FrenchLopBunny
Owned little rabbit
- Joined
- Apr 5, 2024
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Whoa whoa whoa. Can I ask a question here?The red light green light thread had me thinking about the red flags when “Doms” approach.
Immediately declares he’s a Dom, or has dominant tendencies.
Says nothing about the lifestyle and instead introduces himself and attempts to get to know me.
Immediately calls me a pet name like Babygirl, Little One or Good Girl wanting to be manipulative but it fills me with ick.
Addresses me like we’re just friends.
Negs
Encourages
Quick Temper
Good Emotional Regulation
Behaves in a way that conveys interest and possible future
Plays hot and cold.
Expects immediate submission
Plays the long game to earning submission
There’s more but I have to run
Anything that makes you feel icky is by definition a red flag. It sounds like in writing/text he was running way ahead of his skis and being inappropriately possessive.Whoa whoa whoa. Can I ask a question here?
I started seeing this guy but through a fetish site, so we already knew each others preferred dynamics. Fine. However, he kept asking a lot about what I liked/wanted/required but was very vague about his needs or feelings and then would randomly send me photos of restraints or collars. He also immediately started calling me “babygirl” and “bunny” and would use possessive terms like “my bunny” or “my little vegetarian” and it made me feel icky. We had only been on a few dates and that felt way too fast.
However, in person, he’s quite charming and easy to talk to. I couldn’t quite get past his texting side vs his in person side so I ended it before I got in too deep.
My question is: are these actual red flags or am I just being hypersensitive?
I feel Predatory “Doms” contact subs hoping to poach an inexperienced one with their inappropriate tactics.Whoa whoa whoa. Can I ask a question here?
I started seeing this guy but through a fetish site, so we already knew each others preferred dynamics. Fine. However, he kept asking a lot about what I liked/wanted/required but was very vague about his needs or feelings and then would randomly send me photos of restraints or collars. He also immediately started calling me “babygirl” and “bunny” and would use possessive terms like “my bunny” or “my little vegetarian” and it made me feel icky. We had only been on a few dates and that felt way too fast.
However, in person, he’s quite charming and easy to talk to. I couldn’t quite get past his texting side vs his in person side so I ended it before I got in too deep.
My question is: are these actual red flags or am I just being hypersensitive?