Cum for the first time with a man

[janesmithanon]

I'm nearly 29 years old and a virgin. I've chatted with many a man here about fun fantasies and role play. I can make myself cum easily, and I have toys to help me along the way. I watch lots of porn, and I often find my mind drifting to sex throughout the day. I have a very sensual nature about me as well, and the smallest touch or just someone's voice can turn me on. I've heard many people jokingly (or maybe they're serious) say that once you've gotten used to the ways in which you please yourself, it might be difficult to cum with someone else. Any advice or feedback?

 

[Que]

youll be fine...an orgasm is an orgasm..if you can have one you can have one...you know what you like and if you can avoid being shy about expressing that its good to give your partner a roadmap (unless you want to go the whole tied to a bed blindfolded and gagged, try-and-find-my-erogenous-zones route...but that can be fun too.)

reminds me of when i was feeling guilty about my masturbatory practices....(i didnt lose my virginity until 26 on my wedding night)..anyway I talked to a church leader about it and as an inducement to encourage me to refrain he advixed me that excessive masturbation can lead to basically premature ejaculation...although he didnt use the term...

in practice, I am pretty anaorgasmic but that was a chemical side effect of years of abuse by the pharmaceutical industry and their cozy relationships with doctors. I was on SSRI (Prozac in this case) and was afraid of what would happen if I went off it (nothing, i felt better off it...) now i think its an age thing but can get there now given some fairly reasonable stimuli...

 

[CandiCame]

Really wish I knew how to help, but I don't, so I just wanna lend support.

 

[bigReadingMan]

I'm nearly 29 years old and a virgin. I've chatted with many a man here about fun fantasies and role play. I can make myself cum easily, and I have toys to help me along the way. I watch lots of porn, and I often find my mind drifting to sex throughout the day. I have a very sensual nature about me as well, and the smallest touch or just someone's voice can turn me on. I've heard many people jokingly (or maybe they're serious) say that once you've gotten used to the ways in which you please yourself, it might be difficult to cum with someone else. Any advice or feedback?

Just enjoy what your own mind can do you. If your lover can't please you the way you can yourself, that's ok, very few of us can predict what will make the other cum, at least once the honeymoon is over.

 

[SweetErika]

Just enjoy what your own mind can do you. If your lover can't please you the way you can yourself, that's ok, very few of us can predict what will make the other cum, at least once the honeymoon is over.

Hopefully no predictions will be necessary because Jane will communicate her wealth of knowledge about what makes her tick to her partner(s).

As long as you're willing to communicate/give feedback, your partner is open to listening and responding to said information and you don't let your head get in the way (e.g., by creating anxiety, being closed to fantasizing while you're with a partner, getting too focused on orgasming or having unrealistic expectations, etc.), you'll be just fine, Jane. So, make sure your partner is receptive, relax, communicate, do what works for you, and enjoy the journey of exploring with someone you like!

 

[janesmithanon]

Valid points. I appreciate the discussion. Although I don't personally think I'll have a problem, a conversation with someone earlier today that made me think about a few different things. I have no doubt that I'll be multiply orgasmic once another person steps into the picture.

 

[badman1985]

girl i am rooting for ya, some good guy from cali needs to step up cause she is a foxy lady. she only goes for smart guys with big dicks.

 

[badman1985]

can't wait to hear about your first time, o man some lucky man out there is gonna go crazy inside you. i have a feeling you are gonna leave him a bit swollen afterwards

 

[janesmithanon]

lol Badman1985, you are indeed a very bad boy. I'm going to live up to your expectations. And follow all of your advice...

 

[nfrrdscnnr1]

need to know

You need to know that the guy you select is going to be a VERY lucky fella. Just keep that in mind.

 

[ClassyLatin4u]

You need to know that the guy you select is going to be a VERY lucky fella. Just keep that in mind.

I will second that! AGREED!!! You're also (hopefully) at an advantage since you're past the 16-22 age range where a lot of guys cum really fast. Find one who works out a lot and can control his breathing....and you'll have a good hard cock pleasing you for 3-4 hours before he cumms.

 

[Reba67]

I would say that it's DIFFERENT to cum with a partner, but it's not that I can't with him or can't on my own. Strangely enough, he taught me some things about my own body that I hadn't discovered on my own.

But, don't be surprised if the first time you're with a partner isn't as wild and romantic and orgasmic as your imagination has suggested. It might be, but it's more likely to have some awkwardness.

 

[Wataru_Gin]

I'm a guy... but I've been with a few virgins. The best advice I can give is to relax and enjoy taking your time -- both you and your partner. I've heard from several girls that it's hard to cum with a guy if you aren't completely comfortable with him, and it take several times before you can make yourself fully and completely relax to reach orgasm.

If you really enjoy foreplay, have the guy slowly simulate what you do to yourself when you masturbate -- aka, gently teasing the clit or gentle penetration with fingers. Get used to feeling his fingers instead of yours -- or his tongue. And no matter what, make sure you tell him what you like and don't like; making him guess will make it frustrating for you and it could start to hurt instead of feeling great like it's supposed to.

Also, I (personally) enjoy having the girl cum first with just my fingers or mouth. That way I don't feel as guilty if I don't last forever during the actual intercourse...

Hope this is helpful. Best wishes.

 

[thirty]

I know people are different, but I think it would be very hard for a girl to keep her virginity when she is very horny, I guess she might have many chances to 'lose' her virginity.

 

[thirty]

I'm a guy... but I've been with a few virgins. The best advice I can give is to relax and enjoy taking your time -- both you and your partner. I've heard from several girls that it's hard to cum with a guy if you aren't completely comfortable with him, and it take several times before you can make yourself fully and completely relax to reach orgasm.

If you really enjoy foreplay, have the guy slowly simulate what you do to yourself when you masturbate -- aka, gently teasing the clit or gentle penetration with fingers. Get used to feeling his fingers instead of yours -- or his tongue. And no matter what, make sure you tell him what you like and don't like; making him guess will make it frustrating for you and it could start to hurt instead of feeling great like it's supposed to.

Also, I (personally) enjoy having the girl cum first with just my fingers or mouth. That way I don't feel as guilty if I don't last forever during the actual intercourse...

Hope this is helpful. Best wishes.

Thaat's what they call 'good in bed'?

 

[Wataru_Gin]

Thaat's what they call 'good in bed'?

HUH? Oh, I never said that....

 

[JellyTug]

As long as you are turned on it shouldn't be a problem.. and if it IS then you can always invite him to help you play with your toys..while eating you out. Now THAT is 100% sure to give any girl an orgasm.