FrenchLopBunny
Owned little rabbit
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Whoa whoa whoa. Can I ask a question here?The red light green light thread had me thinking about the red flags when “Doms” approach.
Immediately declares he’s a Dom, or has dominant tendencies.
Says nothing about the lifestyle and instead introduces himself and attempts to get to know me.
Immediately calls me a pet name like Babygirl, Little One or Good Girl wanting to be manipulative but it fills me with ick.
Addresses me like we’re just friends.
Negs
Encourages
Quick Temper
Good Emotional Regulation
Behaves in a way that conveys interest and possible future
Plays hot and cold.
Expects immediate submission
Plays the long game to earning submission
There’s more but I have to run
Anything that makes you feel icky is by definition a red flag. It sounds like in writing/text he was running way ahead of his skis and being inappropriately possessive.Whoa whoa whoa. Can I ask a question here?
I started seeing this guy but through a fetish site, so we already knew each others preferred dynamics. Fine. However, he kept asking a lot about what I liked/wanted/required but was very vague about his needs or feelings and then would randomly send me photos of restraints or collars. He also immediately started calling me “babygirl” and “bunny” and would use possessive terms like “my bunny” or “my little vegetarian” and it made me feel icky. We had only been on a few dates and that felt way too fast.
However, in person, he’s quite charming and easy to talk to. I couldn’t quite get past his texting side vs his in person side so I ended it before I got in too deep.
My question is: are these actual red flags or am I just being hypersensitive?
I feel Predatory “Doms” contact subs hoping to poach an inexperienced one with their inappropriate tactics.Whoa whoa whoa. Can I ask a question here?
I started seeing this guy but through a fetish site, so we already knew each others preferred dynamics. Fine. However, he kept asking a lot about what I liked/wanted/required but was very vague about his needs or feelings and then would randomly send me photos of restraints or collars. He also immediately started calling me “babygirl” and “bunny” and would use possessive terms like “my bunny” or “my little vegetarian” and it made me feel icky. We had only been on a few dates and that felt way too fast.
However, in person, he’s quite charming and easy to talk to. I couldn’t quite get past his texting side vs his in person side so I ended it before I got in too deep.
My question is: are these actual red flags or am I just being hypersensitive?
When and where? I'll stand beside you.So, I did a thing and now I'm waiting for the fall out!
Someone posted about DDlg books in a book group on FB, and someone asked what that is. Among the "it's icky" posts, I gave a glowing review of what it really is and how it isn't only those "icky parts".
If I don't make it back to Lit, you'll know where to find the pieces they've left of me.
*gets ball bat and heads into battle*
I had to google DDlg when it first crossed my screenSo, I did a thing and now I'm waiting for the fall out!
Someone posted about DDlg books in a book group on FB, and someone asked what that is. Among the "it's icky" posts, I gave a glowing review of what it really is and how it isn't only those "icky parts".
If I don't make it back to Lit, you'll know where to find the pieces they've left of me.
*gets ball bat and heads into battle*
Underinformed pearl clutchers are so lameSo, I did a thing and now I'm waiting for the fall out!
Someone posted about DDlg books in a book group on FB, and someone asked what that is. Among the "it's icky" posts, I gave a glowing review of what it really is and how it isn't only those "icky parts".
If I don't make it back to Lit, you'll know where to find the pieces they've left of me.
*gets ball bat and heads into battle*
Good for you! If more people were transparent about their interests there would be less stigma overall. I understand not everyone can do this but it is great when someone can!Someone posted about DDlg books in a book group on FB, and someone asked what that is. Among the "it's icky" posts, I gave a glowing review of what it really is and how it isn't only those "icky parts".
Uh oh! Now you've got me wondering if it's a private group!Good for you! If more people were transparent about their interests there would be less stigma overall. I understand not everyone can do this but it is great when someone can!
Good! I didn’t mean broadcast to the whole internet, I think most people are more open to considering new things or changing their opinion when hearing from someone they know (and hopefully like and respect).Uh oh! Now you've got me wondering if it's a private group!