Dear Litster, once more

[blulilacgrl]

Dear Fawning But (thank God) not Fingering..lol

Yanno? I think my work here is done. I have been singled out twice now in just a few days by you beautiful women, tossing accolades my way, and I'm humbled.

I will always struggle with acceptance of my body habitus.
Media, photoshopping, dumb fuck commentary, etc.. hell even "plus size" models aren't exactly representative of what "plus size" can be. So, it's an everyday struggle.

To look and see my fat skirt..
To know I can hold shit securely under my boobs without fear of it falling down...
To deal with heat rash, thigh rubbing, etc...
The stretch marks from PUBERTY, not to mention those from two glorious pregnancies when I sported a frame that could rival the broad side of a barn..

A husband who was too ashamed to eat with me in public because it looked like I'd already had enough...

Then you've got the ass whacks online who think that posting their sexual preference towards "no one 30+lbs overweight " is somehow euphamized by the notion that they're simply stating their preference, and fail to see how hurtful their *ahem* honesty is..

I get it, but I'm sure the penile-challenged aren't any more appreciative of a size Queen's honesty about his wee willy than a robust woman is endeared toward being called fat by a man she might be attracted to.


It takes work, but the fact that my actions can have such a profound impact on others is rewarding. I'm thrilled my IDGAF attitude can be viewed in a positive light and give courage to others.

Thank you, again, for the compliments. I'll tuck them away in one of these rolls for safe keeping.


Signed,

Humbled, but never speechless

Dear Thank God you are never speechless Litster,

I too have struggled. All my life. I have pushed people away and tried to shrink who I was in hopes that my body would follow. I have blamed my weight for others' mistreatment of me as if I deserved it for being so fat. And I have assumed that anyone who said I was beautiful was either setting me up as a punchline to some joke or just being kind. I have done everything you have listed and then some.

But today you sparked something in me that I am going to have to look really hard at and work really hard to build upon. So please keep being you and know that there are those of us out here who will be forever grateful.

 

[beachbaby179]

This is magnificent!

Also, suddenly I wish I were a dinosaur. Rawr!

Dear dinosaur Litster,

That truly is magnificent! I can't believe I missed it, and thank you for pointing it out. I needed the laugh today.

Looking around my house for large cylindrical things Litster

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

Dear Beautiful Litsters,

Am I the only one who thinks a "What Can You Hold In Your Underboob Challenge" would make a great pic thread?

Love,
Curious Litster

Dear Curious,

I’m not normally a gambling woman, but I will put £50 on gorgeous Justa to win that thread...

https://forum.literotica.com/showpost.php?p=90546174&postcount=3985

When-do-I-claim-my-winnings Litser, x

ps - rideable dinosaur is my favourite

This is magnificent!

Also, suddenly I wish I were a dinosaur. Rawr!

Hahaha

Oh, I'd so be down. But, I do play to win.

But, the favorite is the dinosaur.... not wine and not a vacuum, a fucking vacuum, even I was surprised that easily worked.

 

[BlackCashmere]

Hahaha

Oh, I'd so be down. But, I do play to win.

But, the favorite is the dinosaur.... not wine and not a vacuum, a fucking vacuum, even I was surprised that easily worked.

Yes thank you for the post...ha ha ha...too funny...love it !!!!!!!!!

 

[AlliaPotestas]

Hahaha

Oh, I'd so be down. But, I do play to win.

But, the favorite is the dinosaur.... not wine and not a vacuum, a fucking vacuum, even I was surprised that easily worked.

Dear winner winner chicken dinner...

Bring it!

Signed,

Litser that managed a one litre bottle of rum but my vacuum is way to heavy to even attempt...

 

[Justadesperatewifeandmom]

Yes thank you for the post...ha ha ha...too funny...love it !!!!!!!!!

Dear weird sense of humor litster,

You are not alone. I was pleased with my shenanigans that day.

Signed,
Wondering when the boob carry will be an olympic sport litster.

Dear winner winner chicken dinner...

Bring it!

Signed,

Litser that managed a one litre bottle of rum but my vacuum is way to heavy to even attempt...

Dear rumming heavy vacuum running litster,

Your boobs can bring the rum, mine will bring the wine.

Signed,
Wondering what would end up under our boobs when we aren't sober litster.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Dear Sorority,

So, it's been brought to my attention that some facts need to be set straight about why I chose to become the loner I am, and why I don't do the chat thing, neither "one on one" or in group.

I left a group chat because it was made clear to me that at least one person in the group did not appreciate my brand of honesty.

Fair enough.

I didn't exactly feel as though knowing who was virtually banging each other was really any of my business.

