Curious & Experiences

[CuriousGuyVa]

Hope it was fun!

Can you post an update?

 

[Bandit17]

Hi. I was not the one with the date. But would love to have the update as well. Are you going on a date too?

 

[mscottm1962]

Haven't posted in a while because there was nothing to post.

I am off today because of the holiday, but my wife had to work. My son was also off and home, so no hosting for me.

I started hitting local chats and lists and found someone 'needing his back door worked on'. He couldn't host either. He asked if I had a garage, but I don't. I told him about the guy I did in a storage building, but he didn't have one of those. He mentioned a couple of public park restrooms with locks on the doors, but I like a little more privacy than that. If I get arrested, public sex isn't on my number one list.

Anyway, since we couldn't make anything happen I just finished masturbating in the bathroom, licked my own cum off my hand, and thinking of what might have been.

 

[open_minded28]

Haven't posted in a while because there was nothing to post.

I am off today because of the holiday, but my wife had to work. My son was also off and home, so no hosting for me.

I started hitting local chats and lists and found someone 'needing his back door worked on'. He couldn't host either. He asked if I had a garage, but I don't. I told him about the guy I did in a storage building, but he didn't have one of those. He mentioned a couple of public park restrooms with locks on the doors, but I like a little more privacy than that. If I get arrested, public sex isn't on my number one list.

Anyway, since we couldn't make anything happen I just finished masturbating in the bathroom, licked my own cum off my hand, and thinking of what might have been.

thanks for the update!
story of my life, it seems - either we can't line up logistics (hosting, day/time, etc) or there is a mismatch of desires. Seems a lot of guys online are too quick to meet up. If that's someones thing I'm certainly not one to judge! But personally I'd really prefer to meet someone I've gone back and forth with a few times at least. Someone I feel sort of comfortable with and enjoy their company. I've meet with a few over the years who swear they are looking to take their time - more of an exploratory and pleasure based experience, not just a quickie. And unfortunately (in my experience anyway) that is rare. Instead they show up and just want to get me off in a hurry and run away.
Bah, I'm probably being too picky! But I'm at the stage where I've satisfied curiosity and now just want to have something mutually pleasurable - relaxed, comfortable, easy going. Journey over destination, that sort of thing. I guess that's a big part of what drew me here - hoping the guys on Lit were more apt to be communicative, interested in exploring fantasies, not so much about hit and run.

 

[TheVegasMark]

thanks for the update!
story of my life, it seems - either we can't line up logistics (hosting, day/time, etc) or there is a mismatch of desires. Seems a lot of guys online are too quick to meet up. If that's someones thing I'm certainly not one to judge! But personally I'd really prefer to meet someone I've gone back and forth with a few times at least. Someone I feel sort of comfortable with and enjoy their company. I've meet with a few over the years who swear they are looking to take their time - more of an exploratory and pleasure based experience, not just a quickie. And unfortunately (in my experience anyway) that is rare. Instead they show up and just want to get me off in a hurry and run away.
Bah, I'm probably being too picky! But I'm at the stage where I've satisfied curiosity and now just want to have something mutually pleasurable - relaxed, comfortable, easy going. Journey over destination, that sort of thing. I guess that's a big part of what drew me here - hoping the guys on Lit were more apt to be communicative, interested in exploring fantasies, not so much about hit and run.

Perfectly said..."Journey over destination"....As a Bi-MWM....Wouldn't it be nice if a question like "Would you be interested in me getting you off" could be asked without judgement..?..If its a no...Move to the next...!

 

[open_minded28]

Perfectly said..."Journey over destination"....As a Bi-MWM....Wouldn't it be nice if a question like "Would you be interested in me getting you off" could be asked without judgement..?..If its a no...Move to the next...!

