.
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Of course there's a chance, which is why I said "to the best of my knowledge" in my previous post. And, I will openly admit this was some years ago in another state. That being said, even if it is a rouse and I'm some kind of gullible rube, there's not need to come off so condescending about it.
Yeah, but what can you do?
On the topic the thread was originally started for, anybody else encounter kids with very "ethnic" names not of that ethnicity? To illustrate, I've met a black guy named Dieter (I think one of his parents was German, but there aren't many names more Aryan than Dieter), and today also encountered somebody whiter than I am named Rashad Jones.
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I'm not sure what happened with the little boy named Adolf Hitler, but he and his sisters were removed from the home in January by NJ's DCS.
So, maybe he'll be renamed and get new, saner parents or something.
I don't think any child should have to grow up in a home with that much hatred and have so much hatred directed toward them because their biological parents were racist nutjobs.
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The strangest to me so far was a very short seemingly simple name. Le-a.......until they were INFORMED by the mother that the dash is NOT silent. The child is called "Ledasha"!
Ok, I thought I'd seen everydamnthing in my job, but that one WINS.
I named my son after his dad, except that I switched the first and middle name out. The result is a very well known writer, well established in the literary canon, who neither my son nor his dad have read or are likely to (Think: Turn of the Screw, the Aspern Papers.) I figured that way, he had good solid normal family names...with a nice literary ring to them.
I don't see much wrong with either Persephone or Elektra, although most people don't know how to say Persephone and will have to be told, but both together are overkill. I imagine a lot of people, upon hearing "Elektra," will think "Carmen" before they think of "Elektra complex."
When I was coming up, I did not like my name, and wished my name were Sylvia, which seemed glamorous and mysterious. It was probably just as well I got over that, considering the last name of my present (almost 30 years) husband. The two names combined...it would have been less trouble to convert, than to have to explain to one and all that I am not Jewish.
Ok, I thought I'd seen everydamnthing in my job, but that one WINS.
I named my son after his dad, except that I switched the first and middle name out. The result is a very well known writer, well established in the literary canon, who neither my son nor his dad have read or are likely to (Think: Turn of the Screw, the Aspern Papers.) I figured that way, he had good solid normal family names...with a nice literary ring to them.
I don't see much wrong with either Persephone or Elektra, although most people don't know how to say Persephone and will have to be told, but both together are overkill. I imagine a lot of people, upon hearing "Elektra," will think "Carmen" before they think of "Elektra complex."
When I was coming up, I did not like my name, and wished my name were Sylvia, which seemed glamorous and mysterious. It was probably just as well I got over that, considering the last name of my present (almost 30 years) husband. The two names combined...it would have been less trouble to convert, than to have to explain to one and all that I am not Jewish.
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