I didn't want to participate in any group video chats watching married dudes jerk off on the down low. (Fucking sue me for not wanting to perpetuate some else’s lie..)

I didn't want to share the details on any sexual encounters I'd had on or offline. (Nobody’s business but my own)

I didn't want to gang up on anyone in thread cause it seemed a little bit "mean girl" to me and petty. (I think it's fairly obvious that I can pick, choose, and win my own battles if that's what I wanted to do.)

I also didn't really care if any one *was* doing the above , I simply made it clear (admittedly on more than one occasion) that I thought that type of behavior was juvenile, stupid, and hurtful.

Now, back to what needs to be cleared up. Throughout it all, TL had my back. I trust her. I trust no one else online. Period.
What was conveyed to her in a PM about me was simply that "everyone in the group feels the same about RA" . That feeling being was that I should leave the group...

So I left. I saw no reason to explain myself either. I did not block anyone on Skype, so if anyone wanted to reach out to me they could. A few did, but I think it was mutually decided on that we really had nothing left to talk about, so everyone...except TL..stopped speaking with me.

And that's fine, but it's why I prefer conversations out here, in the open. I've experienced too much he-said/ she-said shit to try deal with people who try and put words into my mouth. (Which, don’t ever do, btw)

I'm glad that profile bio editing broke, because mine hasn't changed. If you need to say something to me, say it here. In the open. At least that way, we all have a fighting chance of defending ourselves.

I took a hiatus from here, and when I came back, I turned off my PMs to all but two people. It will stay that way, despite the love that has been shown lately to me on the boards. I still maintain that PMing, in general, should only be reserved for those who are truly vetted and won't turn on you.
My experience, time and again, has proven that very few deserve that level of deference.

Signed,
Rubenesque Aphrodite

 

[ShaeLeeTanner]

Dear Sorority,

So, it's been brought to my attention that some facts need to be set straight about why I chose to become the loner I am, and why I don't do the chat thing, neither "one on one" or in group.

I left a group chat because it was made clear to me that at least one person in the group did not appreciate my brand of honesty.

Fair enough.

I didn't exactly feel as though knowing who was virtually banging each other was really any of my business.

I didn't want to participate in any group video chats watching married dudes jerk off on the down low. (Fucking sue me for not wanting to perpetuate some else’s lie..)

I didn't want to share the details on any sexual encounters I'd had on or offline. (Nobody’s business but my own)

I didn't want to gang up on anyone in thread cause it seemed a little bit "mean girl" to me and petty. (I think it's fairly obvious that I can pick, choose, and win my own battles if that's what I wanted to do.)

I also didn't really care if any one *was* doing the above , I simply made it clear (admittedly on more than one occasion) that I thought that type of behavior was juvenile, stupid, and hurtful.

Now, back to what needs to be cleared up. Throughout it all, TL had my back. I trust her. I trust no one else online. Period.
What was conveyed to her in a PM about me was simply that "everyone in the group feels the same about RA" . That feeling being was that I should leave the group...

So I left. I saw no reason to explain myself either. I did not block anyone on Skype, so if anyone wanted to reach out to me they could. A few did, but I think it was mutually decided on that we really had nothing left to talk about, so everyone...except TL..stopped speaking with me.

And that's fine, but it's why I prefer conversations out here, in the open. I've experienced too much he-said/ she-said shit to try deal with people who try and put words into my mouth. (Which, don’t ever do, btw)

I'm glad that profile bio editing broke, because mine hasn't changed. If you need to say something to me, say it here. In the open. At least that way, we all have a fighting chance of defending ourselves.

I took a hiatus from here, and when I came back, I turned off my PMs to all but two people. It will stay that way, despite the love that has been shown lately to me on the boards. I still maintain that PMing, in general, should only be reserved for those who are truly vetted and won't turn on you.
My experience, time and again, has proven that very few deserve that level of deference.

Signed,
Rubenesque Aphrodite

Truer, more honest words couldn't be spoken RA. I said it before, I love you girl. I don't need PM's to let people know how I feel , I do it in the threads openly. I don't hide who I am or who I love and what I enjoy. Like you, it's my life, I live it, I take care of the ups and downs in it, so I'm entitled to enjoy the good things that come my way. Those have been few and far between moments and no one is going to take away what happiness I've created for myself.
So, when I read your words here, so many reflect my words and what I want to say and thank you for saying them for me.
Never change, you're a beautiful soul and person as you are.

 

[TongueLust]

Dear Sorority,

So, it's been brought to my attention that some facts need to be set straight about why I chose to become the loner I am, and why I don't do the chat thing, neither "one on one" or in group.

