deep confession... I love having sex with strangers
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Samuari
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Christine said:
Way back at the begining of the thread, Whisper gave some exce;ent advise about seeking help from professionals. Hun, I'll flirt, tease, smart off with the best of em, but I realy do think that you should look for RL help. The YWCA is resourse for referals in most comunities and they will respect your confidentuallity, aand help you find the help you have said that you need.
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I agree with Alyrahh.
I'm not a psychologist, but I think if someone craves sex all the time and have no control over their craving, I highly doubt it's a medical problem like alcoholism or other substance addiction. More likely the problem lies in low self-esteem.
My layman's theory is that you don't have sex with strangers when you have a boyfriend because the fact that you have a boyfriend is evidence to you that someone wants you, cares about you.
When you're alone, you feel unloved, unwanted, needy, and you seek out anyone who make you forget that, even if it's only briefly. Sex is a good thing to offer these strangers because most guys won't refuse no-strings attached pussy. Therefore you don't get refused and rejected.
What you need to try to realize is that you're a worthy person by yourself. One shouldn't need someone else's attention to make themselves feel like a worthwhile person. Oh, we all need attention from other people, of course. We wouldn't be human if we didn't. But if this need is so great that you don't feel good about yourself at all unless someone else is "with" you, then you need to figure out how you can start valuing yourself.
Having sex with strangers is not the way to do this. Deep down you know those guys only want you because they want a fuck, not you.
A private psychologist would be the best bet if you can afford it, or if you have insurance that will cover that. If that's not an option, look in the newspaper and/or phone directory for clinics, county mental health facilities, support groups, etc. I am certain that there is help for you. You have only to seek it out. I wish you luck.
I'm not a psychologist, but I think if someone craves sex all the time and have no control over their craving, I highly doubt it's a medical problem like alcoholism or other substance addiction. More likely the problem lies in low self-esteem.
My layman's theory is that you don't have sex with strangers when you have a boyfriend because the fact that you have a boyfriend is evidence to you that someone wants you, cares about you.
When you're alone, you feel unloved, unwanted, needy, and you seek out anyone who make you forget that, even if it's only briefly. Sex is a good thing to offer these strangers because most guys won't refuse no-strings attached pussy. Therefore you don't get refused and rejected.
What you need to try to realize is that you're a worthy person by yourself. One shouldn't need someone else's attention to make themselves feel like a worthwhile person. Oh, we all need attention from other people, of course. We wouldn't be human if we didn't. But if this need is so great that you don't feel good about yourself at all unless someone else is "with" you, then you need to figure out how you can start valuing yourself.
Having sex with strangers is not the way to do this. Deep down you know those guys only want you because they want a fuck, not you.
A private psychologist would be the best bet if you can afford it, or if you have insurance that will cover that. If that's not an option, look in the newspaper and/or phone directory for clinics, county mental health facilities, support groups, etc. I am certain that there is help for you. You have only to seek it out. I wish you luck.
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What Whispersecret said....
I think it does have a lot to do with self esteem and what you feel having someone in your life means. You have to find value in your own self worth! A therapist or counselor or psychiatrist can help you discover it! Good luck hon! You are worth fighting for!
I think it does have a lot to do with self esteem and what you feel having someone in your life means. You have to find value in your own self worth! A therapist or counselor or psychiatrist can help you discover it! Good luck hon! You are worth fighting for!
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