Definition of bi

[patricia51]

Being both a country girl and a country music fan I define the term as:

If you want to wake up with Tim McGraw ... you're straight

If you want to wake up with Faith Hill ... you're gay

If you want to wake up between the two of them (and how I would love THAT) ... you're bi

 

[Hooper_X]

That must make me biracial, as I'd like to wake up between Faith Hill and Beyoncé, although I'd prefer if neither of them sung.

 

[lipgloss_clare]

Hmmm

Case study.

I'm basically a straight male.

I enjoy cross-dressing.

I don't think I would be likely to love a totally male person but I do have a transvestite friend who I am very attracted to, if not quite in love, so I see the possibility.

I've been attracted to a few men I've known but only very rarely and they've had something feminine about them. I have no issue with playing with male anatomy vs. female anatomy.

So it's interesting to me that the female thing I'm attracted to is independent of cocks and vaginas and breasts.

I'd honestly like to say I'm bi, but I think that's pretty firmly straight.

 

[fille]

Re: Hmmm

I'd honestly like to say I'm bi, but I think that's pretty firmly straight.

Based on everything you said, I would have described you as a bisexual who likes effeminate men. But I guess that's why this definition is so flexible! You shouldn't have to wear a rigid label. Although you should wear something rigid . . . .

 

[WhisperHaven]

Just as a side note...

What was really confusing to me as a bisexual female was going to a drag show. The TG/TS performers were so beautiful and sexy and I was very turned on by them. However, currently being in a heterosexually monogamous relationship, along with permission to form sexual relationships with members of my own gender was confusing. I have not put myself in a position where I have allowed myself to look at any other males as potential sexual partners (read "lust after"), so when it sunk in that these beautiful women did, in fact, have dangly parts, my head was swimming.

Since then, I have had a real thing for TV, TG, and CDs.

 

[lipgloss_clare]

Based on everything you said, I would have described you as a bisexual who likes effeminate men. But I guess that's why this definition is so flexible! You shouldn't have to wear a rigid label. Although you should wear something rigid . . . .

You could be right... I do find gay erotica less uninteresting than I used to these days... but men in general fail to turn me on at all. Oh well, who needs labels.

 

[lipgloss_clare]

Since then, I have had a real thing for TV, TG, and CDs.

Now I just love to hear that

 

[Etoile]

In fact, it's the T community that makes me shy away from the word bisexual. I refuse to believe in a binary gender system, and I prefer terms like omnisexual or pansexual.

I like this thread a lot.

 

[69forever]

I disagree. I think that a large proportion of bisexuals are bi only in terms of sexual attraction, but choose members of the opposite sex when choosing romantic partners. I dare say there are far, far more bisexuals who are in relationships with members of the opposite sex and dally in same sex activities then there are who are romantically involved with members of their own sex and dally with the opposite sex. If you are correct that bisexuality inherently contains a romantic element, I do not believe that disparity would exist.

I disagree also, from being bi-sexual. This discussion came up, as I knew it would, in the course of the growing relationship I am in.
With a woman I love very much. I've made no secret about my sexual orientation here. She feared I would not be satisfied only being with a woman sexually. To me, sex with men was for the sex. There was never any romantic involvement.

Like Pookie, I have committed to a monagamous relationship. With a member of the opposite sex. It is my choice to not practice any other form of sexual interaction. Am I still bi?

It might sound old fashioned, but the romantic love and sharing of my life with someone will allways determine where I go sexually. Nowdays, and in the future. The past is the past.

just my two cents worth.