I left a group chat because it was made clear to me that at least one person in the group did not appreciate my brand of honesty.

Fair enough.

I didn't exactly feel as though knowing who was virtually banging each other was really any of my business.

I didn't want to participate in any group video chats watching married dudes jerk off on the down low. (Fucking sue me for not wanting to perpetuate some else’s lie..)

I didn't want to share the details on any sexual encounters I'd had on or offline. (Nobody’s business but my own)

I didn't want to gang up on anyone in thread cause it seemed a little bit "mean girl" to me and petty. (I think it's fairly obvious that I can pick, choose, and win my own battles if that's what I wanted to do.)

I also didn't really care if any one *was* doing the above , I simply made it clear (admittedly on more than one occasion) that I thought that type of behavior was juvenile, stupid, and hurtful.

Now, back to what needs to be cleared up. Throughout it all, TL had my back. I trust her. I trust no one else online. Period.
What was conveyed to her in a PM about me was simply that "everyone in the group feels the same about RA" . That feeling being was that I should leave the group...

So I left. I saw no reason to explain myself either. I did not block anyone on Skype, so if anyone wanted to reach out to me they could. A few did, but I think it was mutually decided on that we really had nothing left to talk about, so everyone...except TL..stopped speaking with me.

And that's fine, but it's why I prefer conversations out here, in the open. I've experienced too much he-said/ she-said shit to try deal with people who try and put words into my mouth. (Which, don’t ever do, btw)

I'm glad that profile bio editing broke, because mine hasn't changed. If you need to say something to me, say it here. In the open. At least that way, we all have a fighting chance of defending ourselves.

I took a hiatus from here, and when I came back, I turned off my PMs to all but two people. It will stay that way, despite the love that has been shown lately to me on the boards. I still maintain that PMing, in general, should only be reserved for those who are truly vetted and won't turn on you.
My experience, time and again, has proven that very few deserve that level of deference.

Signed,
Rubenesque Aphrodite

Thank you!

L

 

[blulilacgrl]

Dear Sorority,

So, it's been brought to my attention that some facts need to be set straight about why I chose to become the loner I am, and why I don't do the chat thing, neither "one on one" or in group.

<Snip>


Signed,
Rubenesque Aphrodite

Dear RA,

No facts need to be set straight. It's how you choose to operate. Period. End of discussion.

Signed,

Someone who likes how you operate.

 

[SoulAssasin247]

As you see in RA's post, the backstage nonsense that has went on and continues to go on. I have nothing to say about RA, just the post.


So, when you groups get together, giggling, pretending that you're only friends who talk to each other, acting like anyone who speaks up are bitter or crazy, just know people see you. People may not want to speak up and argue with a pack of wolves, but they see you for who you really are. Yes I am talking about the Cliques, so laugh, frolic away, make a funny thread about it, but anyone who isn't blind can see how calculating and underhanded you really are, despite your deception of being loving and supportive.

 

[PNWKitten]

Dear Sorority,

So, it's been brought to my attention that some facts need to be set straight about why I chose to become the loner I am, and why I don't do the chat thing, neither "one on one" or in group.

I left a group chat because it was made clear to me that at least one person in the group did not appreciate my brand of honesty.

Fair enough.

I didn't exactly feel as though knowing who was virtually banging each other was really any of my business.

I didn't want to participate in any group video chats watching married dudes jerk off on the down low. (Fucking sue me for not wanting to perpetuate some else’s lie..)

I didn't want to share the details on any sexual encounters I'd had on or offline. (Nobody’s business but my own)

I didn't want to gang up on anyone in thread cause it seemed a little bit "mean girl" to me and petty. (I think it's fairly obvious that I can pick, choose, and win my own battles if that's what I wanted to do.)

I also didn't really care if any one *was* doing the above , I simply made it clear (admittedly on more than one occasion) that I thought that type of behavior was juvenile, stupid, and hurtful.

Now, back to what needs to be cleared up. Throughout it all, TL had my back. I trust her. I trust no one else online. Period.
What was conveyed to her in a PM about me was simply that "everyone in the group feels the same about RA" . That feeling being was that I should leave the group...

So I left. I saw no reason to explain myself either. I did not block anyone on Skype, so if anyone wanted to reach out to me they could. A few did, but I think it was mutually decided on that we really had nothing left to talk about, so everyone...except TL..stopped speaking with me.