Indeed, that would be fantastic! I had a really good friend that (when we lived near each other) I used to have over every weekend for a movie and just hang out. I would often wish that I could just ask the simple question without it impacting anything else. If the answer is 'no', then so be it!
I appreciate some of the tools online that can help us potentially find a good match but even still, I have to weed through dozens of guys trying to find someone that lines up well. Thats time consuming and disheartening. If only we could ask that question as you suggested!!!!
I assume that part of the 'problem' is that everyone is highly individual and the tools dont really address the nuances of what someone may be looking for. But I also blame ourselves for not taking the time to divulge those details. Too often a profile (and yes, I have been guilty of this too!) just includes some of the most basic information. Nothing at all about what might be a perfect situation, deal-breakers, etc.
I tried starting a free site years ago to sort of deal with this aspect but gave up - its too hard to keep scammers and fakes out and becomes a full time job.
I no longer have an active account with them, but I found bisexualplayground to be a decent one. At least there I felt like a good bit of people were real and put effort into finding each other. I actually found two playmates there - one female and one male.
I love your idea of the simple question, and I so wish society was at a point where we could ask such things without judgement, as you said. One of the things I try to do is be open minded enough to listen to what turns others on and not pass judgement, even if its not something Im personally interested in. ok, to be honest its also self serving! lol -- I actually enjoy hearing about what turns people on and more importantly, what aspects of it appeal to them and why. It turns me on to learn what turns others on, even if the subject matter is not appealing to me. In turn they get some sense of relief in being able to share, being understood and respected, and I get to hear erotic stories/fantasies =)

 

[OnaTangent]

Same here, chatting with what I thought was a woman, it was very open-ended nothing to suggest M or F, turns out it was M, and he started getting me hornier than any"woman" I had chatted with. I don't think I've ever blew a load like I did that day. It was very much ground zero, started chatting in the gay rooms on compuserve (remember that) got off way more there than other rooms.

Same here...mind blowing...

 

[Northwind75]

I didn't want to start another thread, so I'll ask this question here...

What is it about a cock that has peaked your interest in being curious or lead you to your experiences?

My wife lost interest in sex and I got very very horny. I didn't want to run around with another woman so I started thinking about maybe getting a BJ from a guy. I answered an ad on Doublelist and met a guy that wanted to give me a BJ with no reciprocation necessary. We chatted a few times and then met for lunch and then coffee. We discussed things and I decided to give it a try. I was brave enough to reciprocate and enjoyed it.

 

[Uncut1969]

My wife lost interest in sex and I got very very horny. I didn't want to run around with another woman so I started thinking about maybe getting a BJ from a guy. I answered an ad on Doublelist and met a guy that wanted to give me a BJ with no reciprocation necessary. We chatted a few times and then met for lunch and then coffee. We discussed things and I decided to give it a try. I was brave enough to reciprocate and enjoyed it.

Wow good for you can’t wait to experience

 

[james2346]

thanks for the update!
story of my life, it seems - either we can't line up logistics (hosting, day/time, etc) or there is a mismatch of desires. Seems a lot of guys online are too quick to meet up. If that's someones thing I'm certainly not one to judge! But personally I'd really prefer to meet someone I've gone back and forth with a few times at least. Someone I feel sort of comfortable with and enjoy their company. I've meet with a few over the years who swear they are looking to take their time - more of an exploratory and pleasure based experience, not just a quickie. And unfortunately (in my experience anyway) that is rare. Instead they show up and just want to get me off in a hurry and run away.
Bah, I'm probably being too picky! But I'm at the stage where I've satisfied curiosity and now just want to have something mutually pleasurable - relaxed, comfortable, easy going. Journey over destination, that sort of thing. I guess that's a big part of what drew me here - hoping the guys on Lit were more apt to be communicative, interested in exploring fantasies, not so much about hit and run.

i am in the same boat and would like to chat more

 

[tristantrotsky]

My wife lost interest in sex and I got very very horny. I didn't want to run around with another woman so I started thinking about maybe getting a BJ from a guy. I answered an ad on Doublelist and met a guy that wanted to give me a BJ with no reciprocation necessary. We chatted a few times and then met for lunch and then coffee. We discussed things and I decided to give it a try. I was brave enough to reciprocate and enjoyed it.

Such a wonderful and gratifying story. I'm so very glad that you were fortunate enough to find such intense pleasures with each other. That is a valuable thing.

