Cumming too fast?

[sweetmelissa087]

I'm a newbie =x

I have a fairly annoying problem. I cum way too fast! Sex with my boyfriend is amazing but I cum within the first 5 minutes sometimes and I hate it. Sometimes my body goes into such shakes from it that I can't continue, my body gets too tired and I'm not as wet.

The only time this doesn't happen is when I'm drunk because you lose a bit of feeling, so I can go longer. Sometimes I can cum more than once but I really have to push my body.

Are there any (physical, mental) exercises I could do to work on this?

 

[akatrex]

On the bright side is that he doesn't cum in 5 minutes.

Sex is very much mental. When I was younger it was all about NOT Cumming in 5 minutes. (I’m Male)

I use mental visuals to extend my partner and my pleasure until the time is right. I use certain visuals to slow me down and others to speed me up. Everybody has their own turn on and turn off‘s . With practice your can extend your pleasure until you and your partner are ready.

Its great to time it so you can both cum at the same time. Doesn’t always happen, but it’s great when your in harmony and climax simultaneously.

Best of Luck to You.

 

[MR.GGG]

What kind of shape are you in? If you're young and in fairly good shape you should be able to orgasm over and over again. You may have to build up to it or use extra lube but I think you may just need to build up some stamina for cuming repeatedly.

Have you tried the Technique in my TRY THIS thread ? This may (MAY) allow you to G-gasm over and over again without the normal clitoral over stimulation and over-sensitivity. If you can G-gasm over and over again you may find it easier to cum through intercourse more often. Either way consider yourself very, VERY LUCKY. Many MANY MANY women simply can NOT cum through regular sex - ever.

It just illustrates how different we all are. On my TRY THIS thread there was poor "orgasmless" who has been diagnosed with a condition where she may never be able to orgasm through ANY means - ever and here you are complaining that you cum too soon. I appreciate your concerns but there are a lot of women reading your post and NOT going, "Aww poor girl."

 

[jerseyman1963]

Mr. GGG is right. Yet another illustration about how we're all different. And it could be worse. You could have the opposite problem. I've wrestled with that one, and I got past it by learning that when my body wasn't reacting the way I wanted it to, it meant I had to slow down and give myself time to sort out my thoughts and emotions. In short, give myself some time. Sometimes I just came out and told my partner what was going on, sometimes I learned a few tricks to slow the action down without speaking up. Maybe you and your boyfriend could make a game of it? With each other's help, see how long you can make each other last without climaxing. Start the foreplay slow and stretch it out. At the first inlking of a bodily reaction, pause until it subsides, and then start again, pausing each time you start to feel a reaction until it subsides. Give yourself time to read the signals, and develop an instinct about it.

 

[an_angels_wings]

Just because it "could be worse" and she couldn't orgasm at all doesn't make her concern any less legitimate. She's still allowed to be concerned, and rightly so.

SweetMelissa, do you or have you masturbated? Maybe you'll be able to build stamina this way?

 

[tanyachrs]

If it were me, I'd definitely work on learning how to orgasm repeatedly rather than learning how to delay orgasm. It's one of the bennies of being a woman. I find I need a minute or so of rest time. Maybe you could get him to stop banging away for a minute while you recuperate and then he could start again. Try on your own first until you learn what works.

 

[MagicFingers]

You lucky girl!

Probably 99 out of a hundred guys would LOVE a girlfriend who could cum so easily. It makes us think we are doing something right, you know, when we can make you cum. SO many women cannot cum at all, or have to work at it for an hour or so to make it happen. You are SOO fortunate to be able to experience the bliss of cumming so easily.

Yep, I agree that you should work on figuring out how to have the big "O" over and over. It's quite an experience. You might have to pause, rest, then go at it again, or other techniques that might work. Try it. You'll like it.

And your BF? If you are having to stop and leave him frustrated, then do something else to help him out, like suck him for 15 minutes first, then he'll be ready to cum with you. Or play with him afterward. Whatever works for you both.

 

[O2]

Too Fast?

Have you talked about this with your BF?

Maybe by having him pay attention elsewhere on you...you can climax together and make it last longer for you....

Not being a doctor or a woman I really can't suggest much else with the information you've given....

 

[stillsexy123]

i tried to think of delicious food to prevent early ejaculation

 

[jerseyman1963]

Just because it "could be worse" and she couldn't orgasm at all doesn't make her concern any less legitimate. She's still allowed to be concerned, and rightly so.

I absolutely agree, and I did not mean to sound like this was not a legitimate concern.

 

[Tuomas]

I'm willing to wager that, like most girls, you have not talked about this with your bf. (The female psyche is funny like that; I had a female friend who, having issues with her bf, would first talk to me about them. Then, I would talk to him, and the situation would be resolved. Why the middleman?) Anyhoo, although like everyone has said, you should feel lucky and privlideged, it is still something for you to think about. Most importantly, to remember that sex involves two people. There are lots of games floating around that involve getting the girl very close ... but then backing away. Getting very close.. and then backing away. With the collusion D) of you bf, I think you could turn this into something very fun for both of you

i tried to think of delicious food to prevent early ejaculation

Food? Sexay!

 

[BigM]

My wife has a similar problem, kinda sorta.

Sometimes early during our lovemaking she'll be on the verge of cumming and ask me to stop, which I will. Problem is, it then becomes difficult for her to cum later. It's almost like, by interrupting her orgasm at the start, she's put it out of reach entirely for the evening...

 

[tanyachrs]

That's why I don't really like being teased. It's like my body gives up. For me, coming fast and often produces the best results. If she comes once, she can't again? Otherwise, why put it off?