And that's fine, but it's why I prefer conversations out here, in the open. I've experienced too much he-said/ she-said shit to try deal with people who try and put words into my mouth. (Which, don’t ever do, btw)

I'm glad that profile bio editing broke, because mine hasn't changed. If you need to say something to me, say it here. In the open. At least that way, we all have a fighting chance of defending ourselves.

I took a hiatus from here, and when I came back, I turned off my PMs to all but two people. It will stay that way, despite the love that has been shown lately to me on the boards. I still maintain that PMing, in general, should only be reserved for those who are truly vetted and won't turn on you.
My experience, time and again, has proven that very few deserve that level of deference.

Signed,
Rubenesque Aphrodite

Dear RA..

I was kicked out of the same group for being to quiet during a bad time in my life. one of which I was falsely accused of telling people what we discussed in the group. I was to busy dealing with my personal life to break confidences and not ot mention that is NOT how I roll. I've always admired your attitude and way you stick to your guns, you and L were 2 people I enjoyed speaking to in the group. I'm not trying to make this about me or anyone else. Just wanted to clarify I mean what I say publicly and privately.

FKA Curvy.

 

[TheSilverLining]

This is why I don’t engage in private. ^

Depends on your definition of private, I guess.
Do I talk to Litsters elsewhere? PM, social media, personal email and text? Yes.
I’d call that private. Mostly because that’s me and not my Lit persona.

But I get the take-home message and I agree 100%
The only litster that ever broke my heart was a woman *

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Depends on your definition of private, I guess.
Do I talk to Litsters elsewhere? PM, social media, personal email and text? Yes.
I’d call that private. Mostly because that’s me and not my Lit persona.

But I get the take-home message and I agree 100%
The only litster that ever broke my heart was a woman *

that was totally unintentional...
Break Your Heart

 

[SassySheDevil]

^^this is what I'm trying harder to be like. I don't want anyone else "in" because my heart gets attached and I don't like being a part of the heartbreak and drama anymore.

 

[AlliaPotestas]

Dear listers...

Mean girl attacks coordinated via Skype - how fucking old are you? Seriously...

And those that PM’d me to tell me I was mentally insane for thinking they were behaving as a mob - well fuck you. Especially since I suspect you belong to the same odd Skype group...

Gosh it’s nice to be vindicated... although I am a little sad to think who else may have been run off the boards by this shitty group of people that actually have so little going on in their lives that they have time to coordinate this crap...

Here’s the thing fuckers - I actually have some sympathy for you. I grew up in the gutter, with violence and abuse an everyday occurrence and I know I’ve got my fucked up issues as a result but even I know that’s not how you treat people... I dread to think what sort of experiences you fuckers have endured that have left you so lacking in any sense of empathy or compassion for others... that’s a serious comment by the way. If you are fucked up because others fucked you up. I am genuinely sorry. Sort that shit out. It is never too late to be the person you want to be.

Signed...

Lister who is seriously glad she used her period blood on something empowering and not this shit, x

 

[blulilacgrl]

Dear listers...

Mean girl attacks coordinated via Skype - how fucking old are you? Seriously...

And those that PM’d me to tell me I was mentally insane for thinking they were behaving as a mob - well fuck you. Especially since I suspect you belong to the same odd Skype group...

Gosh it’s nice to be vindicated... although I am a little sad to think who else may have been run off the boards by this shitty group of people that actually have so little going on in their lives that they have time to coordinate this crap...

Here’s the thing fuckers - I actually have some sympathy for you. I grew up in the gutter, with violence and abuse an everyday occurrence and I know I’ve got my fucked up issues as a result but even I know that’s not how you treat people... I dread to think what sort of experiences you fuckers have endured that have left you so lacking in any sense of empathy or compassion for others... that’s a serious comment by the way. If you are fucked up because others fucked you up. I am genuinely sorry. Sort that shit out. It is never too late to be the person you want to be.

Signed...

Lister who is seriously glad she used her period blood on something empowering and not this shit, x

Dear mobbed Litster...

Seriously? There are people who take Lit so seriously as to do this kind of thing?

Glad I don't have other messaging platforms Litster

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Dear mobbed Litster...

Seriously? There are people who take Lit so seriously as to do this kind of thing?

Glad I don't have other messaging platforms Litster

Dear Y'all,

So, funny story about the "mean girls" thing, in general, just to give a little history to me..

I went to an all girls boarding school to finish up my high school years, mainly because my sister had gone, and I was now the target of my Stepmother's angst..

There, I pretty much kept to myself, because not unlike here and other places, I didn't exactly "fit in". I'm kinda loud, in your face,
educated redneck, and definitely not the socialized type I was now having to interact with on the daily. Most only sought me out when they needed help with homework.