 

[nekkid_handyman]

thanks for the update!
story of my life, it seems - either we can't line up logistics (hosting, day/time, etc) or there is a mismatch of desires. Seems a lot of guys online are too quick to meet up. If that's someones thing I'm certainly not one to judge! But personally I'd really prefer to meet someone I've gone back and forth with a few times at least. Someone I feel sort of comfortable with and enjoy their company. I've meet with a few over the years who swear they are looking to take their time - more of an exploratory and pleasure based experience, not just a quickie. And unfortunately (in my experience anyway) that is rare. Instead they show up and just want to get me off in a hurry and run away.
Bah, I'm probably being too picky! But I'm at the stage where I've satisfied curiosity and now just want to have something mutually pleasurable - relaxed, comfortable, easy going. Journey over destination, that sort of thing. I guess that's a big part of what drew me here - hoping the guys on Lit were more apt to be communicative, interested in exploring fantasies, not so much about hit and run.

I totally agree. I am in the same position. Trying to find someone who has similar interests and desires and getting to know them before just going for the quick blow and go. I often wonder if I'm too picky as well, but I would rather enjoy myself and know the other guy enjoys it as well.

 

[Bi4Older84]

I totally agree. I am in the same position. Trying to find someone who has similar interests and desires and getting to know them before just going for the quick blow and go. I often wonder if I'm too picky as well, but I would rather enjoy myself and know the other guy enjoys it as well.

I would recommend taking your time. It took me AGES to find my regular buddy, but I'm glad that I took the time to get to know someone and establish chemistry. We have had a chance to explore LOTS of fun things, and that wouldn't be possible with a one off blow and go situation.

 

[nekkid_handyman]

I would recommend taking your time. It took me AGES to find my regular buddy, but I'm glad that I took the time to get to know someone and establish chemistry. We have had a chance to explore LOTS of fun things, and that wouldn't be possible with a one off blow and go situation.

I know exactly what you mean. I did have a buddy like that a long time ago and the experience was exactly as you described.

 

[write_or_wrong]

I totally agree. I am in the same position. Trying to find someone who has similar interests and desires and getting to know them before just going for the quick blow and go. I often wonder if I'm too picky as well, but I would rather enjoy myself and know the other guy enjoys it as well.

It's worth the wait and effort to do it right. Keep trying!

 

[CuriousGuyVa]

The desire is strong, I'm working on getting over my own fears and inhibitions.

The fear and inhibitions are strong and hard to get over, especially when the common belief you were brought up with stressed it was a taboo.

 

[Bi_Guy50]

The fear and inhibitions are strong and hard to get over, especially when the common belief you were brought up with stressed it was a taboo.

How we are brought up really can be a hurdle to take that step if an opportunity comes up

 

[Wag_that_tail86]

How we are brought up really can be a hurdle to take that step if an opportunity comes up

With age I've become more open to things, and less judgmental, but one thing that has held me back is fear how people would react. I need to get past that because who we have sex with, or want to have sex with, only matters to us.

 

[CuriousGuyVa]

With age I've become more open to things, and less judgmental, but one thing that has held me back is fear how people would react. I need to get past that because who we have sex with, or want to have sex with, only matters to us.

That could be a tough nut to crack, but like other things in life it had to be decided whether we lives our lives for ourselfs or for others.

 

[CuriousGuyVa]

Does anyone have a New Years resolution to go from curious to experienced... or experienced to more experienced?

I have hopes for myself for the new year coming up...

 

[Northwind75]

It's worth the wait and effort to do it right. Keep trying!

I agree

 

[TheVegasMark]

Does anyone have a New Years resolution to go from curious to experienced... or experienced to more experienced?

I have hopes for myself for the new year coming up...

To not give up in my search for a handsome, uninhibited MWM to be my "body mate" to satisfy by Bi side cravings...!

 

[Southernscot21]

All you’ve gotta do is go on doublelist.com and you can hook up for free

 

[TheVegasMark]

To not give up in my search for a handsome, uninhibited MWM to be my "body mate" to satisfy by Bi side cravings...!

I am way past the point of curious, by the way...!