I was, however, Valedictorian, much to the chagrin of many who thought..oh LAWD, how can this misfit be representative of our "normal" and "genteel" output.

The school counselor took me aside at one point and "advised" I try a bit harder to "fit in", at which point I made it fairly clear I didn't really want to. Take it or leave it, my father spent the same ungodly amount of money to send his daughters to this school, and we weren't any more or less special than the next "blue blood". I saw no reason to try and elevate myself simply because of my social "status", and just to buck the system, I "neglected" to turn my graduation speech in for "proofing"..got shit- faced drunk the night before, and wrote my speech on the back of the church bulletin 30 minutes before I walked up to the podium.

The moral of this story, if there is one, is to walk your own path. Don't let others try and influence you. Being in the "in-crowd" is not where you have to be.

Oh, and I'm not good wth boundaries...lol

Signed,
Rebellious til I Die

 

[PattiJolene]

I'm trying but I can't find her. Lol. And I'm afraid that any comment I make will be lost in the midst of other comments and she won't see it. But I really want her to know that she has given me a true honest to god moment of self introspection. So here goes...


Dear Goddess Litster,

I saw your AV and it was absolutely breathtaking. Blew my mind and has sparked something in me. I have discounted a lot of when people tell me they like my body because being plus size has always been something I struggled with. It has been a struggle just for me to accept it and be happy but I never reached the point where I thought anyone could look at it and see beauty. I honestly thought that the best I could do was reach a level of acceptance.

Seeing your AV, my first thought was "holy fuck balls that's gorgeous!". Then I really looked at it and thought "shit she looks like me!" Lol. For the first time ever, I realize that maybe just maybe what someone else sees in me, is what I saw in your picture.

Crazy to think that at my age, I am only just now, today, recognizing that self love isn't just accepting your body (at whatever size) but it's about finding the beauty of it.

So thank you. Thank you so much! (I really really hope you see this!)

signed,

a very grateful Litster

Thanks for this post. Beauty comes in all sizes. Yourself or other people should never judge you by appearances, no matter the physical appearances of any person. True beauty shines when actions shows compassion, love and spirit. Within the heart true beauty is found.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Dear Naked Goddesses,

I freaking cannot get enough of all y'alls' soft, squishy bits. You're absolutely gorgeous to look at, and just delightful up close and personal as well, I'm sure of it.

Your generosity with yourselves inspired me to have a little naked selfie session, which always makes me feel sexy. Yay! Self care!

Thank you for sharing your awesome with us, you make the world a lovelier place.



Signed,
Naked And Not Afraid

 

[SassySheDevil]

Dear Newly Engaged Litster,

Imagine my surprise when you messaged to tell me you are engaged. Shocking, yet exciting. I am so happy for you. You deserve so much happiness in this crazy world. I am glad you are going to prove that Litsters actually can get happy endings.
You will be breaking the hearts of Listers and she is a lucky Litster/Woman to have you. Also maybe a little crazy

So to keep it simple. Congratulations IslandJoe and his fiance'!!!! (if she wants to post up, I'll let her )

Sincerely,

Super excited Litster

 

[barefootgirl69]

Dear Newly Engaged Litster,

Imagine my surprise when you messaged to tell me you are engaged. Shocking, yet exciting. I am so happy for you. You deserve so much happiness in this crazy world. I am glad you are going to prove that Litsters actually can get happy endings.
You will be breaking the hearts of Listers and she is a lucky Litster/Woman to have you. Also maybe a little crazy

So to keep it simple. Congratulations IslandJoe and his fiance'!!!! (if she wants to post up, I'll let her )

Sincerely,

Super excited Litster

Seriously!?!?

Woohoo!

Congratulations IJ and his sweetheart!

 

[SassySheDevil]

Seriously!?!?

Woohoo!

Congratulations IJ and his sweetheart!

I was shocked too

 

[tnman03]

Dear Newly Engaged Litster,

Imagine my surprise when you messaged to tell me you are engaged. Shocking, yet exciting. I am so happy for you. You deserve so much happiness in this crazy world. I am glad you are going to prove that Litsters actually can get happy endings.
You will be breaking the hearts of Listers and she is a lucky Litster/Woman to have you. Also maybe a little crazy

So to keep it simple. Congratulations IslandJoe and his fiance'!!!! (if she wants to post up, I'll let her )

Sincerely,

Super excited Litster

Wow!!! How about that!!!

 

[ydahecnot]

Litsters,

Wow, I can’t think of the last time IJ posted. Best of everything to him and his. Whoever she is is apparently at least my equal in staying close to the vest...lol.

Litster